271st Date: Why Do Married Men Keep Sliding In Her DMs?

[00:00:25] Speaker A: Foreign. [00:00:48] Speaker B: Welcome back to Relationship Status. It's your boy Yousef in the building. And once again, you see that I am here with the homie Angel. Everybody give a round of applause in your living rooms, in your car. Shout her out, because last episode was really good. She did a thing. We heard some good things. I got some. Got some good feedback. Some people ask, when you coming back? I said, you know, some people ask if you're single. I said, she said she was single. You know, I was like, you know, dms. I guess that worked. I don't know. [00:01:20] Speaker A: I really am, though. [00:01:20] Speaker B: You know, holla, if that's what you want to do. But remember, the episode is brought to you by Eat my biscuits 22. I'm sorry before I messed that up, because Vo killed me. Eat My Biscuits in East Point, Atlanta. I'm actually going to be in Atlanta tomorrow checking out some good stuff, and I'm definitely going over to eat my biscuits. So why don't y' all meet me there? Tomorrow is. Oh, geez. By the time y' all listen to this, it won't be tomorrow. Yeah, it'll be. It'll be today. No, it won't be today. It'll be like next week. But if you go down there on Thursday, Conversations over cocktails. They have great relationship conversations while eating good food, drinking cocktails. So go ahead and check them out. Eat My Biscuits down in East Point, Atlanta and our other sponsor, Crux Media Group. If you want your podcast edited, recorded, whatever you need, Crux Media got you. Holla at them cruxmediagroupllc.com and set up your consultation for free. Listen to me. For the next month, you get free consultations on your podcast. I can't help you no more than that. If you want to start your podcast, what are you waiting on? Hit up Crux Media Group. Angel. [00:02:32] Speaker A: Yes, sir. Yes, sir. [00:02:34] Speaker B: What's the word? I think we. We had a little conversation off air, people, and she proved many things that we have said on the show. The great philosopher C.L. butler has said that women have no integrity. Women lie. And she was over here telling big lies. Not little lies, not white lies. She been telling big lies, went to the beach. Nobody said anything. Didn't do. Didn't. Didn't get the numbers. Didn't give out. No, [00:03:14] Speaker A: I didn't. I went to have fun and relax. I was not interested in getting to know anybody. I just. I don't want to right now. And that's okay. [00:03:28] Speaker B: Okay, so just. It's. It's out completely? [00:03:30] Speaker A: Yeah, not completely. [00:03:32] Speaker B: I'M saying right now. I'm just saying right now, where you are in this space, somebody wanted to date you or whatever. It's. [00:03:40] Speaker A: No, I wouldn't say that. Like, but it just depends on my mood, and it's just so hard. [00:03:52] Speaker B: So I'm like, and your mood ain't moody right now? Or it wasn't mooting this weekend? [00:03:57] Speaker A: No, my mood was not mooding at all. At, Like, I was just on some relaxed types. I was with my homegirl. We just hanging out. Like, that's it. Like, I don't. I don't want to get your number. I don't want to talk to you. I don't want to. I just not. I wasn't there in that headspace in the moment. Like, that wasn't my agenda to go down there. I just went down there to hang out. We going, you know, we just go hang out, see what we can see, and then go back. [00:04:29] Speaker B: All right. Okay. And that. What we'll do is I offer her some grace the next time she on. Now we got. We got to figure something out, because I. I don't know this. Yeah. I can't go into it on air, but, you know, just. [00:04:46] Speaker A: That's a true statement. Just wasn't. [00:04:48] Speaker B: It just wasn't. It wasn't. [00:04:49] Speaker A: It just wasn't there in the moment. I'm like, I don't want to. [00:04:53] Speaker B: And then we. And then we talked a little bit about. And I don't know, on the last episode, we talked about people not being able to sit by themselves. And I'm going to post this question in. In. In the show notes, but can a man go out and eat by himself? Can he take himself on a date and you respect it? [00:05:15] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:05:16] Speaker B: No. [00:05:18] Speaker A: Yeah, why not? [00:05:20] Speaker B: Hell, you taking yourself out on a date, sir. [00:05:22] Speaker A: It's yourself. [00:05:25] Speaker B: No, no, that's. No, that's. That's the verbiage. The verbage is, can a man take himself out on a date? [00:05:32] Speaker A: What is wrong. It's yourself. [00:05:38] Speaker B: Women can do thing men can't. Women can do things men can't. [00:05:42] Speaker A: You know, I agree with that. And only because society. [00:05:48] Speaker B: It ain't society. [00:05:49] Speaker A: It is. [00:05:52] Speaker B: Okay, so tell me one thing. There's a couple of things I refuse to do, okay? When I go out to eat, get a drink, don't bring me no drink in a dainty glass. [00:06:08] Speaker A: Okay? Well, I can see that. [00:06:10] Speaker B: I'm not. I'm not. If I get a margarita or a martini, put it in a regular. [00:06:15] Speaker A: Yeah, you want it in a regular glass. [00:06:17] Speaker B: You don't Want it like in a hot ball. [00:06:19] Speaker A: Yeah, you don't want. You don't want the flour in it either? [00:06:21] Speaker B: Nope, I don't want no garnish. [00:06:22] Speaker A: No, not the garnish. A little flour. [00:06:24] Speaker B: Hang it on. [00:06:24] Speaker A: No, I don't want. [00:06:25] Speaker B: No. No, I don't. Nah. No. [00:06:27] Speaker A: Well, I get it. Cuz that looks a little feminine, a little dainty. So I get it. I get. I get it. [00:06:32] Speaker B: Then you give me this little sippy straw. [00:06:33] Speaker A: Yeah, I don't want that. [00:06:35] Speaker B: You're not about to have me have my eyes poke out my head to [00:06:38] Speaker A: sip out the straw when your pinky's sticking out. [00:06:40] Speaker B: Yeah, my pinky. [00:06:41] Speaker C: Pinky. [00:06:41] Speaker B: Though I look crazy. [00:06:46] Speaker A: That's true. [00:06:47] Speaker B: And then I go, okay, cool. And if you're comfortable in yourself, that is fine. I am comfortable with me. I think I am the bomb. But there's certain things I just ain't gonna do in public. [00:07:01] Speaker A: I get it. [00:07:02] Speaker B: And taking myself on a date. I'm not going to the restaurant. I'm not waiting for the host to sit me go and tell me how wild this is. L. How many? One. [00:07:18] Speaker A: I have so done that before. [00:07:20] Speaker B: You're a woman. You can do that. But even in that, I'm going. If I'm waiting on something, my car getting worked on next door and I want it to slide over, it's different. Like if you go to Buffalo Wild Wings, right? That's different. It's crazy, me going to Victors and [00:07:40] Speaker A: you sitting there by yourself and I'm [00:07:42] Speaker B: standing by myself talking about something. One, please. [00:07:46] Speaker A: So you got to be at the bar. [00:07:47] Speaker B: They look at me crazy. [00:07:48] Speaker A: So you got to be at the bar. [00:07:50] Speaker B: Got to go to the bar. [00:07:51] Speaker A: Got to go to the bar. [00:07:51] Speaker B: And not only do I got to go to the bar, I got to go to the bar, and I got to order a real drink. [00:07:55] Speaker A: Right? Like, you got to like. [00:07:57] Speaker B: Anyway, as we. As we get, let's get into the show today. Once again, angel, thank you for coming back. [00:08:03] Speaker A: Thank you for having me. [00:08:04] Speaker B: Thank you. Appreciate you conversation last time. So thank