147th Lunch Date:

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Do you have a podcast that you're passionate about? Are you looking for a professional studio to help bring your vision to life? Then look no further than Crux Media Group Studios. Located at nine three West Evans street in Florence, South Carolina, Crux Media Group Studios is a full service podcast studio that offers recording, editing, consultation, live streaming, video recording and more. We have state of the art equipment and a team of experienced professionals who can help you create a podcast that is professional, polished, and engaging. Whether you're a first time podcaster or a seasoned pro, Crux Media Group Studios can help you take your podcast to the next level. Contact us today at 843-407-1673 to learn more about our services and to schedule a consultation. [00:01:03] Speaker B: Welcome back to relationship status. It's your girl, Nick Cruz, Cl Butler. [00:01:07] Speaker C: And your boy Yusuf in the building. And remember, you could catch us on all podcast platforms. Remember to like share, follow, and five star rate. And if you want to join the conversation, email us relstat [email protected] and don't forget, you could also catch us on relationshipsattispodcast.com. And we have a guest. As we all can see, Eddie Griffin is back again. [00:01:26] Speaker D: Recurring guest, recurring guest. [00:01:28] Speaker E: How y'all doing? [00:01:29] Speaker C: Good, doing good, doing good. Everybody doing well. [00:01:32] Speaker D: So we do. Featuring or starring when you have a recurring guest? No, we will be starring. She'll be featuring. [00:01:38] Speaker C: Okay, she's featuring. [00:01:39] Speaker E: Yeah. [00:01:40] Speaker C: So we go ahead and hop right into it. [00:01:43] Speaker D: Okay, we'll hop alone, but go ahead and do your thing. [00:01:47] Speaker C: We had a dear, neat letter straight off of the neat cruise page. My fiance cheated on me last year and I'm having a hard time letting go. We went on vacation with this woman, paid bills, and started shows with her that he wouldn't even watch with me. When I found out, he immediately cut her off and told me that she was just something different and that he got it out of his system. And to make matters worse, I looked her up. She's hurt by this entire situation. One side of me feels bad and wants to leave the relationship because of how. Because how can I love a man that does people like that? And the other side of me feels like she deserves it because why deal with a man that has a woman already? Then again, why would he if I'm already here? What else is in his system that will hurt me or others? I just wanted to get an outside opinion on this before I make my decision. Love undecided cl what would you like to tell? [00:02:45] Speaker B: I love how you go straight to. [00:02:49] Speaker C: I know you had symptoms well. [00:02:53] Speaker D: Why is she undecided? Is cheating her non negotiable? [00:02:58] Speaker C: It doesn't seem like it's a non negotiable. [00:03:00] Speaker D: Well, I believe if you're going to forgive, you got to forget, too. So you can't hold on to both things. You can't cry and pray. But you could pray and cry, but. [00:03:13] Speaker B: You can't cry and pray. But you can pray and cry. [00:03:17] Speaker D: Yeah. If you praying and you get into good with God, you start crying out. That's different than crying and praying because where's the faith? Yeah, where is it? So if you want to be in a relationship, be in a relationship, but you're going to have to forgive this. [00:03:31] Speaker C: Said person and forget. You got to forget that if you're going to stay with the person that's cheated, there's no way you can continue on without the trust and without you. Because you almost got to forget the. [00:03:41] Speaker D: Action if you're going to forgive them. [00:03:44] Speaker B: If you're going to accept it. [00:03:45] Speaker D: Yeah, you have to accept it. [00:03:48] Speaker C: I don't know if you have to accept. [00:03:49] Speaker D: I don't know what. Accept that they cheated or accept. [00:03:53] Speaker B: Accept the fact that they have cheated. This has happened and move on. [00:03:57] Speaker C: I think acceptance is different. Forgiveness. [00:03:59] Speaker D: Okay. So I want to give my ending version. That's what my ending version is. So you want everybody else's before we discuss. [00:04:04] Speaker C: Okay. In between, go with Eddie. [00:04:08] Speaker D: Eddie. What you got? [00:04:09] Speaker E: You want me to go? You came here for a reason. You