November 08, 2023


143rd Lunch Date: We Asked About The Pineapple

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Yusuf In The Building C.L. Butler Nique Crews
143rd Lunch Date: We Asked About The Pineapple
Relationship Status Podcast
143rd Lunch Date: We Asked About The Pineapple

Nov 08 2023 | 00:28:04


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Hosts: C.L. Butler, & Yusuf 

In this episode, the crew gets into the intricate world of relationship dynamics, exploring the question of whether one should fight for a relationship or let it naturally run its course. 

The episode begins with a real-life scenario that many can relate to, a relationship where one partner lets themselves go, and the other reaches a breaking point. The team analyzes the situation and debates who holds responsibility for the deterioration of the relationship, providing valuable insights into the dynamics of love and commitment.

The conversation takes a turn as they discuss the idea of "fighting" for a relationship. Is it about having difficult conversations, changing behaviors, or simply letting go when the time is right? Nique provides a fresh perspective, highlighting the importance of making improvements for both individuals' sake.

The crew engages with their listeners by reading comments, revealing a spectrum of opinions on the topic. From those advocating for fighting for love to those who prioritize personal growth and letting go, the variety of viewpoints adds depth and dimension to the conversation.

In the end, the team and participants agree that the answer to whether one should fight for a relationship is far from black and white. It's about recognizing when change is possible, understanding what's worth preserving, and respecting individual choices. This episode provides valuable insights into the complex world of relationships, offering listeners a compelling journey through the intricacies of love, commitment, and personal growth.

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[00:00:00] Speaker A: You. [00:00:00] Speaker B: Do you have a podcast that you're passionate about? Are you looking for a professional studio to help bring your vision to life? Then look no further than Crux Media Group studios. Located at nine Three West Evans Street in Florence, South Carolina, crux Media Group Studios is a full service podcast studio that offers recording, editing, consultation, live streaming, video recording, and more. We have state of the art equipment and team of experienced professionals who can help you create a podcast that is professional, polished, and engaging. Whether you're a first time podcaster or a seasoned pro, crux Media Group Studios can help you take your podcast to the next level. Contact us today at 843-407-1673 to learn more about our services and to schedule a consultation. [00:01:03] Speaker C: Welcome back to relationship status. [00:01:05] Speaker D: It's your girl, Nick Cruz, CL Butler, and your boy. Youssef in the building. And remember, you could catch us on all podcast platforms as well as If you want to join the conversation, email us, relstat [email protected] and don't forget to, like, follow Share five star rate. What's going on, peoples? It's a great hump day. How are we doing? [00:01:28] Speaker A: You talking to us. [00:01:30] Speaker C: Hump day. [00:01:31] Speaker A: Okay. It's good. I got some unexpected, surprisingly good news. [00:01:38] Speaker C: That is would you like to share? [00:01:40] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:01:40] Speaker D: What is it? [00:01:43] Speaker A: The cinnamon raisin is back at Hardee's. [00:01:46] Speaker C: Really? [00:01:46] Speaker D: Cinnamon raisin biscuit is back? [00:01:48] Speaker A: They went away from it. They went to just a cinnamon yeah, me neither. But it played a very integral part in my childhood growing up. Going to get breakfast with my uncles and my dad sometimes. [00:02:01] Speaker D: So it's nostalgic. [00:02:03] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:02:03] Speaker A: And I used to always get one. I never really finished it, but I was a little disappointed when I took it off the menu, and it made me look at Hardee's funny. But now we back aligned, and we're back. I'm thankful that they decided to bring it back. You never had something you just thought. [00:02:20] Speaker D: Of that just and then you seen it. Yeah. [00:02:24] Speaker A: So maybe I could be the CEO. [00:02:25] Speaker C: Hardee's no, I feel like that with bojangles and their wings. [00:02:29] Speaker A: Okay, tell us. [00:02:30] Speaker D: Oh, those bojangles wings is and they. [00:02:33] Speaker C: Took them away, and I think they bought them back. [00:02:35] Speaker