you to have you back. Can't wait to get your reactions to a couple of these videos. And let's get into the first one, and then let's have some conversation. [00:08:18] Speaker D: A lot of women say they want a good man until they actually meet one and realize he's not easy to deal with. A good man isn't convenient. He doesn't bend to chaos. He doesn't abandon his values just because emotions run high. And this is where confusion starts. If you've Never experienced emotional maturity. You'll misread it every time. You call him cold because he won't tolerate drama. You call him distant because he protects his peace. You call him detached because he refuses to beg for approval. But that isn't coldness. That's self respect. A man who knows his worth doesn't move from insecurity. He moves from conviction. He doesn't chase chaos. He doesn't chase emotional volatility. He builds, he leads, he creates order. And for people raised in dysfunction, peace can feel boring until it's gone. Stability doesn't trigger adrenaline, but it does build a life. A good man requires partnership, respect, and emotional regulation. Good men don't bend, they build. And the right woman doesn't fight that, she rises to meet it. [00:09:34] Speaker B: Agree or disagree? [00:09:36] Speaker A: I agree with that. [00:09:39] Speaker B: Have you. Do you feel like you have asked for a good man and gotten a good man and not dealt with him in the right way? [00:09:47] Speaker A: No, I don't. [00:09:49] Speaker B: Can you voice that, Batman? [00:09:51] Speaker A: I don't. I don't feel like. And the reason I say no, I don't is because the emotional maturity was not there. Was not there. And I feel like when you're in a relationship with someone, you're not going to always agree all the time. Like that. You're two totally different people. [00:10:16] Speaker B: Yeah, of course. Two different. [00:10:17] Speaker A: Two different standpoint. And that is okay. [00:10:20] Speaker B: And. [00:10:20] Speaker A: But just because you argue and you have a disagreement, you got to be emotionally mature with your responses, your tone and your attitude when you are having a disagreement, it's got to be healthy. You got to disagree in a healthy way. Because you say certain things that because you were in the moment, you can't take it back. [00:10:47] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:10:47] Speaker A: Like the person that. Just because somebody forgive you for saying it. It's still in the back of my mind that you actually said that thing to me. You know, so unfortunately, I haven't had a chance to where I could was in a relationship with someone that was emotionally regular. Yeah. [00:11:09] Speaker B: Okay. I think I've come across. I think anybody that has to say they're a good person is trying to make themselves believe it. But I'm a good person. But I'm a good person. But I'm a good man. But I'm a good woman. [00:11:23] Speaker A: Right. [00:11:24] Speaker B: I think is determined. I think you are what you attract. And so because there's something. If you keep attracting the same type of person, then I think that there's something that you have to do within your thought process or within yourself that makes you make better decisions on who you Choose. I think for me, I've tended to choose people. I wouldn't say in a settling way, but I've chosen people in the moment that made me feel a certain way in the moment. And then you come to find out that that has not manifested itself further past that moment. And I always feel like I give a bunch of myself to this. Ever since I don't think I was the best man in my marriage because I don't think I gave my all in my marriage. So I will. I will admit to that. I ain't no perfect dude. [00:12:21] Speaker A: No one is. [00:12:22] Speaker B: But after my marriage, I got engaged. After I was a time, after I was married, and some years after I was married, I got engaged and that engagement, I gave it everything I had, okay. Only to find out at the end of it that she wanted to break up with me at the beginning of it, but there were some circumstances under which made her not break up. And then we ended up together eight years and you know, we ended up breaking up eventually. But I gave her everything I have, and it wasn't good enough for her. And that doesn't make her a bad person. That just means that we weren't meant like we didn't mesh lifestyle. Yeah, we didn't. What she wanted out of a relationship and what I was willing to give out of a relationship and what she gave out the relationship and what I was willing to accept out of the relationship was not aligned. So it made it in a. It made us be in a place where we ended up. Where she ended up leaving because I wasn't what she wanted. And I feel like, like I said, I'm. I think I'm the man. Like it ain't nothing, you know, everybody got. Everybody got stuff. You got to work on everybody. I'm not, I'm not conceited. I'm just confident in who I am and what I. And what I do with in the relationship. I treat you like something and this and the third. And if I felt like. And. And I didn't step out, I treated her like somebody. And she still felt like that wasn't enough. That just means I wasn't enough for her, not that I wasn't enough. [00:14:03] Speaker A: Right. [00:14:04] Speaker B: And so I just think that sometimes a good man to one. And the only thing I disagree with it is in that particular video is a good man to one person is not a good man to another person. [00:14:16] Speaker A: Absolutely, absolutely, Absolutely. [00:14:17] Speaker B: Your good is completely subjective. Not subjective, objective. Because it's. Is by whatever it is you're looking to be as far As a good man. [00:14:28] Speaker A: Right. And everybody isn't looking for the same thing. What may work for me may not work for my best friends, you know? [00:14:35] Speaker B: So do you find that y' all are kind of attracted to the same type of people? [00:14:42] Speaker A: Physically wise, no. But safety wise. Yes. [00:14:49] Speaker B: Like, I heard that. I think we said it last episode. [00:14:52] Speaker A: Yes. [00:14:52] Speaker B: Did we say that last episode? [00:14:53] Speaker A: Yes. [00:14:54] Speaker B: If somebody makes you feel safe. [00:14:56] Speaker A: Yes. [00:14:57] Speaker B: Like, y' all just want to be. [00:14:59] Speaker A: Everyone wants that. I don't care what Anybody. [00:15:01] Speaker B: More than anything else. [00:15:02] Speaker A: More than anything. [00:15:03] Speaker B: And that's not to say, you know, that's not to say, hey, you know, I want him to, you know, shoot somebody. [00:15:09] Speaker A: No. Yeah. No, no. [00:15:10] Speaker B: But you just want to feel safe. [00:15:12] Speaker A: Yeah. Just. [00:15:13] Speaker E: Yeah. [00:15:13] Speaker A: Yeah, that's it. [00:15:14] Speaker B: All right. All right. We can. We can agree to dis. To agree on that one, because I think we agreed on that one. All right, next one. [00:15:23] Speaker A: I had one more question that I had wrote down. [00:15:25] Speaker F: Okay, we got about 90 seconds. [00:15:27] Speaker A: Nine seconds. [00:15:28] Speaker F: Go ahead. [00:15:29] Speaker A: Why do the world normalize cheating? [00:15:34] Speaker F: Because the world by right are filled of cheaters and liars. The easy answer is it takes work to have character. Right. Being loyal is hard. Being faithful is hard. Being an upstanding person is hard. It's easier for me to be a liar. And human beings are designed to do what's easy. So being a person of character is the hard way. Whatever's happening in the world is great. Fine. [00:16:03] Speaker A: I don't control it. [00:16:05] Speaker