know what you need to do. If it's been a year and you still on it, you need to go ahead and just let that go. You know what I mean? Of course you're still going to be affected by it. But the fact that it still has as much hold on you after a year means it was something that really affected you. And honestly, you stayed after he cheated. So what you fussing for? Let him cheat in peace. My girl. [00:04:47] Speaker B: Nick, I would tell her to leave. He spent money on another woman. He had emotions for another woman. He created experiences with another woman. He created a whole life with another woman. It's time to move on. [00:05:07] Speaker D: Okay. [00:05:08] Speaker B: Why do you say it like that? Tone? [00:05:11] Speaker D: Because there's no such thing as tone. But isn't that what you do when you experience someone else? He didn't do anything special that he don't do with anybody. Any woman he dates is going to have a life with. He's going to have his personal experiences. How is that like an indictment against him? [00:05:31] Speaker B: But if he's doing things with her that he's not doing with the writer. [00:05:37] Speaker D: You all are different people. You might not know how to swim. She might love swimming. So we might go to the gym and swim. [00:05:44] Speaker E: Well, that's why he need to go swim with her. [00:05:47] Speaker D: I'm not saying he does, I'm just saying I don't know how it's okay. Like they say, it's levels of cheating, which I agree with. But what I totally don't understand, because. [00:05:57] Speaker B: There'S a difference, she needs to figure out if cheating is a non negotiable for her. If it's not, then like Eddie said, let him cheat in peace. [00:06:05] Speaker E: Let him cheat in peace. [00:06:06] Speaker D: See, it was, well, he ain't cheating in peace. He would just break up. [00:06:08] Speaker B: No, she's just having to find out. [00:06:10] Speaker E: She's having to find out. [00:06:11] Speaker D: No, what I'm saying, if he wants to cheat in peace, then he needs to leave her alone. [00:06:16] Speaker E: No, he won't be cheating then. But if she's just going to hold on to this right here and keep going back and forth for a year. [00:06:27] Speaker C: So what you're saying just, you're saying pretty much like Nissan, just accept that that's what he does. [00:06:31] Speaker E: Yeah. Either leave him or accept that's what he does because you can't say that he will or won't do it again. You can't say that he's doing it right now and that's what's going to keep messing with your head. [00:06:41] Speaker D: Isn't that emotional terrorism? [00:06:43] Speaker E: That's emotional terrorism that she's putting herself through though. [00:06:46] Speaker C: Yeah, by staying. [00:06:46] Speaker E: That's what she, because she knows it's been a year and she's still, you know what I mean? [00:06:51] Speaker D: I mean, she hasn't decided to forgive him or stay. [00:06:54] Speaker E: Over a year she's been battling with, should I forgive this person or should I go on with my life for a year? Could you imagine that for a year torturing yourself like that? [00:07:04] Speaker D: I personally, no, I wouldn't torture myself like that. Well, I wouldn't even. Let me say, I don't have to catch you cheating if I thought you were cheating. I'll just break up with you. [00:07:14] Speaker B: Really? [00:07:15] Speaker D: Absolutely. [00:07:15] Speaker E: That's emotional torture. [00:07:16] Speaker D: I'm not putting myself through that. [00:07:18] Speaker E: She's putting herself through it. And at this point she has cried, she has fussed, and guess what? She's done? She's stayed. And so if you're just going to cry and stay, what did you stir this up for? That's my point. [00:07:29] Speaker D: So you're saying women should be quiet. [00:07:31] Speaker E: She should have just hushed because if you're just going to cry and stay. And now you got the right into here to do that. You knew what you were supposed to be doing, baby. You just wanted us to tell you. [00:07:44] Speaker B: She might be mad about something else, so now she's bringing this up. [00:07:46] Speaker E: Yeah, it could be a trigger, something that took her back. And if that's the case, baby, run. Because that means more than likely you getting the same vibe that you got before because there were signs. [00:08:01] Speaker B: Go ahead, cl. [00:08:03] Speaker D: No, I'm not quite sure about. [00:08:10] Speaker C: Well, to a point, he did stop cheating. [00:08:14] Speaker B: How did she know? [00:08:15] Speaker C: Like, he stopped 1 