D: Yeah, they're back. [00:02:36] Speaker A: Whole wings. [00:02:37] Speaker D: Or is it no, I'm talking about the cut wings. They got now they got cut wing with that bojangle. [00:02:43] Speaker C: You talking about the whole no, like yeah, it's the cut wing. [00:02:46] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:02:47] Speaker A: Well, we are talking about a chicken spot. Hardee's is not a cinnamon raisin spot. No, it's not even not in the same vein. [00:02:54] Speaker C: No, but they used to way back, like, I was in high school, and then all of a sudden, they just stopped. [00:03:01] Speaker A: I don't know. I don't really eat bojangles. [00:03:03] Speaker D: Yeah, and I didn't eat bojangles until I came here, so I didn't even. [00:03:07] Speaker A: You'Ve only been here for 35 years. [00:03:09] Speaker D: No, they haven't had new York people. [00:03:12] Speaker A: Kill me with that. You haven't been in new York in 40 years, bro. [00:03:17] Speaker C: I've been here for 30. [00:03:19] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:03:19] Speaker D: I haven't been here for 30. [00:03:20] Speaker A: I got a friend who was in 6th grade with me, and he's still talking about he's from New Jersey. [00:03:25] Speaker C: You not yeah, I'm not from South Carolina, but I was definitely raised here. [00:03:31] Speaker A: Okay. I'm going to let you all have. [00:03:33] Speaker D: It, but sometimes I ain't been here 30 years. When I've been here 30 years, then we can make that statement. But I have not been here 30. [00:03:38] Speaker C: How long you been here? [00:03:39] Speaker A: 27 and a half. [00:03:41] Speaker D: No, I've been here 22 years. 22 years? [00:03:44] Speaker A: Oh, wow. That's no better. [00:03:45] Speaker C: Yeah, but I was an adult when. [00:03:48] Speaker D: I came here, so it's not like I was here in the fifth grade. [00:03:50] Speaker A: So what does that mean? [00:03:51] Speaker C: I was hearing that I was in Miami in second. [00:04:01] Speaker D: I do claim South Carolina, so it's not like I'm sitting there going no, I'm just saying, for as long as I've been here, they didn't have the wings till just now. [00:04:12] Speaker A: It's a chicken place. How they don't have wings? [00:04:14] Speaker D: They did not sell the cut wings like they're selling now. [00:04:18] Speaker C: I can understand. [00:04:18] Speaker A: So you eat drummets? [00:04:21] Speaker D: I eat the flat, but it's drummettes. [00:04:23] Speaker C: Yeah, slats. [00:04:24] Speaker D: It's the only ones I eat. If I order all flats, I should. [00:04:29] Speaker A: Call CPS on you. [00:04:30] Speaker D: Call whoever you want to call. [00:04:35] Speaker A: Okay. [00:04:36] Speaker C: We asked about the pineapple, too. [00:04:39] Speaker A: Yeah. What? I don't know what she talking about. I don't know what she's talking about. I have nothing to do with this. I have nothing to do with whatever. I don't have nothing to do with this. [00:04:52] Speaker C: I was trying to say go for you. [00:04:53] Speaker A: No, I don't have nothing to do with this personally. So this I was just talking about Simmons Raisins just having that doom we'll have the offline. [00:05:04] Speaker D: Amir didn't back me up. [00:05:05] Speaker C: No, not at all. [00:05:06] Speaker A: I don't know what you talking about. I don't even know nobody named Amir. [00:05:10] Speaker C: Whatever he was no, I don't eat that at all. [00:05:15] Speaker D: Whatever. [00:05:18] Speaker C: Anyway, he didn't even know what we were referring to. Just like yeah, exactly. [00:05:23] Speaker D: And then if you point it out to him and say, hey, so did you eat this on that day? He'll go, oh, yeah, I did. [00:05:28] Speaker C: No, he said he don't like fish at all. [00:05:30] Speaker D: What fish? Oh, I didn't say the salmon. [00:05:33] Speaker A: I said the chicken. [00:05:34] Speaker C: Okay. [00:05:35] Speaker D: Yeah, exactly. [00:05:36] Speaker C: But he did say that he might have had that. He just don't remember. And he was young. Memory. Yeah. [00:05:42] Speaker A: Anyway, memory. [00:05:44] Speaker D: Let's move on to these questions. [00:05:45] Speaker A: Yeah, please get somebody in trouble. [00:05:47] Speaker D: Oh, ain't nobody getting in trouble. [00:05:49] Speaker A: I know I'm not. And I am not even I know I'm not. [00:05:52] Speaker D: Like I said, Big C. I stand by what I throw. So we're going to cover a couple of questions that we posted on our social media. And that first question is I'm trying to pull it up. It evaded me. First question was if you really love your significant other, would you fight to get them back? [00:06:18] Speaker A: Okay. [00:06:20] Speaker C: I want to start this