F: But I do control what happens in my world when you walk into the gates of Brittany. [00:16:11] Speaker A: Noel. Okay. [00:16:13] Speaker F: It's nice over here. [00:16:14] Speaker A: Okay? [00:16:15] Speaker F: We got flowers. The lawn is manicured. Manicured. We got. We got mansions. [00:16:20] Speaker A: Okay. [00:16:20] Speaker F: We done built up this kingdom, but I'm the gatekeeper of the kingdom. I don't tell people how to behave in my kingdom, I allow people in and I give you benefit of the doubt. And then your behavior shows me whether or not you're capable of staying in the kingdom. So if people lie, let them lie. If they cheat, let them cheat. If they get over, let them get over. But just know that'll be your last time. [00:16:50] Speaker A: Yeah, I think there's one, one, or maybe two parts. I disagree with that. [00:16:55] Speaker B: Okay. [00:16:56] Speaker A: I don't think it's hard being loyal. If it's in you, it's in you. And it's not hard to say no. It's. To me, that's easier saying no, because if I say yes now, I got to continue on with it without you. Just said no one stopped it, then there's nothing else. After the no. [00:17:19] Speaker B: After the no. [00:17:20] Speaker A: Yeah. But yes. It's like, okay, so now I'm going to do this. So now I gotta put in some more work because I said yes. Now I gotta maybe answer more phone calls than I would have liked. Would have liked. Now I have to answer more text messages than I would have liked. But if I would have said no, I wouldn't have to do all of that. So I think I kind of disagree with the. It being hard to be difficult to. Is it? I don't think it depends on the person. Now, that's for me. I can't speak for anyone else, but I think as far as me, I don't think it's hard to be loyal. [00:18:08] Speaker B: No. I think it's a character trait that you pick up over time. That you pick up over time because you find the value in people. [00:18:17] Speaker A: Right. [00:18:17] Speaker B: And I think that cheating or infidelity or however you want to call it is just those that indulge in it, I think that they just don't. They. They don't have enough. I don't think they have enough. They either. They're trying to feel something in themselves and to do that through, like, there's no reason why you're over 40 and still cheating or over 30 and still cheat. I think I could understand your 20s, I could understand your teens, because you don't know who you are. You don't know what you are. [00:18:54] Speaker A: Right. [00:18:55] Speaker B: If somebody. If I'm dating somebody and they told me the last time I cheated I was 25, I'm like, you didn't even know who you were at 25. [00:19:01] Speaker A: Right? [00:19:01] Speaker B: Like, you ain't beat. You haven't been through half the things you're gonna be through. You haven't dealt with heartbreak the way you're gonna deal with heartbreak at an older age. So you haven't fully lived for me to really hold that against you. But if you 35 plus and you still out here in the streets and dudes that are like 50 or women that are like 50 and they can't commit to nothing and. Or even if they commit, they still doing stuff. Or people who've been married 20 something years and you still. And you step out like stuff like that, and you still. [00:19:35] Speaker A: First of all, where do you find the energy at this age to do that? [00:19:38] Speaker B: No, I. Wait, first off, people find energy for the things they want to do. [00:19:43] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:19:44] Speaker B: The people will do and I will find energy. I think it does. No, I'm not saying it don't. But if you really want to do it. You'll find the energy. [00:19:55] Speaker A: Oh, absolutely. You're going to find a way to do what you want to do. [00:19:59] Speaker B: 100%. [00:20:00] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:01] Speaker B: You're going to do the BS. [00:20:02] Speaker A: And I think the person that's cheating the other person, they make it easy for the person. [00:20:10] Speaker B: That's. If they know, they don't know. [00:20:15] Speaker A: No, I think people make it women or men because some people are okay with being side chicks. [00:20:25] Speaker B: Oh, you're talking about the side pieces. [00:20:26] Speaker A: The. Yeah, like, they make it easy and convenient. So, I mean, it's easy. [00:20:31] Speaker B: But think about this as a side piece. [00:20:35] Speaker A: I've never been one. [00:20:36] Speaker B: I'm not, I'm not saying. [00:20:38] Speaker A: I'm just putting that out there. Have never. [00:20:40] Speaker B: I'm not saying I have. [00:20:41] Speaker A: Have never been one. [00:20:42] Speaker B: And I'm not accusing you of being one. [00:20:43] Speaker A: Right. Never. [00:20:44] Speaker B: I'm just saying that the. The work of a side piece is very, very easy. [00:20:52] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:20:52] Speaker B: I don't have to invest in nothing you got going on. [00:20:55] Speaker A: Absolutely nothing. [00:20:56] Speaker B: All I have to do is show [00:20:57] Speaker A: up when you call, stroke your ego [00:20:59] Speaker B: a little bit, Stroke your ego and other things a little bit. [00:21:02] Speaker A: Amen. [00:21:03] Speaker B: Just to keep you around and that's it. Take your money or whatever and just. It's easy. I. Then you go home. [00:21:15] Speaker A: It is. It is. That's why I said they make it easy for the person. They make it easy for the married person. [00:21:22] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:21:23] Speaker A: Because they don't have to put in a whole lot of energy. [00:21:26] Speaker B: And that's one of the things I think I would struggle with, and I struggle with other people that do. I had one friend of mine, she dealt with a married man after she broke up with someone, and I had a serious issue with her with that. [00:21:46] Speaker A: Right. [00:21:46] Speaker B: And then I had another female friend who had had relationship with a married man, probably like eight years. [00:21:56] Speaker A: That's eight years. [00:21:57] Speaker B: Like eight years. And I took issue with that with her and I just told. I said, you know, there ain't no single dudes out here that you can get with. Like, you're choosing. That man's choosing to be with you, and you're giving them access to that. Like, and it made me. And I'm a. I'm a friend. So it is what it is. [00:22:20] Speaker A: Right. [00:22:20] Speaker B: Like, but it did make me see them in a different light. Each one of them made me see them in different life. And I had a homeboy who, who was married and cheated on his wife, and it made me look at him in a different light. [00:22:32] Speaker A: Right. [00:22:32] Speaker B: And it's like, I don't. I'm not Gonna say that in my younger days, I didn't do some stuff. [00:22:39] Speaker A: Right. [00:22:41] Speaker B: But I just think there's something to the sanctity of being married that should be respected by everybody. [00:22:47] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:22:47] Speaker B: The outside and the inside. So that's the thing. [00:22:50] Speaker A: I don't think lots of people respect [00:22:54] Speaker B: the sanctity of marriage. [00:22:56] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:22:57] Speaker B: Especially if they ain't been married. [00:22:59] Speaker A: Right. [00:23:00] Speaker B: Especially if they ain't been married. They don't respect. [00:23:02] Speaker A: Well, you know what? To be honest with you, they. There are way more married men that jump in my inbox and single. [00:23:12] Speaker B: Well, [00:23:16] Speaker A: Way more