243rd Date: 4 Beers, 2 Shots, & Karaoke

[00:00:12] Speaker A: Welcome back to relationship status. It's your girl, Nik Cruz, CEO, butler. [00:00:17] Speaker B: Hey. Your boy Yusuf in the building. Remember, you can catch us on all podcast platforms. Remember to, like, share, follow and five star rate. We are back at it again here for you. It's me and Nick. Cl's out this week, has some stuff he had to deal with, but we are here bringing you the show under much duress and unrest. How you feeling this week? [00:00:42] Speaker A: I am hungover, to be honest. So, yeah, your friends call you at a certain time, like, yeah, come out. Yeah. And I'm out. And next, you know, after like, four beers, two shots, karaoke. [00:00:58] Speaker B: Four bears, two shots of karaoke. And then during karaoke, there's more shots. Cause, Kerry, what's karaoke without shots? Oh, that was it for you. [00:01:08] Speaker A: That was it for me. That was it for me. [00:01:10] Speaker B: The tolerance done went down. Or that's kinda been the cap all along. [00:01:14] Speaker A: Nah, I think my tolerance is down. [00:01:16] Speaker B: Well, I think the older we get, the less we go through these nights. Because usually if you constantly doing this, then you could keep that up. [00:01:26] Speaker A: Yeah, you're right. Cause I haven't been drinking, especially, like that in, like, two months. Two and a half months. [00:01:31] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. And I think, like, I've slowed down even my casual, like, drinking. Like, after, like, after work, I would go home sometimes, have a drink. I don't even. [00:01:41] Speaker A: Yeah, like, it takes a toll on your body. Yeah, it really does. It kind of. You gotta get up so early. [00:01:48] Speaker B: I mean, casually, I think, yeah, it's still cool. But I mean, for the most part, just the going out, like, what you saying? And all these beers. And then every time you turn around, somebody's got a tray of shots. [00:01:59] Speaker A: Like, yeah, come on. [00:02:00] Speaker B: Yeah, come on and get one. [00:02:02] Speaker A: Yeah, let's take a shot. Like, yeah. And they call me the old lady. Cause, like, I would be in my bed. They will call me, they will facetime me and be like, hey, where you at? [00:02:12] Speaker B: In the bedev. [00:02:14] Speaker A: Y'all see where I'm at? Lights off. We need somebody in trouble. Like, yeah, yeah, I cannot do that no more. They be like, girl, come on out, let's listen. I got things to do. I have so much to do that I did not get to do. You know what I hate? [00:02:32] Speaker B: Tell me what you hate, Nick. [00:02:34] Speaker A: What do you hate? I hate when somebody plans your day. [00:02:37] Speaker B: Yo, listen, I'm with you on that. [00:02:40] Speaker A: I hate that. [00:02:41] Speaker B: And did they tell you they planned your day or they didn't tell you they planned your day? [00:02:46] Speaker A: I don't even think they meant to plan my day, but I had, like, a whole plan this weekend of everything I needed to do to get out of the way. And Sunday was supposed to be my rest. [00:02:57] Speaker B: Mm hmm. But Saturday ran stuff over into Sunday. [00:03:02] Speaker A: I have everything that I was supposed to do yesterday, yesterday that I have to do today. [00:03:07] Speaker B: So you find it like that your people did this, like, oh, Niko, Nico, come. [00:03:13] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:03:13] Speaker B: And so just say, hey, we're going here. And then you kind of got kidnapped for the day. [00:03:18] Speaker A: Yeah. Not even kidnapped. It was babysitting. [00:03:22] Speaker B: Oh. [00:03:23] Speaker A: So it's like, I kind of felt not obligated, but I felt bad not to also. [00:03:30] Speaker B: Somebody asked you to watch the kids? [00:03:31] Speaker A: Yeah. They were like, um, I really need to. If, you know, if you're not able to, it's fine. I'll just take it with me. [00:03:38] Speaker B: You know that. You know that ain't true. [00:03:40] Speaker A: I know. That would. Yeah, yeah, I know. It would kind of ruin the person's event that they're going to. [00:03:45] Speaker B: Okay. Okay. [00:03:47] Speaker A: So I'm like, I can push back what I got to do for a couple of hours. So I go, she's like, yeah, it's only going to be 2 hours. Yeah, that's it. It's only going to be 2 hours. I get there early. [00:03:59] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:00] Speaker A: Because, like, you know, I understand that she has to drive there first. So I get there early. She leaves on time, gets there the time that she's supposed to be back. I call her like, hey, are you on your way? And she was like, oh, just leave him with his brother. My mom will be there in a few minutes, like. Cause we're still here. So I do just that. Cause, like, I was stuck on that 2 hours. I was sitting here 30 minutes early. 2 hours I get home, and they paid me, so I appreciate it. They didn't have to. I went home and I was like, okay, I'mma eat, and I'mma sit down for a couple minutes and then start what I have to do. I sit down, I eat, and I take a nap. [00:04:47] Speaker B: Oh, and that's it for the day? [00:04:48] Speaker A: Yeah, that's it for the day. [00:04:49] Speaker B: Until you get the phone call to. [00:04:50] Speaker A: Go out and then. Not even that. No, I did not get a phone call from my daughter. Like, she's going to the game. I need you to do so and so. [00:04:58] Speaker B: That's right. That was Saturday. [00:04:59] Speaker A: Yes. And I'm like, okay, cool. So I'm like, I'm getting up. Cause my daughter has a tendency. She's very manipulative. And she'll be like, oh, my God. Never do it, girl. I'm the only person that does it. Yeah, she's very manipulative when she does not get her way. It is like, ps on 1000. Like, oh, my God, no one ever does it. Da da da. I'm like, okay, okay, okay, I'll do it. So I do that. And my other daughter, I go, like, I randomly check on her when she's at her grandmother's house. Okay, just because I don't play that, that you go into your grandma house, all these little kids, little boys, people think you're not there. [00:05:36] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:05:37] Speaker A: So I'm like, okay, well, let