245th Date: It's Not Me... It's Definitely You!

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign. Welcome to relationship status podcast. I'm Faronda. [00:00:12] Speaker B: It's your boy. He's from the building. And remember, you catch on all podcast platforms. Remember to like share, follow five star rate. And if you don't leave a comment saying that we are the best or five star rating. [00:00:24] Speaker A: Oh, wow, you're a hater. First off, there wasn't as much emphasis on the building part. Yusuf in the building, you know. [00:00:31] Speaker B: I know. Here's the thing. [00:00:33] Speaker A: Attack mode. [00:00:34] Speaker B: It's usually attack mode. I have to get back into the vibe. [00:00:36] Speaker A: Okay, all right. I've get there now. We're used to a certain thing. [00:00:40] Speaker B: Yeah, they used to. And that's the thing. Like, I'm used to giving them a little bit more. [00:00:45] Speaker A: Get the people what they want. [00:00:46] Speaker B: I gotta get the people what they want. [00:00:47] Speaker A: Okay, so what's going on on the next episode? [00:00:50] Speaker B: Next episode, it's the first one back. You know, it's like riding a bike. You know that first time you get back to the bike, it's not about. [00:00:54] Speaker A: Just struggling to talk in general. [00:00:56] Speaker B: No, I'm struggling to talk, period. Coach this weekend. And usually with coaching high school, I can. [00:01:03] Speaker A: Yelling at the kids. [00:01:03] Speaker B: Yeah, I always yell at the kids. [00:01:06] Speaker A: He's yelling at y'all. [00:01:08] Speaker B: Always yelling at the kids. No, but it's more direction because I think it's more like the teacher in me. [00:01:16] Speaker A: You yell at the kids as a teacher too? [00:01:18] Speaker B: No, but you know how you, like, you got to walk your students through the stuff, like, even on a test, like the elc, you gotta wake him up. Hey, wake up. Hey, get something to drink. [00:01:29] Speaker A: Hey. [00:01:29] Speaker B: You know, you can't tell them the answers, but. [00:01:31] Speaker A: Hey, please don't tell them the answers. [00:01:32] Speaker B: No. Did you read the whole passage? [00:01:34] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:01:34] Speaker B: You know, you're walking them through that stuff, so in a game, I have that same kind of mindset. Set the screen, guard the ball, don't get back door. What are you doing? Wake up. [00:01:48] Speaker A: How many times did you say, what are you doing? That's a clear indication of how it went more. [00:01:54] Speaker B: More times than I. I mean, they're kids, so I mean, you kind of give them. You give them grace. [00:02:01] Speaker A: Oh, okay. [00:02:02] Speaker B: So, you know, and I'm nerve to give more grace the older I'm getting. [00:02:06] Speaker A: I mean, it sounds like that energy is not going. It's. I mean, the older we get, we don't have no choice. We don't have as much energy to put behind it. [00:02:12] Speaker B: Yeah, no, I still got the same energy. I'm just realizing that I needed grace. I. Oh, which Before, I didn't give a lot of it. So since I know I need grace. [00:02:22] Speaker A: See what age and maturity does. Well, I say maturity. Cause everybody that. [00:02:26] Speaker B: Yeah, everybody that age ain't mature. [00:02:28] Speaker A: Age ain't got nothing to do with it. [00:02:30] Speaker B: No. And, of course, this is our first episode since September of 2024. [00:02:35] Speaker A: Oh, my, yes. [00:02:37] Speaker B: It has been that Long. September. October. October 2024 was the last recorded episode of the Relationship Status Podcast. [00:02:45] Speaker A: Well, what have y'all been doing on this hiatus? Was it intentional? [00:02:50] Speaker B: I think to a certain degree. We were consistent every week since 2019. And sometimes, you know, the show can be a little much. Being prepared every week and having to do the research every week and, you know, the social media, all of the background stuff that goes into the show, that it sometimes becomes a bit much, and it's difficult to get here every week and give you content every week. And that's what that was. What, for five years? Consistently. So we took a break. And as with breaks comes change. And so we want to welcome to the show. You've seen her as a guest, and now she's on the intro. She's now a permanent fixture of the Relationship Status family. Yeah, when she can be here. [00:03:43] Speaker A: Permanent fixture. When I can be here. [00:03:45] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:03:46] Speaker A: No, all of these things are true, though. Exactly. [00:03:51] Speaker B: Exactly. When she's in town to be in studio. She'll be in studio. [00:03:56] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely. [00:03:57] Speaker B: But, you know, as much, thank you so much for. [00:03:59] Speaker A: For offering, for having me, for. [00:04:01] Speaker B: It's been a long time coming because. [00:04:03] Speaker A: You know, we have talked about it. [00:04:04] Speaker B: We've asked you before. Yeah, you've said no before. [00:04:07] Speaker A: I mean. Well, I also was on a podcast. I mean, Shout out to the Perfect People podcast. Shout Out. We still are streaming in all the places where you can get your podcast. [00:04:16] Speaker B: You can still listen to the Perfect People podcast. [00:04:18] Speaker A: You can. The answer is no, we're not coming back. If that is a question that might come up for basically all the reasons that Yousef named as to why Relationship Status Podcast took a little hiatus. But, you know, you get older, life starts, life in. And I don't know, we can't control these schedules as much as we would like, so. But I'm. I'm excited to be on Relationship Status. The times that I've been here, it's been a good time and good vibes, so. [00:04:45] Speaker B: I always enjoyed you being here. [00:04:47] Speaker A: Yeah, that's what you tell me. [00:04:49] Speaker B: No, that's. I mean, that's the truth is the. We, you know, we. We like to say we're an inclusive Bunch an inclusive family here. [00:04:57] Speaker A: Yeah. First, I don't know what that means. Like when. Usually when people are talking about being inclusive, that means that somebody is different. Are you saying I'm different in some way? [00:05:06] Speaker B: Yes, you are different. [00:05:08] Speaker A: Oh, okay. [00:05:09] Speaker B: We'll talk about how. [00:05:12] Speaker A: Oh, my. Okay. True and bit. [00:05:17] Speaker B: So what you been up to so far? Like, what's. What's new in Dr. Dr. Greenland? [00:05:25] Speaker A: I mean, that sounds like a good country. [00:05:27] Speaker B: Dr. Greenland. [00:05:29] Speaker A: Yeah, maybe. I don't know if y'all would want to come live in my world. It's a little wonky over here from time to time, but really, truly, not much has shifted. I moved to Greenville full time. I don't know if that was. That's probably was in the works during some of the times that I was guest appearing and also on Perfect People. But, um, so that is. That's a thing. I. I'm a homeowner. [00:05:58] Speaker B: Oh. [00:05:58] Speaker A: Shout out to you other stressors that go along with it. Just a whole lot more adulting. I feel like it's. It's funny how once you become an adult, it doesn't appear that things have changed, maybe physically or materialistically, but there is. Yeah. Like