250th Date: Twat for 'T'

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Once it's over, like, I might spend the block for a good time. I might spend the block for a good time. [00:00:07] Speaker B: Y' all gotta try hard. It's right there. [00:00:09] Speaker A: It's like, eh, you know, I need some twat. Yeah. [00:00:13] Speaker B: You know the dog gotta get the poo tang. [00:00:16] Speaker A: Yeah. The Henny done kicked. [00:00:17] Speaker B: You don't have to try for that one. [00:00:18] Speaker A: The Henny done kicked in. Henny done kicked in a nice, a nice little late night wake up. [00:00:24] Speaker B: Making poor decisions. [00:00:25] Speaker A: Oh, man. And you, and you. [00:00:27] Speaker B: How is it? How do y' all men feel when y' all spend a block too? [00:00:36] Speaker A: Welcome back to Relationship Status. It's your boy Yousef in the building. How you doing? [00:00:41] Speaker B: I'm good. How are you? [00:00:43] Speaker A: Had to kind of got to go in right quick. As you can see, I have a co host, new co host to the show. She's visiting right now. We are going to try to pay her for her services to make her permanent. Feronda's out. I know y' all are going to miss her, her and her thousand views. Every time we drop her video, like, every time we drop Feronda's video. A thousand. I dropped the video of me saying something from the show. 300 her. A thousand. [00:01:08] Speaker B: That's good. [00:01:09] Speaker A: So I, I, I think she is very popular. So she'll be here next episode. Corey is from the. If you've watched any of the Crux Media shows, the DJ Blaze radio show podcast is Corey L. And be Easy. [00:01:24] Speaker B: Yep. [00:01:25] Speaker A: Welcome to the show, Corey. [00:01:26] Speaker B: What's up? [00:01:27] Speaker A: Thank you for coming through and stepping in for. [00:01:29] Speaker B: Thank you. Thank you for inviting me. For inviting me. [00:01:32] Speaker A: Yeah, man, I was, I was having a conversation with your cousin. Said that you be wanting to talk sometimes about relationship stuff. And so I said, hey, man, call up, see if she'd be willing to do the show. And called you up. You said, yes. [00:01:44] Speaker B: So I'm here. [00:01:45] Speaker A: Really appreciate you being here. So to tell the people a little bit about you. Where you from? [00:01:49] Speaker B: I'm originally from New York, but now I live here. I know, right? New York is in the building. [00:01:54] Speaker A: Hey, man. [00:01:55] Speaker B: New York in the building. [00:01:56] Speaker A: Yeah, you know, but nah. So how'd you end up down here first? [00:02:03] Speaker B: Well, my family's from here. Like the, the ancestors, My grandmother, but my mother and her siblings are from New York. [00:02:09] Speaker A: Okay. [00:02:10] Speaker B: So I've been coming down here my whole life. [00:02:13] Speaker A: And it's, it's, it's funny because when I came here, I came here just to go to college. And so my friend, she went to school down here. And she was like, yo, you need to do something with your life. Because I had graduated, and I wasn't doing nothing. Nothing at all. Working it. I think at the time, I was working at, like, Wendy's, and she came home from school, she's like, you too smart to be doing nothing. You need to go to school. So I said, where you go to school? She said, south Carolina. [00:02:38] Speaker B: And then you came down and I. [00:02:39] Speaker A: Said, what part of the. What part of Carolina is South Carolina? Is it just like. I thought it was all one state. It was a South. Like, the south part. [00:02:48] Speaker B: She's like. [00:02:48] Speaker A: She's like, no, it's actual state. [00:02:50] Speaker B: South Carolina. [00:02:51] Speaker A: Actual state. And so I got on the train, came in. I've been here ever since. I don't have no family here, no nothing. So whenever I meet people from. That's from up north, they got family down here. I realized that a lot of people migrated to do things, but thank you for. Yeah, straight New York. So how did you get to the DJ Blaze show? [00:03:10] Speaker B: Through my cousin. [00:03:11] Speaker A: Through els? [00:03:12] Speaker B: Yes, through els. He had hit me up one time, and he was like, oh, would you be interested in a podcast? And I was like, a podcast? Podcast? I don't know. I guess he know me. I'm cool. I like to talk. I was like, sure, I'll try. [00:03:28] Speaker A: I'll try to do it. I'll try to make it happen. [00:03:30] Speaker B: Yeah. And then I came on. We did the first show with them. It was good. And then they asked me to do another one. It was the list episode, and it's a secret now, but I'm about to let the secret out. List episode. My first list episode. They were prepared already, but I had to come off the top with it. [00:03:47] Speaker A: Oh. [00:03:47] Speaker B: And then after that, they was like, that was good. And then they invited me back the next week, and then back the next week. And then B was like, oh, you could. He was like, corey, After I say my name, you say your name, Manell. You say your name. He said, man, she only been here, but, what, three, four shows? [00:04:04] Speaker A: I remember that episode. [00:04:05] Speaker B: She can come in like that. Okay, that's fine. [00:04:09] Speaker A: And they gave you a home. [00:04:10] Speaker B: That was history for me. Yeah. [00:04:12] Speaker A: Yeah, man, you're really good on the show. I enjoy watching it. I enjoyed. I'm a big fan of the show. I've been listening to. Listening to it for 11 years now. My favorite episode, I tell be Easy, is the Valentine's