me go ahead and do that. I do that. I get to my mom house, do what I have to do there, because she's out of town, and she calls me and tells me, hey, go check out the animals. [00:05:49] Speaker B: Go check on the ant. [00:05:50] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:05:51] Speaker B: How many animals does she have? [00:05:52] Speaker A: She has two cats, two dogs. [00:05:53] Speaker B: Okay. All right. [00:05:55] Speaker A: So I'm like, okay. She was like, just go check on them. You know, make sure they're alive. Yeah, and check on your brother. All right. So I go and do that. My brother has this full blown attitude. Cause he's like, why, you're here? [00:06:05] Speaker B: Of course. [00:06:07] Speaker A: I go and I'm like, okay, you know what? I'm just gonna get up really early tomorrow and do all of this. You text me and I'm like, okay. Yeah, sure. Yup, yup. We supposed to do that? I forgot, but, yeah, that's cool. [00:06:22] Speaker B: And that's what I was like when I said, yeah, man, can we push it back? No, no, I can't. [00:06:27] Speaker A: No, I cannot push it back no more. [00:06:29] Speaker B: I cannot push it back. I gotta get in here. Gotta get out. [00:06:32] Speaker A: Yes, I have to. And then, like, my homegirl, I am in bed at this point, and my homegirl texts me, and she's like, Facetime me. Now. I Facetimer. It's like a room full of people. And she was like, where you at? They all, where you at? Why you're not doing fantasy this year? Come on out. [00:06:50] Speaker B: So now you're doing fantasy football? [00:06:52] Speaker A: No, I'm not doing it this year. I'm not doing this year. I don't know. Time, just like I haven't got any reason. [00:07:00] Speaker B: It is time consuming. It is time consuming. Well, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you my cheat code. Cause I'm in one. When I go to the draft, I pull up the. They have a. ESPN has a best draft picks at each position. And all you got to do is like, you type in what your, what the rules of your. The rules of your league are. Like, if it's a PPR, it'll go ahead and they'll excuse me, and they'll put the best ones at the top of that list. And so as I'm going. And they'll even tell you what to draft first according to whatever it is, and I'll go in and I just. Whatever the best available from according to what they got. I'll do no research. I just swipe, click. [00:07:45] Speaker A: Oh, really? I do my research. I do my research on players. Cause even, because they what I've learned that even if they have it, like, you know, this is the best of the best. I gotta look at injuries. [00:07:56] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:07:57] Speaker A: I look at, like, you know, how many times were you out last year? Like, I look at all of that for these players. So that way I know, like, I. Three games and you're not gonna get hurt. [00:08:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:08:08] Speaker A: And that's the end of my season. So, like, I haven't done none of that research is time consuming. Like, the last time I did it, like, I did it for three years, but the last year that I did it, like, I didn't pay attention to it. I forgot to change my players. So there was sometimes I could have one. [00:08:25] Speaker B: Yeah, you just didn't. You just forgot. [00:08:27] Speaker A: Cause I didn't change my players up. One of my players are hurt. And I kept him on for, like, a whole two, three weeks and didn't even know. Didn't even know. And it was because, like, I had this going on. I had that going on. And it wasn't even bad stuff. It was just like, I was taking trips, living life, and, like, I told people, I was like, listen, I can't do it this year. [00:08:49] Speaker B: Just don't got the time. [00:08:50] Speaker A: I ain't got the time. Like, I'll do it next year, but this year. And then, like, with my lead, what I do, like, they try to get you to get your money back. And so, like, it's like $100 in, and then you pay $10 a week. So each week, whoever has the highest. [00:09:04] Speaker B: Points, that's a dope little country. [00:09:09] Speaker A: So when you never win. [00:09:10] Speaker B: Yeah. That little money from the points come in handy. [00:09:14] Speaker A: Yeah. But then when you never win that. [00:09:16] Speaker B: It'S kind of like, oh, damn, I don't. I don't lost this money. Yeah. [00:09:19] Speaker A: So two years ago, I haven't won. So. [00:09:21] Speaker B: So you haven't got most points or nothing? [00:09:24] Speaker A: Well, no, no, no. I never got the most points. And the one year I could have gotten the most points. [00:09:29] Speaker B: People was hurt, people. You didn't change. [00:09:31] Speaker A: I didn't change my stuff. So I was like, you know what? [00:09:32] Speaker B: You didn't do your lineup. [00:09:33] Speaker A: Let me do this, let me sit back, let me keep it cute. And I'm a watch. [00:09:40] Speaker B: And just go from there. [00:09:41] Speaker A: Yeah. I'm sorry, I haven't talked about myself. How are you? No, how was your week? [00:09:44] Speaker B: Hey, listen, I have had an adventurous week. I was on the road a good bit. I had a couple move ins to do. The biggest one was my daughter goes to Howard. [00:10:01] Speaker A: That's so dope. [00:10:02] Speaker B: She moved into Thursday, and this was the most dysfunctional move in that I could understand. Why? Because Howard is literally smack dab in the middle of downtown DC. [00:10:16] Speaker A: Oh, wow. [00:10:17] Speaker B: So there is no. And it's. Her dorm was on like a side street. [00:10:22] Speaker A: Mm hmm. [00:10:23] Speaker B: So the cops had to cut off the side street. But it's a one lane side street one way. [00:10:28] Speaker A: So you had to find a park. [00:10:29] Speaker B: So you gotta find a. So they wouldn't let you, like, you couldn't park along that side, you couldn't unload there. You had to. There's a parking lot they had that was like, maybe I would say two blocks over and around the corner. And you really had no park there. And then, and then they had another one that was in an opposite direction, like maybe two blocks, but the one that. No, a block over, but that one. Somebody had to stay with the vehicle. You could