there. There's major change. Like you feel different as you're, you know, operating in the world. I don't know how to explain that. You just have to get there to understand, I guess. Does it make sense? [00:06:23] Speaker B: It makes. It makes complete sense. Because I've said, you know, when you're like 16, you're like, I can't wait to be 18. Yeah, I can't wait to be 21. [00:06:30] Speaker A: There you go. [00:06:30] Speaker B: I can't wait to be 25. And then you get to our age and it's like, what was I rushing for? [00:06:36] Speaker A: What were you rushing? [00:06:37] Speaker B: I was rushing to bills. I was literally on a sprint to. [00:06:42] Speaker A: Pay my own bills and pay taxes. [00:06:44] Speaker B: And to pay taxes, that of which I don't see back most of what I put in. [00:06:49] Speaker A: Listen, I was just on the phone with one of my. One of my best friends and having that conversation. So, you know, and I tell my goddaughter that all the time. Like, she's. She just got to college and everything is, I gotta go, go, go, go, go. And I'm like, slow down. Like, college is the best of both worlds that you will never get again. [00:07:08] Speaker B: These high school students, they be like, man, I don't want to go to college. I tell them, hey, look, you will never have a better time in your life even if you go and you don't Stay. [00:07:18] Speaker A: Go for the experience. [00:07:19] Speaker B: Go for the experience, the growth, whatever comes with it. [00:07:21] Speaker A: Yeah, 1000% I agree. I concur. [00:07:25] Speaker B: Because it's the most fun you'll ever have. [00:07:27] Speaker A: That's the only part of my past that I would relive. All the rest, 100% 20s trash juice, I never would revisit. But college, yes. High school, not really. But I would, I would a thousand percent go, go back to college. So. [00:07:46] Speaker B: Yeah, me too, man. I from. I just. You have your ups and downs in college grades. You know, that's going to class that. But then you, after you're done, you look back on it and go, I. [00:07:59] Speaker A: Had so, so much fun. So much fun. I don't even remember the classes. For real. Like, I remember going to classes because. [00:08:06] Speaker B: I got my degree. [00:08:07] Speaker A: Yes. [00:08:07] Speaker B: That's how I know. [00:08:08] Speaker A: Absolutely. And I was a pretty good student. So I know I went, I know I perform well. But the actual act of a lot of that is a blur. But the friends I made, the times that were spent, the growth that was had. Yeah, it was 10 out of 10. I mean most absolutely recommend. [00:08:28] Speaker B: Most of my class stuff was a blur. But that's mostly cause I went to class with a hangover the majority of the time. [00:08:35] Speaker A: So as y'all see, this is going to be a podcast of opposites. I'm just saying, look, you know, come on. I did not. [00:08:45] Speaker B: Friday, Friday morning class. No, after college night, Thursday night at the club. [00:08:51] Speaker A: I didn't have. First off, by the time I was like partying on a Thursday, I didn't have classes on Fridays. I think I only had classes on Fridays. Really? My freshman year. [00:09:00] Speaker B: I know I always wanted them Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Tuesday, Thursday. Because I never wanted to have. I couldn't deal with no two hour class. Give me the two hours I was out on that. And then. Cause I don't have the attention span for it. I'll go to sleep. [00:09:16] Speaker A: You need to. You should have figured that out. Cause clearly going on a Friday when a hangover. That didn't make it better. [00:09:22] Speaker B: No, but I only had to stay awake for 50 minutes at a time. [00:09:25] Speaker A: And how many classes were you taking on Fridays? [00:09:27] Speaker B: I would take 8, 9, 10. I would always take 3. [00:09:32] Speaker A: That's back to back. [00:09:33] Speaker B: Yep. 8, 9, 10. Actually was 8, 9, 10, 11. Cause I'll go 8 to 12. I would go to the library at 12. Whatever work I had in 8 to 12, I would stay in the library till it was done. And then that would carry me to about two if I needed to. I Would walk down to USC campus, go meet up, go and go with my cousin. He would get me into the Russell house so I could eat something. [00:09:56] Speaker A: Y'all didn't have food? [00:09:58] Speaker B: No. The cafeteria at Allen. At Allen, the cafeteria would be closed. Now. The cafeteria stay open all the time back then. [00:10:04] Speaker A: Cafe. [00:10:04] Speaker B: The cafeteria. Cafeteria ladies went home. [00:10:06] Speaker A: Oh, wow. At one time. [00:10:08] Speaker B: No, they went home and they would come back for dinner. [00:10:10] Speaker A: Oh, got you. [00:10:11] Speaker B: But I would miss the lunch. [00:10:12] Speaker A: Definitely had a whole, whole lot of options. [00:10:14] Speaker B: Y had a lot of options. So I go down there. My cousin shouts out to Seaboy. He let me come in and do what I needed to do, get my grub on, hang out. [00:10:26] Speaker A: We always had infiltrators. [00:10:28] Speaker B: And I walk on down every time. What's the liquor store on Assembly Street? The big greens, green. Walk down to greens, give me a little something something and walk back to campus. [00:10:40] Speaker A: And let me tell you how much. Because I went to South Carolina. Shout out. Game. Go game. Box. Go, Gamecocks. But let me tell you. Tell you how much of an infiltration it was of other people on USC's campus. Like, the first set of guys that my roommate and I met and one of my other homegirls met were from Benedict. It wasn't even USC dudes. Oh, no, it was. I was like, why are y'all here? And they were just sitting, like, on a stoop at nighttime just. Just there. [00:11:10] Speaker B: And by. I think by my senior year, I had mastered me and Corey had it down. He would. He would say he lost his id. But I'd have. [00:11:20] Speaker A: You would get the id. [00:11:21] Speaker B: I'd have it. [00:11:22] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh. [00:11:23] Speaker B: On it. [00:11:24] Speaker A: Popping leave. [00:11:25] Speaker B: At that point. He played football, so he had the little meal card. [00:11:29] Speaker A: What you talking about? It makes me wonder what it's like now, whether it's the. [00:11:33] Speaker B: The same way we went on a trip. I went and chaperoned a trip to usc. It is. It's about. It's way more. More wide open. [00:11:41] Speaker A: Oh, I mean, I can imagine they rebuilt and are building a lot of things. [00:11:44] Speaker B: You can literally just walk in the Russ. Like before, you used to have to get swiped into the Russell house when I was there to get something to eat. [00:11:52] Speaker A: I'm talking about not swiped in because it was open. Was open campus so anybody from the public could come. [00:11:58] Speaker B: Okay, no open. We could get on campus. But, like. [00:12:02] Speaker A: And you going to the rest of house now. There were certain restaurants that you couldn't get into. [00:12:06] Speaker B: Like, you couldn't just get into, like, the part. There was a part that you couldn't get. You had to be a student to eat there. I didn't want to go anywhere. I had to pay. I wanted to go where the students were eating for free. [00:12:15] Speaker A: I mean, but if you're in the Russell House itself, that was pretty much whenever I was there. It might be, you know, slightly