244th Date: Women Lie

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[00:00:54] Speaker B: But I think even, like, in the moment in which you go, yo, you know, you're trying to be intimate with this person, the person that you care about, and it's not reciprocated to the point where it's like, stop. No. Like, it's like, geez, you know what? [00:01:09] Speaker C: You know, they need to go into, like, an explanation. Like, hey, it's not you. It's just me right now. Yeah, that's the worst explanation now. [00:01:15] Speaker D: Oh, it could be you. [00:01:17] Speaker B: Or it could. Or it could be. [00:01:18] Speaker C: But then tell me. Shoot, I. [00:01:19] Speaker D: But, I mean, not when I say you, not you. But I mean, it could be the person. Like, it could be that person's approach to sex. Like, they might just jump in the bed and try to jump to it. [00:01:28] Speaker C: Tell me that you still have to tell somebody, like, what they're doing wrong. I can't correct something if you don't tell me it's wrong. [00:01:35] Speaker D: What's that Cl says from the ether? He says that women lie. You're not being honest. [00:01:46] Speaker B: Women don't have any integrity. [00:01:48] Speaker D: Yeah, that's it. That's the phrase. [00:02:02] Speaker C: Welcome back to relationship status. It's your girl. Nick Cruz, Cl Butler. Oh, you did it before I did. [00:02:10] Speaker B: Yusuf in the building. And remember, you can find us on all podcast platforms. Remember to, like, share, follow, and five star rate. And we have in the building one of the best there is in this podcast biz. Ooh, I like the way I said that. That kind of went the birthday boy, or it was like, last week. [00:02:30] Speaker D: Last week. [00:02:30] Speaker C: Oh, okay. Last week. [00:02:32] Speaker B: But definitely of the world famous DJ Blaze radio show. The world famous. Be easy. You put a lot going on, brother. [00:02:40] Speaker C: And the crowd goes wild. [00:02:42] Speaker D: You put a lot of pressure on me. [00:02:44] Speaker C: I'm gonna say, shot. Shot, shot, shot. [00:02:49] Speaker D: That's what. Oh, but thank y'all. For having me. [00:02:52] Speaker B: No problem, man. We appreciate you coming in and sitting in for C O. Definitely. You've upped our listenership just now. [00:03:02] Speaker D: Hopefully, I'm do my best cl impression. You gonna do your best cl for the whole show? [00:03:07] Speaker B: For the whole show. [00:03:08] Speaker D: Nick, how you been? [00:03:11] Speaker C: So you gonna get us in trouble? [00:03:13] Speaker B: Nah, nah, we'll be good. [00:03:16] Speaker D: He probably. [00:03:16] Speaker C: You did it. You did just right. Cause that's exactly. [00:03:18] Speaker D: That's how he do it. My legs are a little shorter, but. [00:03:22] Speaker C: You know, he sits back and put. And crosses his legs. [00:03:26] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:03:27] Speaker C: Youssef. [00:03:28] Speaker D: I mean, what. What are you. [00:03:30] Speaker C: He'll say, nah, brother Nik. [00:03:33] Speaker D: No, no. That's my best cl impression. [00:03:38] Speaker B: It's starting. [00:03:39] Speaker C: That was good. It was good. That was really good. [00:03:41] Speaker D: I listened. I knew. [00:03:43] Speaker B: Thank you for listening, Meek. [00:03:44] Speaker D: Are you sure it's off back? Is that. Oh, my God. That was one. That was one. But ever since that episode, like, I be seeing it, like, on different shows and stuff. People will say that. Like, people say off back, like, yeah. [00:03:58] Speaker C: I don't know how y'all never heard of. [00:03:59] Speaker D: I never. I always heard off top. [00:04:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:02] Speaker D: Not off bat. [00:04:03] Speaker B: I never heard off that. [00:04:04] Speaker C: I mean, I don't have my own language, but gracious. [00:04:06] Speaker D: Yeah. I mean, I didn't accuse you of your own language, but you were right. [00:04:12] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:12] Speaker D: Years later, we found out you. [00:04:16] Speaker B: Unless you started something. [00:04:17] Speaker D: Nah, nah. [00:04:19] Speaker C: Can I have credit? [00:04:20] Speaker D: Oh, no. My bad. I'm sorry, Nik. I'm sorry, Nik. I'm still in my seat. [00:04:23] Speaker C: Gracious. Not very demeaning of you. [00:04:27] Speaker B: Okay. [00:04:27] Speaker C: Very mindful. [00:04:28] Speaker B: All right, now, neek with the sat word. [00:04:31] Speaker C: Oh, that's an sat word. [00:04:33] Speaker D: See, Yusuf, you're not on social media like me and Nick. I know where you get. I know where that comes from, Nik, so thank you. Is that person trans? [00:04:44] Speaker C: Yes. [00:04:45] Speaker D: Okay. Oh, see, I'm still in my Cl. [00:04:50] Speaker B: I'm not on social media. [00:04:51] Speaker C: And it's not that person. It's a she. [00:04:54] Speaker D: It's still that person. [00:04:55] Speaker C: You know, pronouns, people get very specific. [00:04:59] Speaker D: Well, if it's not a per, they're not a person. I think they is the safest. [00:05:05] Speaker B: They. [00:05:06] Speaker D: Yeah, yeah. He or she. [00:05:07] Speaker B: Yeah, that's the safest pronoun. [00:05:11] Speaker D: So I saw. Speaking of the demure person, I did see where they tried to, like, trademark it as somebody trademarked it before them. So they can't, like, capitalize off of the social media family. [00:05:24] Speaker C: Yeah, it's pending. But that particular person, like, tried to trademark, like, a bunch of stuff. Like, they have a whole line of every time something becomes trendy they jump on. [00:05:33] Speaker D: Oh, they good. They. That's smart though. [00:05:35] Speaker C: That is. [00:05:36] Speaker B: I mean, can't nobody get them. [00:05:37] Speaker C: They got stuff against the NFL. [00:05:39] Speaker D: Mm. I know. People used to do that. I think. I know the first time I heard about that was like with Shaq and he was like. Cause his website isn't like Shaquille O'Neal dot comma, it's something else. And he was like, it was somebody that just bought the domain name and he didn't. And so what they'll do is they'll buy the names and then they'll get like, say like aniquecruise.com. they'll try to charge you just 5000, $10,000 so you can buy it. [00:06:03] Speaker C: Yeah, but, and that's crazy. I think that should be illegal. [00:06:06] Speaker D: It's smart though. [00:06:07] Speaker C: Yeah, but it's also like, imagine somebody using your name. [00:06:11] Speaker B: But I just don't see it being illegal. It's just if you didn't think about it in the moment and they did, they just beat you to the punch. [00:06:18] Speaker C: But if somebody trademarks your name, you using your name. [00:06:21] Speaker B: Yeah, no, I get it. I get what you're saying. But if I wasn't. But if I didn't think quick enough. [00:06:27] Speaker C: How the fuck you about to make me curry? [00:06:29] Speaker B: No, but I'm just saying if I didn't think quick enough to do that to protect myself, then why would I? You know, I can't be mad at the person for doing it. I either have to pay them or. [00:06:41] Speaker D: Yeah. Cause how much