not leave your vehicle or it would be towed. So somebody had. They had. And yes, the tow truck was sitting in there. [00:11:02] Speaker A: Oh, they would have made their money. [00:11:04] Speaker B: Yeah, the tow truck was sitting like in the. [00:11:06] Speaker A: Tried to move into school. [00:11:07] Speaker B: Yeah. And so they were like, no, they were fine. It was free. But somebody had to stay with the van or the car or whatever it was. [00:11:13] Speaker A: But what if you don't have that much family? [00:11:18] Speaker B: What if that's why we parked in the back? And the other one that's a little more. So then, okay, so then how am I getting all of this stuff? I'm not taking all these trips. So they did provide you with a bin. It's a good sized bin with some wheels on the bottom. So you can only have it for 2 hours, though. So we unload her grandmother's, she had a suv. So we unload that and we wheel that up the stairs. And then she goes, okay, dad, we gotta go to the storage. And I was like, okay, so now we're early at this point. So maybe about, we started at ten, we're done with her stuff like 1045. So we go to the storage unit, we get the stuff out. The storage unit of something has to go in my car cause there's so much stuff. I said, baby, where you putting all this? She was like, oh, so I'll go fit in my room. I said, that's up to you and your grandma. I'm not. So we get back over there. Guess what happens now. We're over there at about twelve. No, about 1130. It is busy. So now everybody is there now. I guess everybody made it to town. So guess what? [00:12:25] Speaker A: They don't have any of the buggies. [00:12:27] Speaker B: None of. So guess how long you want to take off. Guess how long the wait was. [00:12:32] Speaker A: Four or 5 hours. [00:12:34] Speaker B: Yes, there was 20 people in front of her. [00:12:38] Speaker A: Oh, wow. [00:12:39] Speaker B: Yes, in front of her. But her and her friend put in for two. Cause her friend had already moved in the day before. And I said, baby, why you ain't moving the day before? Well, I didn't know. Okay, well, next time I need to check. So we end up moving all this. We end up, I said, look, I'm gonna go get something to eat. I haven't eaten yet. I go eat. Had some of the best curry goat I ever had in my life. It's at this place called Negril. It's right across the street from Howard. [00:13:10] Speaker A: Oh, dope. [00:13:11] Speaker B: And for me, being from Trinidad and having a lot of curry goat in my life, a lot of really, this was the best ever, like, ever. I felt bad telling my mama. My mama was like, you know, she felt the way. [00:13:24] Speaker A: I still have not tasted the curry goat. [00:13:26] Speaker B: Yeah, well, she'll be back. She's coming back in a couple weeks, she's coming down. So you'll be able to get some then. Cause she's already said she wants me to go ahead and start finding curry goat, finding the goat in the oxtail. But long story short, we finally get this bin and I was supposed to go help my other daughter move in at five. Cause that's when she was actually gonna get to DC. No, I'm sorry, at three. [00:13:55] Speaker A: Mm mm. [00:13:57] Speaker B: I'd been over that time. So by the time I get over there to her school, it's like, I'm gonna do a little bit of this, a little bit of that, and I'm just, hey, what do you need? You know? [00:14:10] Speaker A: That's what it came down to. [00:14:12] Speaker B: I got back to my hotel room probably about 08:00, tired, probably in the heat. All that walking, only eight. Once, only ate once. So the night before we all went to dinner, I went to a place. It's called yard house. They had a thing called a. It's a nachos. A poke. Nachos. Amazing. [00:14:35] Speaker A: Really? [00:14:36] Speaker B: Oh, my God. I didn't order it. My daughter. [00:14:39] Speaker A: I've never been to DC. [00:14:40] Speaker B: Oh, you gotta go. Yeah, I've never, like, you gotta go. Like, um. I know we were talking off. I know you and Professor T were talking off air. [00:14:48] Speaker A: Mm hmm. [00:14:48] Speaker B: And you talked about, like, taking solo trips. [00:14:50] Speaker A: Solo trips that is on. [00:14:52] Speaker B: That gave me an idea of, like, I might just take a train ride to DC just to eat. Just. And go and eat at a couple spots and then catch the train coming back. Catch the next came in, catch the next one coming back. Because they. It's only one train that runs up and. But that yard house, man. And they had some wings that were, you know, me and wings, I love them. So they were really good. That food was so good. I went back the next night and I just tried. They had some other wings. It was like a thai black pepper one and some other. It was really good. So it was a really good experience. I like finding new restaurants. I was tired of crap and then came back yesterday, hung out with the sun. And here we are now doing this. And we're 13 minutes in, and we've given everybody all the updates in the. [00:15:37] Speaker A: World of our life. These are the days of our life. [00:15:41] Speaker B: But what I can say is I have a very slow week coming up where I have nothing to do on the weekend, nothing to do all week, just except go to work and this ib thing with my son. [00:15:54] Speaker A: Oh. Hmm. [00:15:58] Speaker B: I'm an IB student at this point. [00:16:01] Speaker A: What I told you. [00:16:02] Speaker B: Well, it's nothing. It's the rigor of the work. Not necessarily the difficulty of the work. The work is not a lot. It's just the. Okay, you did this. Now the great part is there's no homework on the weekends. So I think basically they feel like if there's anything you didn't get done during the week, you could do it on the weekends. And we were already behind on the summer work, so we had to went ahead, I told you, and got right to it. So now we are on, like, we are on track. There's nothing due. Everything is turned in. I think he's got a 98, a 93, a 94, and like a 89. [00:16:45] Speaker A: Okay. [00:16:45] Speaker B: So we're in a good space. And I told him this week, we on it from Monday. We don't got nothing to make up for Monday. [00:16:53] Speaker A: We're gonna be on it I told you, yeah, that it might be because y'all