older, different age bracket. [00:12:24] Speaker B: Let's not make it. [00:12:24] Speaker A: That's just. Just smidge. But either way it goes, it might. Times might have changed a little bit by the time I got there. Because the Russell House was. It was like a restaurant. Any other restaurant that you in. Like a food court type. [00:12:38] Speaker B: Okay. It's expanded that now. It's like three levels of food court. [00:12:42] Speaker A: Oh, it's three levels now? [00:12:43] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:12:43] Speaker A: Because I think on the third level, it used to be. Not classrooms. Conference space. [00:12:49] Speaker B: Conference spaces. Yeah. So it's like they got some spots up there. They still got the conference spaces. They got some little. Couple places there. Second floor, I think it's a student cafeteria. [00:12:59] Speaker A: Oh, that was the first floor. [00:13:00] Speaker B: And then now on the first floor, it's just wide open. [00:13:04] Speaker A: I need to go. [00:13:05] Speaker B: Just food. Panera bread, Some Mexican restaurant I never heard of before. [00:13:11] Speaker A: They still have chick fil A. [00:13:13] Speaker B: They still have chick fil A in there. They had a halal spot I ate at. It was good. [00:13:18] Speaker A: They still got ice cream joint. [00:13:21] Speaker B: Yes, Ice cream joints in there. They got a Panda Express. Oh, yeah, it's. It's a scene, man. [00:13:28] Speaker A: Yeah, it's a scene. I actually need to go back to campus. I've been back. Well, I went to a football game a couple years ago for the first time in since I graduated. But to actually be on campus. Yeah, I don't know. Last time I've done that. I'm one of those people. When I graduate, I really graduate. [00:13:45] Speaker B: I have not been back to Allen. My frat brothers keep. Oh, in. In the group chat. Hey, we gotta. We gotta probate. [00:13:53] Speaker A: And you don't go. [00:13:54] Speaker B: No. You know. You know how long the drive is from here to Columbia? [00:13:57] Speaker A: It's not that long. [00:13:58] Speaker B: It's not that long. [00:13:59] Speaker A: But, like, are we talking New York. [00:14:04] Speaker B: As a single dad? Like, just sitting, like. I mean, to have to take him with me and it's usually on like a Wednesday or have to leave him at his friend's house. Go on a Wednesday or a Thursday, and then, you know, you just can't go to the probate and leave. [00:14:21] Speaker A: I mean, you could. [00:14:22] Speaker B: You got to be pictures and talking and. [00:14:25] Speaker A: So when is the last time you seen your frat brothers? [00:14:28] Speaker B: Oh, homecoming. [00:14:29] Speaker A: Okay. [00:14:30] Speaker B: Like, I go to the homecoming tailgate. [00:14:31] Speaker A: Okay. [00:14:32] Speaker B: That's all I got. [00:14:33] Speaker A: Have nothing else for you. [00:14:34] Speaker B: I don't got nothing else for you. I ain't got no. I'm not going to no extra. I'll be always like, yeah, I'm gonna see y'all at the party at homecoming. Yeah, yeah. To the crib. [00:14:44] Speaker A: So are you recognized as, like, a profile? You do the other. Do the Neos and stuff. See you and. [00:14:49] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:49] Speaker A: Who you are. [00:14:50] Speaker B: I can either confirm nor deny that I. That I randomly get phone calls at times. Oh, you know, you gotta talk to them. [00:15:01] Speaker A: Oh, okay. [00:15:02] Speaker B: You know. [00:15:02] Speaker A: No, you be strong. Army, huh? [00:15:04] Speaker B: No, no, no, no. They. They just. Before you can some. There are a few people in my chapter that have to be contacted prior to someone finishing. [00:15:16] Speaker A: Okay. [00:15:17] Speaker B: And I'm one of those people that need to be contacted. [00:15:19] Speaker A: He said he's still big man on campus, even though he ain't there. [00:15:22] Speaker B: I'm like the gatekeeper. [00:15:24] Speaker A: Everybody can't get in. [00:15:26] Speaker B: I'm like one of the gatekeepers. Everybody can't get in. [00:15:30] Speaker A: Can't walk these burgers in. [00:15:32] Speaker B: No, not everybody. If it was everybody, why would it be exclusive? [00:15:36] Speaker A: You're right. [00:15:36] Speaker B: Everybody just pay their money. [00:15:38] Speaker A: Yeah. Me, 100. Correct. [00:15:40] Speaker B: Everything ain't for everybody. That's what I say. Speaking of money. [00:15:45] Speaker A: Oh, gosh. Look at you. And you'll say, you way. [00:15:49] Speaker B: I'm a vetting. [00:15:52] Speaker A: You ain't lost it. You didn't lose it. [00:15:54] Speaker B: Hey, hey, listen. [00:15:55] Speaker A: And just before anybody asks, I do know that it's not segue way. I said that on purpose. [00:15:59] Speaker B: Yes, yes. She does hold an entire English degree and masters. [00:16:03] Speaker A: I do. [00:16:04] Speaker B: Let's not. [00:16:05] Speaker A: So let's do this segue. All right. [00:16:07] Speaker B: There's a. There's a question that's always been out that we've talked about on the show a bunch of times, and it's. Would you date someone who's not financially sound? [00:16:19] Speaker A: I feel like that's just such a setup of a question. [00:16:21] Speaker B: How's it a setup? It's either you will or you won't. [00:16:24] Speaker A: Either I'll be with somebody broke or I won't. That's basically what you're asking me. [00:16:29] Speaker B: No. Like, okay. Could you be attracted to a guy who's not financially sound? [00:16:34] Speaker A: Attracted a thousand percent. [00:16:35] Speaker B: When you met him. A lot of people when you met him. Like, you met him and he's not. [00:16:42] Speaker A: Yeah, I could be. You're asking could I be attracted to him? Yeah. [00:16:46] Speaker B: Okay. What? Could you date? [00:16:48] Speaker A: Go on a date? Yes, Date him. Longevity well, for the listeners, let's give some context. Okay. [00:16:58] Speaker B: Well, Michelle Obama was a guest on the podcast. We'll put the link in. In the description. But here you go. [00:17:05] Speaker C: Begs the question that I have for a lot of these women out here, and I'll say it to you, too. Would you be attracted to a guy who's not financially sound when you meet him? [00:17:19] Speaker D: I married one. [00:17:21] Speaker C: Let me say one more thing. Before you give your answer, you have to admit most of your sister and talking about women in general typically are not like you at that age. They're looking for a good cat. [00:17:32] Speaker A: Mm. [00:17:33] Speaker D: And there's a clear definition of what a good catch. [00:17:37] Speaker C: What a good catch is maybe you can find somebody who's attracted to the hunt with you, which I think is hard to find these days. [00:17:45] Speaker D: You make a good point. And I think we can't generalize across the board for women. And I think women are also confused about what they want and what they should be looking for in a mate. I have a lot of friends who will ding a guy because, you know, he doesn't have a college degree. So there are a lot of people who aren't looking deep enough. They aren't thinking broadly enough about what makes for a good partner. And instead, we all just look at the superficial things. The first question we ask if we're on a blind date. So tell me, what do you do? Just starting with that question, you know, arguably could put somebody on the