Day episode. It's called. [00:04:26] Speaker B: Side Piece, what we was talking about. [00:04:29] Speaker A: No, no, that wasn't Y' all, you weren't on the show yet. It's like when. [00:04:33] Speaker B: When back then. Gotcha. Gotcha. [00:04:36] Speaker A: Side piece. It was called side piece of. They said Valentine's Day is side piece awareness day. [00:04:40] Speaker B: Oh. [00:04:41] Speaker A: So if you get a chance, go back and listen to that episode. Huh? [00:04:45] Speaker B: I've listened to quite a few. A plethora of old. [00:04:49] Speaker A: Of the old episodes. [00:04:51] Speaker B: I said Blaze mouth was reckless. Oh, my God. [00:04:56] Speaker A: Reckless, man. Great show. [00:04:58] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:59] Speaker A: Big fan. To be easy. Big fan of the show. So we have to ask everybody on the show as they come on, what is your relationship status? [00:05:07] Speaker B: Oh, I'm chilling. [00:05:09] Speaker A: Okay. That's a status. [00:05:10] Speaker B: What does that mean? What does that mean to a New Yorker? [00:05:13] Speaker A: Yeah, I'm chilling. That means you meet. You might be. Or you might be. [00:05:17] Speaker B: I might not be. Right. [00:05:19] Speaker A: You might not be. It's whatever you feel like saying in the moment. It's whatever that person feel like. [00:05:25] Speaker B: That's what New York is. I'm chilling. [00:05:27] Speaker A: Yeah. I'm chilling. [00:05:27] Speaker B: Like, so you with somebody? I'm chilling. [00:05:29] Speaker A: Yeah. Like last episode. [00:05:30] Speaker B: So you're not. [00:05:32] Speaker A: I'm just chilling. Yeah. So you don't lie. That's what it is. So you don't tell a lie. But it's all right. [00:05:39] Speaker B: Life is. Adulting is complicated. [00:05:41] Speaker A: Very much so. And I think people. It's very overrated. I used to couldn't wait till I was 21, and now I'm like, can I go? [00:05:48] Speaker B: You were one of those, man. [00:05:49] Speaker A: And I couldn't wait to get older. [00:05:51] Speaker B: I do not want to turn 21 yet. I tried to hold it off as long as I could, man. [00:05:56] Speaker A: Listen. [00:05:56] Speaker B: I was trying to hold it off for 20 years. [00:05:58] Speaker A: I was trying to get there as quick as I could. And then I got there and was like, why did I. Now adulting is just paying bills. I didn't grow up until paying bills and taking trips. [00:06:07] Speaker B: Thank goodness for my mother and father. [00:06:09] Speaker A: Oh, wow. You. [00:06:10] Speaker B: I was spoiled. Yeah. [00:06:11] Speaker A: Yeah. No, not me. My mother said, oh, you. You not going to school or you in college? No, I was. [00:06:16] Speaker B: I was working, I was hustling. I was making money. I was making sure we were good family. Was everybody, you know, I had money in my pocket. If I wanted to give my mother something, she could. [00:06:26] Speaker A: You could. [00:06:26] Speaker B: It was easy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I. I wasn't allowed to be lazy. But like the full on, get out, get your own place. You gotta pay your own bills. [00:06:37] Speaker A: Oh, no, I had. That's what I had. [00:06:38] Speaker B: No, my. My parents. [00:06:41] Speaker A: The second I. The second I stopped going to College. My mom said, you gotta get up. [00:06:44] Speaker B: Oh, Lord. [00:06:45] Speaker A: You gotta go. Well, I said, okay. [00:06:48] Speaker B: So sorry. [00:06:49] Speaker A: Oh, no, it was all right. It's the best thing that ever happened to me, actually. So this week we have somebody riding a relationship advice letter and it's a doozy. [00:07:02] Speaker B: Oh, gosh. [00:07:03] Speaker A: So let's get into it. All right, so it says, dear relationship Status. I never imagined I'd be writing into a podcast, but. But I honestly don't know what else. What else to who else to talk to. Sorry. I've been married to my wife for six years. We've had our share of issues, like most couples, but overall I thought that we had something real, honest, strong and committed. Lately, though, something feels off. But my wife has always been close to her best friend, let's call her T. They've known each other since college and have always been tight. I never had a problem with their friendship. I figured it was good for her to have someone to talk to, and I trusted her. But in the past few months, things have changed. She's been spending a lot more time with T. Like, a lot more time. She stays out late with her, goes on last minute girls trips, and gets really cagey whenever I ask questions. And what really messed me up was what I found on her phone. I was snooping at first. She asked me to. I wasn't snoop. Sorry, I wasn't snooping at first. She asked me to grab her phone to look something up. And a message pop from T popped up on the screen. It was a photo. My wife was in a bikini, taking a mirror selfie with the caption that said for your eyes only. I scrolled a little. Yeah, I know my. I know it's not my proudest moment. And there were flirty messages back and forth, inside jokes with sexual undertones, comments about each other's bodies, and a few late nights. A late night I miss you more than I should type of text. When I confronted her, she brushed it off as quote, unquote, just how we play around. She said I was reading too much into it, that women are just more expressive and affectionate with each other, especially when they've been friends for so long. But that doesn't explain the secrecy. It doesn't explain why she deletes whole threads between them. It doesn't explain why