were just behind, so it kinda felt like a lot. [00:17:01] Speaker B: Oh, it did. [00:17:01] Speaker A: But I'm telling you, them kids do nothing, not have a life. [00:17:05] Speaker B: I let him, like, this weekend, like, I was going for a good part of the weekend, but I kind of, even when I got back in my mind, I was like, man, we gotta open that computer. We gotta see what's coming up for next week. And I'm just kinda letting him be like, yo, look, just be a kid today. When we get home, you can play the video game. Soon as I get out the studio, get home. I'm gonna try to get home as quickly as possible. He could play the video game, just be a kid for at least the next couple of hours and then, you know, and then hit the bed before we got to do it again. [00:17:36] Speaker A: Listen, all the girls that I know that were in IB don't even work now. All the guys that I know that were in IB, including my, you know, I was class president, so including my vp, like, he's a pastor now in Michigan, like, he does missionary work. Yeah, nobody really took that. It didn't help anybody's portfolio. I put like that. [00:18:11] Speaker B: I don't think it does. And I think that that's why me setting it up the way I am right now. Cause I'm just trying to lay. It's a good thing. The positive to this is, I think that he wasn't challenged in elementary school at all, even in gifted and talented. [00:18:27] Speaker A: I think that was just the curriculum here in South Carolina. [00:18:30] Speaker B: He just wasn't challenged. And so now I wanted him. I wanted him to get a challenge. I didn't know it was gonna be this much of a challenge, but I wanted him to get the challenge. And so now you see his brain working, you know, everything's firing off faster for him now. Got a bad grade on the test, but the teacher let him retake it. So his stuff is starting to and he's learning how to schedule it and all of that. So sometimes, you know, parents, we could push stuff off on our kids that they don't want to do, because if you ask him, he'll say no, he. [00:19:04] Speaker A: Don'T want to do it. [00:19:04] Speaker B: Oh, no, no, no, he does not. So, like, even if we get this and then 7th grade, he does it. Shoot, when we get to 8th grade, he doesn't have to. I don't feel like he has to do it because then we could shift him to honors classes at that point, and then he'll. But he'll be so successful. [00:19:18] Speaker A: I agree to that. Like, if, you know, you wanting something that's gonna challenge him, definitely honors classes, I feel it would be more appropriate for. Especially with him wanting to be an athlete. [00:19:28] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. Oh, he definitely. No, as an athlete. No, he definitely got to get out of this. Yeah, yeah, no, I already know that. I think what the program is set up for, I think it works. And it's not set up for. [00:19:42] Speaker A: Not for the week. [00:19:43] Speaker B: Oh, no, it's definitely not. [00:19:44] Speaker A: And then they ask you to, like, a part when you get into high school, that's a part of your, like, you have to do community service, and you have to be in a sport or some type of extracurricular activity. [00:20:00] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:20:01] Speaker A: And I didn't know that. Like, that's why my homework was like, you know what I'm gonna do long distance. And I'm like, and then after what, she was just like, yeah, all of them, their 11th grade dropped out of IB. [00:20:16] Speaker B: I mean, trust me, you find that more than not that people are dropping out of it. [00:20:20] Speaker A: Like, I mean, it's a great program. I don't want to throw it as. It's not a good program. [00:20:24] Speaker B: Of course not. [00:20:25] Speaker A: It's really a program for, like you said, you want your child to be challenged. It's really for that. But it's for kids who really don't have a life and are extremely, extremely smart. Like, my boyfriend's daughter. Like, it's like, it's easy to her. This is why kids work to her in the, like, it's a similar program where they are, and it's like, his work. [00:20:56] Speaker B: Easy. [00:20:57] Speaker A: Very. She has a read of, like, two books in the summertime done. Like, it's like, it's nothing to her. Like, she almost has, like, a 5.0. I think wherever she at, like, it's simple to her. And I say, like, that's what it's for kids. But she's not in any athletics, any this, any that. I think she does have friends, but, like, you know, she's into anime. It's like, I think it's more. [00:21:24] Speaker B: In that sense, it's more than that. [00:21:26] Speaker A: Yeah. And we hate to kind of put kids in the lane, but we realize, like, even as adults, we're all in a different lane. [00:21:33] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. I think everybody has to find their own path, and I think when you try to make people fit in yours, that's when you kind of. [00:21:40] Speaker A: My daughter is smart. I don't know where she came from, but, like, I have no idea where she came from at all? No, whatsoever. But like she gets it. She goes in, she asks questions, she gets on teachers nerves because she tells them like, oh, you earn this dollar, you're going to earn this. I'm gonna learn. I'm gonna learn you while you're in the class with me, I'm gonna ask all the questions. I need you, you tell, you ask me at Nicola. Does anybody have any questions? I know they hate to see her coming, but like she's a good, she has all age right now currently and like every, I think our grades are over 94. [00:22:24] Speaker B: Oh, that's good. [00:22:25] Speaker A: Yeah. So like I get not being challenged, but she's challenged. She be like this hard man. But yeah, we have got all over. I think we like 20 minutes in. [00:22:37] Speaker B: Yeah. Let's get into a little bit what we worked. The letter that we were going to do. We gonna save that. [00:22:42] Speaker A: Oh, you keep saving this letter. [00:22:43] Speaker B: We gonna save that. Cause it has different components to it and I really wanna get Cl's take on it as well as yours. But I think it's more of a, it opens up a deeper conversation. But we did post something in our advice group and it said, this