like. [00:23:18] Speaker B: And they open and they openly say they're married. [00:23:22] Speaker A: We friends on social media. I can see it. Like, I see it. You don't have to. Yes. So that's open. I can see it. And I'm like, wow, that's crazy. So you. You're letting me see that. [00:23:38] Speaker B: What you're. [00:23:39] Speaker A: That you have and you're. You still. Okay. [00:23:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:23:43] Speaker A: And I had a. I asked two of my best friends shout out to Tammy and Tater. I asked. I asked him. I said, what is it about me that makes me feel like I'm not going to say. Like, how do you know I'm not going to say anything to your wife? Like, that's the crazy part to me. I don't. [00:24:06] Speaker B: I don't think that they feel. I just feel like they're shooting their shot because. [00:24:09] Speaker A: But why would you do that? [00:24:10] Speaker B: But they are, because there's people who will accept it. [00:24:13] Speaker A: But that's what I'm saying. Like, what is. Like, what is it? [00:24:15] Speaker B: It's not anything about you. [00:24:17] Speaker A: I'm like, for you. Then again, like, do I look safe? Like, do I look. Is it because my name is angel and probably like. [00:24:24] Speaker B: Or it's because you're single? [00:24:27] Speaker A: That shouldn't matter. [00:24:29] Speaker B: To some it does. [00:24:31] Speaker A: Yeah, I am. But you're not. [00:24:33] Speaker B: Well, I'm just like. Because they. They know where they going. [00:24:38] Speaker A: Yeah. That should not matter at the end of the day. [00:24:41] Speaker B: They know where they going. [00:24:42] Speaker A: Yeah. That's just kind of. It's a little crazy work for me. Like, why are you doing it? And then. Especially when I know. [00:24:47] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:48] Speaker A: So you don't have to like. Like, I know that you are. I just saw y' all on a cruise. Which kids in the pictures up. And y' all just. [00:24:56] Speaker B: Hey, hey, man, if you're gonna cheat, don't post your life on social media. [00:24:59] Speaker A: Oh, my God. It's ridiculous. Y' all just took Christmas pictures. Stop. [00:25:03] Speaker B: The matching pajamas. [00:25:04] Speaker A: Yeah, the. Oh, the matching pajamas. I'm Never. [00:25:06] Speaker B: I'm never there. [00:25:07] Speaker A: I'm never gonna get to the matching pajama stage. [00:25:11] Speaker B: No. Even if I get to the stage, I'm not matching anybody with anything. [00:25:15] Speaker A: Why? I think it's cute. [00:25:17] Speaker B: I am. No, this is. No, no. We're talking about two different things now, right? We talk about two different things now. I'm talking about the identical. [00:25:31] Speaker A: Right? [00:25:31] Speaker B: Where we got the same plaid pants on. Same. [00:25:35] Speaker A: I think it's cute. [00:25:36] Speaker B: It is not. [00:25:37] Speaker A: Oh, why not? I think it's cute. [00:25:39] Speaker B: It's corny. [00:25:40] Speaker A: It is not. Okay, well, that's your opinion. I get it. [00:25:43] Speaker B: It's corny. [00:25:44] Speaker A: That's your opinion. [00:25:44] Speaker B: I rue the day that a woman gets me to wear the same thing and we take pictures. [00:25:50] Speaker A: Listen, listen. Your sneakers are dope. Like, I promise you I'll wear them. So you would have an issue with that? [00:25:56] Speaker B: If you wear my shoes? [00:25:57] Speaker A: Yeah. They'd be like, well, first of all, you got the same shoes I got on. But, like, they're dope. [00:26:01] Speaker B: Here's my thing. You're. Oh, you mean like, get your own pair? [00:26:04] Speaker A: Yeah, like, get my own pair. Like, they're those. [00:26:06] Speaker B: I would buy you your own pair. [00:26:07] Speaker A: Right. [00:26:08] Speaker B: So I'm not wearing them. [00:26:09] Speaker A: But you're not gonna wear them the same time I wear them. That's crazy. Okay, I'm not doing that. If you. [00:26:13] Speaker B: If I have a whole. I literally have done this before. I had an ex, and she. She had a couple. Like, she wore a shirt and the pants, and I got dressed first. I'mma stand on that. I got dressed first. I'm waiting on her to come on. She came out in the same outfit. I said, hold on. And I went in my. I went in the room and. And I changed. I will not. Will not be matching. [00:26:46] Speaker A: Okay, what if it's the same color? Like, not. [00:26:48] Speaker B: Same. Same color. [00:26:49] Speaker A: Same color is cool. Just not like the identical. [00:26:53] Speaker B: We're coordinating, coordinating, coordinating. [00:26:56] Speaker A: Different, different. Got you. [00:26:58] Speaker B: I'm not matching. We can coordinate. Right, But I'm not matching, so. And unless we're married, I ain't posting no pictures. No way, so it don't matter. [00:27:06] Speaker A: So, okay, so say if you got on, like, you got on, like, blue jeans and she got on maybe, like, some blue jean shorts, and then you got on a white shirt and I got on a white tank top. [00:27:19] Speaker B: We're not matching. We're coordinating. [00:27:21] Speaker A: So. So to you, that's not matching, even though it's a white shirt. [00:27:24] Speaker B: And as long as it ain't a plain. Cause I'm gonna wear a plain White tee, Right. [00:27:26] Speaker A: So what if. What if she got on, like, a bodysuit? Like a little tank top? Little cute. [00:27:30] Speaker B: I mean, that was cute. I might change the color of my shirt, but at the end of the [00:27:34] Speaker A: day, see, you just say you want to change a tank top and a T shirt. It's two different things. [00:27:38] Speaker B: Why you want to match me, though? Like, that's what I'm saying. Like, why we got the match? Like, we could coordinate, but why we got the match? [00:27:45] Speaker A: I mean, you don't have to, but I'm just saying, like, we sometimes could be, like, a little cute. [00:27:49] Speaker B: Like, okay, we go out to. If we're going out to eat. And sometimes when I go out and I get. I like to get dressed up, I might wear a suit. [00:27:56] Speaker A: Okay. [00:27:56] Speaker B: Like, if you wear, like, a red dress. [00:27:58] Speaker A: I love a man in a suit. [00:27:59] Speaker B: I'll wear a red tie. [00:28:00] Speaker A: Okay. [00:28:01] Speaker B: You know, something like that [00:28:05] Speaker A: With a black dress. Is that what you're saying? [00:28:06] Speaker B: Like a bingo. That now record got you. We're not matching. I laugh. My ex, her and her boyfriend, they match all the time. [00:28:20] Speaker A: Now. That's crazy. [00:28:21] Speaker B: No, no, no, no. Here's the thing. Here's the thing. I tell her it's corny. Like, so I am not telling anybody anything. I have not said to her, I. Y' all corny. [00:28:32] Speaker A: Did you say that? [00:28:33] Speaker B: I love y', all, but y' all corny. [00:28:34] Speaker A: Did you say that to her? [00:28:36] Speaker C: Yeah, I did, just like that. [00:28:37] Speaker A: That's crazy. Because they match, huh? Because they're coordinated. [00:28:41] Speaker B: Yeah, because they match. [00:28:43] Speaker A: So you think it was more. Okay, so do you. [00:28:45] Speaker B: I will call her on the phone right now and say. I would say, hey, don't I call you corny when y' all match? [00:28:51] Speaker A: So do you think it's more like the women getting a man to match? You think that's what it is? [00:28:58] Speaker B: I think no. Well, first off, no, man. There's never been a man in existence I believe wants to match his woman that wants to wear exactly what she wears. No man in history of Mandam has ever said, hey, you. Ooh, baby, we gonna wear the same shoes, and we gonna wear the same pants, and we gonna