a little bit. [00:06:23] Speaker A: If you really love your significant other, why they left. Yeah. And what did you do to make that person do that? You didn't love the person then, or you just realized you love them now. [00:06:33] Speaker D: What's up? For some people, that's what happens. They don't realize how much they love a person till they gone, so then. [00:06:38] Speaker A: They probably don't love the person. They just miss their presence, the routine. [00:06:44] Speaker C: But when I personally, like, if you're in a relationship, if I cause the breakup, I probably do a little fuss and a little try to get back, but outside of that, no. [00:06:57] Speaker A: Okay. [00:06:57] Speaker C: What does that mean, if I caused them to want to leave the relationship? [00:07:06] Speaker A: So is that what fighting for the. [00:07:08] Speaker C: Relationship is like, trying to do something to make them want you back or reconsider their decision? [00:07:16] Speaker A: So you're begging, basically. [00:07:18] Speaker D: Begging? [00:07:18] Speaker A: Is that what fighting is? Begging? [00:07:20] Speaker C: Yeah. You're begging them for them back? [00:07:21] Speaker A: Baby, baby, please. I'm not like Theo. Yeah. No, I'm not. Would you I don't even know what that term means. Really? I know what it suggests, but I don't know what it means. I'm fighting for our relationship. What am I fighting? I understand. What am I fighting for? And how are you fighting? I'm fighting for you not to quit on us. [00:07:41] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:07:42] Speaker A: Why would you do that? [00:07:44] Speaker C: But I don't know what that looks like either, because and the reason why I say I don't know what that looks like is because you don't know. [00:07:53] Speaker A: What it looks like? [00:07:53] Speaker C: No, because if you're doing everything you're supposed to be doing in a relationship, what outside? [00:07:58] Speaker A: Nobody can do that to do. Nobody can do that. [00:08:01] Speaker C: So what does that really look like? [00:08:02] Speaker A: But nobody can do that because what you need in a relationship varies and changes. So nobody can do everything they're supposed to do. [00:08:09] Speaker C: It's like, now you're sending me flowers every week, and that was something. You sent me flowers once a month. [00:08:15] Speaker A: Typical woman. Why are you sending me flowers every day now instead of just accepting the. [00:08:18] Speaker D: Accepting that it's being given? [00:08:20] Speaker A: Yeah. Why is he doing this? [00:08:22] Speaker D: He must have done something. [00:08:24] Speaker C: No, I'm saying, like, well, at this point, if he's fighting for the relationship, it could have been like a once in a blue moon. [00:08:30] Speaker A: If you fight for the relationship, don't send her nothing. [00:08:33] Speaker C: Oh, okay. [00:08:34] Speaker A: You got to take me back on my own terms at my lowest. And if she don't take you back that way, you're going to be paying a cost you cannot afford the rest of your relationship. That's too high of a price. [00:08:46] Speaker C: That's why I said, what does that look like? Because what are you going to do outside of your relationship that you're not going to be able to keep like that? You're going to be able to keep up. [00:08:54] Speaker A: You said if you pose a question, you know what fighting for a relationship. [00:08:56] Speaker D: Is, you all covering it. Fighting for a relationship. What does that mean, fighting for a relationship? [00:09:02] Speaker A: I'm saying I wouldn't do nothing, so maybe I'm not fighting. [00:09:05] Speaker D: That could be it. It could be that you're not going to fight. [00:09:08] Speaker C: It's different for everybody. [00:09:09] Speaker D: Yeah, because some people just say, like, look, the relationship has run its course, or whatever's happened has caused the breakup, whether it's cheating, whether it's being taken for granted, there's many reasons why people get out of the relationship. And then, like you said, the person may not have loved the person in that moment, but then they have this realization where they feel like they love them, but it's not that. It's the missing of the companionship more. [00:09:30] Speaker C: Than anything else or even not that they didn't realize they love them. They probably do love them and didn't realize because some people get comfortable in relationships and they stop doing things they used to do, or people change. And where we used to go and do fun things together, it's like doing I'm just going to sit home. It used to be fun. [00:09:54] Speaker D: I don't know. [00:09:56] Speaker C: I still love you. I don't love you