she always changes the subject or gets defensive when I bring it up. What's worse is that I walked in on them once on the couch, real close, whispering and laughing when they saw me. They acted like I caught them doing something they Jumped apart so fast it made my stomach turn. Here's the thing. I'm not trying to be toxic or homophobic if my wife is attracted to women. I just want her to be honest about it. What I can't deal with is feeling like I'm being lied to or played. If she's exploring something with T, I deserve to know. I'm her husband, not a placeholder. But I also feel crazy because when I talk about this with friends, some of them just laugh it off, like I'm being dramatic, like it's not possible for this to be a. To be real cheating because T is a woman. But emotional intimacy is emotional intimacy, and secrecy is secrecy. If this was a man, people would be telling me to trust my gut and get out. So that's why I'm writing you. Am I overreacting? Or is there something. Or is there something deeper that I need to face head on? How do I bring this up again without getting dismissed or gaslit? And what does it even mean for our marriage if my wife is having this kind of connection with her best friend? Sincerely suspicious and struggling? [00:10:02] Speaker B: Sheesh. [00:10:05] Speaker A: Does he have enough first? Does he have enough to say that she cheated? [00:10:13] Speaker B: No, not to say she cheating. Because he hasn't seen. He only seen, like, the. I miss you too much. And it's not. It's not tangible enough to. Where it's like, oh, you felt good the other night. [00:10:30] Speaker A: No, but. Okay. [00:10:31] Speaker B: Or. [00:10:32] Speaker A: But if. [00:10:33] Speaker B: Because when he caught them together, he didn't see. See anything. He just saw them kiss, like, closely. [00:10:38] Speaker A: Yeah. And then they jumped. But then they jumped apart. [00:10:40] Speaker B: He didn't see nobody kissing. He ain't seen nobody caressing. [00:10:43] Speaker A: But if the. Okay, let's. A little bit. Let's say it's your husband. Let's say it's your husband. You're the guy. But you're, you know, a woman. Of course. And you walk in and your husband is sitting closely to his female friend. [00:10:58] Speaker B: Yeah, like the. Is going off. [00:11:00] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. But no, it's a double standard in this. [00:11:03] Speaker B: No, it's not double standard. [00:11:04] Speaker A: Because if it was. Because if it was a man. [00:11:06] Speaker B: No, no, no, no, no, no. [00:11:07] Speaker A: Because if it was. [00:11:08] Speaker B: If it was a man, nobody. Double standards. [00:11:10] Speaker A: Okay, so. Okay, but you're saying. [00:11:12] Speaker B: I'm not saying. I'm not saying that I would automatically assume my husband is cheating, but right there I'd be like, what the fuck is going on, folks? Why y' all jumping apart like that? [00:11:20] Speaker A: And even I miss you more than I should. [00:11:22] Speaker B: I wouldn't say, oh, you cheat. I wouldn't be like, oh, he's cheating. That's it. No, I need to investigate. [00:11:28] Speaker A: Yeah, but, but it isn't the sum of it. [00:11:32] Speaker B: Oh, the sum. When the overall. [00:11:34] Speaker A: When you look at the overall. [00:11:35] Speaker B: The fact that it made his stomach turn. Your gut ain't never wrong. [00:11:38] Speaker A: I think, I think sometimes it's indigestion. No, no, because women like to say that they in women's intuition. [00:11:45] Speaker B: No, no, no, I didn't say women's intuition. I mean his gut, when he felt that turn, like, oh, that just made me sick. Because he saw it. It makes you the vibe. The energy never lies. [00:11:58] Speaker A: Is energy a real thing though? [00:11:59] Speaker B: Yes, it is. Energy is real. I could tell like if I'm. If I mess with somebody and then he start acting funny a little bit. [00:12:09] Speaker A: It's like the switch up. [00:12:11] Speaker B: Not even the switch up. It's just, I don't know, it's something slightly off and I'm like, what's up? What do you mean? Now you're acting funny. What do you mean? You tell me what's up? I'm not tripping. I feel energy. I feel energy. [00:12:27] Speaker A: You feel energy? [00:12:28] Speaker B: I feel energy. [00:12:29] Speaker A: I don't know, I guess I'm just. [00:12:30] Speaker B: Like, I can feel the tweak. And I'd be like, oh, we not you not messing with me like that no more. Okay, cool. [00:12:35] Speaker A: So that's where we at. [00:12:36] Speaker B: Yeah. And this is. I'm not mad human. [00:12:39] Speaker A: I just think that in the sum of all parts, I think that it is that people would laugh at him. And they are kind of like, man, go ahead. It's. They've been best friends, but. And then, but they've been friends for so long. [00:12:51] Speaker B: I would have been mad more so. I would have been mad more so at my wife. Like the. You exploring women and you can't express this to me. What is. What the. What is that? And I think that's what's really bothering him. [00:13:03] Speaker A: That he ain't included. [00:13:04] Speaker B: Not even that he's not included. You lying. Like, I'mma be mad because it sounds like he's more of an open minded guy. Especially if she's exploring women. [00:13:14] Speaker A: And he's just saying, I just want to know. [00:13:15] Speaker B: Fantasy. Almost almost every man, almost every man would love his wife to be like, for real. Yeah. [00:13:23] Speaker A: All right, let's go. [00:13:25] Speaker B: Yeah, you can. I don't have to be included. [00:13:28] Speaker