second. [00:08:17] Speaker D: You have to believe him. [00:08:18] Speaker E: Okay. And so if she took that step to say, well, he stopped cheating, then that means, you know, he stopped cheating. [00:08:24] Speaker B: What? [00:08:24] Speaker E: You hear again? What is this for? [00:08:28] Speaker C: Because like you said, she's torturing herself. She's torturing herself because she decided to stay. [00:08:33] Speaker E: To stay. [00:08:34] Speaker C: But I think Cl said it year one, and I totally agree with this statement, if you cheat, I cheat. I'm out. Because the trust is gone, and there's no way to get that back, no matter how much you say. You're going to forget about it, no matter how much you say. [00:08:47] Speaker E: Because anything can trigger that moment. [00:08:49] Speaker C: Because anything can trigger, can trigger that one moment. [00:08:53] Speaker E: He stays out late. That one time. He stays out late. [00:08:55] Speaker B: Doesn't answer. [00:08:56] Speaker E: He's been coming home this whole time. And that one time he stays back late, she is going to revert all the way back to that one situation, and now she's got to go through this trauma all over again. He's got to go through this trauma all over again. [00:09:12] Speaker C: And then a part in the letter that I didn't really understand was, why would you talk to yourself even more by going to seek out what the girl. [00:09:23] Speaker B: You said what some women like to hurt. [00:09:25] Speaker E: Yeah. And she feels like she's basking in that. By going to find the girl. Why would you reach out? Because if she's hurt, that means you engaged with this woman. Yeah. After he's already cut it off. If he cut it off, why would you have to go back behind him? [00:09:39] Speaker B: But some women do that for superior. I want to see what she looks like. [00:09:43] Speaker E: Yeah. [00:09:43] Speaker B: I want to feel like she's like, I'm better. Like, oh, he messed with some little ranky dank, and they're going to reach. [00:09:49] Speaker E: Out to find that she. [00:09:50] Speaker D: So they're trying to qualify the girl to see if they're better. [00:09:53] Speaker B: Some women do that. Yes, because they have to feel better about staying. [00:09:57] Speaker E: I want to see how she felt about him is what I get from it. And she's like, she's hurt by the whole situation. [00:10:02] Speaker D: What if you don't know what he's attracted to? You can like her. And her. [00:10:07] Speaker E: She's more turned up. [00:10:08] Speaker D: Of course, a woman going to find something. [00:10:10] Speaker E: She's of course, torn by the material things or the physical things he did with her, but she's really torn by the fact that the girl and she's hurt by this whole situation. Most women wouldn't care if she's hurt. I wouldn't care if she was hurt. I don't give a damn. You know what I mean? But she's like, I don't care if the other person's hurt. That ain't got nothing to do with me. [00:10:28] Speaker B: That's her hurt. [00:10:29] Speaker C: You talking about the fact that she brought up that the other girl. [00:10:34] Speaker D: So maybe the other girl was lied to also, right. [00:10:37] Speaker E: But she had to feel the need to go and see how emotionally invested this woman was. Why do you have to go that deep? So I feel like maybe she didn't have a clear boundary of what her non negotiables were, and maybe this was a non negotiable for her. But before, this is her fiance, and you know how much you got to. [00:10:59] Speaker D: Call off after, oh, that was her fiancee. [00:11:02] Speaker E: That's her fiance. So you know how much is going to change if we decide this is over. [00:11:06] Speaker B: I don't think cheating is a non negotiable for her, though. [00:11:09] Speaker E: I'm not sure. [00:11:09] Speaker B: I think the fact that she found out and the things that were done are kind of like she's embarrassed. [00:11:17] Speaker C: There's a thing that doesn't really matter, though. Like, he was with somebody else. It doesn't matter what they did. [00:11:23] Speaker E: Yeah, he was with somebody. [00:11:27] Speaker B: A lot of people feel like cheating is not a non negotiable. I had a whole status and I asked, is cheating a non negotiable? 