is your name really worth to you to use it? You know what I'm saying? [00:06:47] Speaker C: Especially if you mark my name. [00:06:48] Speaker D: Yeah, you should. Cause I'm sure it's some other neat cruiser. [00:06:52] Speaker C: No, I'm the one and only. I'm the one and only. [00:06:56] Speaker D: It's another Brandon Pearson in my family. [00:07:00] Speaker B: I'm sure there's another neat cruise somewhere. [00:07:03] Speaker C: Nope. [00:07:04] Speaker D: You don't think so? You searched get famous now and then you try to get your website and somebody got it. Now you could be mad. [00:07:09] Speaker C: I'm getting it now. [00:07:10] Speaker D: You gonna make it. You gonna make a Twitter or Facebook post talking about this should be illegal. [00:07:18] Speaker B: You might as well hit Godaddy now and buy it for $1.99. While it's godaddy. [00:07:24] Speaker D: That's where you buy the donut maintains. [00:07:26] Speaker C: Oh, I didn't know that you could. [00:07:28] Speaker B: Get it for free. And a website for $1.99. [00:07:32] Speaker C: For $1.99. [00:07:34] Speaker B: So how was your week, Nick? [00:07:36] Speaker C: It was good. Very good. [00:07:38] Speaker D: She's smiling. [00:07:38] Speaker B: Yeah, she came here. Sundressed down. [00:07:42] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:07:44] Speaker D: You and your neighbor was competing. [00:07:50] Speaker C: We will be okay. [00:07:55] Speaker B: Again. All right. [00:07:59] Speaker C: No comment. How was your week? [00:08:00] Speaker B: My week was good. I had a great, great week. Had a great week. Was busy yesterday. Got a great week, though, selling that jerk chicken around town. [00:08:09] Speaker C: Jerk chicken? Cause I ain't getting none. [00:08:11] Speaker B: So I was selling. I was all over my social media. I only posted it four or five times. [00:08:17] Speaker C: Did you see it? [00:08:18] Speaker D: Mm hmm. [00:08:18] Speaker C: Okay. So it's just me. It's just me. [00:08:21] Speaker D: I even saw it when he was preparing. Preparing it. [00:08:23] Speaker B: Yeah. I had posted videos of me putting it up, cutting it up, putting the boxes together and everything. Yeah. So, yeah, you missed out. But I'm doing something for Labor Day, so. [00:08:32] Speaker C: Oh, okay. I won't be here. [00:08:34] Speaker D: Where you going? [00:08:35] Speaker C: My business. [00:08:36] Speaker B: Oh, excuse me. [00:08:38] Speaker C: I just am going on a cruise. [00:08:39] Speaker D: I know it. I say the cruise. [00:08:41] Speaker C: Yeah, I'm going on a cruise. [00:08:42] Speaker B: Neat. [00:08:42] Speaker D: Cruise. [00:08:42] Speaker B: On a cruise. Yep. B, how'd your week go? [00:08:46] Speaker D: It was good. It was cool, you know, can't complain. [00:08:48] Speaker C: Okay. [00:08:49] Speaker D: Woke up, went back to sleep. Did it six or seven times. [00:08:55] Speaker C: That's a. Oh, you did it six or seven times. [00:08:57] Speaker D: Yeah. Woke up and woke up and see. [00:08:59] Speaker B: Where your mind went? Yeah. [00:09:01] Speaker C: I was about to say, wow, and now I'm here. Okay. Okay. [00:09:06] Speaker B: That is very much the cl answer. [00:09:08] Speaker C: Very much so. Yeah. It keeps it short and simple. No, just. I'm blessed. [00:09:12] Speaker D: Yep. [00:09:12] Speaker C: The universe is blessed to have me. [00:09:16] Speaker B: Blessed to have you. All right, let's go ahead and get into this letter. So we're gonna do two letters today. The first one we're gonna do is the one that we were trying to do for the last couple of weeks, but every time we start, the show kind of goes a different direction. All right. So it's actually in a number of different questions. So I'm gonna. Let's just do a question by question. Cause a bunch of questions. In one, it says, I usually just read the post on here, but I have some questions I need help with. Do you believe and go by the happy wife, happy life scenario, or do you have a different motto, you live and go by, and if so, how happy is your relationship and how do you make it work? And I guess, you know, for those of us that are single, you can speak in the past relationship sense, but for those of us in a relationship, you can speak in the current relationship. Do you go by the happy wife, happy life, or is it some type of other model you go with in your relationship? [00:10:29] Speaker C: I saw what you mean in the past. [00:10:30] Speaker B: Okay. In the past? [00:10:32] Speaker C: Yeah, in the past. [00:10:33] Speaker B: Okay. [00:10:36] Speaker C: I would say not. I mean, I'm not a wife either, so. But we both have to be happy to make it work. Happy wife, happy life. That's kind of one sided. [00:10:50] Speaker D: Well, happy spouse, happy. [00:10:51] Speaker C: Happy spouse. [00:10:52] Speaker B: Happy spouse. [00:10:52] Speaker C: Happy spouse. [00:10:53] Speaker D: Yeah. Either way. [00:10:55] Speaker C: But if we're both happy, I mean. Cause, like, I don't want to be all gushy. Like, oh, as long as they're happy, I'm happy. You know, like, they have to care that I'm happy as well. [00:11:08] Speaker B: Okay. But I kind of go with, like, I'm in charge of my own happiness. Right. So if I'm kind of making sure I'm happy, I'm probably living in a way in which she'll be happy as well. [00:11:24] Speaker C: Maybe, maybe not. What if me making them happy kind of makes me unhappy? [00:11:29] Speaker B: But can somebody really make you happy? Like, can somebody really be in charge of your happiness? [00:11:34] Speaker C: No, but if I'm happy, and me. Cause they're probably, you know, little negative nancy, and I'm trying to please them so they. So I don't have to deal with that. Negative Nancy. Cause I'm trying to protect my peace. What if that is affecting my happiness? Cause it's affecting everybody else's happiness around me. [00:11:53] Speaker D: Not even them being negative, though. It could be, like, something like them wanting you to do things that they wanted to do but you weren't comfortable doing. [00:12:02] Speaker C: Okay. [00:12:03] Speaker D: Yeah. And it might just not, might not mesh. Yeah. With you. So, like, somebody might be real adventurous and you not adventurous and you doing all of that, and it might make your anxiety go up. You know what I'm saying? So. [00:12:18] Speaker B: But wouldn't that be something that, like, we would have, like, would have been discussed early on before we even got. [00:12:24] Speaker C: To the point of being that early on like that? [00:12:26] Speaker B: No, like, people discuss interests and likes and stuff like that. [00:12:29] Speaker C: I mean, yeah, but you, again, you want to make that person, you know, you want to do things with that person. You don't want to be a step behind always while they're out and about. So, like, sometimes we do things that we don't necessarily. We're nothing used to doing, just so we are with our significant other. So I can see how that can play out. [00:12:49] Speaker D: You might be, like, a homebody. They might be a go out all the time person or whatever, and it might dwindle away at your happiness or whatever, for lack of a better word. [00:13:01] Speaker