A: Sure you can. [00:13:28] Speaker B: I want to hear the stories. [00:13:30] Speaker A: I want to know what you got going on. [00:13:32] Speaker B: And it sounds like they Had a pretty close. They have a close marriage, a good relationship. So it's like, why you lying all of a sudden? And I don't know no best friends that is texting each other like that. I have a best friend. I have close friends. I have a best friend and have close female friends who like women. Not ever were we ever together, close and be like, oh, I miss you. I miss you. Oddly, no. [00:13:59] Speaker A: I mean. I mean, I'm just saying. But that was text message. That was. That was in the text. [00:14:02] Speaker B: My best friend ain't never text me nothing like that. Because people ask me and my best friend, like, y' all never. Y' all never dealt with each. And we be like, no, all best friends don't do that. And she'd be like, if I have to her, that's not my best friend. [00:14:15] Speaker A: See, but that's. And I thought that's how women take it. But I guess in this letter, I guess the woman is trying to put off. She's like straight lying. She's. I just don't. [00:14:25] Speaker B: She's lying, bro. [00:14:28] Speaker A: And there's a bunch of red flags here. Yeah, Secrecy. First you delete the messages. [00:14:33] Speaker B: The fact that she deletes a whole. [00:14:36] Speaker A: Thread, that takes time. [00:14:39] Speaker B: No, no. It's one quick swipey. [00:14:42] Speaker A: If you go from no. Oh, so you right. It is. [00:14:45] Speaker B: You know, go through. But you deleting you and your best friends, that's one thing. Now, I know some smart men, they'll read the thread with the best friend because you tell your best friend's secrets. I know some men go there first before they go to a man. Cause you gonna tell your best friend, they not that smart. You don't text your best. You don't text your best friend. You call your best friend. All right, ladies. But. But in her. In her case, she's cheating. I feel like she's cheating. [00:15:13] Speaker A: Yeah. I just think that she is cheating. I just don't get what he doesn't see here. I know it's a struggle. [00:15:22] Speaker B: No, he doesn't see it. [00:15:22] Speaker A: I know it's a struggle for. [00:15:23] Speaker B: But she keep lying to him. And that's why I said he don't have the full on tangible proof. He has, like little hints that she might be cheating, but he ain't catch her kissing. They ain't send no naked pictures to each other. She was in a bikini. My best friend has sent me. She sent me pictures of her. [00:15:39] Speaker A: For your eyes only. [00:15:41] Speaker B: No, it would say for your eyes only. Like, girl, don't show nobody else. [00:15:45] Speaker A: Okay. [00:15:45] Speaker B: But I'll be like, dang, bitch, you fine as hell. [00:15:48] Speaker A: So it's actually valid. So that's a valid thing. [00:15:50] Speaker B: Yeah, but it's. But it's more so. Girl, don't show nobody. But look. Look at my body. And it's like, bitch, you fine. [00:15:58] Speaker A: See, but eat so. [00:15:59] Speaker B: But the. But hers. For your eyes only. I miss you more than I should. [00:16:05] Speaker A: But that was eight on undertone. [00:16:07] Speaker B: Undertone. [00:16:08] Speaker A: See, but. Because I think each individual thing by itself. Each individual instance by itself. The bikini shot for your eyes on catching them on the couch. You know, if nothing else had happened, if these other parts had. Is these other things had not happened. Her line about where they going. [00:16:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:16:24] Speaker A: Hey, it's a girls trip. Yeah. People take girls trips all the time. [00:16:27] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:16:27] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:16:28] Speaker B: But. [00:16:28] Speaker A: But everything together. [00:16:30] Speaker B: All together. Did not. [00:16:32] Speaker A: Now they built. It's a circumstantial case. She would get on Law and Order. She'd be guilty. [00:16:37] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:16:37] Speaker A: She'd be straight guilty. [00:16:38] Speaker B: Her and her best friend sound like they. They dealing with each other. [00:16:41] Speaker A: Yeah. Olivia Benson will be on them. Cause she. She be. [00:16:44] Speaker B: She be getting arrested, T. Getting a twat. [00:16:50] Speaker A: That's the title of the episode. [00:16:53] Speaker B: That's the title of the episode. [00:16:59] Speaker A: You can't come in and name an episode already. No, that's fine. That's fine. So let's. Before we get to some advice from a listener tapped in. Just like we would tell a woman. Jocelyn. I'm sorry. Just like we would tell a woman. Sir. Go with your gut and stop being silly. Hate to say it, but sit your wife down and talk to her and let her know what you feel. Be straight up. You deserve the truth. Wish you well. I don't think that he. That he'll ever get the truth out of her. [00:17:31] Speaker B: She. Yeah, he's not. [00:17:33] Speaker A: Or. Or is it his approach? [00:17:35] Speaker B: It's not. I don't think. I don't even think he can. Or is she just defensive the way how he comes off in a. In the letter. He doesn't come off aggressive. And an aggressive man wouldn't have wrote the show. [00:17:47] Speaker A: No, he just. [00:17:48] Speaker B: He just like this shit. Y' all better tell me what the fuck is up. But the fact that he wrote the show. He. He listens. He's a listener. He likes to. Let's figure it out. Let's talk. I think, like, he's