90% of the women said no. [00:11:40] Speaker C: Yeah, but do you think that's just a circumstance of the pool or the dating pool? [00:11:47] Speaker E: Yeah, it's a dating pool. [00:11:48] Speaker C: Is that a circumstance of circumstances, dating? [00:11:50] Speaker E: Because a lot of them say that you're. Yeah. [00:11:53] Speaker D: Is it really that hard? [00:11:54] Speaker E: It's really that hard to date? [00:11:56] Speaker B: I don't know. I ain't out there no more. [00:11:58] Speaker D: I think we've all had to. [00:12:02] Speaker E: It really is. [00:12:03] Speaker D: Maybe I live in a different world. [00:12:04] Speaker E: People feel like they have to settle for things like that. Seriously. I'm so serious. I can't make this up. [00:12:10] Speaker D: What's so hard about okay, this is, I guess, a question away from the letter. What is so hard about dating? [00:12:21] Speaker C: I don't think, it's not the act of dating. It's the people that you find out there, too. [00:12:28] Speaker E: They make it too hard. Dating is supposed to be fun. [00:12:31] Speaker B: No. Now you got to test them to see if they. If you're bro, dating is supposed to. [00:12:35] Speaker E: Be fun and light hearted. [00:12:36] Speaker B: We're not dating more than having all these tough situations. [00:12:40] Speaker E: And we're dating because who is this. [00:12:42] Speaker B: Foe they pulling up to your. [00:12:45] Speaker D: How honest is the person coming to the dating? Because in some of the experiences I've had, the woman says she wants to date. Well, she don't really want to date. She wants somebody to date her. [00:12:56] Speaker E: Most people say they want to date and really just want to dive into a relationship, is what it typically seems it is. People say they want to date. [00:13:05] Speaker D: Is it the perception of a relationship or a real relationship? [00:13:09] Speaker E: This is the perception of it. People aren't living in reality at this. [00:13:12] Speaker D: Point, so they just want to take cool pictures. [00:13:14] Speaker E: They just want to take cool pictures. They think relationships are like, we taking cool pictures, we traveling, we grow relationships. [00:13:20] Speaker C: But I think that's more women than men. [00:13:22] Speaker E: Well, I don't know. Now I'm not a man. [00:13:24] Speaker B: I can't respond to that. I don't know on that one. [00:13:28] Speaker E: A lot of women over manasize want to post. Yeah, I got a man. [00:13:35] Speaker B: My man, my man, my man. [00:13:37] Speaker D: Well, just to quote case ducky, 75, right? 76. These new men made out of fiberglass. You know what I'm saying? So I don't know if it's all the women. I don't know if it's all the women. Some of these guys. Some of these guys go real hard in pictures. I'm like, wow. [00:14:01] Speaker E: Pictures. Or they'll ask you off the. [00:14:03] Speaker D: But they ask a girl to take a picture of them. [00:14:05] Speaker E: Go there. [00:14:05] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:10] Speaker E: Hookah. [00:14:12] Speaker D: That's wild. [00:14:12] Speaker B: Blowing the smoking on video. [00:14:14] Speaker D: That's wild. Okay. [00:14:17] Speaker B: With a filter. [00:14:18] Speaker D: Yeah. Because as mammals, usually the dominant males get to reproduce. Now everybody got a girl. I don't know. Dating is hard because I don't think people are honest. [00:14:39] Speaker B: I agree. [00:14:40] Speaker D: And I think this lies on the women. [00:14:43] Speaker B: No, I think it lies on both. I think people are not. [00:14:47] Speaker D: That's a cool answer. Both. Okay. [00:14:50] Speaker B: No, because I don't think. Well, when it comes to women, I think we lie to ourselves and men lie to us. [00:14:58] Speaker D: But if someone lies to you, you have to make a decision on whether you believe it or not. [00:15:03] Speaker B: But our delusion makes us believe it. [00:15:05] Speaker D: Then you're a liar. [00:15:06] Speaker C: That's what delusion is. [00:15:07] Speaker B: We're lying to ourselves. But then also men are lying to us. [00:15:10] Speaker E: But then I bought to say, you really can't control if the lies presented to you and they lie, you can't say, well, it's up to me to believe it. Because if I gave you my trust, because your trust bank account starts off full. So if I gave you my trust, I gave you 100% of that, and you decide to lie, you want to took away from that. I couldn't decide where I'm going to believe it. I took it as that truth. You were supposed to tell me the. [00:15:33] Speaker B: Truth, especially if you haven't shown me that you lie. [00:15:35] Speaker E: But the situation with this young lady right here, she needs to take her things and really, like, she needs to go. My advice to her would be to go because it's been a year. You've been torturing yourself for a year. For a year. [00:15:49] Speaker C: And she didn't say