guy posted this picture. His name is Jeremiah Fly. I don't know if you've seen this post. It says, I took this female out to eat about two weeks ago and I tested her. We ordered our food and had a nice time just talking over food and getting to know each other. I'm not going to front. I was feeling shorty and not just because she was beautiful. Her mindset is what got me. But when she was done eating and I asked for the bill, the lady came back with it. I said, damn, I left my wallet at home. You think you can pay for the food and I will give you the money back when I get home? She just got up and left. All I can do was laugh and shake my head, but I goes in my pocket, pays the bill, leave a $10 tip. The lady said, thank you and you are very, and that you are a very smart man. Sometimes you have to test them to see if they are the one or not. I never spoke to her after that. What are your thoughts? This is just the post and people been commenting on me. Yeah, yeah. [00:24:08] Speaker A: All right. First of all, I graduated high school. I ain't trying to do no more tests. I haven't graduated college. But that's why I left that test. Like, you're tested all your life, your entire life. You're tested. You're tested at your job, your friendships are tested. When you actually get into a relationship, your relationships are tested in themselves. Why do we have to add on extra stuff? [00:24:39] Speaker B: I just. I think here, I just didn't understand. And I think I come in it, like, if this is early on, why is there a test? I don't understand the need for a test. Like, what am I testing? [00:24:54] Speaker A: I need the need for a test anyway. But I do get what you're saying. Like, where y'all at? That you need to test her, that she gave you the illusion. Well, you know what? I know what it is. [00:25:06] Speaker B: What is it? [00:25:08] Speaker A: People are dating outside of their lane, and I don't like saying lead because I don't feel like anybody is better than anybody else. I feel like people are dating outside of their lane, but I think. [00:25:20] Speaker B: So you're thinking that she was kind of outside of his lane. [00:25:23] Speaker A: Yeah. Or he may have been outside of her lane. Like, everybody has a lane. And I think when we're having this conversation about dating, a lot of times people are not dating people who they are actually going to like. They're dating people they actually want to change. [00:25:38] Speaker B: Okay. [00:25:39] Speaker A: Like, I don't like you being like that. Yeah, you should be a better person. Maybe that is the best that they can be. Like, you know, we have the conversation of gold diggers. I'll say that. Cause I'm assuming that's what he felt like. She was trying to get a free. [00:25:53] Speaker B: Marriage, I guess, trying to figure that out, but I. Go ahead. [00:25:57] Speaker A: But, like, it kind of goes into, you know, if she was that type of woman and you were trying to test her, she was automatically going to fail, because that's not the type of woman she is, and you knew that that was not the type of woman she is. So it kind of goes in, why would you interact with a woman that you knew wasn't your type? [00:26:19] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:26:19] Speaker A: And I think often, even men and women, we both do that. [00:26:23] Speaker B: Yeah, but he was even, like, I think he said, like, I'm feeling her. She was beautiful, you know? But that wasn't what got me. Her mindset got me. And so I'm like, if this is the case and you're courting her, this is just a part of courtship. [00:26:36] Speaker A: Like, this is just you on a date. Like, why are you leaving your wallet at home? You should be on your p's and q's, bro. [00:26:44] Speaker B: That's the thing. So, like, to her on the other side. [00:26:47] Speaker A: Mm hmm. [00:26:48] Speaker B: Now, I ain't never been a woman dating a man, but I could only assume that you leaving your wallet at home gives off broke shows. Now, I won't say give off broke. It just gives off that you are neglectful. That you are. You're not good handling your business as far as, like. Cause it's the simple things, like how of all the things to leave at. [00:27:11] Speaker A: Home, I'm telling you as a woman that dates men, it came off broke. Like, oh, he's trying to get me to pay for it so he don't have to pay for it. Cause he can't afford it. He's probably even in the basement of his mom's house and trying to, you know, screw his way into my house. You know, they call him home old bums. [00:27:27] Speaker B: Yeah, well, that's the word I was looking for. Irresponsible. It shows him as being irresponsible. [00:27:31] Speaker A: Yes, very much. [00:27:32] Speaker B: Because I just don't know how he thought this was gonna play out any other way. Cause let's say even if she paid the bill. [00:27:40] Speaker A: Mm hmm. [00:27:42] Speaker B: He paid her back, and he paid her back. She's never talking to him again. [00:27:46] Speaker A: No. Like, what? You playing games? [00:27:47] Speaker B: If she's any. No, let's. [00:27:49] Speaker A: No, that's what I'm saying in her head. Like, you're playing games. [00:27:51] Speaker B: No, not even. Let's say she doesn't know that this is a test, because I don't think she doesn't know. So she doesn't know this is a test in her mind. Yeah, I'm a pay. I'm gonna pay for this meal. I'm gonna get my money back. This dude is irresponsible, and he's not in my lane, as you put it. So I'm never gonna speak to this dude again. There's no reason for me to talk to him again. There's nothing that makes me say there's a reason for her to talk to this guy again. It's just. And I think more than anything, I just don't see the purpose of it. But let's get into some of our followers comments. Cassandra minor shouts out to you. Very weird behavior on his part to test her on the first date. I was the type that offered to go Dutch on the first date. After being scolded by one guy, I tried not to offer ever again. He said it was an insult to him to offer to pay half on or any of the bill. I said, okay, and allowed him to spend his money. For months, we just remained friends without benefits. Jean Grey, she posted, this is the weirdest thing I've