wear the same shirt. [00:29:23] Speaker A: Right. Say some asking. You really think it's, like, the woman's idea? [00:29:27] Speaker B: It is the woman's idea. [00:29:28] Speaker A: I can see that. [00:29:29] Speaker B: And happy wife. Happy wife. Happy life. [00:29:31] Speaker A: Happy life. Exactly. [00:29:32] Speaker B: So if she want to do it. See, now, here's the thing. The problem with me is no not doing that. I'm not. Unless we going on a family trip and Everybody got on. [00:29:43] Speaker A: Everybody got on like the same Disney shirts. Okay, so that's cool. [00:29:47] Speaker B: I went to my daughter, my daughter's graduation, my oldest baby grad high school graduation, and everybody had on shirts. So that's different. We going out to dinner or we going to the mall? Those you cannot tell me and do not lie that you see them. People in the mall, you don't snicker, you give a little laugh, a little chuckle. Be like you don't want to be wearing that. [00:30:11] Speaker A: It depends on what it is. Like, I've seen. No, listen, seriously. So I've seen like, you know, couples have on like maybe like the same jersey and he got on jeans and she got on jean shorts. [00:30:22] Speaker B: I'm not wearing the same jersey. We can wear the same team. You can have on the jersey and I have on the jersey. [00:30:28] Speaker A: But if it's the same, we both not. [00:30:30] Speaker B: Shouts out to my Knicks. [00:30:31] Speaker A: But if it's. [00:30:31] Speaker B: But we both not going to sit here and wear a Brunson jersey. [00:30:34] Speaker A: But if it's the same team, it's still the same color. [00:30:36] Speaker B: You going to wear a blue one? I'm going wear a white one. I'm just telling you what it is. Okay, I'm gonna go change. The second I come out and I see you wearing the same thing, I am going to change. [00:30:49] Speaker A: So what if I turn my jersey to like a dress and make it like a dress and I put on a pair of heels? [00:30:53] Speaker B: That's different. [00:30:54] Speaker A: Now we talk about something, but it's still. [00:30:57] Speaker B: Are you gonna put on like a belt and all of that? [00:30:59] Speaker A: And I mean, you know, it depends on how I'm feeling. What if I put on like a little fishnets underneath it? Like a whole little thing. See? But it's the same jersey, though. [00:31:07] Speaker B: It's not the same jersey because that got to be a long jersey. [00:31:11] Speaker A: I mean, for some people, it depends on how tall or how short, you [00:31:14] Speaker B: know, or their body type to be a long jersey. [00:31:17] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:18] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:31:18] Speaker A: Yep, yep, yep. [00:31:20] Speaker B: So we're not wearing the same thing. So we definitely not wearing the same jersey. So don't. So don't even do that. [00:31:28] Speaker A: I was so trying. [00:31:29] Speaker C: Yeah, you were. [00:31:29] Speaker A: I was. [00:31:30] Speaker B: At every turn I was giving it. [00:31:32] Speaker A: I was trying. I was. [00:31:33] Speaker B: And you lost, right? [00:31:34] Speaker A: Well, I mean lost because I mean, cuz you just don't want to. But it's okay. [00:31:39] Speaker B: It's not that I don't want to. I'm not. [00:31:42] Speaker A: Which is the same thing, man. [00:31:43] Speaker B: Potato, potato. But I'm not. [00:31:45] Speaker A: I get it. I would be okay with that though [00:31:47] Speaker B: you'd be okay with like. So if your man. [00:31:50] Speaker A: Not all the time. [00:31:50] Speaker B: No, I'm saying if your man came to you and said, hey, put that on, we going to wear the same thing today. [00:31:58] Speaker A: Yeah, because I, I mean, I have like different styles of like clothing. Like sometimes I wanna like, I have on like, you know, I mean, you versatile. [00:32:11] Speaker B: I understand, I understand the versatility. [00:32:13] Speaker A: Right. [00:32:14] Speaker B: That doesn't mean I have to match. I don't have to wear not. I'm not wearing the same thing. We can coordinate. [00:32:20] Speaker A: So what if. Because you know, I'm still trying, so I'm on it. Like, what if we do have on the same sneakers but different outfits. Different outfits. [00:32:29] Speaker B: I can roll with that. [00:32:30] Speaker A: You can roll with that. Okay. [00:32:32] Speaker B: Roll with that. [00:32:32] Speaker A: Okay, I. I'm cool with that. [00:32:34] Speaker B: I can roll with that. [00:32:35] Speaker A: We'll do that. [00:32:36] Speaker B: I can roll with that. [00:32:37] Speaker A: I've actually done that. [00:32:38] Speaker B: We ain't gonna take no pictures from the ankle down, but I could roll with that. [00:32:42] Speaker A: Okay. [00:32:43] Speaker B: Ain't gonna be no pictures from the ankles down, but yeah, I could roll with that. All right, next one. I really want to see what you got. What your, what your, what your thoughts is on this. [00:32:52] Speaker E: If somebody come to you right now and give you a million dollars. So a million dollars. [00:32:58] Speaker B: Are. [00:32:58] Speaker E: Give me $10 million. Are we together? What you would I do? Take the million for yourself or give me 10 million. [00:33:04] Speaker C: Are we married? [00:33:07] Speaker A: No, we're together as a relationship. [00:33:10] Speaker E: Yeah. [00:33:11] Speaker C: Am I your fiance? Like how long we been together, what's going on? [00:33:16] Speaker E: It shouldn't even come to your mind. [00:33:18] Speaker C: It does because I need to. It depends on who you are. I have to be able to trust with 10 million dollars. [00:33:24] Speaker E: 10 million for you, for me or 1 million for yourself? [00:33:29] Speaker C: I'm taking a million. [00:33:30] Speaker E: That's a million. [00:33:31] Speaker C: Cuz I can get it multiplied. As you said, women multiply, man. [00:33:36] Speaker E: Them focus on yourself. Yeah, man, focus part. [00:33:40] Speaker C: Now, if you married me, maybe we could talk different if we have a joint bank account. No, but I'm supposed to just trust you and walk away with nothing? [00:33:49] Speaker E: That's the difference with mana woman. Because if I have a woman that I am together with. Are we together and me get 10 million? [00:34:00] Speaker A: No. [00:34:00] Speaker C: No. So Rosa, reverse. I get the 10 million or you get 1 million. [00:34:06] Speaker A: Why? [00:34:06] Speaker E: If married together, you're supposed to. You're supposed to make me get some of that money. [00:34:12] Speaker C: How you know I'm gonna do that though? [00:34:14] Speaker A: You don't know that. [00:34:15] Speaker E: That's why you see, with man we love blind. That are our problem. Women love under conditions. You realize how the conditions. [00:34:22] Speaker A: You're right. [00:34:23] Speaker C: You're right. Because if I have the baby. You can't have babies. [00:34:27] Speaker A: I can put the baby. [00:34:29] Speaker C: It's not hard to do that. [00:34:31] Speaker E: So where you are then giving birth, [00:34:35] Speaker C: I could die in the process of [00:34:36] Speaker E: having that woman do it before you. Yeah, I never do it again. [00:34:40] Speaker C: If you could carry the baby and sacrifice your body and get stretch marks and all that, maybe we could talk. [00:34:46] Speaker F: Maybe. [00:34:46] Speaker C: Maybe it could be less conditional. [00:34:47] Speaker A: We're here to procreate. [00:34:52] Speaker E: It's your job. [00:34:53] Speaker A: Oh, my God. [00:34:54] Speaker C: Anyway, y' all need to come check [00:34:55] Speaker A: out this [00:34:57] Speaker C: on YouTube. [00:35:00] Speaker B: My name. Focus upon yourself. That's what that the lesson