if he did cheat again, right. She's just still putting herself, putting herself through that hurt. So it's not even for him to leave her. [00:15:58] Speaker E: So can you even hurt around him and not think about it? Could you be around him and not think about it? [00:16:03] Speaker D: Why would you be around him? [00:16:05] Speaker E: Around him? [00:16:05] Speaker D: I'm saying like, oh, continue to date him. [00:16:08] Speaker E: Continue to date him. [00:16:09] Speaker C: Just stay with your fiance. [00:16:10] Speaker E: Just stay with him. Could you be around him now and not think about it? Because you're thinking about it. You know what I mean? You look at him, do you even see him the same way now? [00:16:18] Speaker D: I think you need time and space to really forgive someone. [00:16:21] Speaker E: Yeah. And he's right there in her face. She can't even process it. Process it correctly because he's right there. [00:16:27] Speaker D: So she should stop lying. [00:16:28] Speaker E: She should stop lying because she's going to consider his feelings and her thoughts and how she figures that out. And right now, she don't need to consider a damn thing. [00:16:36] Speaker D: A year later, you think she's considering his feelings? [00:16:38] Speaker E: She is because she's going to feel like she has to because he's right there. [00:16:43] Speaker B: But a year later and she's now bringing this up. Well, she's now having these feelings. Do you think he cheated again? [00:16:52] Speaker D: We just don't make up stuff we don't know. No, I don't. I think he learned his lesson and he's a gentleman now. He's honest and he's done everything he's supposed to do. [00:17:03] Speaker C: That's what we can go off. [00:17:04] Speaker D: No, we're making up anything? Yes. He stopped cheating. He learned his lesson. He didn't even want to cheat with that woman. [00:17:13] Speaker E: He got two of them now. [00:17:16] Speaker C: But that's the point. He didn't have to do anything to trigger her. Her waking up in the morning and look at him. At him triggers her. [00:17:24] Speaker B: I mean, it could. And then again, something else could have triggered. [00:17:30] Speaker D: Can women truly forgive? [00:17:32] Speaker B: No. [00:17:33] Speaker C: Okay, so on that note, I pulled a couple of comments. Casey said, sounds like he doesn't respect you or the relationship. The love is not present. How could he do all those things and still love? Oh, and claim it's out of his system. Find out why you're accepting this kind of treatment. That may help you decide your next move. Tara said you may need to find another source of counseling. There's no way I'm going to torture myself when I'm supposed to be working on myself. True, these have totally invaded your space. True, these two have totally invaded your safe space. And that's effed up. But for the sake of my own sanity, I would leave. What are you trying to prove to someone who is clearly too mental dependent on you to function in a relationship? [00:18:26] Speaker D: What does that mean? [00:18:27] Speaker B: I don't know. I thought I was dumb because. [00:18:29] Speaker E: What? Where did that go? [00:18:35] Speaker C: I think she went into her own. [00:18:36] Speaker E: This is what happens when you put those people on the same Internet as everybody else. [00:18:40] Speaker D: Oh, wow. Okay. [00:18:41] Speaker E: We didn't even have lunch together. [00:18:43] Speaker D: Okay. [00:18:46] Speaker C: Ibrahim said, eb shouts out to. Because this sounds like something I did. Who wrote this letter? But definitely choose yourself. If monogamy is what you want, clearly you're not going to get it here. And he's speaking from experience. [00:19:07] Speaker B: Yeah, speaking from experience. [00:19:08] Speaker E: Because I'm telling you, he got two of them right now, and they bad. [00:19:11] Speaker B: That's why I said he cheat again. To make her something. To make her feel this. To bring this back up. Particular situation. [00:19:20] Speaker D: If you all could follow me for a second. Now, would the woman feel this way if he had just merely went out with the woman? Not out, say he just slept with her? Or does she feel like he's more invested because he spent time with her? [00:19:36] Speaker E: Yeah. [00:19:37] Speaker D: So could she get over a one night stand quicker than she probably has a relationship? [00:19:42] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. I wonder if it's been multiple girls. [00:19:46] Speaker D: And it was just not multiple girls. He didn't cheat. He stopped. He