anymore, any less. But I didn't mean to lose you based off of I became complacent. [00:10:04] Speaker A: Yeah, you can lose people by being complacent. [00:10:08] Speaker D: What's the saying? Whatever you did to get them, you got to keep them, continue to do to keep them. [00:10:12] Speaker A: That ain't true. [00:10:12] Speaker C: Well, I mean, if we're having fun together, when I say fun, it could be just us taking walks. [00:10:19] Speaker A: But what if I think I'm having fun with you and you're not having. [00:10:21] Speaker C: But if you stop taking the walks, that we just like something simple like that, like, oh, let's go for a. [00:10:25] Speaker A: Walk today, so you break up. You don't just say, let's start back walking. [00:10:29] Speaker C: But if they're telling you, like, hey, let's go for a walk, and like, I don't feel like that. I'm just going to sit in the house. [00:10:34] Speaker A: Well, why can't you ask for an explanation or say, listen, these walks mean this to me, and I would like to continue, and I know you don't always if you're physically able, I would want you to continue the walks. [00:10:49] Speaker C: And some people be like, I still don't feel like it. [00:10:52] Speaker A: So then you have to fight for your relationship. [00:10:54] Speaker C: I don't want to do it. No, they're not fighting for the relationship. They may just say, okay, well, I'm done with the relationship, because you don't want the things we used to do anymore. Like, you're just sitting in the house and we're not doing anything. We're not experiencing life together. We're just sitting here looking at each other in the face. So I'm going to go off and maybe we've grown apart. Not cheat. You don't have to go out and cheat. You could just be like, okay, we're in a place where we're going our separate ways. And a lot of times that may put some spark under people, like, okay, maybe I did become a little lazy. Maybe I did. [00:11:29] Speaker A: So do you threaten them with leaving? [00:11:31] Speaker C: You don't threaten. You leave. [00:11:33] Speaker A: Oh, Jesus. [00:11:34] Speaker D: Okay. [00:11:35] Speaker C: And then that's when it turns into you fighting for somebody that you love because you truly love that person. [00:11:42] Speaker A: But if you voluntarily leave, especially without helping me understand why you're leaving, shouldn't I just let you go? [00:11:51] Speaker C: Yes, but people are going to only understand from their perspective. They see nothing wrong, and you're still there. Sometimes they don't see a problem just because you do. They'll say it's your problem. [00:12:03] Speaker A: Some things are your problem. [00:12:04] Speaker C: Yeah, so I solved my problem. [00:12:06] Speaker A: I left so it would make no. [00:12:09] Speaker D: Sense to fight then there's no sense. [00:12:10] Speaker C: To fight, but they're not fighting. The person that got left is fighting. [00:12:14] Speaker D: No. Yeah. No, I think that the person that has been left, I think that you have to realize when there's no reason to fight and repo yourself and then start to go a different direction and let that person go. Because we sometimes get so caught up in the fight that we end up wasting our own time with somebody who doesn't want to be with you anymore for whatever reason. Whether you cheated, whether they cheated, whether they felt like, whether they fell out of love with you, like, all of the many different reasons that people give to go. [00:12:54] Speaker C: I get where you're coming from. I do. I'm not going to say, like, no, you're right. But where I'm coming from is, for example, I have a friend that let herself go, okay? She was the type that her maintenance was getting her nails and toes done, like, just keeping herself neat. Not saying she had expensive brands on, but she just dressed, kept herself together. When you seen her, she was like a nice, well put together young lady. And now it's like she might have some leggings on in a big T shirt, hair never done. Like, toes look like they've been going through the dirt and been in some steel boots, literally. And I'm not lying. [00:13:52] Speaker A: So she's in a relationship was and. [00:13:55] Speaker C: The person expressed to her like, hey, how are you feeling? What's going on? And she just made, oh, I just don't be feeling like it anymore. And she just thought, according to what she's saying, they was like, you just don't seem like you anymore. And whereas they said they tried to like, hey, well, what can I do to help you and make you feel better about even just taking care of even hygiene, taking care of yourself? What can I do to make this easier for you? Are you in depression? Are those questions? And