upset that she's lying. It's the unnecessary lying because. [00:18:09] Speaker A: And it's unnecessary. [00:18:10] Speaker B: I'm sure they've had the conversation of. Babe, would you. Would you. Would we explore as A couple. I'm sure they've had that conversation. [00:18:19] Speaker A: Cause he seemed like he. Cause the fact that he. I think he said, like, I just want her to be honest with me. Like, if she like women, then that's fine. [00:18:27] Speaker B: Yeah, you can have a girlfriend back. [00:18:28] Speaker A: Yeah, that's okay. [00:18:29] Speaker B: Yeah, I get a girlfriend. Don't be mad. [00:18:31] Speaker A: You. You can't be. Wait, wait a minute now. That wouldn't be acceptable to who? That wouldn't be acceptable to her. [00:18:40] Speaker B: Why? [00:18:41] Speaker A: Because women, Women don't have no integrity. [00:18:43] Speaker B: If this is a conversation that. If this is a conversation that they have. If they open. [00:18:47] Speaker A: If they open exclusively. Yes, but isn't it. Wouldn't they go eye for an eye, two for two? [00:18:52] Speaker B: No, no, no. I'm not talking about. [00:18:54] Speaker A: No, no, no. I'm saying. No, I'm saying, like, if you got a girl. So that's her argument. Could be, I got someone of the same sex. [00:19:01] Speaker B: You. [00:19:01] Speaker A: If you going to do it, you got to get someone of the same sex. [00:19:03] Speaker B: No, no, no. [00:19:04] Speaker A: That could be her argument. [00:19:05] Speaker B: She knows her man is straight. She can't. She can't push that bullshit to him. [00:19:09] Speaker A: No, I know she can't. [00:19:10] Speaker B: But I'm saying, when I said, like, if he be like, all right, you. [00:19:13] Speaker A: Got a girl, I'mma get a girl. [00:19:15] Speaker B: No, no, not in the petty kind of way. No, but like, what are we doing? You got a girlfriend? Are we exploring? Am I allowed to have a girlfriend type of stuff when I'm talking about on a mutual understanding. Not. Not petty. Not going toe to toe. [00:19:31] Speaker A: Okay, yeah, yeah. Cuz I, I think that in that sense, she is. I don't think that she would go for the conversation just because of the fact that she's been lying about it. And I think she. She knows her husband. Let's say they've been together maybe eight years. Let's say for. For. They've been married for six. So they think about two years together. [00:19:51] Speaker B: Two years. Right, right. [00:19:52] Speaker A: So she knows him well enough to know, hey, man, he's. He'd be open to it because he sounds like he'd be open to just letting her be herself. And I think the thing that's bothering him the most is that she's lying. If she wasn't lying about it, he. [00:20:05] Speaker B: Sounds like an honest guy. [00:20:06] Speaker A: He'd be like, oh, babe, like, do. [00:20:08] Speaker B: You think I'm gonna tell you, go get a new wife. Get a new wife that you can explore with. Cause clearly she wants her cake and eat it too. She's that one. [00:20:17] Speaker A: Okay. Cousin to the show E.B. shouts out to E.B. of the eggs, Grits and Ignorance podcast. I definitely feel like she's hiding something she needs to be honest about, But I would just shut my mouth and let the chips fall where they may. Definitely, definitely. Choose your own happiness over drama and suspicions. Yeah, man. See, I don't know if I could live. I don't know if I could have let it. [00:20:39] Speaker B: Cause it bothers him. [00:20:42] Speaker A: For him. It bothers him. [00:20:43] Speaker B: It bothers him. That's why I wouldn't stay shut me. I'd leave it. The truth always come out to me. People say that, but no, it always come out to me. Me and Karma as best friends. She gonna be like, here, girl, here. [00:20:59] Speaker A: Oops, my bad. [00:21:01] Speaker B: Yup, look at that. And I'm like, I knew it was gonna come through one of these days. I knew it. Dead serious. [00:21:10] Speaker A: Yeah. I mean, that. [00:21:11] Speaker B: That's just me. [00:21:12] Speaker A: Okay, so. [00:21:13] Speaker B: But he care. He. And it's not that I don't care. I care, but I'm not gonna stress myself out for somebody who don't care. [00:21:19] Speaker A: I don't care because she. If you're lying to me, you obviously do not care about me. If you lied to me, you don't. [00:21:25] Speaker B: Care and you don't respect. [00:21:27] Speaker A: You don't respect me. You don't care about me. [00:21:28] Speaker B: Definitely lacks respect. I don't think it would. I don't think she doesn't care per se. I just feel like she might have. Even her and her best friend might have just seen. Like, I'm just trying to. I'm trying to select the right words for it. Like, they just explored and didn't realize that they would enjoy it as much as they have. As much as they're enjoying it right now. And she don't know how to tell her husband that. She, like, she love her husband. I don't think she doesn't love her. I don't think she don't love her husband. [00:22:03] Speaker A: Oh, no, no, no. I don't think so either. [00:22:04] Speaker B: But, like, I'm just trying to figure out why is she lying? Cause he sound like he down with it. [00:22:12] Speaker A: And that's what I'm saying. He sounds like he's down. He sounds like he's very understanding. She knows he's understanding. [00:22:17] Speaker B: She probably don't want him in on it. That's what. You know what? Best friend might not. T might not want them in on it. [00:22:24] Speaker A: T might not want. [00:22:25] Speaker B: T only want twat, not penis. T. Is T bisexual or is T gay? I need to know. Do T like