defensive, because what are you looking for? Why is it the first place that we start? Are we trying to get some idea of how much money they make? And that definitely happens. I think there are a lot of women who are open to a lot of different kind of men and a lot of different kind of lifestyles. Women want a partner. They want to feel loved, they want to feel desired, they want to feel chosen. If you're just straightforward with who you are, you know you're going to find a mate. You're going to find somebody that wants to go on that journey with you and will be excited about it. And it might make taking the risks a little easier because you're not doing them alone. I left my corporate firm when I met Barack and I had somebody who was like, I got your back. The risk you think you're taking, they're not that crazy. And I'm here to help you. That's when I said, I would rather have that in a partner than a higher income. I'd rather have somebody who was ready to do some hard things with me. But that Meant I also had to be ready to do some hard things with him. I just think we shouldn't assume. You just gotta kinda get out there and meet people and come to people with your truth. [00:19:43] Speaker B: Well, first off, you met Barack. Somebody said their name is Barack. They bout to be something. They about to be something. [00:19:53] Speaker A: Is that what that means? This is a synonymous. [00:19:56] Speaker B: My name is Barack. I'm out. [00:19:59] Speaker A: Well, see, here's the thing. What I heard her say was that she was committing to someone who had vision. [00:20:08] Speaker B: Okay. [00:20:09] Speaker A: Someone who had a direction. Although maybe not all the clear steps that were going to be taken in order to get there, because no one has all of those, but someone who was, who was clear in who they wanted to be and who they wanted to become and what it took to get there and was willing to put in the work in order to do so. If you're asking me would I commit to that person a thousand percent. [00:20:35] Speaker B: So, so, so do dirty, huh? You know, you met Do Dirty who got popped. [00:20:43] Speaker A: No. [00:20:43] Speaker B: You got a mixtape coming out? [00:20:45] Speaker A: No. [00:20:46] Speaker B: He got a vision. [00:20:47] Speaker A: No. [00:20:48] Speaker B: To be one of the best rappers of all time. [00:20:50] Speaker A: No. [00:20:50] Speaker B: You mean to tell me you can't get behind. [00:20:52] Speaker A: And, and listen, so are we talking about. Because first off, Michelle Obama did not commit to Barack Obama at 38, which is how old I am. She committed to him when she. [00:21:03] Speaker B: Okay, that's a question. Does it change yes. With your. With age? [00:21:09] Speaker A: A thousand percent. [00:21:10] Speaker B: So if you were in your 20s. [00:21:12] Speaker A: I got more time to waste. [00:21:16] Speaker B: I do think the time in your life does dictate how you answer that question. Would you date somebody who isn't financially stable? Because in your 20s you're not really that financially stable. [00:21:28] Speaker A: Right. So we just be two not financially stable people together. [00:21:32] Speaker B: So that begs the question, though I. [00:21:34] Speaker A: Still be with no do dirty or whatever you say was. [00:21:36] Speaker B: But, but that begs the question here. So why are women of this new generation, whatever this generation is called xyz. [00:21:44] Speaker A: I don't know xyz. [00:21:48] Speaker B: If they are, they're answering the question in a sense of no, I can't do that. In their 20s. And I can understand in your upper to mid to upper 30s. [00:22:01] Speaker A: Right, right. [00:22:01] Speaker B: And then especially in your 40s because yes, hey, look, credit, credit matter, money matter. [00:22:09] Speaker A: Because everything becomes more weighty at this point. [00:22:12] Speaker B: We need to be. Where are we going? Because I ain't got a bunch of time to waste. [00:22:17] Speaker A: Right. Or at least on our way like halfway there to wherever it is that we are going and have a plan of getting there. But to your question around why this new generation? Honestly, first off, I can't speak for the new generation. I'm not necessarily a part of that generation. But I think it, it goes to the question of work ethic more so than anything else because this generation also has a completely different view or a different relationship to work ethic. And hear me when I say these are generalizations and that's the only way that we can talk around here because of course there are always be exceptions to rules. But yeah, I think that, that that's a deeper conversation that then goes into more. So what are they willing to do? What type of work are they willing to put in? Because then I, my question also is, all right, you're expecting that of him. What you bring to the table. [00:23:16] Speaker B: See, and, but, but hold on now. Women be saying I am the table. I mean, that's what a lot of women be saying. [00:23:24] Speaker A: You might be the table. But even, but what type of table are you? You. The folding table, A picnic bench. [00:23:30] Speaker B: Most of them are picnic. Well then just stay outside. [00:23:33] Speaker A: You gonna get the picnic. Yeah, just stay outside to match your energy. [00:23:36] Speaker B: If you always. In the club, you always out you what? Yeah. Okay. You got the money to spend. Yeah, that. But you're living a lifestyle that's not, not congruent with mine. [00:23:49] Speaker A: Yeah. And not congruent to what it is that you're saying that you're saying that you want. Because the type of person that you're probably going to attract that does have the money that you're looking for is probably going to be going to have deficiencies in other areas. [00:24:04] Speaker B: Most likely. [00:24:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:24:06] Speaker B: So would that fall under. Well then now you start talking about the good and the bad. So one thing that was brought up in, in the video was, you know, what actually defines a good catch or high value or. So let's, let's just deal with good catch because I think good catch goes men, women. [00:24:26] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:24:27] Speaker B: High value. They usually just talk about high value. Man. I'm still waiting on that definition. [00:24:31] Speaker A: But I mean, first off, I'm a high value woman. Okay. But go ahead. [00:24:36] Speaker B: I get it. [00:24:36] Speaker A: All right, I got you. [00:24:37] Speaker B: That's. What is that? That is. You're supposed to be confident in self. But when you. I, I just, I think a good catch is subjective to the person that's determining what's a good catch. [00:24:55] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:24:56] Speaker A: And it has to be for them. Yeah. [00:24:58] Speaker B: Even though all of their friends might say that's not a good catch. [00:25:02] Speaker A: Yeah. And I mean, and that's the thing like you at the end of the day, you know, you, you know the direction that you are trying to go in. You know, the purpose that you are trying to fulfill while you're on this earth. And whenever you are looking for someone to, you know, walk this life with, you got to make sure that it's not just about, you know, the superficial things that are fleeting and could, could come and go at any moment. Because