they just went straight to, I just don't feel like leaving a house. I don't feel like going to get my nails. [00:14:38] Speaker A: Well, that sounds like somebody who's depressed. I don't know if you can the. [00:14:42] Speaker C: Question was, if you are, okay, can we help? But now it's like, three years down the line, and you're still like this, and it's like you really don't want to change, and you don't want to get help. You don't want to go to therapy. You're kind of sitting in your depression. [00:15:00] Speaker A: Well, isn't that dealing with somebody with an illness versus somebody who's just we're not in a relationship anymore because that's probably deeper than a companion can. [00:15:10] Speaker C: But they were still in a relationship. They tried to not be in that depression state with them, but help them out of it. What can I do? I don't want to just leave you in this state. And it turned into them just saying, like, okay, well, if you don't want to fix it, you don't want to help yourself. And my friend and I will admit I kind of hate this for her, but she was like, he ain't going. [00:15:40] Speaker A: To wear oh, really? [00:15:42] Speaker C: Yeah, that was her mindset. Like, he ain't going to wear a girl. I can gain 200 pounds. He'll be right here. [00:15:50] Speaker A: So she took him for granted. [00:15:52] Speaker C: Yeah, basically. She took him for granted. [00:15:56] Speaker A: So he shouldn't fight for that? [00:15:58] Speaker C: No. Well, I didn't feel like he should. And she actually told him, that ain't like you're going anywhere. [00:16:06] Speaker A: Your friend got bad attitude. [00:16:08] Speaker C: Yes. But she turned into that person, and she got so comfortable with not keeping up with herself to the point where he did leave. He did eventually leave, and she then tried to like, okay, well, let me hurry up and try to get myself together. Let me dress up. Let me put on some press ons. I still don't want to get my nails done. And that wasn't even the issue. The issue was like, you let yourself go. You let yourself go because you thought it didn't matter. Not so much as how you look, but just how you take care of yourself. It's like you don't want to do anything because you don't feel like you don't want to get your hair done anymore. You don't want to do and you did all these things before I came in the picture, and not for anybody or for me. You did it because that's what you like to do, and now you no longer like to do it. [00:16:57] Speaker A: I blame the man for that. [00:16:59] Speaker C: You do? [00:17:00] Speaker A: Yes. [00:17:00] Speaker C: Why? [00:17:02] Speaker A: Because when you see her slacking, you got to let her know up front. Shouldn't take three years. [00:17:07] Speaker C: No, he told her up front. He just waited three years to leave. [00:17:12] Speaker A: Okay. He ain't tight. [00:17:16] Speaker C: But I think also when it comes to a man telling a woman about her appearance and things of that nature, it's kind of like, tell me somebody. [00:17:24] Speaker A: You'Re in a relationship with or a stranger? [00:17:25] Speaker C: No, in a relationship with, even a. [00:17:27] Speaker A: Stranger, what you mean, you can't tell her. [00:17:30] Speaker C: Why are you excited? She's going through things. [00:17:34] Speaker A: Well, you can look good going through things. Be like everybody else. Get dressed up and be depressed. [00:17:40] Speaker D: Get dressed up. [00:17:41] Speaker A: So you need to look good. [00:17:43] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:17:43] Speaker C: Like, he even sent her to, like, a spa. [00:17:45] Speaker A: No spa. We're going to go ahead and wash your clothes. You gonna clean your feet. You gonna get out them steel toes. [00:17:52] Speaker C: Definitely. They look like oh, my God. [00:17:54] Speaker A: Okay. I thought it was more from the perspective of an able person. She sounds like she needs some help and just some reinsurance kind of getting her mojo back versus somebody who just might be out. Because I feel like when somebody wants you to fight for the relationship, they're not really out. They just want to see how much you care. [00:18:18] Speaker D: Yeah. I think that's where the fighting is. The fighting is before the relationship ends. [00:18:24] Speaker A: Oh, I'm not a fighter doing those. [00:18:25] Speaker D: Things to kind of make the relate to save the relationship, not after somebody breaks up. [00:18:32] Speaker C: So you're talking about fighting for the relationship when you feel like the relationship is kind of going in a bad direction. [00:18:38] Speaker D: Yeah. And it's looking like it's headed towards. [00:18:40] Speaker A: Isn'T that more