seen so far. If she wanted to be tested, she would have met this funny looking. Funny looking ass at the local high school. Most men wouldn't even think about doing anything like that. No matter how good or bad he is, he's the type to self sabotage. She dodged a bullet. [00:29:25] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. Majorly. Because why would you do that? Like, what would be the purpose? Like, I would really. And to know that there are really men that are out there that do that. What is a purpose? [00:29:37] Speaker B: Like, to even post this. [00:29:39] Speaker A: Yeah. Confidently? [00:29:41] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, I tested her and I won. [00:29:43] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, what did you win? I dodged a bullet. How do you know? [00:29:47] Speaker B: Isn't the prize. Shouldn't the prize be the person and. [00:29:50] Speaker A: Then on opposite sides, shouldn't the prize be the person? Yeah, on opposite sides. Like, he was probably the prize to her and he's. And she's the prize to him. [00:29:58] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:29:58] Speaker A: So if y'all the prize to each other, why are you testing her? [00:30:02] Speaker B: She's. And that's the thing I didn't get with it. She's here with you. You gotta, like, you gotta, you gotta. And all this greatness of what you. [00:30:11] Speaker A: Talked the right way, you probably could get some. And you just talked yourself out the. [00:30:15] Speaker B: Drawers all the way up? [00:30:17] Speaker A: Just that quickly. [00:30:19] Speaker B: No, she got up and took the drawers with her. She left. Yeah, like, the drawers left. [00:30:23] Speaker A: Like you just, like, you still gotta pay by yourself. That's what I noticed. End of the letter. Like, you still had to end up paying. [00:30:31] Speaker B: Yeah. And you still ended up. So now there's no woman. [00:30:35] Speaker A: Nope. [00:30:35] Speaker B: And you ended up paying for a meal for a woman you never gonna speak to again, ever. [00:30:39] Speaker A: You probably. You blocked by the time she got in that damn parking lot. [00:30:43] Speaker B: And you confront for social media. But you tried to call her. Yeah, you tried to call her. [00:30:47] Speaker A: You gotta see, like, hey, where you at? What's wrong? [00:30:49] Speaker B: Yeah, what's wrong? What are you talking about? [00:30:51] Speaker A: Like, yeah, you tried. [00:30:52] Speaker B: You were shocked. [00:30:52] Speaker A: You tried to fix that. [00:30:53] Speaker B: You were shocked. Yeah, you tried to fix it. Hannah Harlot says, not sure what he was testing if they weren't cool, if it's the first date, why should she be down for him anyway, except in the first date and seeing how he behaved, et cetera, was her testing him. He failed. But the way people behave about money and perceived obligations is weird to me anyway. If there was a transparent conversation beforehand, like saying, hey, I want to spend some time with you, but I'm kind of low on funds. You want to go Dutch or something like that is a better test if you ask me. The both of them can decide if the other is worth it. At the end of the day, life is hard enough for everyone. Maybe either person's stance could be no money, no date to begin with. This dude is a clown to me for doing all this and calling it a test. What exactly was he testing? Who has loyalty to someone they just met? Was he testing if she's gullible, kind, had patience for games? If he's broke, he needs to just say so. Lol. Along those lines, there are also broke women who expect men to do every single thing for them. That's not cool. But this ain't that. Jeremiah is a clown. I would have paid, but after he told me that foolishness about being a test. Yeah, ghost. [00:32:18] Speaker A: Yeah. And what is this thing about broke women? Like, I don't get that when it like, oh, like she's going out with you for a meal. I don't know no woman that does that. Now, we do call it a free meal because we don't. We're not sure if we like you or not. Yeah, not, oh, we're gonna get. [00:32:41] Speaker B: And I've heard the term. I'm gonna just go. [00:32:44] Speaker A: Why not just go see if you like them? Because you might have get a free meal and, you know, you got a little boo thing, you know? [00:32:50] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:32:51] Speaker A: Like, that's just a saying. It's not like you're actively just going just so you can get this meal. Like, I don't know no woman like that. Like, I don't like the term free meal is just because we're not sure about you. [00:33:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:33:07] Speaker A: So therefore, we are going out with the. With no expectations but to get this free meal. Like, you know, and it might still sound bad, but it's not just to, like, so I can eat for the day. [00:33:24] Speaker B: I'm good. Like I was saying. Y'all good? Jessica Green. He shouldn't have done that first date. One, this test. Have been criticizing, have been circling the Internet, and I'm sure she felt disrespected, too. If he liked her, he lost out on an amazing woman because she wanted. Cause he wanted to be childish. Three, would that really show that she's the one? What does that show? That she got you, that she got her own money? Good questions, Jessica. Yvonne Lennon. Very duplicitous. Cause how you feeling? Her but testing her. It's a good point. [00:34:06] Speaker A: Mm hmm. [00:34:06] Speaker B: If I'm feeling you, why am I testing? [00:34:08] Speaker A: Yeah, it wouldn't even matter. It wouldn't even cause all to people. We like that part. [00:34:14] Speaker B: Yeah, well, most people do. Some people are like, they like them. [00:34:18] Speaker A: No, they do, but they don't. If they like somebody, if somebody got you. That's why people change, okay? That's why people change. When they actually actively like somebody, they'll go all in. They'll. All of a sudden, now he combing his hair. He ain't never combing his hair in his life. Now he getting his locks twisted. He ain't never. You've always seen him wild headed. Like, you know, we not even just appearance wise, but we change what we do, where we go, how we. You