what if he starts off reading, he lose all his money and now you're still tied to him. Do you like him for any other reason? [00:25:38] Speaker B: No, because that's when they be out. [00:25:39] Speaker A: Yeah. So that's the, that's the, that's the bigger question, I think. And whenever we're talking about, you know, a high value man or being with someone who has money or your, or not, and your girls are like, yeah, no, I don't do that. I, I think that, you know, what are you attracted to? What is pulling you in? [00:26:00] Speaker B: And are, are you what you're attracting? [00:26:02] Speaker A: Yes. [00:26:03] Speaker B: Are you, are you what you want to. [00:26:04] Speaker A: Yes. Yes. [00:26:05] Speaker B: Yeah, you know what you're attracted to? Are you that like. [00:26:08] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:26:09] Speaker B: Want a dude with a chisel body? Are you going to the gym? Are you, do you have a body that's. Or do you, are you living the lifestyle of a person who is in that you want somebody who has money? Are you living the lifestyle of somebody who is. Who has. I wouldn't say who has money? I think people would rather be with somebody who's on their way to being wealthy. [00:26:32] Speaker A: Yeah, let's build together. [00:26:33] Speaker B: Yeah, let's, let's build this up. But yeah, we have to have a like mindset. We can't be, oh shoot, let's go spend 2, $300 on some shoes today and forego and the cell phone or the light's gonna be out for two days. [00:26:48] Speaker A: Yeah. And that's the thing. I think, like, that's the part that you really are trying to, that you need to be trying to figure out about the, the mindset that both of you have around whatever it is that you're, you're going after. Because I mean, and kind of going back to even that question around like, okay, so your homegirls are like, man, you need to drop him. You need to drop him. And it kind of reminds me of acrimony. [00:27:13] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:27:15] Speaker A: And I mean, and we never know when the time is going to be. So it's always that question of, so when do you give up? Because dude was doing a lot like we give Taraji P a hard time for letting that man go. But he was doing a lot. [00:27:27] Speaker B: Was he? But. But did he. Did he ever give up on his dream? [00:27:31] Speaker A: He wasn't making no money. Go to Walmart. [00:27:35] Speaker B: See. You the type of person failed eoc. I asked you a question. You didn't answer it. [00:27:41] Speaker A: Go to Walmart. Go get a job. [00:27:43] Speaker B: Did he give up on his dream? [00:27:44] Speaker A: You can have your dream and do other things. [00:27:46] Speaker B: Did he give up on his dream? [00:27:48] Speaker A: No, he didn't. [00:27:49] Speaker B: Did that behavior pay off for him? It would have paid off for her too. [00:27:55] Speaker A: But the point of the matter is she wasn't asking him to give up on his dream. [00:28:01] Speaker B: I don't know. [00:28:02] Speaker A: She wasn't. She was asking him to contribute. [00:28:04] Speaker B: No, I get what you're saying. I'm not debating that. She was asking him to contribute. But you also have to know your mate too. [00:28:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:12] Speaker B: Like, I'm the type of person that if anybody's dealing with me, you know, it ain't just one thing. [00:28:20] Speaker A: Yes. It's a lot of things. [00:28:21] Speaker B: It's like 10. [00:28:23] Speaker A: Yes. Simultaneously. [00:28:25] Speaker B: I'll be doing this, like, after the show. I'm gonna be editing this while watching Black Mirror and cooking for Amir. Like, that's what. That's what this is gonna be after this. And I'm probably gonna be on the phone with CL Telling them how the recording went. So you know that about me being with me. You understand that. You know that. This, that, and the third. So for her, Taraji's character. I can't remember her name, but me either. She knew him all the way from college. Yeah, from before college, if I'm not mistaken. So you knew that he was. He was not gonna contribute. This was his it. You knew that. [00:29:07] Speaker D: I don't. [00:29:08] Speaker A: I don't know if you. You would know that he wasn't going to contribute. [00:29:11] Speaker B: But. And I'm gonna. I'm gonna say this. And I was in that situation once. The person I was with, she wanted to work. She wanted to be work for herself. She wanted to work from home job. She wanted to be. She didn't want to be a housewife because she wanted to make her money. [00:29:33] Speaker A: Right. [00:29:33] Speaker B: But leaving the house to go do not what she wanted to do. Wanted to be home. And so she had a really nice paying job. She lost the job for whatever reason. I think we spent years of her wanting to find a job she could do from the crib. But all that time passed and we didn't get no money. And we used to have to solicit help from our parents, from my parents, from friends, because I'm A teacher. That only makes us so much money. My homeboy Blaze used to be like, hey, man, you come up here, work the party. You know, we can spend it there. Hey, you got a little money to invest, you could do this, you know. So I'm scrambling and you just chilling. Well, I wouldn't say chilling because it was the kids, but you know, you at the, you know, you at the house. And so in my mind, it's like, you know, you can do. Go do anything. But to her, she wanted to do this particular. Whatever it was, it had to be in her field and most likely from the house. And we ended up breaking up and she ended up having to deter from her plan. [00:30:47] Speaker A: Right. [00:30:47] Speaker B: But she hustled, went, did what she did, and now she's doing what she wants to do. [00:30:50] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:30:50] Speaker B: Which I'm all for. [00:30:51] Speaker A: But see, and that's the thing, like, I feel like whenever you start adding people to your boat, on your quest and journey towards whatever your dream is, your dream doesn't have to die. I'm not saying that by any stretch of the imagination, but there's more to consider. And so how I would operate as a single person hustling and going after my dream can't be how I operate as a person that's in relationship, because this is a partnership at the end of the day. And so am I saying that my dream is more important than my partner. Like, and I, and I think, like, that's the thing. I'm not saying give up, but what I'm saying is you see us struggling, but you gonna eat. And while I go out and make this money and stress myself out and all the things, and you in this house tinkering on whatever this thing is. [00:31:46] Speaker B: That you're tinkering that eventually makes him a multi millionaire. [00:31:49] Speaker A: And I'm not taking that away from him. [00:31:51] Speaker B: Now you're jealous over. [00:31:53] Speaker A: But, but the thing. [00:31:55] Speaker B: Animosity over. [00:31:56] Speaker A: A lot of the resentment could have been mitigated if he was. He wasn't a great partner. He was a great dreamer. He wasn't a great partner. [00:32:05] Speaker B: Okay, so a true partnership is what? [00:32:07] Speaker A: A true, A true partnership. And I'm not saying 50 50, because I don't even believe in 50 50. And that's probably gonna go down a whole other rabbit hole because I, I felt the question and popping your head. [00:32:17] Speaker B: As you looked at me when I said it. I don't believe in 5050 either. I think sometimes it's 70, 30. [00:32:22] Speaker A: Yes. Sometimes it swings in the opposite direction a thousand percent. [00:32:25] Speaker B: Sometimes it is 50. 