what people do than a thing that doesn't exist? What you mean is it like it's like when the relationship is going off the rockers or getting off the road or it's Wobling in the road. That's up to the people. [00:18:55] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:18:55] Speaker A: That's not an imaginary thing that's happening? [00:18:57] Speaker D: No, that's the question. Like, do you fight for it, or do you just let it go? [00:19:02] Speaker A: I think you just have a conversation. [00:19:04] Speaker C: Yeah. Everything can be, like, resolved. [00:19:06] Speaker A: So when I come over here, I'm tired of seeing you in sweats. Your man coming over. You put some clothes on. [00:19:10] Speaker C: Okay. [00:19:10] Speaker A: What you doing? I ain't here. No, don't bring that to me. I'm cool on that. You comfortable? We'll get uncomfortable. [00:19:20] Speaker C: Like you say, don't come to bed with a bonnet on. [00:19:23] Speaker A: Do something. You better get a scarf and make that thing look like something just me. Well, I'm out. [00:19:30] Speaker C: And you know what's so funny about that? [00:19:31] Speaker A: What's? [00:19:32] Speaker C: That? My boyfriend doesn't like steel. [00:19:34] Speaker A: Boyfriend? How many days and counting? Just like 800 days and counting. [00:19:38] Speaker C: Listen, Nick, he does not like me. Well, I will say this. It's not so much as the bonnet. No, is the bonnet. He could do a scarf. He can do a scarf. Okay, but it's the bonnet. He just, like, can't do either. [00:19:53] Speaker A: Why would you look your worst and come to bed and expect somebody? [00:19:56] Speaker C: He was like, Why? [00:19:58] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:20:01] Speaker A: I think when you take those little things out, that's what you lose in a relationship. If you said, run to the door and hug and kiss me when I come in, you need to keep it up. I don't care what happened at work, because I don't get to tell you what happened at work. That why I don't feel like such and such. You should have the same energy. [00:20:19] Speaker D: I still got to do what I. [00:20:20] Speaker A: Got to do, put the same effort into it. That just makes me like, well, I'm tired. Well, you better get you'll get a Red Bull. Get untired. Give me this 20 minutes, and then you do whatever you want to do after that. [00:20:33] Speaker C: Listen, no, I got to wrap my hair. I got to wrap my hair. You said you could do that when I go to sleep. [00:20:40] Speaker A: What? You could. [00:20:42] Speaker D: You could. [00:20:43] Speaker A: I think you have to make some consideration. [00:20:45] Speaker C: Some consideration. And if I lay down and go to sleep without doing it, he'll be like, don't mess your hair up. [00:20:51] Speaker A: Yeah. So that means you need to get up and take care of your hair. [00:20:57] Speaker D: Exactly what it means. [00:20:58] Speaker A: That's what it means. Get up. So don't mess with your hair. [00:21:00] Speaker C: It's just a lot. [00:21:02] Speaker A: Is it? [00:21:02] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:21:03] Speaker A: You've been a woman your whole life. You had hair your whole life. [00:21:05] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:21:06] Speaker A: Okay. [00:21:07] Speaker D: And you haven't come with an effective way yeah. [00:21:10] Speaker A: Yet. Let me tell you, you've been on this planet 30 some years, and you ain't figured out your hair. You want to be in a relationship, you can't figure out your hair. [00:21:25] Speaker C: But also, I'm not going to say he doesn't like my hair straight. I don't like it curly anymore. But he was like, oh, well, put a little bit of curls in it, you won't need so much of a. [00:21:36] Speaker D: See that man fighting for this relationship, man. No, you got to make the concession he needs. [00:21:40] Speaker A: Just don't say nothing. Sometimes you got to let me be. You see what I'm trying to do? Yes, I see it. I love it. I love what you're doing, Jr. I love like, who else could think of that but you? [00:22:01] Speaker C: You know what? That's his exact you got it. You got it. [00:22:05] Speaker A: The mother girls don't got it. [00:22:07] Speaker C: No, he doesn't compare me now. [00:22:09] Speaker A: No, I said they don't have it. [00:22:10] Speaker C: He'll just be like, you know what? Only you. Only you. [00:22:13] Speaker D: That's it. [00:22:14] Speaker C: Yeah. He'll say, only you. You're so unique. [00:22:16] Speaker A: So fighting for relationships is tricky, but I think that's when people get hurt. I think that's when people do physical damage and mental damage to each other, because if you fighting and you're not willing to