C: They'll start eating at it. [00:13:02] Speaker D: Mm hmm. [00:13:03] Speaker C: Slowly. [00:13:05] Speaker B: Okay, the next one. In general, would anyone be able to answer this? What are your top three important things in a marriage or a must have in your relationship to have a happy and loving life? If so, like, what are those three things? [00:13:25] Speaker C: I'll let you go first. [00:13:28] Speaker D: To be, for it to work. They say, yeah, yeah. [00:13:35] Speaker B: Like, what are the three things to make it a successful relationship? What are the three things that you need? [00:13:39] Speaker D: Well, they gotta put, God, now I'm lying. [00:13:43] Speaker C: Oh, God. First, gotta be God fearing. [00:13:47] Speaker D: They have to. We gotta have, like, some of the same interests. [00:13:55] Speaker B: Okay. [00:13:58] Speaker D: Like, it can't be too far off. Like, so that's one. You gotta have some of the same interests, similar backgrounds, because it'll, it's kind of hard work if, like, you've, you know the phrase, like, you've been raised on love and some, like, the other person raised on survival or whatever. It's a little harder. If. Cause certain things you would do if you were raised a certain way, it'll be looked at differently. Differently by the other person. So you'll have to, like, that'll just be, like, more work you have to do to prove certain things or whatever. That's two. And the third thing, maybe. Hmm. I mean, they gotta look a certain way. Don't embarrass me in public. [00:14:50] Speaker C: Okay, that's it. That's there. [00:14:53] Speaker B: All right, Nick, what about you? [00:14:54] Speaker C: Okay, three needs. [00:14:55] Speaker B: And the three things to you. [00:14:58] Speaker C: I need a good communicator. Like, I need to be able to communicate with you without you getting upset. And we can, like, sit down, discuss something, get through it. Not just in arguments, but just in planning things ahead of time. I need to be able to communicate that without you rushing me or not wanting to talk about it. Like, oh, we'll deal with it when we get there type of behavior. I like a communicator. The sex has to be good. That's big for me. [00:15:30] Speaker D: Hey, yo. [00:15:38] Speaker C: And I guess, yeah, we have to have, like, he said, the same interest. We both have to be adventurous people. I can't take somebody that likes to sit on a couch all day. Let's go places. Let's do things. I can't, I can't take a person that's like, oh, I don't eat onions. [00:15:58] Speaker B: So that's a red flag. If a person don't eat onions, that's. [00:16:01] Speaker C: Not a red flag. It's just like, kind of a turn off. Like, you know, like, oh, yeah, I don't eat, I don't eat stuff like that. Like, I understand if you're on a, you're talking about a diet, a picky eater, picky eater. [00:16:11] Speaker B: Okay. [00:16:12] Speaker C: Like, I'm okay. Like, you're on a diet. Like, oh, I don't eat pork. I'm okay with that. Like, you know, that's a. [00:16:16] Speaker B: But, like, like, every time you go out, all they get is chicken tender. [00:16:19] Speaker D: Yeah, you go to Chipotle, and all they get is rice and chicken. [00:16:23] Speaker B: None of the other stuff. [00:16:24] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:16:24] Speaker C: Like, oh, yeah, I don't like none of that. So don't put no peppers. Don't put no, no, I don't like that. Like, oh, I don't like broccoli. Like. [00:16:32] Speaker D: Shout out to Dougie and B Mac. Let's go to Chipotle and just get chicken and rice. [00:16:39] Speaker C: You could have made that at home. You had a chicken bob. [00:16:42] Speaker D: That's even worse than chicken ball. [00:16:47] Speaker C: No sauce. You know, like, you're not willing to try anything. [00:16:50] Speaker D: Sour cream. [00:16:51] Speaker B: Ooh, who eat that? [00:16:52] Speaker C: Like, oh, I don't eat white stuff. Oh, my God. [00:16:58] Speaker D: Mm mm. I don't want no macaroni. It's yellow. I don't eat eggs either. [00:17:01] Speaker B: Like, what? [00:17:02] Speaker C: But eats chicken. And is that a difference? Like, I be thinking about. [00:17:07] Speaker D: You know what? I think about that, too, in the mornings. You ever got a chicken biscuit with egg on it? Ooh. [00:17:14] Speaker C: So you like double chicken? [00:17:15] Speaker D: Yeah, exactly. Like, it's weird. [00:17:18] Speaker C: You say I have high thoughts. [00:17:19] Speaker D: No, but it's weird. Like, I was eating, and I was. [00:17:21] Speaker B: Like, so you ate two. It's two chickens. [00:17:23] Speaker D: Yeah, but it's weird, though. Like, this is the. [00:17:25] Speaker C: They taste different. [00:17:26] Speaker D: They do, but it's. But it's double chicken. [00:17:29] Speaker B: But you ever thought about it? That's two different stages of the life of chicken. [00:17:32] Speaker D: Life of chicken. [00:17:32] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:17:33] Speaker B: The ending and the beginning. [00:17:34] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:17:35] Speaker B: Wow, we got deep just now. [00:17:37] Speaker D: Yeah, yeah, real deep. [00:17:38] Speaker C: Real deep. [00:17:39] Speaker D: I don't do drugs. [00:17:41] Speaker C: I don't either, so. Yeah, like, I. Yeah, yeah, I can't. That's just my three. Okay, what about you? Cause you ain't said nothing about nothing. [00:17:51] Speaker B: No, I was about to give my three. [00:17:53] Speaker C: Oh, okay. Go ahead. [00:17:54] Speaker B: Okay. My three are first. She has to have some form of. What's the word? Confidence about herself. She has to be confident in herself. [00:18:06] Speaker C: Mm hmm. [00:18:07] Speaker B: To Beazy's point, I think a woman who. Who has a lot of insecurities does not usually dresses more reserved, and it does not really exude, does not really push themselves out of their box because of these. Whatever the insecurity might be, and then. So they have to have some confidence about themselves and some drive then. [00:18:32] Speaker C: So you okay with a crop top stomach out no, no, no, in taste. Cause, you know, some people have real, you know, high confidence. [00:18:40] Speaker B: No, in good taste. [00:18:41] Speaker C: Okay. [00:18:41] Speaker B: No, in good taste. But they're confident. But it's in good taste. I don't need the. You got the shorts on and the belly and it's flapping over you. I just. No, no. [00:18:50] Speaker D: So I should go change. [00:18:51] Speaker B: Yeah, no, I should, too. And then the next thing is I have to be with somebody who is direct with me about stuff. [00:19:05] Speaker C: Okay. [00:19:06] Speaker B: Because. [00:19:07] Speaker D: Can you take that, Yusuf? Pardon myself, Yusuf, really? Can you? [00:19:11] Speaker B: I can. And it's proven that I can. [00:19:15] Speaker D: Okay, seal. I mean, okay, Yusuf. [00:19:18] Speaker B: It's proven that I can. Because when people say stuff to me and they get. I would rather it be direct, then they do something else. Now, in the moment, I don't do well with it in the moment. Cause in the moment. [00:19:31] Speaker C: Are you working on it, though? [00:19:33] Speaker B: No, I am. [00:19:33] Speaker C: Okay. Okay. I am working on it. [00:19:35] Speaker B: I've had to have some very direct conversations, especially in the last two months. [00:19:40] Speaker D: Oh, really? [00:19:40] Speaker B: Yes, yes, really? That's had to. You know, but I don't think. Especially in a relationship. I don't. In any relationship. [00:19:46] Speaker C: I think friendships, all of that. [00:19:48] Speaker B: Yeah, you gotta be direct because you gotta be able to clear the air. And I think when people aren't direct or when that stuff isn't cleared, then it kind of puts this haze over the whole thing that you kind of are you as the person you don't even know. You're walking on these eggshells that this person feels a particular way. So I just need whoever I'm with to be direct. [00:20:11] Speaker D: But not rude. [00:20:13] Speaker B: Not rude, but direct. [00:20:14] Speaker C: Know how to talk to. [00:20:15] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. But direct. [00:20:16] Speaker C: Like, I tone and delivery. [00:20:18] Speaker B: Tell me what it is when it is like, whatever it is you feel or that you think I did wrong. And I'm known to be wrong a good bit. So. So. [00:20:32] Speaker C: Yeah. You don't say, oh, really? [00:20:35] Speaker D: You don't say. [00:20:38] Speaker B: Oh, really? [00:20:39] Speaker D: Oh, really, Youssef. [00:20:42] Speaker C: Okay. [00:20:45] Speaker B: You gotta go in tears. That's funny. And then, of course, good sex. [00:20:50] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. [00:20:51] Speaker B: The physical aspect of it, to me. [00:20:53] Speaker D: I don't need it. You don't need good sex? Nah. Okay, give me two minutes. And myself. [00:20:59] Speaker C: Hey, I always say you your just. [00:21:01] Speaker D: Kiss me on the neck. [00:21:04] Speaker C: But I mean. [00:21:08] Speaker D: Oh, I'm sorry, this is the wrong show. I thought it was my show. My bad. [00:21:13] Speaker B: So anyway. God. [00:21:16] Speaker D: That ain't in my top three. That's wild. [00:21:18] Speaker C: Yeah, that is wild. [00:21:20] Speaker B: Okay. And I guess that leads us into this next point. They were saying is sex. A required attribute of a relationship. And if you don't get as much as you want, would that be the downfall? If your partner is not as sexual or has very little interest? Not as sexual as you or has very little interest, would you say you would be unhappy and unfulfilled, or would you accept your partner as they are and not get mad at them because you love them along with, not push them to do more? [00:21:52] Speaker C: You need to find somebody that's on your sexual level or you should bring. [00:21:58] Speaker D: It out of them. [00:22:00] Speaker C: That, too. But they still have to be on your sexual level. Cause I can't take no. Oh, I don't do that. [00:22:06] Speaker D: Do tell. [00:22:10] Speaker C: Yeah, let's expound on that. Wrong show. Wrong show. Wrong show. [00:22:16] Speaker D: Tune into the DJ Blazer show podcast where we expound on. [00:22:19] Speaker B: We go expound on this question. [00:22:21] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:22:22] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:22:22] Speaker C: Check it out. You gotta find somebody that's on your level of, you know, your sexual drive. Because if you don't like, it's gonna get boring. [00:22:30] Speaker B: I get that. Yeah, I get that. What about you, vy? Well, I mean, you just said it's not essential. [00:22:36] Speaker D: It ain't top five for it to last. For me. [00:22:38] Speaker C: Top five? [00:22:39] Speaker D: Yeah. It's not. Maybe seven. [00:22:42] Speaker C: Okay. [00:22:43] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:22:43] Speaker B: You know, like, you know, I mean. [00:22:45] Speaker C: Yeah. That's when you tell somebody they crazy. Yeah. Two, eat your song. [00:22:49] Speaker D: I've, you know, I've lived. Yeah. So I wouldn't live, but, like, you know, if you walk around the house and you bath and you get the juices flowing, then, you know, I might pounce, but I don't wake up in the morning, like, gotta have it. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Now, if you. Or if she's turning me on in that way. [00:23:14] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:15] Speaker D: Then the plumbing works. You know what I'm saying? So I'm a. But it ain't like, top. It ain't on my list of, you. [00:23:22] Speaker C: Know, it's not a need. [00:23:24] Speaker D: No. [00:23:24] Speaker C: Oh, wow. [00:23:25] Speaker D: And like you said, we gotta be in the same. On the. In the same range of spectrum as far as sex. [00:23:33] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. Because you don't want her to be like, telling her homegirls you in a group chatting like, girl, he ain't even look at me. [00:23:39] Speaker D: It might happen like that. My mind might be on other things, but give me something to look at, too. [00:23:47] Speaker B: That too. [00:23:48] Speaker C: She might. [00:23:49] Speaker B: I mean, you know, the mumu. Running out, that bonnet running out, so. [00:23:54] Speaker C: Oh, my God, the bonnet. Keep my hair good. [00:23:58] Speaker D: I mean, you can wear the bonnet. Yeah. [00:24:00] Speaker B: It just. [00:24:00] Speaker D: Cause you wanted. [00:24:01] Speaker C: You know, you gotta protect your hair? [00:24:03] Speaker D: Yeah, you do. I have to protect mine. My hair? Yeah. [00:24:09] Speaker B: All right. What about you, huh? [00:24:12] Speaker C: You can get right over that. [00:24:13] Speaker B: No, I said, yeah. I think it's a required attribute for me. [00:24:17] Speaker D: Oh, okay. [00:24:18] Speaker B: In a relationship. Yeah. [00:24:21] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:24:23] Speaker B: I think even if just to say that you still find me attractive, you know what I'm saying? I'm still the one that does, you know, over the long term, you know, it might go from five days a week to three or two, but at least let it be that you still find me in that way attractive. And I to you as well, because I think that sometimes that attention and maybe sex shouldn't have been the word more. So intimacy should have been the word. [00:24:53] Speaker D: That's different. [00:24:53] Speaker B: Yeah, I think intimacy should have probably been the word rather. I think intimacy is necessary. The act of sex might not be, but intimacy. [00:25:02] Speaker C: Well, and I said it because, like, have you ever been pushed away from sex? Like, all right, no, I want to do it. [00:25:09] Speaker B: Yes. [00:25:10] Speaker C: That's a bad feeling sometimes. [00:25:11] Speaker B: Oh, no, it does. [00:25:12] Speaker C: Especially on multiple occasions. [00:25:14] Speaker D: You've had it happen to you? [00:25:15] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:25:15] Speaker D: Ooh. Was he cheating? [00:25:19] Speaker C: No, just didn't feel like it. Well, I don't know. [00:25:22] Speaker D: Maybe he had other things going on in his life. [00:25:26] Speaker B: That's a thing. [00:25:26] Speaker C: He sucked it out. [00:25:28] Speaker D: Oh, you can't suck out bad