stopped. Anyway, I answered your question. He stopped. He don't cheat no more. [00:19:55] Speaker B: You interrupted me. [00:19:56] Speaker D: He don't cheat no more. [00:19:58] Speaker E: Yes, he do. [00:19:59] Speaker D: No, he don't. He does not cheat. [00:20:04] Speaker B: You made me lose my whole train of thought. [00:20:06] Speaker D: I'm just saying. [00:20:08] Speaker B: But no, I said, maybe he's been out there sleeping with other women. And then this one particular woman he started spending money on. [00:20:16] Speaker D: Okay, so that's more of an indictment if he spent money on her. [00:20:21] Speaker B: Spent time money. [00:20:22] Speaker D: Well, sometimes you spend money because the person's with you, not because you spend it money. [00:20:26] Speaker B: He paid bills. [00:20:27] Speaker D: I didn't hear him say anything about bills. [00:20:31] Speaker C: Yeah, she said he paid. [00:20:32] Speaker D: Okay, what's the bill? Cable bill. [00:20:34] Speaker C: Who ain't got a little cable money? [00:20:35] Speaker D: I watch cable at your house. Little Netflix. What woman you gonna deal with? You don't spend money on that. Just comes with cheating. [00:20:42] Speaker B: A lot of women you don't have to spend. [00:20:44] Speaker D: I wouldn't know anything about that. [00:20:45] Speaker E: Some women. [00:20:48] Speaker B: You can get her in the car and do got to go far. [00:20:51] Speaker E: You had to put gas in. You got to do that. [00:20:54] Speaker D: Okay. [00:20:55] Speaker E: You had to put something in. [00:20:58] Speaker D: I hope we talk about a group of 18 year olds who still grown women. [00:21:04] Speaker E: I just feel like. Okay, I think she feels this way. Just like when men. When men say about women when they cheat, like, we're more emotionally invested. [00:21:18] Speaker D: Emotionally invested. You just come with the earth. Emotionally invested. You are terrible. [00:21:24] Speaker E: Yeah. When women cheat, they're like, if a woman's cheat, she's emotionally invested with that man. That's the assumption. You get what I'm saying? Yeah. [00:21:31] Speaker D: You like them, right? [00:21:32] Speaker B: That you like them. [00:21:33] Speaker E: And I think with him doing all that, she felt like he liked her. [00:21:37] Speaker D: But men are not necessarily emotionally invested because they spent money. It's just easier to spend money. [00:21:42] Speaker E: But that's what she probably felt like based on his action. He does that with her as well. [00:21:47] Speaker D: Well, I'm telling. I'm giving women advice. Now, sometimes you can fast track the actions of having sex with spending money. Sometimes you want to fast track it. Like, I'm going to get caught, so let me get as much as I can. [00:21:59] Speaker E: I get it. I get it. But I think that she's equating that because he paid, probably paid. If he's paying her bills, he paid her bills. Okay, this time I want to know what she's valuation. [00:22:10] Speaker B: They went on. [00:22:11] Speaker D: So are you telling me women value more when you spend money on them? [00:22:14] Speaker E: No, that's what she feels like. [00:22:16] Speaker D: She paid bills, but she's offended by that also. [00:22:19] Speaker E: She's offended by it because he also does that for her. So she wants to know what makes. [00:22:24] Speaker D: Oh, she thought she was special. [00:22:26] Speaker E: She thought she was special? [00:22:27] Speaker D: No. Other woman like money? [00:22:28] Speaker E: No, I mean, it's not even that. [00:22:31] Speaker B: That's why she went to find. [00:22:33] Speaker E: Why would he do that for her? He's doing this for me. [00:22:36] Speaker B: What makes her so special? [00:22:38] Speaker D: What makes you special? [00:22:40] Speaker B: The same thing I keep saying. That drug, the biggest drug a man can give a woman is making her feel special. Once you make a woman feel special, you can make her do anything. [00:22:51] Speaker D: That's not true. [00:22:52] Speaker B: That is true. That's coming from a woman. [00:22:55] Speaker D: I know a lot of men who try to make women feel special. They'll be like, no, but you have. [00:22:59] Speaker B: To know how to make her feel special. She actually has to like you. [00:23:02] Speaker D: The woman has to. That's the first thing. If she likes you, she's going to make you feel special. Special enough to encourage you to do things for her. [00:23:12] Speaker E: That's true. [00:23:12] Speaker B: Once you tell her, yeah, I ain't did this with nobody else ever. [00:23:16] Speaker E: She needs to