there. Men. Focus on yourself. Question to you. You got a boyfriend? They say, hey, you could either get a million or we're going to give him 10 million. [00:35:23] Speaker A: That's where the safety comes in. Because how do I know? And I. And trust. How do I know? Because if somebody gives you 10 million, how do I know that you're going to share that with me? How do I know that? [00:35:35] Speaker B: So basically you can say. So basically you about to be selfish. [00:35:37] Speaker A: No, you can tell me anything. But your. Your actions. [00:35:43] Speaker B: My actions are I'm gonna get 10 mil. So. [00:35:46] Speaker A: Yes, you are getting 10 mil. So wait, okay, so that's different. [00:35:50] Speaker B: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. They're giving it to me, but I'm with you. How am I gonna get 10 and not. And not do. [00:35:56] Speaker A: Okay, listen, some people are grimy like that, okay? You don't. [00:36:01] Speaker B: So you shouldn't be with nobody that you can't trust with 10 mil. [00:36:04] Speaker A: Listen, people are different when they get money. [00:36:08] Speaker B: Then you shouldn't be with them. [00:36:09] Speaker A: But how do you know that if they've never had that amount of money before? [00:36:12] Speaker B: Then you shouldn't be with them. [00:36:13] Speaker A: But if you don't know that, if [00:36:15] Speaker B: you have to even question that, then you shouldn't be with them. [00:36:18] Speaker A: What if. Okay, so everything's going along great. We're all fine. Everything is sprinkles and unicorns and all that good stuff. And now he's got an opportunity to get like $10 million. Yeah, and then. [00:36:32] Speaker B: And then what? [00:36:33] Speaker A: I'm think in my head, yes, he's going to share with me. But what if he doesn't? [00:36:38] Speaker B: So see, you're already attacking the negative. [00:36:41] Speaker A: Yeah, like what? [00:36:42] Speaker B: But you should know. You should know this, man. [00:36:45] Speaker A: I should. [00:36:46] Speaker B: Exactly. So it shouldn't even be a question. 10 million to him, no question. See, but that's the skepticism in You. [00:36:57] Speaker A: Right? And it's. [00:36:58] Speaker B: See, that's the skeptic in you. [00:36:59] Speaker A: It's a trust thing. Like I want to trust. I do. Like I want to trust that you would share it with me. [00:37:05] Speaker B: Question. [00:37:05] Speaker A: I do want to trust that question. [00:37:07] Speaker B: Okay, you're in a relationship, right? [00:37:09] Speaker A: Okay, let's. [00:37:10] Speaker B: Let's go down this road. Follow me now. Okay, you're in a relationship, right? You love this man. He loves you, right? You believe this? Okay? You have given your time to him, right? He's given his time to you, right? You've given his body to him. You've given your body to him, right? You trust him with your time and your body, but you don't trust him with the money. [00:37:36] Speaker A: That's kind of hard because if we're not. Listen, isn't your. [00:37:41] Speaker B: Your time and your body are the two most priceless things. [00:37:44] Speaker A: It's. I'm not saying if it's not worth it. I'm not saying that at all. But that's not what that's. But that's not. [00:37:51] Speaker B: But that's the build up. Like if. If y' all are in a relationship, unless. Unless y' all are being abstinent and y' all not sharing the responsibilities and y' all not whatever then okay, but you have to trust yourself. [00:38:09] Speaker A: You do. [00:38:10] Speaker B: That's open up in that manner. [00:38:12] Speaker A: You're right. [00:38:12] Speaker B: Someone. [00:38:13] Speaker A: So I feel like. [00:38:14] Speaker B: So if you could open up in all the other ways, then it shouldn't even be a question. We in a relationship. Yeah. Give him the 10 million. I know he gonna do what's right. [00:38:27] Speaker A: The trust issues still. [00:38:31] Speaker B: How you have you done lay down with this man? How you got trust issues. [00:38:34] Speaker A: Listen, just because you lay down with a person, they can literally get up and walk out the next day. I've seen it happen. [00:38:40] Speaker B: But you have trusted them with you with the most precious thing you have. [00:38:46] Speaker A: You absolutely. And yet still. People will still do you dirty. It doesn't matter. It's happened. [00:38:56] Speaker B: So you have no faith. [00:38:58] Speaker A: I be wanting to. Not in these days and time, I don't. I do want to. I want to. I really do want to. [00:39:08] Speaker B: Like my man said, said just now man themselves. [00:39:14] Speaker A: I want to so bad. But people get a little crazy. They get a little money in their pocket. Like they. Oh, I know I said I was going to do this with this money, but now, like, I got it. We just. [00:39:25] Speaker B: We just got. We just came up. [00:39:27] Speaker A: But it's different if you say we. [00:39:29] Speaker B: I'm not. But they didn't say we, right? They said give him 10 miles or you take a meal. [00:39:36] Speaker A: Right. But then you're saying we. So if you're saying we, it should [00:39:39] Speaker B: instantly be in your mind. You should already be like, give me. Like, it shouldn't. It shouldn't even be. It shouldn't even be a question. It should be automatic to me. [00:39:48] Speaker A: Okay. So I feel like the last person that I was with in a relationship. Absolutely. I would trust. Yeah, I would trust him. [00:39:55] Speaker B: The dude that you just broke up with. [00:39:56] Speaker A: Yeah, I would trust him to do that. [00:39:58] Speaker B: Okay. [00:39:58] Speaker A: I really would. [00:39:59] Speaker B: Why y not still together then? [00:40:01] Speaker A: It's so long. We don't have that kind of time. We do not have that kind of time today. We don't. We just. I. We just don't have that kind of time. [00:40:15] Speaker B: Okay. You don't want to put it out there. [00:40:16] Speaker A: Yeah. I chose my piece. At the end of the day, I don't like chaos. I don't like drama. I don't like. I feel like I just can't do it. Like, you can't ask me to be your piece when you're the creator of chaos. [00:40:35] Speaker B: Solid. That's a bar. That is a bar. [00:40:39] Speaker A: Because. How dare you. How do you want. You want to be peaceful, but you don't think I want peace? [00:40:48] Speaker B: I don't think everybody desires peace. I think people, some people desire chaos. They cannot. They desire toxicity. [00:40:58] Speaker A: Right. [00:40:59] Speaker B: I don't like using the word toxic, so let me say chaos instead. I think, I hate using buzzwords, but, you know, I think people, some people function better in chaos. [00:41:12] Speaker A: Absolutely. Because it's always something going on and they need it. [00:41:15] Speaker B: And I think that the quiet. The quiet or the peace is something that they can't stand. So they'll self sabotage and put themselves in a position where they don't have the peace. And they turn around and they're 50 years old and they single and can't figure out why. [00:41:30] Speaker A: Yep. [00:41:31] Speaker B: And Holland about don't nobody want me when your soul mate probably happened 10, 15 years ago, but you screwed over. [00:41:38] Speaker A: Yeah. And you fumbled it. You know, situation. I'm going like, you know, you fumbled, so. [00:41:43] Speaker B: You fumbled the bag, so. [00:41:44] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:41:44] Speaker B: You know, one man's lost. [00:41:45] Speaker A: You had a chance to recover and you still. [00:41:48] Speaker B: Oh, he had a chance to recover. [00:41:49] Speaker A: You had a chance to recover and you still fumble. Hey, man, Crazy