men. [00:22:34] Speaker A: That's a good question. [00:22:35] Speaker B: Because if t don't like men, t definitely want twat. [00:22:39] Speaker A: I think T. Like. I'm gonna tell you why I think t like men. Because he didn't reference T being gay in the. Or bisexual in the letter. [00:22:47] Speaker B: This is true. [00:22:48] Speaker A: And for eight years, you've known this best friend. You would know whether she is. [00:22:51] Speaker B: This is true. [00:22:52] Speaker A: What she is, you know, And I think he would have brought that as. As long as this letter was. [00:22:57] Speaker B: Yeah, he would have definitely said, you are. [00:22:59] Speaker A: Absolutely. As long as this letter was. I'm sure that he would have put it. [00:23:03] Speaker B: I think. [00:23:04] Speaker A: I'm sure he would have. He would have put it in the letter. [00:23:06] Speaker B: I think they didn't expect to. I didn't. I think they didn't expect to start liking each other because I had an old friend who started crushing on me. She knew I didn't like women, though, so she was. She told me, like. She was like, I got a crush on you. I don't know how it happened, but I got a crush on you. And I was like, oh, wow, that's. I was like, okay, we was. We still. We were still close. Because she knew I didn't. I didn't go that way. [00:23:29] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. [00:23:31] Speaker B: But she just let it out, like, and then it was over. Then she got over it real quick. [00:23:36] Speaker A: Quick. [00:23:37] Speaker B: Yeah. But I don't think her and her best friend accepted this. [00:23:41] Speaker A: No, I don't think. [00:23:42] Speaker B: And then it's like, oh, my God, how are we gonna tell Billie? Tyquan Tyquiz. I don't know what name to come up with. That was the first name that popped up in my head. [00:23:52] Speaker A: Tyquez. [00:23:53] Speaker B: Right. [00:23:55] Speaker A: So give. Give Taque some advice here. What would you tell him? What do you think? [00:23:59] Speaker B: Definitely, since he cares, I would definitely. He needs to sit her down and come with the receipts. Like, yo, the last minute trips that you and her unt are taking the text messages. And it's like, I wasn't trying to snoop, but, you know, you told me. [00:24:17] Speaker A: To grab your phone. [00:24:17] Speaker B: Always truth always appears. [00:24:19] Speaker A: It always finds you. [00:24:20] Speaker B: It always finds you. So I saw a message from her with you in a bikini talking about, for your eyes only. She's texting you. She's missing you more than she should. Explain it to me. Y' all were sitting close together, and then y' all jumped apart. Like your dad walked in the room. Don't lie. Yeah, like, yo, don't lie. Don't lie to me. Because if you lie to me, I don't think we can go forward. You gonna have to scare the shit out. Oh, my God. I might lose my husband. [00:24:46] Speaker A: Because I would have to be out myself. Tell you truth, like, if it. If. If I sat her down and had that conversation. [00:24:51] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:51] Speaker A: And she still lied to my. [00:24:52] Speaker B: Like, still keep lying. It's like, you gotta know after that, she don't. She just don't respect you. [00:25:00] Speaker A: Yeah, she's. I think she's done. So my advice is I. I guess I can't differ from yours. Me, if I was going to be toxic, some toxic advice would be, you know, give toxic, toxic advice, Put up some deer cameras in the crib. [00:25:17] Speaker B: Toxic advice for me, if I see it. I'm saying, what the fuck is this, folks? Do y' all not want me included? Tell me that's my toxic shit. That's my talk. I'mma ask y' all right there. Is it that y' all don't want me in it or. Or y' all lying? Like, what. What is it? What is it? [00:25:38] Speaker A: What's going on? [00:25:39] Speaker B: What is it? [00:25:39] Speaker A: Yeah, hit him with the Marvin Gaye. [00:25:41] Speaker B: What's going on? That's why I'm like. I think her best friend just want her twat to herself. [00:25:46] Speaker A: Could be T wants to twat. All right, if you want to join the conversation, you gotta. You got some advice, and you want to answer to that letter right down here. You should see the. Right here. Should be right about here. You'll see the email come up. Relationship status, pod R E L S T A T podcast, gmail.com. go ahead and hey, chime in. Let us know what you think. Or join the podcast advice group. You can see that we got a letter in there. You can go ahead and answer. Put your answers there. We'll read them on the show. So we're moving on into the main part of the show here. Oh, yeah, Found a video. It's from the Mama's Den podcast. I've become very fond of this show. I've enjoyed it from time to time. And here we go. I thought this was very insightful, and women need to listen up. [00:26:32] Speaker C: This is good because I think this will help people, too, to just, like, have take a step back. Let's say in our minds we're going to use Chia and I, for example, I want to use anybody else. Let's say for Chia, he. [00:26:42] Speaker B: He. [00:26:42] Speaker C: He wanted a woman who cooked, who had a fat booty, you know what I mean? Who, like, spoke Cambodian or something like that. I don't know. And then all the other qualities That I have. I definitely don't have no fat booty. I can't speak Cambodian. It's kamaya is the name of the language. Sorry. But I do cook. So for him, maybe it does agitate him a little bit that I don't have two of these qualities. But he doesn't mention it because I have all the