credit. [00:25:32] Speaker C: No, but I can get it off your mind for the moment that's in anything. Cause we're enjoying the moment that we're. [00:25:43] Speaker D: Sharing right now, but you can't really enjoy the moment if it's something bad that's going on. [00:25:48] Speaker C: And I mean, credit, that's something that could be fixed. It's kind of like, it's not something that you can fix immediately anyway. [00:25:54] Speaker D: Yeah, but it may be weighing down on something that, like, it may be affecting, like, you know, where you live or the type of vehicle you can get at the time or something like that. So it might not have had nothing to do with you. It might have been something else. [00:26:09] Speaker B: I mean, in my case, it was gf, postpartum. [00:26:13] Speaker C: Oh. [00:26:13] Speaker B: So I. Like, it seemed like it lasted for years. [00:26:18] Speaker C: It can last for years. [00:26:19] Speaker B: Yeah, I know. And it did. [00:26:21] Speaker D: What, when you got pushed away? [00:26:22] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause I was repeatedly pushed away, and since then, me and. Me and her talked, and she's apologized for that time. But, you know, it made me feel, even though I understood. [00:26:34] Speaker D: You didn't feel sexy? [00:26:35] Speaker B: Yeah, I lost my sexy man. [00:26:38] Speaker D: Please. [00:26:38] Speaker B: I didn't feel sexy. [00:26:39] Speaker C: I had to explain to somebody, I'm pretty. I don't know what your issue is. [00:26:43] Speaker B: Yeah, no, I get that. But I think even, like, in the moment in which you go, yo, you know, you're trying to be intimate with this person, the person that you care about, and it's not reciprocated to the point where it's like, stop. No. Like, it's like, geez, you know what? [00:26:59] Speaker C: You know, they need to go into, like, an explanation. Like, hey, it's not you. It's just me right now. Yeah, that's the worst explanation. [00:27:06] Speaker D: Oh, it could be you. [00:27:07] Speaker B: Or it could. Or it could be. [00:27:08] Speaker C: But then tell me. Shoot. [00:27:09] Speaker D: But, I mean, not when I say you, not you. But, I mean, it could be the person. Like, it could be that person's approach to sex. Like, they might just jump in the bed and try to jump to it. [00:27:18] Speaker C: Tell me that. You still have to tell somebody, like, what they're doing wrong. I can't correct something if you don't tell me it's wrong. [00:27:25] Speaker D: What's that cl says from the ether? He says that women lie. You're not being honest. [00:27:37] Speaker B: Women don't have any integrity. [00:27:38] Speaker D: Yeah, that's it. That's the phrase you really want. Well, I know for, like, dudes, it's probably, like, for dudes, it's like an on switch. You know what I'm saying? Or I'm horny, I'm gonna jump right on. You know what I'm saying? For women, it ain't like that. Like, especially if you got something going on, you have to. You gotta do, like, a lawn mower. You gotta prime it before you turn it on. So, yeah, that could be it. [00:28:07] Speaker B: I think it's just. I think there's a level of understanding that goes into, I'm tired, or I'm. You know, I've been busy. Been a long day. But after a while, that thing, I don't think they pile up. What was I watching? I was watching Bel air, and Phil and Vivie were having that issue the last two or three episodes. [00:28:29] Speaker D: Who fought Washington? Vivian didn't want it, or Phil didn't want it. [00:28:33] Speaker B: Vivian didn't. [00:28:33] Speaker C: Yeah, I think I read because I haven't watched it yet. [00:28:36] Speaker B: Vivian didn't, but it was because, to her, she didn't feel like Phil was showing her the attention that she wanted. [00:28:46] Speaker D: He shouldn't have to. Have you seen Phil? Phil is chiseled some things. You don't have to do me about it like that. I'm sorry. [00:28:55] Speaker B: I mean, Paul, he's handsome, and she was. She ended up the caterer that did Phil's event. Ended up sending her flowers and gave her that kind of attention to make her feel like she was sexy. And then when they had an anniversary, they had an anniversary dinner, I wonder. [00:29:16] Speaker D: Did they bring back. It was one episode of the original fresh Prince, and Phil was, like, on the couch sleep. This uncle Phil was on the couch sleep. And I think will or somebody woke him up, and he was, like, in the middle of a, like, sex dinner. He was like, Vivian, Vivian, I'm not a machine. [00:29:31] Speaker B: No, no. [00:29:32] Speaker D: Was it kind of like that? [00:29:33] Speaker B: No, they didn't bring that back. [00:29:34] Speaker D: Oh, okay. They should have brought that back. Cause that was her last to me. But anyway. [00:29:37] Speaker B: Yeah, that would have been funny. [00:29:39] Speaker D: Yeah. A little call, right? [00:29:40] Speaker B: No, at this point. Yeah. So I thought that that was kind of relevant in this moment. Whereas she didn't feel like she was getting the attention she wanted from Phil, but Phil was constantly like, damn, you know, we ain't been, you know, we ain't did nothing in months. [00:29:57] Speaker D: And Phil, when's the last time you brought me flowers and some stuff like that? [00:30:01] Speaker B: And it was. That was almost the exact thing that. [00:30:06] Speaker C: Well, sometimes people fall off. Like, they, like, at first he was buying you flowers every week or every month or whenever. Shout out to him, taking you. Taking you out every week, seeing you. And now all of a sudden, it's like, yeah, I'm tired. Well. And not giving you no, like, good reason why they completely stop. [00:30:30] Speaker D: Mm hmm. [00:30:30] Speaker B: Like, yeah, well, she reserved that for the friends. She told her friends. [00:30:33] Speaker D: Oh, she didn't tell Phil? [00:30:34] Speaker B: No, she didn't tell Phil initially she. [00:30:36] Speaker C: Told him, but he knew. He stopped. [00:30:38] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't think he. Sometimes people do things and they don't realize that they're. That they've fallen off course or they. [00:30:47] Speaker D: Don'T realize the person that you're doing it for appreciate it in that way. [00:30:50] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:50] Speaker D: So it's just like, something else you doing. And. [00:30:52] Speaker B: Because basically, like, she had moved into a new career, and. But Phil was still. Remember mostly she was kind of, I wouldn't say a housewife, but she stayed at home a good bit and did a lot of stuff for Phil. So now she's got this whole business thing going. She's got her own career now. And he's like, well, he still want her to help with his fundraisers, help with, you know, the office. [00:31:18] Speaker C: He wants the normal stuff. [00:31:19] Speaker B: Yeah. He wants the normal stuff that he's used to from her. While still think. Just. Just thinking that since the marriage was always that way, that it's going to stay that way. And like we talked about a couple episodes ago, you know, the relationships grow like, they change as time goes on. And he didn't realize that she had done