run though, this girl. Go get you some peace of mind. Go to sleep too, because she probably ain't sleeping. [00:23:22] Speaker D: She's not sleeping. [00:23:23] Speaker E: Food, because she probably ate since last year. Okay, I know she's sick. [00:23:27] Speaker D: You think so? [00:23:28] Speaker E: She'sick. She's still sick. [00:23:31] Speaker C: No, that's it. That's it for the comments. So everybody says the same advice. She needs to go. [00:23:38] Speaker E: What's your final run for the heels. [00:23:40] Speaker C: What's my final thoughts on that? [00:23:46] Speaker D: If she can't forgive them, which I don't see her being able to, she probably should just move on. But if you want to stay, stay because it's a free can. Do what you want to do. I don't know why you would ask me for advice, Eddie. [00:24:10] Speaker E: Run. [00:24:11] Speaker C: Okay. [00:24:12] Speaker E: Run for the heels. [00:24:15] Speaker B: Do whatever helps you sleep at night. [00:24:19] Speaker D: This person is literally getting no advice. Run. Go to sleep. Run. Go to sleep. Run for the heels. [00:24:26] Speaker B: As soon as you tell a woman to leave their cheating as man, the first thing they're going to be like, people be hating. [00:24:32] Speaker D: Well, why you all like that? [00:24:34] Speaker B: Do whatever helps you sleep at night. If leaving helps you sleep, leave. If staying helps you sleep. [00:24:43] Speaker D: It sounds like she just wants to possess somebody. [00:24:45] Speaker E: She slept for 2 hours a night since last year. She needs to leave, get you some sleep. [00:24:52] Speaker B: Well, what about you? We don't get to skip over you. [00:24:56] Speaker C: Oh, no, we're not skipping over me. I'm going to say, like everybody else, I don't see why you would stay. Don't stay and torture yourself. Like, just don't stay and torture yourself. [00:25:06] Speaker D: Could you forgive someone? [00:25:07] Speaker C: No. That's why I wouldn't stay. [00:25:09] Speaker D: Would you want someone to forgive you? [00:25:11] Speaker C: No, that's why I wouldn't stay. [00:25:14] Speaker D: Yes. [00:25:14] Speaker C: Because I know there is no forgiveness. [00:25:18] Speaker E: I have a question. [00:25:19] Speaker C: There's no true forgiveness to that action. [00:25:21] Speaker B: I have a question. Because the two of you keep saying if you ever cheated on somebody that you would leave them because you cheated on them, why cheat in the first place? Why not just leave them off? [00:25:32] Speaker D: That would be the right thing to do. [00:25:34] Speaker B: Yeah, why not just leave? [00:25:35] Speaker D: But that's why I use the term if I wouldn't. But if I did, I would break up with them, especially if I got caught. [00:25:43] Speaker B: No, I mean, I'm talking about before you got caught. [00:25:45] Speaker D: Oh, no. You got to get caught. Break up with them, telling yourself, we're not snitching. [00:25:51] Speaker B: Why not just break up? Why cheat altogether if you're going to break up with them because you cheated? [00:25:55] Speaker D: Well, I think cheating a little bit is just a bit of greed or sometimes men cheat merely just because of the opportunity. You got two women that really like you. What I'm going to do, and they both look good. They both are what I like. And if I could get away with it, not me, cl personally get away with it, but if the person could get away with it, sometimes it's easy to try to get away with it, but a lot of times people cheat because they're not committed fully. Some people are in a relationship, but they're not committed to the relationship. [00:26:31] Speaker E: And if that's the case, you stay single. Just stay single. It's okay. It is okay. [00:26:36] Speaker D: It's okay for women because you have options thrown at you every day. Men don't have that luxury. There's a certain class of men, but single. [00:26:43] Speaker E: What I'm saying is just be single. [00:26:44] Speaker B: So men lie because they don't have options? [00:26:47] Speaker D: Men lie because they don't have options. I think men lie because they don't have options. [00:26:53] Speaker C: No, because you're saying. You mean to say men cheat because they don't have options. [00:26:58] Speaker B: Men cheat and lie because they don't have options. I'm asking a question. [00:27:01] Speaker D: No, it's when you do have. [00:27:03] Speaker B: We stay single because we have options out there. [00:27:07] Speaker D: No, I think a woman can literally walk out on the street any day of the week, throw a rock and get a man. I'm not saying