50. [00:32:27] Speaker A: Sometimes. Sometimes. And that's in all areas. [00:32:30] Speaker B: Yeah, in all areas. [00:32:30] Speaker A: Physically, emotionally, you know, all of the lease. And so, you know, I'm not saying that it had to be a split down the middle. I'm saying you see your partner stressed, you see your partner is in distress, and you're not trying to do something to alleviate that. That's not a good partner. That's not a good partner. [00:32:51] Speaker B: All right, I can see that. So have you ever had somebody. One thing I can say about you, from knowing you all these years, all these umpteen years. [00:33:01] Speaker A: Oh, my. [00:33:01] Speaker B: It has been umpteen years. [00:33:02] Speaker A: It has been a lot of years. [00:33:05] Speaker B: You've always been like, upper, like moving forward. I've never seen you really stagnant. Even when you've been in a space. It's been like, okay, what's next? [00:33:16] Speaker A: To my detriment at times. [00:33:18] Speaker B: Let me. Okay, what's next? I'm here. Okay, what's next? Donaldson? What's next? It's always been a movement forward to whatever it is. [00:33:27] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:33:27] Speaker B: You felt you wanted it to be with your comfortability. [00:33:30] Speaker A: Right. [00:33:31] Speaker B: So have you ever, like, locked in. Have you ever had somebody's back to the point where you've had to let them go? [00:33:39] Speaker A: Yes. Yeah. For a lot of different reasons. [00:33:42] Speaker B: Well, I mean. [00:33:43] Speaker A: But yeah. Yeah. And when it becomes a detriment to me, because I honestly don't believe, even if he would have stayed with Taraji, and this is going to go somewhere when coming back to me personally, but, you know, even if they would have stayed together, Taraji, Penson and whatever the dude's character was, I don't think that it would have lasted even after he got the money because there was so much other stuff built. [00:34:12] Speaker B: But I think she. She harbored resentment. He did too, throughout the. [00:34:18] Speaker A: He harbored resentment for her, too, because she. [00:34:21] Speaker B: He never felt like she truly believed in him. [00:34:23] Speaker A: She supported this man for all them years. [00:34:28] Speaker B: That don't mean you believe that. Do not mean you believe what it meaning. That just means I'm. That means you. You're either here. You're either. You're here, probably wasting your time. [00:34:38] Speaker A: First off, you clearly don't understand the mind of a woman. I. I don't. That is clear and very obvious that you don't understand the mind of a woman, because that sounds like a dudish thing to do. But a woman is not. First off, we're not. We're not naturally built to be providers. [00:34:58] Speaker B: I'm not saying be a provider. [00:35:00] Speaker A: He. That's what she Was, though I don't know about it. How else was he eating? How else was he being clothed? How else was he getting transportation and going from one place to the next? He did not have a job. So who, what, What I mean is the very definition of a provider. [00:35:19] Speaker B: Okay. [00:35:20] Speaker A: And then if I'm married to you, you're going to expect other things too. [00:35:23] Speaker B: Well, I mean, that's just your wife. [00:35:25] Speaker A: I mean, I'm just saying. So. But providing she's doing a lot of giving in this situation. [00:35:31] Speaker B: But so, but he did, didn't he give too? [00:35:35] Speaker A: What do you give to his dream? [00:35:39] Speaker B: But it was to. It was. He was chasing the dream not only for himself, but he knew that it would help provide for his family for her. Because he said that multiple times, like, I want this for us. I know it's going to get. [00:35:55] Speaker A: There all sounds like very pretty words. Like, too bad we can't take them to the girls. [00:36:00] Speaker B: Like my man would pursue the happiness. Will Smith character, lady wife left him with the boy. All of the things I just gotta sell this one machine. And we set. She couldn't ride with him through that. She ain't have his back. [00:36:16] Speaker A: Indeed. [00:36:18] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. So. And it's not your real you got, you can't simply you got my back, but it's. You got it to a point. Then you got. You need to make that known from the beginning. I got your back for you. [00:36:31] Speaker A: And, and that's what I was about to say. Like, I do think that there was some, some communication that was not happening because whenever he first started pursuing and they first got out of school, she, she was Taraji, I'm talking about. She was invested. Like she was with him and was doing all the things. And, you know, then the year started passing, passing, passing. So I do think to your point, yes, there does have to be open communication around. Okay, so when, when does this shift? When do we start not even necessarily talking about you giving up your dream, but you making room for other things so that our family can be provided for. You know, can, can, can continue to flourish and thrive in the way that it's supposed to? Because he honestly was acting like a single person. Like he was not acting as though he was a part of a relationship with how he approached and went after his dream. Okay, but, so, but you asked me the question earlier around, like, have I done the same thing? And the answer is I have. And I was also saying, like, you truly don't understand the mind of a woman. If you are thinking that me being here is not me believing in you. Because if I didn't believe in you, I would have left you. I could do better by myself. She was in that, too. But I could do bad all by myself. Like, I don't need to write about that part. That part. But yeah. So if I'm here and I'm struggling, and I'm going to struggle extra to be here. [00:38:07] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. I just think that if you have. If you have someone's back and chime in, email us. Relationship status podcast at Gmail. [00:38:19] Speaker A: So you're saying there should not be. [00:38:21] Speaker B: A point or you need to communicate that from the beginning. [00:38:26] Speaker A: When she. Not communicating. [00:38:28] Speaker B: When she said, I got you. Right. Initially, when she said, I got you, baby. Let's do this. Don't worry about it. I got it. [00:38:39] Speaker A: She should have said, I can hear that point. [00:38:40] Speaker B: She said. She should have said, if this don't work in a year, sweetie, we need to move on. [00:38:46] Speaker A: I 100% agree. Cause you have. [00:38:49] Speaker B: At that point, I'm thinking, you got me. You got me. [00:38:52] Speaker A: Definitely. [00:38:54] Speaker B: To infinity and beyond. No, because. [00:38:56] Speaker A: Oh, no, not Woody. [00:38:58] Speaker B: You have not. [00:38:59] Speaker A: We're not doing a toy story. [00:39:00] Speaker B: You have not put a cap on it. You have not said, hey, sweetheart. [00:39:04] Speaker A: But. So that would be my issue. And. And so you asked the question