know, how we do day to day things when we're with somebody we actually like. [00:34:49] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:50] Speaker A: Like you. Everybody can actively see, visually see a change in you. Like, oh, yeah, you ain't coming out with us as you used to. Like, we all know that person. And then the breakup happens, their heart gets broken. Now it screw everybody. Now they testing this person. Now, you know, they want to make sure this person ain't doing. Like, we go all in for people we like. [00:35:14] Speaker B: I think that's true. [00:35:15] Speaker A: In for the people, for the wrong people that we like. [00:35:18] Speaker B: Nine times out of ten. Yeah. [00:35:20] Speaker A: And we make the next person pay for it. [00:35:22] Speaker B: Yep. Cause now you got traumas. She also. She finishes off. Now he's trying to make her seem like the bad person. Nah, homie, you deserve that. Be easy. Of the dj blaze radio show. Make sure to check them out each and every Monday and Wednesday. Him and her. And the co host, Amy Beazy says he lame. Why test someone he claims to be feeling? If her mindset was as good as he said, she knew it was a test and it's good that she left. Goofy. Yeah. You actually heard Beezye voice say goofy just now in my head. [00:36:01] Speaker A: Like, that is. That is really corny and lame. And I don't even think, like, where are these relationship issues coming from, truly, like, where it comes into 50 50 going Dutch. We've even had these conversations. Where are they coming from? [00:36:18] Speaker B: They're coming from the Internet. Like, cl says it all the time. Um, the Internet is not a real place. And I think that the one thing I can say that we've done with our show is. Although, you know, we do some, you know, stuff, a video. You gotta push your content, of course. But I think we've tried to do a good job of staying out of the simple realm that is the cheating. Everybody talks about cheating. The. We did 50 50 already. [00:36:46] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:36:47] Speaker B: And somebody actually sent me a couple of videos that I'm gonna do something with at some point and get everybody's reaction. I don't think we need to do a show out of it. But it was talking about. It was talking about 50 50. It's a guy. And he was like, the 50 50 is I buy the airplane. I bought the plane ticket. You get on the plane and bring a bathing suit. [00:37:13] Speaker A: You're not gonna tell me what I'm gonna pay for? [00:37:16] Speaker B: No, no, no. I'm saying no. He's saying that basically. And there was another video that was sent that. Because I was having this debate with someone, and I got to the question, you know, and this is something for another day, but does love. Is love the equitable thing? Is money the equitable thing to love? Like, do you have to pay for stuff to show love? And the guy on the last one says, these guys came up with this 50 50 thing to make it. He said guys came up with 50 50 to make women financially responsible for. [00:37:56] Speaker A: Stuff because they were tired of paying for it. [00:37:59] Speaker B: Yeah, 50 50. Yeah. [00:38:00] Speaker A: Because they couldn't afford it. [00:38:01] Speaker B: Because they couldn't afford it. Or for whatever reason, or. [00:38:03] Speaker A: I wouldn't say couldn't afford it. Cause I feel like it's kind of meand to. I feel like they made that up because they were going. That was their way of trying to humble a certain woman in a certain land. [00:38:15] Speaker B: I think that. Cause someone. [00:38:18] Speaker A: Cause they couldn't get her. So if I humble you and I make you feel like you have to come out of pocket, I can get you. [00:38:24] Speaker B: Well, I think. And it was more so to, I guess, make themselves feel okay with not being able to. With what they want. Not necessarily. Some guys have it. Some of the guys that believe in the 50 50 financial relationship. Cause I think that you gotta decipher the 50 50 thing. I think we all know it's 50 50 financially. [00:38:43] Speaker A: Like, a whole relationship is 50 50. [00:38:45] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. [00:38:45] Speaker A: Like, I pay for an entire cruise by myself. [00:38:51] Speaker B: But I think when you're with your person or the person that you like a lot, like you said prior to. [00:38:57] Speaker A: That, I ain't never did that. [00:38:59] Speaker B: When you were a person that puts you in that space. Things just happen. You don't. It's not. [00:39:04] Speaker A: Yeah, it's not something you think about. [00:39:05] Speaker B: It's not transactional. [00:39:06] Speaker A: But I will say my boyfriend did have an issue with it. [00:39:09] Speaker B: And I think that. I think that any man who values the ability to secure his. To provide security for his woman, not as a possession, but for the woman he's with a will have a problem with her paying for things, even though it's a great gesture and love doing it. And he's not going. He gonna be like, man, you know, he'll feel a way. Even if it's not truly fully expressed, he will feel a way, because to most men, not being able to take care of things, bills or whatever else is a hit to their masculinity, so to speak. And that's why they'll have an issue with it. You know, those guys that just want to take, hey, I did this. I'm not keeping score. Like, there's no reason to keep score. Like, we just need to. Like, if you do something. [00:40:10] Speaker A: Yeah, then I'm just doing it. Like, that's. I'm just doing it. And I think he felt some type of way because our first trip wasn't that much, and he paid for it, and then it kind of, like, $400 more the next trip. And I was like, nah, I got it. Don't worry about it. [00:40:27] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:40:27] Speaker A: Like, he's like, yeah, no, yeah, no, yeah, I'll be sending you money. And I'm like, and I think he paid $100 towards it. And I just went ahead and, like, paid it, and he was like, okay, okay, okay, okay. But I'm gonna pay for, you know, while we're on the trip. I'm paying, you know, the money's coming out of my pocket. [00:40:50] Speaker B: But that's usually how it kind of works with men who are. I would say men who are like that when it comes to dealing with their finances, so to speak. Let's finish up here. See white. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. That really is it, Casey. I'm a capricorn. I would have left as well. It has nothing to do with having money, but everything to do with the maturity level. A first date could be as simple as ice cream in the park if she would have paid the bill. This certainly doesn't read. She's the one. Cuzzo. You know, he had to come through Eb. His own is short, sweet, and to the point. First dates need to be at White Castle. [00:41:46] Speaker A: What is it with trying to do fast food? I think that is so tacky. Like Applebee's. Applebee's got two for 25. Chili's has the $10. It does not cost that much. Like, you could just sit there, enjoy yourself at White Castle. White Castle is, like, cancer causing, ain't it? [00:42:11] Speaker B: No, wait. Hold on now. No, what we will not do is bash White Castle. White Castle. [00:42:16] Speaker A: No, it's the frozen part. The frozen sandwiches that they sell in the. In the grocery stores. White Castle are cancer causing. It says it's on the back of the box. Yep. [00:42:29] Speaker B: It does say it. [00:42:29] Speaker A: It says. [00:42:30] Speaker B: Oh, the one that's frozen? [00:42:31] Speaker A: Yeah. It says on the back of the. [00:42:33] Speaker B: Well, you gotta put them in the microwave. And you know what they say about the microwave? [00:42:36] Speaker A: But I know they say it contains stuff that can cause a cancer. [00:42:40] Speaker B: Okay, well, I'm. [00:42:41] Speaker A: You gonna go look? [00:42:42] Speaker B: No, no, no. I'm not gonna go look. I'm going to not look, because if I look, then I'm gonna be bothered. But I haven't been to a. Like, I ain't talking about getting them out the freezer. I'm talking about the. [00:42:53] Speaker A: And I'm pretty sure it's much different. [00:42:55] Speaker B: No, no, no. I'm sure it's not different. But except for them being fresh. Cause when you walk into that White Castle and they got all the little square burgers across that grill, and they put that bread on there and they put them buns on, stick them in that box, like, I ain't gonna lie. I ain't had some since I've been. Since I lived in Jersey. I'm supposed to go home a little bit, so I think I'm gonna stop. [00:43:15] Speaker A: By, get me some white cat's a white calf. [00:43:17] Speaker B: I think I should be okay with the cancer if I only do it this once, but, yeah. Now, we had a bunch of other comments. Thank y'all. Continue to put your comments in the group. Every time that we. When we post stuff, we're trying to be a lot better with y'all once again, you know, if you want to join the conversation, email us. R e l s t a t. Podcast. Nick, it's always amazing always being here with you. [00:43:45] Speaker A: You, girl. [00:43:45] Speaker B: Yeah, of course. [00:43:47] Speaker A: I meant to talk to you about the clip that you put on TikTok, though. [00:43:51] Speaker B: But did you see how it went viral? [00:43:53] Speaker A: I fronted the page. I was so mad. [00:43:54] Speaker B: You went viral, though? [00:43:56] Speaker A: I was mad. And it was just taken. Well, I wasn't mad at y'all. It was just taken out of content. [00:44:02] Speaker B: Because I think that the. Some people in the comments did say that they were like. Some people were like, I know, on our IG and on our Facebook, somebody was like, I get what she's trying to say. There's probably more to the clip. But just to address this part. Just to address this part and everyone, when we post these clips, is to get you to go and listen to the show. And so. [00:44:31] Speaker A: Yeah, and, I mean, even the clip, though, I'm not mad at the clip. Cause the clip is true. And they'll be like, oh, well, maybe for you. Oh, you're a pick me. Oh, no, that's true. Like, y'all mamas would not talk to marry y'all dad. I mean, would not talk to go to college. You were probably 14 years old. [00:44:49] Speaker B: And to your credit, if they listened to the show, you continued on about that. But, like, like we've always said about social media, and BZ says it a good bit on his show, when there's a clip that goes viral, like, go find the whole clip. Like, literally, if you go to the crux media page, you can see all of our episodes in full length, all of our video episodes in full length. And if you go to all podcast platforms, you can listen to all of our podcasts on full length. But you went viral. 19 1900 on day one. [00:45:24] Speaker A: Yeah. Cause they were probably really mad, but. [00:45:27] Speaker B: No, it got a lot of likes, though. You got a lot of likes. A lot of shares that don't put. [00:45:32] Speaker A: No drugs in my head. [00:45:33] Speaker B: No, no, no. [00:45:34] Speaker A: Like, they still sitting there. Yeah, I even got some people come to my page. Keep it cute. Yeah, I don't mind blocking. [00:45:41] Speaker B: Oh, yeah, no, keep it cute. But, hey, it's pushing the followers over there, too, so. But once again, y'all, we really appreciate y'all tapping in with us each and every week. Make sure that you join the group, the relationship status podcast advice group. You do have to be. You do have to answer some questions, and then we'll let you in. And then also make sure you follow us on all social media platforms. Professor T is going to talk to you about that in a little bit. Neat. Take us out. [00:46:06] Speaker A: All right. Thank you all for joining in on the conversation. It's your girl, Neet Cruz co Butler. [00:46:11] Speaker B: And your boy, Youssef. And we are out. [00:46:17] Speaker A: Thank you for listening to another episode of relationship status. Remember, you can catch us on relationshipstatuspodcast.com, comma, iTunes, Google podcast, iHeartRadio, Spotify, Pandora, Amazon music, nobody grinds like us. And anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. If you would like to join the conversation or leave us a dear neek, email us at relst podcastmail.com or call us at 310,037. Follow us on Facebook at relationship Status podcast on Instagram and Twitter at R E L S T podcast. And don't forget to comment, share, five star rate, subscribe, and review.