it's when you like or when you want, but right now that's not true. [00:27:18] Speaker B: Yeah, I feel like men can be with any woman. [00:27:21] Speaker D: No, that's totally not true. [00:27:23] Speaker B: Any man. [00:27:24] Speaker D: It's not an equal playing field. [00:27:25] Speaker C: In that regard at all. [00:27:27] Speaker D: I bet you this, if we walk out into that street right now and I stand side that street with my thumb out, I'm going to be out my thumb out a while. You might be out there 20 minutes, somebody be like, well, this woman looks like she's in need. It might even be a woman like, that's a woman like me. A man, he ain't robbing me because that's what I'm saying. I'm a drive right by. I might switch lanes. It's a completely different playing field for men and women. Now, women think it's equal because a woman might give a man time, but you're more likely to find. I think it's easier for a woman to find a man, especially if she don't have this crazy standards list. Sometimes you got to work with who want to work with you and then have a standard. Yeah. You got to kiss some frogs first. Can't go straight to the prince. So men have less options, I think, in that regard. [00:28:21] Speaker B: I don't think so. [00:28:22] Speaker E: Okay. [00:28:23] Speaker D: I think that not all men, but I would say more regular men. [00:28:28] Speaker B: I think just some men just disregard the options that they do have. [00:28:32] Speaker D: No. And usually, I'm not saying this because I know it's usually some unattractive women that will get with you immediately that you really don't want. Like you don't want no parts. [00:28:43] Speaker B: Exactly. That's what I'm saying. [00:28:46] Speaker C: You're not going to be with somebody that you're not attracted to. [00:28:51] Speaker D: I think it's harder for a man to date an unattractive woman than it's for a woman to date an unattractive man because he might do something well. [00:28:57] Speaker B: He might do something well. [00:28:59] Speaker D: Like what? [00:28:59] Speaker C: I ain't going. [00:29:02] Speaker D: She can't take it. What she got money from? You got scratch on what you got? [00:29:06] Speaker B: You never know. She might come from money. [00:29:07] Speaker D: Okay. If she comes from money, then that's a lower percentage. Yeah, very low percentage. Women have a higher percentage of finding that. [00:29:17] Speaker C: And she's probably in. So an ugly woman, she's probably running in the circle. [00:29:20] Speaker D: I say unattractive, she's not ugly. You just may not be attracted to her. [00:29:24] Speaker B: Okay. [00:29:26] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:29:26] Speaker C: Well, Eddie, thank you once again. [00:29:30] Speaker D: When's your next show? What you think about all this comedian beef out. [00:29:39] Speaker E: It. [00:29:39] Speaker D: You love it. Okay. All right. [00:29:41] Speaker C: Thank you for joining us again. We appreciate you. Anytime you could. Come on. Tell people how they can find you. [00:29:46] Speaker E: You can find me on Facebook at Eddie Griffin. Please don't find me anywhere. [00:29:53] Speaker D: I'm going to be manning the relationship status page. So any dms, anything, you just send it to the relationship status page. Nothing? [00:30:04] Speaker C: How can they find you? [00:30:05] Speaker B: They can't. Go ahead. [00:30:06] Speaker D: Okay. [00:30:07] Speaker C: You can find me on Instagram and Snapchat at the 9th wonder on Facebook. Yoshi English on Twitter at I am coachy underscore. Till next time, y'all. [00:30:16] Speaker D: Be better if you said one name. [00:30:18] Speaker C: I tried and I can't get the nice wonder. I tried that and it just. Not across all platforms. I couldn't get. [00:30:25] Speaker D: You could get Yoshi English on all platforms. [00:30:27] Speaker C: No, couldn't really. [00:30:29] Speaker D: Just put a number behind it. [00:30:31] Speaker C: I don't want to put a number. I think that'd be whack. [00:30:33] Speaker D: Like Yoshi English 29 and you think Yoshi english coach e 9th wonder is cool? I think that's better. [00:30:42] Speaker B: All right, let's write thank you all for listening. It's your girl, Nick. [00:30:49] Speaker F: Thank you for listening to another episode of relationship status. Remember, you can catch us on relationshipstatuspodcast.com, iTunes, Google podcast, iHeartRadio, Spotify, Pandora, Amazon Music, nobody grinds like us. And anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. 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