earlier around, like, would I be with a. A broke person? Or whatever that. Whatever. The original question was for me personally, not financially stable. Financially stable. There we go. That sounds way better than a broke person. [00:39:21] Speaker B: Yeah, because a person. No, because the person that's financially unstable. [00:39:25] Speaker A: Might be having money but not managing it well. [00:39:28] Speaker B: Don't know how to spend it. [00:39:29] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:39:29] Speaker B: Or has. Or. Or has. I've been told at times a poor relationship with money. [00:39:36] Speaker A: I mean, all black people have poor relationships with money. But that's another conversation for a different day. So, yeah, I. What was I about to say? Oh, I would. The thing that I think is more heartbreaking about the situation, and my situation in particular, and I think even Taraji P. Henson's character situation is the emotional. The emotional strain. Strain and lack of care. I can. I can ride with you until the wheels fall off. Until I feel like you aren't. You don't care about me. Like, you don't care about how this is making me feel. You don't care how it is, you know, how it is, you know, affecting me physically or any of the other things. So can I be with you and you be financially not stable? Yes. If you are actively working towards getting Better at that. And if you can recognize when what your actions are affecting me or affecting us negatively and you can be the one to come to the table, it shouldn't always have to be the person that, you know, made the promise or whatever the case is. Because I'm sure when she made the promise, she was real in making that promise and, and say, okay, babe, I see. Like this isn't working. So we, we need to come back to the table and let's talk about what it is that we do to kind of balance the scales a little bit more. [00:41:15] Speaker B: You don't know men then. [00:41:17] Speaker A: Well, y'all need to go therapy for the majority. [00:41:21] Speaker B: I think a good bit of us are not. Not aware. [00:41:25] Speaker A: That is, y'all would y'all just live through life blind. Like what happens? [00:41:32] Speaker B: We just not that self aware. Just not that simple. [00:41:34] Speaker A: Oh we. [00:41:36] Speaker B: No, I think early on. [00:41:38] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:41:38] Speaker B: We're not that self worth because you grow. [00:41:40] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:41:41] Speaker B: And you make mistakes. That was a joke, fellas. Don't attack cl. [00:41:45] Speaker A: It was a joke because basically what he said was. [00:41:49] Speaker B: I just. I really believe that early on our self awareness isn't there because we believe in ourself and what we're. I know. Well, I'll speak for myself. If I have an idea. I told somebody this the other day. [00:42:05] Speaker A: Oh God. If I have an idea, it's the best idea ever. [00:42:08] Speaker B: No, no, no, no. I'm 100% in. I'm gonna jump in with both feet. No plan, no nothing. I'm all the way in. I am fully immersed. This plan just ain't going. There's no way that this is gonna mess up. And I don't care what I got to do to keep it alive. [00:42:25] Speaker A: You executor. [00:42:26] Speaker B: Yes, I. If I can just pay somebody to plan it, like give them the idea and then plan and come back. [00:42:34] Speaker A: That might be the. That might be what you need to do. You need to add that to your GPT list. You need to add that so that you can become a more well rounded. Yeah. Because you can't just have an exit. [00:42:48] Speaker B: You can't. [00:42:48] Speaker A: You can't just be executed. You got to have something to go along with it. But yeah, and, and I think like that is one of the. The things whenever we start talking about as folks get older and more mature and start learning from our mistakes. Because I think like that's also part of it and you realize and understand what it is that you need out of the situation. And so at 38, am I saying that I would be with someone that's financially unstable. I can't say yes or no because I would have to assess the whole situation. But the likelihood is a whole lot slimmer than it would have been in my 20s because it's a whole lot more at stake. Like if I'm hitching you to my, to my bus, it can't. I can't do a whole lot of dead weight. I already can't drive a bus for real. So, you know, it. You just got to be able to bring something along to my charter. [00:43:49] Speaker B: All right, well. All right, well. On, on, on, on. To close. To close out, because we doing some good stuff here. She says something that I don't think women. Michelle says something here I don't think women really want. [00:44:04] Speaker A: What. [00:44:06] Speaker B: Come to people with your truth and let them decide. She. That last part, she's right. But she says she. In the video, she continues on says, and then eventually you'll find the person for you. Yeah. No, you can't. As men, we can't take like, really want initially. It's an initial attraction. It's not more so than physical or anything else. [00:44:34] Speaker A: It don't take y'all that long. What you might not be able to say, okay, for upon first meeting, of course, like, the thing that draws anybody together is attraction. Yes. But it doesn't take you that long to figure out if this is something that you're going to be able to rock with or is an absolutely absolute no. [00:44:55] Speaker B: Yeah. Because I think no, you, you probably make the decision. But it does take us more time. [00:45:02] Speaker A: It might take you more time to, to like, developing it. [00:45:06] Speaker B: And you know, it takes, I'm saying it takes us more time. We're like, ah, we give him one more chance. I think I could ride with that. No, I think maybe this. No. [00:45:16] Speaker A: I mean, yes. [00:45:18] Speaker B: Okay. That's what I'm saying. [00:45:19] Speaker A: But not, not because you think that it's going to work or end up being. Being a relationship. You have categorized and determined what that is going to be. [00:45:30] Speaker B: Yes. [00:45:31] Speaker A: 100 long before, like, you know, you're not going to marry this person. [00:45:35] Speaker B: Yes, we know. [00:45:36] Speaker A: And that's what I'm saying. That's the point that I'm. [00:45:38] Speaker B: But we, but we. But sometimes we, we. [00:45:40] Speaker A: We be like, yeah, because you, you want other things. [00:45:43] Speaker B: No, no, no. Let me see if we could work. Let me see if I could work my way into, you know, into this marriage thing. Let me see if I can figure this out. Let me see if we can. And then eventually either you can or you can't. And you Kind of. [00:45:56] Speaker A: No. [00:45:56] Speaker B: You know, make. Move on. [00:45:58] Speaker A: Yeah, whatever. Especially the older you get. I. That's. That's. That's Cap. Like, I don't have to use what. What young kids out here saying. They might not be saying that no more, but that's. That's straight. That's a lie. [00:46:09] Speaker B: All right? All. [00:46:10] Speaker A: That's a lie. That is a lie. [00:46:11] Speaker B: Well, whether. Whether you do or you don't, just make sure that you. You're being true to yourself. [00:46:18] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:46:19] Speaker B: Being true to everybody