some, had some personal growth or personal change within her that made her not want to do that stuff. She didn't want to do that stuff anymore. [00:31:48] Speaker C: Communication, lack of communication. [00:31:50] Speaker B: And she didn't communicate. But last question. Here they have in this advice letter, what's the best course of action if there was a troublesome past with the same partner? Still they did therapy, had their health and mental check due to PTSD and BPD, and did everything in the more positive note and made improvements by seeking help. Would you continue to bring up the past or hold onto the grudges and negative thoughts and not get help yourself? He brings up stuff like, you used to be like this. You were more sexual back then, and I want to see that side back. No one changes overnight. I'm always in survival mode because of how the partner was in the past. I don't do that stuff anymore because you always have to be particular, precise. Kept holding on to a fantasy of life when it comes. It is not realistic. So. [00:32:45] Speaker C: Huh. Okay. I'm not the only one confused. [00:32:48] Speaker B: No. Cause it went into, like, she put that last part. Those were all things I guess he says to her, or actually. [00:32:56] Speaker C: So did she go to therapy? Does she have hypothetical disorder? [00:32:59] Speaker B: She's saying that she went to therapy. She's the one, like, she did some stuff within the relationship, and then she went to therapy, got the help, made the changes, but he's still bringing up the old stuff that she did. [00:33:12] Speaker D: Sound like she cheated. [00:33:13] Speaker C: That's what it sounds like. [00:33:15] Speaker B: That's what it sounds like. It sounds like she cheated. [00:33:19] Speaker D: And he ain't forgiven. [00:33:21] Speaker B: And he just have. He hasn't forgiven her. [00:33:23] Speaker D: He stayed with her and what freaky stuff. [00:33:26] Speaker B: Well, I think that with the change, she's changed, that she's not as sexual as she was before. [00:33:32] Speaker D: This could either be one of two things. They either had a threesome, and he want more threesomes. Okay. Or his butt stuff, and she don't want to do butt stuff no more. Cause, like, what else? [00:33:45] Speaker C: Or she don't give head no more. [00:33:47] Speaker D: Fellatio. [00:33:48] Speaker C: Fellatio. I'm sorry. Oral, okay? [00:33:53] Speaker D: Hmm. I doubt it. No. [00:33:54] Speaker C: A lot of women stop doing fellas. There's a lot of men in my inbox when they're trying to start writing letters. They were like, yeah, like, my wife won't do this no more. [00:34:05] Speaker D: What is your hygiene like, my dear brothers, that's true. [00:34:10] Speaker B: That's another thing. [00:34:10] Speaker D: Is it? You know, you gotta have all of that that goes into the Uncle Phil ness of it. You know, the new uncle Phil being in shape and all of that. Looking presentable for her and not dressing crazy. But then your hygiene gotta be. [00:34:25] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:26] Speaker D: You know. [00:34:26] Speaker C: Yeah. And ladies, you have to be honest about that as well, because one of the screenshots that I seen a girl was just basically like, well, I just, like, I'm scared you're gonna cheat on me and I don't wanna do that. And you cheating on me, or you. [00:34:39] Speaker D: Smell like cheese down below. [00:34:41] Speaker C: Cheese. [00:34:43] Speaker D: Pickled eggs. Pickles. You gotta have everything, you know? [00:34:51] Speaker B: So what should she do here? Like, is there anything that she can do? [00:34:55] Speaker C: Leave the relationship. [00:34:56] Speaker D: Leave? Yeah, leave. [00:34:57] Speaker B: Cause pretty much he's not gonna change what he does. [00:34:59] Speaker D: No, not even that. Like, he just can't get over whatever she did that she was so vague about. So we gonna assume it was cheating. He didn't get over it and he keep bringing it up. You not gonna keep bringing up stuff what I did. If you say you forgave. [00:35:16] Speaker B: If you say you forgave me, if. [00:35:17] Speaker D: You either you forgive and shut up about it, or we just don't forgive and we split. [00:35:22] Speaker C: Well, I look at it as. It's not up to her to tell him when to heal from that. [00:35:28] Speaker D: Oh, no, it ain't about him. [00:35:29] Speaker C: I would just remove myself. [00:35:31] Speaker D: It ain't even about healing. It's either you forgive or you don't. Healing ain't got nothing to do with forgiving. [00:35:36] Speaker C: Because, I mean, apparently it's affecting their life. Because if she's not as sexual and that's what he wants, like, it's affecting. It's a constant reminder. [00:35:45] Speaker B: But if you think about it, though, a part of maybe her lack of sexuality is the fact that you keep bringing up the past. [00:35:50] Speaker D: True. [00:35:51] Speaker C: Yeah, that could be it. [00:35:53] Speaker B: Like, I'm not gonna. How is she gonna feel attractive or wanting to do something if you on her about stuff she's done in the past that she's saying that she did work on? [00:36:04] Speaker C: I would love to know what it is. Because when you say she's working on it, like, what is the. What are you working on, though? Cause certain things, like, I think she's. [00:36:13] Speaker B: Saying she took the steps, she went to therapy. She's. [00:36:15] Speaker C: How long ago it was. [00:36:17] Speaker B: Well, that's true, too. [00:36:17] Speaker C: You can't go. You can't do something one month and it went to two sessions. Yeah. And like, I'm working towards being a. [00:36:25] Speaker D: Better me, I've been delivered. [00:36:27] Speaker C: And I'm still, you know, trying to process what you did just two weeks ago. [00:36:32] Speaker D: That's too vague to say. Well, he's not letting the past go or whatever. Cause it could be a wide range of things that aggravate somebody or somebody feel like you disrespected them in a relationship. That's too vague of a statement. [00:36:48] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:36:49] Speaker D: To really say whether or not she should leave or stay or I work it out or. And what level of sex stuff that she's not doing. Yeah. That he's missing out on. [00:37:04] Speaker C: Cause I mean, I think it's oral. [00:37:05] Speaker D: If I'm missing out on oral. Okay. That's on the level of, you know, freak stuff. [00:37:14] Speaker B: That's, that's, that's low. [00:37:15] Speaker D: That's kind of low. [00:37:16] Speaker C: But I mean, that's why I said everybody has different freak levels. [00:37:20] Speaker D: Yeah, but I'm. But like, if it was like some real crazy kinky stuff that he say he just gotta have and he missing out on it, then that might be a bigger problem. I don't know. It was something I was listening to and the person had said something kind of like that. Like he was. The situation was the guy was dating one. I forgot what I was listening to. But the guy was dating one woman. They split up. But they used to have like crazy sex, whatever. And then he got with another woman. But it was something that she just wouldn't do, his new