other qualities that he wants. He would never say it to me. He doesn't bring it up to me that the deficits that I have. [00:27:09] Speaker A: But. [00:27:09] Speaker C: But for me, whenever he does something that I don't like, I'm going to say it right or I'll bring up the deficits that he has. So I do think that sometimes some men may feel like, irritated when we bring up their flaws because they're not always bringing up ours. They're in their mind. They're like, I accept the fact that you are lacking some of the things that I could have wanted in my dream girl. And I'm happy and I just accept you for who you are. So why can't you just accept me for who I am? Why do you have to keep bringing up the things that I'm not doing correctly? Because I don't bring up the fact that you, you know what I mean, don't got no tiny waist or that you ain't giving me head every other day or whatever it is that they may want. I do think that sometimes as women, we have to check ourselves because we can. We can. And I'm saying this, not all women are like this, but I think, let's talk about married women, right? I think we can feel like we are in the right and that we need all of our needs met. And I don't think we ever think about the fact that our husbands may not be getting of their needs met. And they're not. They're not saying anything about it. I do think that we have to start checking ourselves and being like, is my man getting all his needs met? Before I start mentioning all of the. [00:28:17] Speaker A: Things, is my man getting all his needs met? Let's. Let's go. Let's go there. [00:28:23] Speaker B: Let's talk about it. [00:28:25] Speaker A: Why. Why we always got to be on the end of that? [00:28:28] Speaker B: What do you mean? [00:28:29] Speaker A: Like, I think that, that what she said was a hundred percent accurate. Accurate. [00:28:34] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:28:35] Speaker A: We are expected as men to just accept whatever it is that you are. We are not afforded that particular leeway. Although some of you do take on projects like, hey, we gonna. I'm gonna see if I can fix him now. He ain't got no job. He ain't got no job, but I can do. I can do. [00:28:55] Speaker B: You said what? I said I was a fixer upper. I quit that job. [00:28:58] Speaker A: You was attracted to people you had. [00:28:59] Speaker B: To fix up way. [00:29:01] Speaker A: Yeah, I. I went through a time period where I was not people that I had to fix, not people that needed to be built up, but people who were like, maybe somewhat broken. And I've had to somehow, like, go in and make their life better. I was like the savior. Like, I had. I had like a savior complex. [00:29:23] Speaker B: Right? [00:29:23] Speaker A: Like, I have to save everyone. [00:29:25] Speaker B: Super saver. Ho. [00:29:25] Speaker A: Yeah, in some instances, because some of them were. So in some instances, definitely I was that. But why is it. Why do you. Why do you believe that it's like that women are in such a sense or so oblivious to the fact that the man might be going through, you know, you're judging him on a different scale that you're expecting him to judge you on. [00:29:48] Speaker B: Because I'm gonna say the word that everybody hate today. Because some of those women lack accountability. [00:29:57] Speaker A: I think all women lack accountability. [00:29:59] Speaker B: No, no, no, no. [00:30:00] Speaker A: The majority of them do. [00:30:01] Speaker B: Majority of men, too. No, it's both sexes. Yes, Them trash ass men. The one that gaslights you, the misogynist and all that. [00:30:10] Speaker A: Okay, okay. You know, I give you those. [00:30:12] Speaker B: The narcissists, but I think those are. [00:30:14] Speaker A: A small pocket of people. [00:30:15] Speaker B: No, it's not. It's a very large pocket. It's a very large pocket of men and women. [00:30:20] Speaker A: Okay. [00:30:21] Speaker B: That's trifling as hell. And they really lack seeing. Seeing what's wrong with them. And that's why I'm gonna speak on the behalf of. Well, on the women's side. That's why they always want to point. Because they don't want to see what's wrong with them. [00:30:41] Speaker A: Keeping score. [00:30:42] Speaker B: Yeah, they don't want to see what's wrong with them. It's not even keeping score. It's just. I hate to. I hate to say this about my sisters, but a lot of women are naggers. [00:30:57] Speaker A: Okay, what's your definition of nag? Because what I think may be nagging, like some. Because I remember I was dating somebody. [00:31:04] Speaker B: I'm getting in the way of pointing out what's the flaw, what's wrong with. [00:31:08] Speaker A: A man, and consistently poking on that flaw on that. Okay. [00:31:12] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause when what I. What A lot of. A lot of. And I've learned. I'm learning this today. A lot of men, A lot of immature men find nagging to be. Oh, when she asked me to do this and she asked me to do that. I gotta take out the trash. I gotta do this. Oh, can I help her with this? Can I help with that? Oh, I'm not doing this. Right. Because I didn't help her with this. That's not her nagging. That's her asking her partner for some type of help like that. He's not the stuff he's not doing here. Yeah, nagging is. Oh, my God. You always do this wrong. Oh, my God. Why do you do this? Oh, my God. What you do get on my nerves. Oh, my God. That's nagging to me. [00:31:48] Speaker A: Okay, yeah. Yeah, that is the difference. But some people do see it as always asking them to perform a