to me. [00:41:55] Speaker B: I ain't going to say that we on air, so. [00:41:57] Speaker A: I ain't going to say that right. So. But it. It's cool. [00:42:00] Speaker B: It's cool. [00:42:01] Speaker A: Yeah, it's cool. It's. [00:42:03] Speaker B: I. I'm Just waiting for you to come on air and be like, yeah, we back. [00:42:06] Speaker A: Nah, you. No, no, no. Okay, no. [00:42:12] Speaker B: All right. [00:42:12] Speaker A: Yeah, I told you. I'm going get me a little dog. [00:42:15] Speaker B: Okay, whatever. [00:42:16] Speaker A: So I'm get a little puppy and just chill out. [00:42:20] Speaker B: Last one. [00:42:23] Speaker G: What's crazy, though, Crazy, those women that care and watch how much money you spend and how much money you spending on them, they don't like you. Because a woman that likes you don't want you to spend all your money because she's mindful of the union and the partnership that y' all are building. [00:42:37] Speaker B: It is if. [00:42:38] Speaker G: If that woman is like, oh, like women that are like, oh, I need to get my. My hair and my nails done. Why is your hair and your nails not already done? This should be a lifestyle. Like, if you literally. It's one thing to be like, oh, yeah, because, you know, I have an appointment from here. I'm going to get my hair done. It's one thing to be like, oh, yeah, I have my hair appointment. I have zero expectation for a man to be like, oh, here you go. You gotta. [00:42:58] Speaker B: No. [00:42:59] Speaker G: Now if it happens, I love that for me, but it's not an expectation because it doesn't need to be. So I personally feel like us ladies, we got to get it together because it's that standard that's making men think it, think that the transaction is okay. We. We hold the standard. It's all up to us at the end of the day as women, you know, and we gotta stop being so doggone cheap. [00:43:18] Speaker B: We see that, we see the clips of like, oh, what you gonna do for me? What you gonna do for me? [00:43:22] Speaker A: Right? [00:43:22] Speaker B: Gonna do for me? [00:43:23] Speaker G: And then women will be like, well, I took my time to get ready. That man has time, too. He took time out of his day to make sure that he prepared something. Hopefully he put some effort in. It's not just going to a thing, but this is another thing too, for the ladies that are listening, or we got to be mindful that men with money. I'm doing air quotes right now. Men with money or real men with money, a lot of the times what they're doing is just what they do. You are not special. So someone may think, oh, my God, he flew me on a jet, or, oh, my God, he flew me first class. Or, oh, my God, we went to this five star restaurant, baby. That's what he does. You are not special. You insert girl here at this point, you know, So I feel like we got to get really clear on what does each side have to offer. Are you looking for a dating experience, which is fine, or are you looking for partnership in life? [00:44:14] Speaker B: Chose that clip. Just say you. [00:44:19] Speaker A: I agree with everything she said. [00:44:22] Speaker B: That blew my socks off. I didn't know that was coming. Hell, I didn't think that was going to be the answer that she gave. I thought we was going totally the other way. [00:44:31] Speaker A: I agree with everything she said. [00:44:32] Speaker B: You just got some cool points with me. [00:44:35] Speaker A: I, I feel like regardless, like, I feel like I'm going to have myself together for me because it's the way that I like to look and it's the way. So I'm not going to ask. Like she said, it's okay if I say, hey, you know, I got a hair appointment, you know, at such and such. I already made an appointment, so. So that means I already had the money if I already made the appointment. [00:45:02] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:45:02] Speaker A: Now if you like, hey, you know, how much does it get your hair done? And then like you said, Akasha, okay, I'm appreciative of that. But I don't need you to do that. I'm not expecting you to do that. Yeah, it's nice. I'm not gonna lie. I'm like, oh, thank you, baby. That was so sweet. And later you might, it might be a little bopping later now. Cause I'm like, he thought about me. I'm just saying, I'm like, okay, it [00:45:27] Speaker B: might pop a little bit. [00:45:27] Speaker F: Right. [00:45:28] Speaker A: I'm just saying, you know, But I think that, I think it's a sweet gesture, but I'm not expecting you to do that. [00:45:35] Speaker B: Okay. [00:45:35] Speaker A: It's not, it shouldn't be an expectation because you gotta keep yourself groomed. Like getting your hair done is part of self care. Yeah. Cleanliness is likes to godliness. [00:45:50] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:45:50] Speaker A: Like I'm gonna, I'm gonna have myself together again for not for a man, for me. Because I want to like the way that I look when I'm in the mirror, you know, So I don't, I should, I would never base how like pick out my clothes or outfits or whatever based on a man. I do that because I like the way that it looks on me. [00:46:16] Speaker B: Okay. [00:46:16] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:46:18] Speaker B: Well, I, I, I chose that one. I said, let me say this for last because I really want to see. [00:46:25] Speaker A: I thought I was going to debate that. Huh? [00:46:26] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:46:26] Speaker B: Yeah. And I guess I thought she was going to debate it. [00:46:29] Speaker A: And again. And maybe because at my age, I'm 46 now. [00:46:34] Speaker B: You keep bringing it up. [00:46:35] Speaker A: I am, I am 46 now. So I just, and believe it or Not. I have never, ever in life had a man take me on a shopping spree to just be like. Like, never in life. This is no lie. I'm saying this on air. We live. Like, I have never had a man. [00:46:59] Speaker B: Is that what you want? [00:47:01] Speaker A: Well, not really. I mean, I hadn't had it. [00:47:04] Speaker B: I mean, don't say no. I mean, you can't say I'm. [00:47:05] Speaker A: I mean, it would be cool. [00:47:06] Speaker B: You say. You saying you had. [00:47:08] Speaker A: Listen, it would be cool if somebody like, you know what, she never had it, like, hit me up. You know, hit. But I mean. Oh, she said dm, you know, hit me up. But I've never had that happen. So I don't know what it feels like. [00:47:21] Speaker B: Okay? [00:47:22] Speaker A: You know, so I can't expect it because I've never had it happen, you know, like a few things here and there. You know, like, I say, hey, I'm going here. Like, how much money you need? I'm like, oh, I don't. But it's not like I've never had a man, like, hey, you know, come pick me up. We're going somewhere for the weekend. Here, babe. Like, let's go in the store. Like, pick out what you want. [00:47:42] Speaker B: Like, you got to be in a relationship for that. Like, I'm not. I'm not. I'm not just going to. [00:47:47] Speaker A: Yeah, random. Well, I guess better never happen for me because I'm not in one. [00:47:51] Speaker B: I'm just saying we didn't. Hey, we on a date and I just give you the card and just go, hey, no. [00:47:56] Speaker A: I mean, no, I'm not. Definitely not expecting that. [00:47:58] Speaker B: We're not doing that. [00:47:59] Speaker A: Yeah, but I get it. I mean, buy me like, you know, pair of shoes or something. No. Okay. That's not a shopping spree, though. That's like a cute little gift. [00:48:10] Speaker B: Shoes is not a cute little gift. It is expensive. [00:48:14] Speaker A: It depends on what kind of like. Okay, so what do you call expensive [00:48:19] Speaker B: shoes? [00:48:21] Speaker A: All shoes are not expensive. [00:48:24] Speaker B: If you get. If you get actual sneakers. Like, well, I'm a sneaker head. [00:48:29] Speaker A: So if I like sneakers, too, I'm a Jordan 1 fan. [00:48:32] Speaker B: Jordans right now, at least if you get them when they drop. What you talking about? Maybe three easily. [00:48:41] Speaker A: Listen, I got a small foot. I wear a six and a half and boys so much. I wear kids shoes. So my shoes are not $300. I shop in the kids section. [00:48:53] Speaker B: Your shoes might not be 300. [00:48:54] Speaker A: See, that's why I was like, it's a cute little gesture. It's a kid's shoe. [00:48:59] Speaker B: It is not six is not a kid's shoe. [00:49:01] Speaker A: It's. I wear six and a half in boys. So I shop in Kid Foot Locker. My sons shout out to Katie and Ashton. They pick at me all the time because I shop at Kid Foot Locker. [00:49:14] Speaker B: All right, all right. [00:49:16] Speaker A: Well, I guess you're not going to see no shoes in Kid foot locker for $300. [00:49:20] Speaker E: Never. [00:49:21] Speaker B: I bought my. The worst thing ever is my son now wears a 8. It's the worst thing ever. And he's. And I have raised a sneaker head. So his mama bought. This will be the last thing. This boy. Mama bought him a pair of Jordans. Now, once again, I must reiterate. Lynn, love you. You my dog. Her boyfriend wears whatever. You don't really care. Good dude takes care of her. I ain't got no beef with you, Mike. You my dude, my dog. But the Jordans, they bought my son myself in the box. Daddy, I ain't wearing these. [00:50:08] Speaker A: What kind of Jordans were they? [00:50:10] Speaker B: Team Jordans. They what? They were the team Jordans. [00:50:14] Speaker A: Oh, my God. [00:50:15] Speaker B: He won't even. He won't even wear them to play basketball. That's how much of a sneak head he is. Like, he is so like, daddy, I can't wear these. [00:50:25] Speaker A: Oh, poor thing. [00:50:26] Speaker B: He's. He's such a sneaker head that he plays travel ball with a foreign Adidas team. So you got a bunch of Adidas tracksuits and all of that, but I haven't yet gone and bought him no Adidas sneakers that he just walk around in or whatever. [00:50:40] Speaker A: I like these. I got the cute little sambas. Look, cute. Those are so cute. And they're so comfortable. I like them. I got a cute little. What? [00:50:48] Speaker B: Nobody said anything. [00:50:50] Speaker A: Nah, you shaking. [00:50:51] Speaker B: Nobody said anything. [00:50:52] Speaker A: Nah, you didn't have to say it. You were shaking your head. [00:50:54] Speaker B: I said, did I shake my head for real? [00:50:56] Speaker A: Yes, you did. [00:50:57] Speaker B: No, I did not. I must have had out of body experience. [00:50:59] Speaker A: Didn't he shake his head? [00:51:00] Speaker B: Somebody else. He's off camera. [00:51:02] Speaker A: He don't count. [00:51:03] Speaker B: Do not try to bring him in. [00:51:05] Speaker A: You shook your head. [00:51:06] Speaker B: I don't think I did. [00:51:07] Speaker A: Yes, you did. [00:51:08] Speaker B: We going to have to run the tape back, and since we can't do [00:51:10] Speaker A: that, we going to have to, since [00:51:11] Speaker B: you can't do that right now. [00:51:12] Speaker A: Then you shook your head. [00:51:14] Speaker B: And when this comes out, it might be edited out. [00:51:17] Speaker A: I promise you. He shook his head when I said my cute little Adidas, my somber Adidas. He shook his head. And your eyes roll in the back of your head. They Gonna edit it out. [00:51:29] Speaker B: Okay, you did it. Crux Media. Edit that out in the post. Edit. Let's go ahead and get that out of there. But no, I mean, if they're cute, they're cute. But my son is such a fashion kid. [00:51:43] Speaker A: Gotcha. [00:51:43] Speaker B: He won't wear the tracksuits in the Adidas gear unless he got Adidas sneakers. [00:51:49] Speaker A: Oh, me neither. I'm not doing that either. [00:51:50] Speaker B: We're not mismatching. [00:51:52] Speaker A: No, I'm not doing that. [00:51:53] Speaker B: It has to be a lot. [00:51:54] Speaker A: Nah, I'm not mismatching. [00:51:55] Speaker B: We're not wearing Adidas with n. No, [00:51:57] Speaker A: I'm not doing that. [00:51:58] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. He. He. He's big, big on that. [00:52:02] Speaker A: Listen, I'm not doing that either. I promise you. I had. So it makes me my Michael Kors sneakers in the car, and I was like, I can throw these on. But then I had my coach bag, and I was like, I can't do that. So I just put on some regular flip flops on my coat and just call it that. I don't feel I'm on, like, a. What they say, Like a label hole. Like, and I got on the Michael Kors shoes, and I got a coach purse, and then I got a. [00:52:24] Speaker B: They call it a. Is that a label ho. [00:52:26] Speaker A: Yeah. It's like, oh, so you got on labels? Like, you a label. Oh, you only wear ladies. [00:52:30] Speaker B: I never knew that. [00:52:31] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:52:31] Speaker B: Like, I wasn't a label. Thank you for bringing me. Thank you for bringing me. [00:52:35] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:52:35] Speaker B: Because I was not aware that that was even a thing. [00:52:37] Speaker A: Yeah. And then a part of me, I was like, dang. Now I got on, like, Chanel perfume, [00:52:43] Speaker B: but don't nobody know what the perfect. [00:52:44] Speaker A: I know, but in my head, I'm like, dang. [00:52:47] Speaker B: So Michael Kors got a perfume. [00:52:49] Speaker A: I don't know, but I had on my Chanel. [00:52:51] Speaker B: So then you should have had a Chanel bag. Is that what you're saying? [00:52:53] Speaker A: I feel like I didn't have it that day. I was like, I had my cute coach purse, and I had like, I want to change my sneakers because I had on heels. [00:53:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:53:01] Speaker A: So I was like, my Michael Kors. I was like, dang, I can't put these on. I can't. [00:53:07] Speaker B: Yeah, it ain't gonna work. [00:53:08] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:53:09] Speaker A: I can't do that. Yeah. Wouldn't let me do it. [00:53:13] Speaker B: Oh, God. All right, we have reached the time to go. Tell me one thing you learned today. [00:53:26] Speaker A: I did. We. And I hate we didn't get on this topic. I did learn that men do lie. Just joking. I'm just joking. I have learned from you that you would not wear matching outfits. That kind of broke my heart a little bit. But it's okay. [00:53:43] Speaker B: I learned that you're not a label ho. So go ahead and tell the people how they can find you. [00:53:53] Speaker A: You can find me on Facebook under Chrissy Solomon. You can find me on Instagram @chrissy22. Hit me up. Inbox me. [00:54:02] Speaker B: She ain't gonna answer. [00:54:03] Speaker A: Why you say that? Don't do that. [00:54:05] Speaker B: I'm sorry. [00:54:07] Speaker A: God, you just. You don't want me to have nobody. That's what it is. [00:54:12] Speaker B: Listen, I'm not. I did not say, do not put that on me. You, like, put that on me. [00:54:18] Speaker A: Then people like, nah. He said, she ain't gonna answer. [00:54:21] Speaker B: Hey, listen, she'll answer, all right? [00:54:22] Speaker A: Don't do that. [00:54:22] Speaker B: She'll answer. She'll answer the DMs. [00:54:24] Speaker A: Yeah, don't do me like that. [00:54:25] Speaker B: She'll answer the DMs. YeahS. Yeah, just in person. She ain't going. She ain't gonna do nothing. 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