woman. And so he would try to go back to the woman that would do it with him, but she, you know, she wouldn't do it. The guy married this woman that wouldn't do whatever it was, but still tried to find it other places. So he started cheating and all kind of stuff. So. [00:38:10] Speaker B: Jesus, to fill the gap. I mean, but for him, that thing must have been that important. [00:38:15] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:38:15] Speaker C: So that's why I say yeah. To find somebody on your level. [00:38:19] Speaker D: Yeah. True. [00:38:21] Speaker B: So the general consensus is what? [00:38:24] Speaker D: Leave, leave, leave. [00:38:26] Speaker B: Okay. [00:38:27] Speaker C: You have somebody here that agrees with me to leave. [00:38:29] Speaker B: I'm with you, I'm with y'all. Leave. Get out of there. I mean, if the person is making you feel in which a way that you. That's diminishing the work that you say you're doing, I don't think you need to stay with that person. They're just gonna continuously mean, but that. [00:38:43] Speaker C: Doesn'T make him the better. [00:38:45] Speaker B: But then, cuz you kind of make. [00:38:47] Speaker C: The baby like, oh, they're not appreciating. Cuz we don't know what she did. We don't know which is true. [00:38:53] Speaker B: But my thing is, then he should. If this is how he feels. [00:38:56] Speaker C: Usually, yeah, but it's also hard to just leave somebody that you still love, like you, but you kind of want them to pay for. And then, like, we don't know how she's coming off either. [00:39:06] Speaker B: But I understand that if you're gonna continuously bring it up. [00:39:12] Speaker C: Well, maybe it's fresh. We don't know how fresh it is. Like, something is not going to leave my mind in a month or two. [00:39:19] Speaker D: Yeah, but if. [00:39:19] Speaker C: Especially if you had to go to therapy for it. [00:39:21] Speaker D: But if he said he forgave, then he shouldn't bring it up. And if he's still bringing it up, he should leave, too. Cause he ain't forgave her. Really? [00:39:27] Speaker B: Cause he hasn't forgiven her. Like, that's what I'm looking at. [00:39:30] Speaker C: Maybe she keeps doing stuff that triggers remind him. [00:39:32] Speaker D: Yeah, yeah. But like we said, though, we don't know what it is. It might not be cheating. It might be something totally different. [00:39:40] Speaker C: Maybe she was a nympho. [00:39:42] Speaker D: Hmm. [00:39:43] Speaker B: I don't think that'd be a problem for a guy. [00:39:45] Speaker C: It might be if you had a whole. [00:39:48] Speaker D: Vivien, Vivian, I'm not a machine, okay? [00:39:51] Speaker C: I mean, like, there's a whole, like, movie about it called addicted, and it almost ruins somebody's entire life. Not just. [00:40:00] Speaker D: I don't think people know really what an info is. [00:40:03] Speaker C: It's an itch that you have. [00:40:06] Speaker D: Yeah, a nymph on. Cause it mean, like, if you at the gas station and you want it, you gonna get it from whoever, whatever. [00:40:15] Speaker B: Okay, so from whoever. [00:40:16] Speaker D: From whoever. Yeah. It don't necessarily mean you gonna have sex with your person all the time. That doesn't mean whoever. [00:40:24] Speaker C: Whoever is around. [00:40:25] Speaker D: Mm hmm. [00:40:25] Speaker C: It could be a balls. It could be the hobo on the side of the road. [00:40:29] Speaker B: I think it's easier for a woman to have access to that kind of stuff than a guy. If a guy's an info a woman has, if a woman walk up to somebody on a guy at the gas station, she's more likely to have something happen. [00:40:43] Speaker D: But a dude can just pay $40. [00:40:45] Speaker B: Well, that's true, too. [00:40:46] Speaker C: For 15 minutes. [00:40:47] Speaker B: That's true, too. And then now you spending money and cheating. All right, so this next thing, it's from our relationship status podcast advice group. Be easy. You commented on this. [00:41:01] Speaker D: Oh, really? [00:41:02] Speaker B: Man tested his date by saying he forgot his wallet, and this is how it went. He said, I took this female out to eat two weeks ago. [00:41:10] Speaker D: He said, female female. [00:41:11] Speaker C: I knew you would say that. [00:41:13] Speaker B: And I tested it. [00:41:13] Speaker C: I started it right there. First red flag. [00:41:16] Speaker B: We ordered our food and had a nice time just talking over the food and getting to know each other. I'm not going to front. I was feeling shorty. And not just because she was beautiful. Her mindset was what got me. But when we was done eating, I asked for the bill. The lady came back with it. I said, damn. I left my wallet at home. Do you think you can pay for the food and I'll give you money back when I get to the house? She just got up and left. All I could do was laugh and shake my head. But I guess in my. I guess, oh, I'm sorry. I goes in my pocket, pays for the bill and leave a $10 tip. The lady said, thank you. And you are a very smart man. Sometimes you have to test them to see if they are the one or not. I never spoke to her again after that. Your response first, nik. [00:42:11] Speaker C: Why am I. Go ahead. [00:42:11] Speaker B: Okay. The guest. Be easy. [00:42:13] Speaker D: Uh, he corny. He lying. Why you testing a woman? And then he talking about he was feeling her, uh, her mindset. If you feeling her mindset so much, and then why you need to test her? Um, and this was the first day, right? [00:42:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:42:30] Speaker D: If her mindset was as good as he said she was, she knew you were playing the game. And good that she walked out on you. Goofy. [00:42:37] Speaker B: Goofy? That's right. In line with your comment. [00:42:41] Speaker C: You know how I feel. We already talked about this. [00:42:43] Speaker B: Okay? [00:42:44] Speaker C: Yeah, that's. First of all, I ain't in school. Stop testing me. Yeah, like, what are you testing me for? Like, I'm just getting to know you. Why are we in test form? I want to see if you gon. If you down for me. If you gonna ride for me, that's telling me you gonna have me in drive by shootings or something like that. Like, what am I preparing for? [00:43:07] Speaker B: All right. Just wanted to give DZ take on it. [00:43:10] Speaker C: He's only gonna have cash. [00:43:14] Speaker B: This next one is a video we have. I wanna get you guys response to it. If we get the playwright, can you separate it? [00:43:30] Speaker D: I got the birthday girl and my wife. [00:43:32] Speaker C: That's separate. Cat, I'm sorry. You're the only man at this table. Why we do a separate tag? It's all women here. [00:43:41] Speaker B: I'm not responsible for paying everybody. [00:43:43] Speaker D: I got the birthday girl. I didn't invite you. Ernestine invited you. [00:43:51] Speaker B: Okay? I'm responsible for who I brought. [00:43:53] Speaker C: Okay? You're the only man, Kate. I'm sorry, hold on. [00:43:56] Speaker D: We was all doing russian roulette, paying. [00:43:58] Speaker C: For credit cards and all that. Now the sudden you want to split check. [00:44:00] Speaker D: We don't play check. 