change your behavior, let's say the man was cheating. [00:22:31] Speaker C: We ain't got to talk about cheating. We could just talk about, say, like, he's because the cheating is such because you always try to get away from the whole cheating thing. But let's say he goes out all the time. [00:22:47] Speaker A: That's cheating. [00:22:49] Speaker C: That's not cheating. If he goes out with his friends. [00:22:51] Speaker A: You mean tell me if I go out, ain't no women holling at me no night. [00:22:55] Speaker C: I mean, they probably holler at you. That doesn't make you a cheat. [00:22:58] Speaker D: I'm a stop. [00:22:59] Speaker A: He might like boys. I ain't going to keep going out. Nobody don't say nothing to me. I'm about to do something. Somebody got to say something to him. Why would you keep going out? Nobody don't say that. No. Girls don't ever. [00:23:11] Speaker D: Nothing at all. [00:23:12] Speaker A: No. I'll give me some better looking friends. [00:23:16] Speaker D: Let's get into some of these comments. Let's close out with some comments. Malaya fee said, if they valuable to you and add to your happiness, yes, you need to fight. Patricia Ann Garrett. Mama, she said I would not fight. If to me the relationship is feeling like he has lost interest to fighting would be a waste of time. I would just tell him it's okay and move on and wish him the. [00:23:42] Speaker A: Best of luck and be bitter and be bitter and put up bad memes on social media. Just have a conversation. [00:23:51] Speaker D: Chelsea McFadden. I don't think you should have to fight for someone to love you back. Either you're going to love me or I'm going to find someone else who will. I wouldn't be mad or anything. People love who they love, and that's okay. I just want the one for him. [00:24:10] Speaker C: Okay. [00:24:11] Speaker A: Chelsea women be easy. [00:24:15] Speaker D: Just said false. Amy DJ blaze radio show said, while the heart wants what it wants, sometimes what it wants doesn't make sense. No need to fight for it. [00:24:28] Speaker C: The heart wants, but the heart wants. [00:24:31] Speaker D: EB eggs, grits and ignorance. Said, not anymore. You either in or you out. Your choice. If you leave, I can fix my pain. So that's a false for me. [00:24:41] Speaker C: I can't believe I'm saying this. I agree. [00:24:44] Speaker A: You agree with that? [00:24:45] Speaker C: Yeah. Either you're in or you're out. [00:24:50] Speaker A: I don't know. I just think you like if somebody's out on you, right. The number one thing you can do is go make yourself better because I got you for a reason. [00:25:02] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:25:03] Speaker C: Okay. Well, once I make myself better no, you left. [00:25:07] Speaker D: Okay. Then we got Kane from the Cain is able podcast. Oh, lord. Everything ain't meant to be after a while. Just go your own separate ways. [00:25:19] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:25:20] Speaker A: Maybe you really didn't have a relationship to start with. Maybe you called it something that it wasn't. [00:25:25] Speaker C: And that's a lot of situations. I think a lot of relationships aren't really relationships. They're just comfortable being with a person. [00:25:31] Speaker A: Okay. [00:25:32] Speaker D: And then Kit darling, to a certain extent, that's all she put. So I'm assuming just you fight if you feel like it's worth fighting for. Not to put words in the mouth, but final words. What is your final answer? See yes or no. Do you fight for the relationship? [00:25:50] Speaker A: I would say no because I really don't know what it means. [00:25:55] Speaker D: Okay. All right. Me. [00:25:59] Speaker C: I'll say it really does depend. If somebody wants to leave, let them leave. But if it's because of certain things that you're doing that can change and change you for the better, maybe you change your behavior or maybe you became something you're not like, I don't know, but if it is something that you can change into being a better you, then definitely change it to fight for your relationship. But if not, just let the person leave it's okay. [00:26:28] Speaker D: Just let them be. [00:26:29] Speaker C: Know you'll find there is billions of people out there in the world. [00:26:32] Speaker D: Okay? I say if it's worth it, fight for it. [00:26:36] Speaker A: Okay. [00:26:38] Speaker D: All right. [00:26:39] Speaker C: Nick. No, you can't find true, true. I can relate where in the world is but yeah. Thank you all for listening to the show. Sugar Girl. Neat. Cruz. [00:26:57] Speaker A: CL Butler. [00:26:59] Speaker D: I'm sorry. Hey, boy. You seven, remember? 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