else. We added a little segment here. We got some new segments coming up over the next couple of weeks. As go. We didn't do our. Our initial one, which is red flag or not. [00:46:32] Speaker A: Oh, Lord. [00:46:33] Speaker B: But that's good. We're gonna put that the front end. [00:46:35] Speaker A: Okay. [00:46:37] Speaker B: The next full episode where we have you, the listeners and viewers, you know, you go type in some situations and you let us know you. You asking us for our opinion. Is it a red flag or. No, but we did get some on another. Another one that I came up with. Nice little one. [00:46:54] Speaker A: Okay. [00:46:54] Speaker B: How to text. How to text your future eggs. [00:46:57] Speaker A: Your future. [00:47:00] Speaker B: Who do you mean? [00:47:00] Speaker A: How to text them. [00:47:01] Speaker B: Okay, so the explain. The explanation was I had people send me some texts that they might have sent out or may or may not have sent out. [00:47:13] Speaker A: I'm scared to break up. Through text. [00:47:16] Speaker B: Through text. All right, I'm just gonna read them, get your reaction. [00:47:21] Speaker A: Oh, Lord. It just. My reaction. Like, yeah, we're going. We're going. [00:47:25] Speaker B: We're good. Talk about it. All right, so we got a couple here. We got a couple here. Got a couple people. Hey, make sure you. Make sure you join the relationship status group and then the group chat, because it goes down in the group chat. All right, first one. Hey, I grabbed the milk, eggs, and bread. Also, I think we should see other people, but don't forget to feed the cat. Bye. [00:47:49] Speaker A: First off, it's like, what's the. The little sandwich? What do they call it? Not the positivity sandwich. When people don't want the bad news that they want. Give me good, bad, good. So that I make. You know, I'll be like, wait, what? Did I really read that? No, you didn't insult me. It's fine. Yeah, that's what came to mind whenever I. Yeah. All right. That person's a little slick. Might have some emotional intelligence about themselves. [00:48:19] Speaker B: Dear Keisha, it has come to our attention that this relationship is no longer working. Per Section 3 of the we had potential clause, we regret to inform you that you have been let go Best of luck in your future relationships. [00:48:32] Speaker A: Ain't nothing about them. Serious. You should have been with him in the first place, because I can tell that they are not. There's no part of them that hasn't seen. Theory is going on everybody. Not Dear Keisha. [00:48:42] Speaker B: Okay, all right, next one. My horoscope aunt said. My horoscope said mercury is in retrograde and I need to let go of toxic energy. That's you. Namaste. [00:48:56] Speaker A: Not a namaste. It would be the namaste for me. You go be you gonna do all of this and bring all that hell into the situation. Oh, okay. [00:49:12] Speaker B: This next one was one word. Oh, let's see if you could guess it. This is text. Texas guy sent his ex Done. One word. Nope. [00:49:22] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:49:23] Speaker B: Unsubscribe. [00:49:27] Speaker A: Y'All. Everybody is just emotionally inept. Like, this is crazy. [00:49:35] Speaker B: Check the playlist I made for you. [00:49:37] Speaker A: On Spotify, not you breaking up through a playlist. [00:49:40] Speaker B: It's called it's not me. It's definitely you. [00:49:45] Speaker A: I can appreciate that, though, because it ain't me. I ain't even about to take this one on the chin. [00:49:52] Speaker B: I'm writing you. I'm writing this. [00:49:55] Speaker A: Oh, my. Oh. [00:49:59] Speaker B: I'm sending you this text from the year 2050. [00:50:02] Speaker A: 2050. [00:50:03] Speaker B: We're not together anymore. Just wanted to give you a heads up so it won't hurt as bad when I leave next Tuesday. [00:50:11] Speaker A: So basically, it'll. It'll get better because by 2050, you'll be fine. [00:50:16] Speaker B: We got a couple more. We got a couple more. All right. Gosh, you are right. I do deserve better. So I'm going to go find better. Thanks for the idea. [00:50:25] Speaker A: Yeah, I mean, I'm not actually mad at that text message because it sounds like they had a conversation beforehand and you said something that you probably ain't had no business saying, and now you got to stand on business. [00:50:34] Speaker B: Now you got to stand on another playlist. 1. I went through your playlist titled My Future Wife, and none of those songs reminded me of me, so I'm gone. [00:50:49] Speaker A: Once again, what is this generation coming to? [00:50:53] Speaker B: After reviewing your recent performance in this relationship, we were about to inform you that your contract will not be renewed. Please return all hoodies and emotional support immediately. [00:51:06] Speaker A: Oh, not a performance. View. [00:51:10] Speaker B: Next one. You ate the last slice of pizza after I said I wanted it. If that's how you treat love, I don't want it. You liked your ex's photo from 78 weeks ago. [00:51:22] Speaker A: 78 weeks. [00:51:24] Speaker B: I don't even have a Comeback for that. So we're done. [00:51:26] Speaker A: First off, they went back 78 weeks to like their exes. I would have broken up with them, too. That's a lot of scrolling. Sheesh. [00:51:35] Speaker B: This one is just. Hey, boo bear, snuggle prince. [00:51:40] Speaker A: Even gonna say all of that to break up with somebody? [00:51:44] Speaker B: Well, ew. Even typing that made me cringe. I'm out. [00:51:48] Speaker A: Boo bear, snuggle prince. All right. [00:51:51] Speaker B: Remember when you told me I couldn't cook? Well, I cooked up a new man. Bon appetit. [00:52:00] Speaker A: People. So petty. We live in a very petty world. [00:52:03] Speaker B: We got two more. Two more. Two more. You told me you love me 47 times. You also told the waiter at Olive Garden, I love Alfredo. 48 times. I counted. Enjoy your pasta. [00:52:14] Speaker A: That's something we need to talk about. Love bombing. [00:52:17] Speaker B: Love bombing. [00:52:18] Speaker A: Yes. [00:52:19] Speaker B: Next episode. [00:52:20] Speaker A: Cause that is. Ooh wee. Her saying or that. Whoever that was saying that. Oh, yeah, it brought that up for me. Go ahead. [00:52:26] Speaker B: Okay. Last one. Hey. Just dropping. Just dropping this off. Your hoodie, your lies, and my last nerve. We're done. [00:52:37] Speaker A: Well, nice and succinct. Concise. To the point. [00:52:42] Speaker B: To the point. [00:52:43] Speaker A: I'm here for that. All the things to the point. And there was no. You couldn't read anything else into that? [00:52:50] Speaker B: Nah. We're gonna go ahead and get out of here. One thing you learned today, Verona? [00:52:56] Speaker A: Ah, I think one thing that I learned. Well, two things that I learned is that we live in a petty world. And the. The second one is that most times when you're. You're seeking something or asking a question is not about the question itself or what you're seeking, on the surface is something way deeper than that. [00:53:20] Speaker B: Okay, that's good. I learned I got to come up with better ways to break up with people. [00:53:26] Speaker A: Please. [00:53:28] Speaker B: Hey, thanks for tuning in. Until the next time, I'm Yousef in the building. [00:53:32] Speaker A: And I'm Faronda. [00:53:34] Speaker B: See y'all later. Peace.