2021, y'all. [00:44:03] Speaker C: Wait. [00:44:03] Speaker D: Things were different, but I didn't sign. [00:44:06] Speaker B: Up for that, okay? [00:44:07] Speaker D: There's nobody else doing. But you always take, like, you the. [00:44:13] Speaker C: Only man at the table. You're not gonna pay the check. [00:44:16] Speaker D: I don't. I'm not. [00:44:25] Speaker B: $700. [00:44:26] Speaker C: It's only Chan. You mean. Are you kidding me right now? Honestly, being cheap right now. [00:44:30] Speaker D: Okay, first, if that was the case, I would have just. I would have just took you out. [00:44:35] Speaker C: Dre, are you gonna let him sit here with a whole table full of women? I really feel like it's not his responsibility. [00:44:42] Speaker D: And when y'all get a husband, I know I marry. [00:44:47] Speaker B: So. [00:44:47] Speaker D: No, I wanna hear y'all what y'all got to say first. [00:44:50] Speaker C: Oh, yeah. And his responsibility. [00:44:53] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:44:53] Speaker C: Unless he is something he said at the beginning. No, this. Yeah, no, no, that's me too. [00:45:00] Speaker B: I wasn't gonna. I'm not paying for it. I'm paying for my wife and the birthday girl, if that's what I chose to do. [00:45:07] Speaker C: You came with me. [00:45:08] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm not paying for anybody else. [00:45:11] Speaker C: At the table unless that's something that was discussed. Like, oh, I'm gonna pay for everybody. You know, like, some people take everybody. [00:45:20] Speaker B: Out, or sometimes they'll just take the bill at the end. [00:45:22] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:45:23] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause I think. I think that if you're gonna pay for everybody, like, kinda. That's what you should do. Cause people eat to whatever's in their pocket. Like, they'll be. They'll be more mindful of what they do, because they. They're under the assumption that they're gonna pay for it. And then at the end, you just grab the check and you pay it, if that's what you're gonna do. But, yeah, I just thought that. I do think. Cause that's not the first time I've heard of a scenario like that. You said it was staged. [00:45:53] Speaker D: I think it's staged because, one. The guy, his name is David Shanes. He's a millionaire. He has a podcast. Podcast studio. One of the women, Donnie Wiggins, she does a podcast with him. She has her own podcast. She's like a millionaire. Ernestine. I forgot her last name, but she's. She's like a motivational speaker type person. She married. What's Jake? Ernestine Morrison. She's. They have money. And then one of the other women was David's wife. All these people rich. [00:46:30] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:46:30] Speaker D: Dollar 700 ain't nothing to them, you know what I'm saying? [00:46:33] Speaker B: Cause they did say it. It's only dollar 700. Who says it's. [00:46:36] Speaker D: Only dollar 700 for food? So that lets you know they got money. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And David, he knows how to do social media and stuff like that. Even like how, you know, like on podcast, how they'll play, like, a clip of their podcast. Yeah, like in the beginning or whatever. He was doing that a long time ago, you know what I'm saying? So he kind of. They kind of like, into that. Like, he has a real nice studio down in Atlanta. He's in with, like, the earn Yaleisia guys. Like, they tight and all of that. Now, I don't think he's on their network. They're on the same network, but he's, like, in with that whole clique of people or whatever. So that's why I figured, like, this. Not real. [00:47:17] Speaker B: Okay. [00:47:17] Speaker D: You know what I'm saying? Like, they did it just for social media or whatever. And that's why, like, when the conversations always happen online, I never get in, especially with this video. Cause I know how to. Dave and Donnie, how they, you know how they get Don or whatever. So I know they real tight and they wouldn't be fussing about no $700 bill. [00:47:38] Speaker B: Okay. [00:47:39] Speaker D: But it just depends. Like y'all said, like, even in a real situation, it depends whether or not he said he was gonna pay for everybody or not. And only thing, like, how you said people to eat, if they know they gotta pay for it, a lot of people will eat more when they know they paying for their own food. Because, like, women, but women, they, like, they gonna order appetizers, they gonna order drinks and all this and stuff. And I'm talking about just for they self. Like, if they go out by they self, that's how they do. A lot of times when a woman go out with a dude, they don't order all that food. Cause they think the dude gonna look at them like a gold digger. I've seen women, like, get two appetizers, get two drinks, and then order a meal. Like me, I might just get appetizer in a drink for myself. I don't really be eating like that out, but they really get it in. So it just depends. [00:48:31] Speaker C: But, no, I ain't never think of it like that. [00:48:34] Speaker D: What? [00:48:35] Speaker C: Like, when we go out with a man, like, we kind of just get one meal. We don't even think about dessert appetizers or anything. We might get one drink instead of like, yeah, can I have another one? But I'm out by myself. Yep. I'm gonna get that appetizer. I'm gonna get my meal to have a little dessert. I'm gonna have more than one drink, so. Yeah, you're right. [00:48:57] Speaker D: I'll be seeing it now. I'll be paying attention to y'all. Y'all. It was a meme. Going around like, women with jobs spend money like they drug dealers. [00:49:08] Speaker B: As long as they can support it, that's all that matters. And they have a good time when they go out, too. [00:49:12] Speaker D: Mm hmm. [00:49:14] Speaker B: Yeah, we got time for one. No, we don't. All right, so let's go ahead and. Beazy, thank you for joining the show. [00:49:21] Speaker D: Thank you all for having me. I appreciate it. [00:49:22] Speaker B: We definitely appreciate. [00:49:24] Speaker C: Come back again. You haven't been on the show in a long time. [00:49:27] Speaker D: I only come when I invite myself. I don't ever get invited. [00:49:30] Speaker C: Okay, I'll invite you then. [00:49:31] Speaker D: Well, thank you. I appreciate it. [00:49:34] Speaker B: You don't get invited. Cause you have an open invitation. You family. [00:49:36] Speaker D: Oh, okay. [00:49:37] Speaker C: I be asking about you on the show. What? [00:49:38] Speaker D: Thank you. I appreciate it. I. Listen. [00:49:40] Speaker C: It'd be him. [00:49:41] Speaker D: Oh, it'd be. Yeah, it do be him. [00:49:44] Speaker B: Boy, even when Cl ain't here, I still end up under reverse. Neat. Go get us out of here. [00:49:51] Speaker C: All right. Thank you all for listening to the show. It's your girl. Nick Cruz, cl Butler. [00:49:55] Speaker B: Boy, Youssef. Hey, and right after you turn off this episode, go over to the and search DJ Blaze radio show podcast, and press play. Till next time, Phineas Cl and Youssef. We are out.