chore, so to speak. Stuff that should be. [00:31:58] Speaker B: Yeah, that's not nagging. [00:31:59] Speaker A: You see the trash is full. Why did you. [00:32:02] Speaker B: Because if that's the case, everybody nags their children. Go clean the dishes. I asked you to take out the trash last night before I came home from work, but you didn't. Then we're all nagging our kids. Like, I mean, make it make sense. [00:32:15] Speaker A: So, personal question. Have you ever realized your partner was silently accepting a part of you that they didn't love and you never knew? [00:32:27] Speaker B: I'm sure. I'm sure I'm not perfect. I'm sure they accepted it and just never said anything. But that's because I have a lot of great qualities. It's like, oh, I could deal with that one. And I'm not toxic. To where it's like, so you have a level of toxic. God damn. [00:32:48] Speaker A: So you do have a level of toxicity. [00:32:49] Speaker B: I love her, but she fucking crazy as hell. Like, I'm not that toxic one. I'm not that. It's like. It's like, ooh, what she do right here? Didn't bother the shit out of me. [00:32:59] Speaker A: But I could deal with it. [00:33:00] Speaker B: She's great otherwise. Otherwise, she's amazing. But no, they've never said. I had one person tell me my flaws and refuse to see his own. And I'm not one to point out a man's flaws. Because if I love you, I love you. I'm gonna take whatever. If you snore real loud, I'm just gonna get earplugs. Cause I love you. Not the snoring, like, type stuff. Like, I'm taking whatever come with you. Okay, now, if you raise your hand, my seven brothers and 18 million male cousins is gonna be at your front door. [00:33:36] Speaker A: It's gotta handle it. [00:33:38] Speaker B: Yes, yes. [00:33:40] Speaker A: A problem that somebody people don't want. [00:33:42] Speaker B: But I'm sure. I'm sure. I mean, everybody has a. Everybody has flaws. I would be ridiculous if I said I didn't have flaws. And I'm sure somebody, part of my previous partners have seen it, but they just didn't say anything. [00:33:55] Speaker A: Okay. Because I think the same too. But I was mine to get pointed out as a man. It gets pointed out. [00:34:00] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:01] Speaker A: But I also think like, I'm kind of reflective, so I'll see. The problem with me is I know the problem. I just ain't gonna do nothing about it. [00:34:11] Speaker B: Like, this is me, this is. [00:34:12] Speaker A: But that's, I mean, I know how. [00:34:15] Speaker B: Bad would the problem be? [00:34:16] Speaker A: Like, okay, so like right now I'm having issues with people because I don't have work, life, balance. So a home, like work. And like, I just don't have balance because I'm just not where I want to be. So until I get there, I'm going. [00:34:31] Speaker B: To bust your ass. [00:34:32] Speaker A: I'mma bust my behind to get where I got to get. So the issue is. Oh, you don't got no time. I said, well, yeah, I'm, I am. I do have a son that I have with me all the time 24 7. So no, I can't go out. [00:34:45] Speaker B: Oh, you're a full time dad? [00:34:46] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, that, that, that, that ninja with me all the time. See, So I mean, unless he's with his mom. Cuz, you know, mom is really active and I just know that. So I can't, I can't just jump when you're ready to go. [00:35:02] Speaker B: Right? [00:35:02] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? You might be able to take your kids to daddy house. His mama live in Atlanta, so I don't have no way to just drop him off. [00:35:09] Speaker B: You need to date a full time mom. [00:35:11] Speaker A: Yeah. Huh? [00:35:11] Speaker B: I said, you need to date full time mom. [00:35:14] Speaker A: Yeah, but that's even. Sometimes that's more because. Especially with me and my. I have a lack. Like I don't really have a village. I have some friends and some people, but I don't really have that. Yo, can you today like last minute, can you do this? Can you do that? And I really don't like asking people to do a lot when it comes to my son. So like, because I don't ever want to feel like I'm putting my son off on somebody or pointing them off for me to go have a good time, right When I'm like, shoot, this is a way you could wait till he go to his. Might go to his mama once a month, right? We can do something then. But My. Like I said, that's the one major thing that, you know, has been throughout my life. It's just always been, I work hard. My relationship life, because I don't have work life, balance. And I've been told, like, they don't let that slide. But I'll. I will not bring up a bunch of stuff and stay. Sometimes I stay longer than I should because I'm looking past something that's not making me want to be there. But I'm like, I. Everything else fits. So, you know, am I being superficial or am I being too judgmental on this part? And I think that that's where men get to, is like, you almost don't want to feel like you are being dis. Like you don't want to feel like you're moving on from someone because of one or two qualities when all of these other qualities could be there. And you're almost like, well, right. You know, am I going to find the perfect woman? Does she even exist? And a lot of times, no, she doesn't. [00:36:41] Speaker B: She perfect for you. [00:36:43] Speaker A: She could be perfect for me, but. [00:36:44] Speaker B: In the moment, she ain't perfect. [00:36:46] Speaker A: She ain't perfect. But I just. It's always strange to me that in every relationship you have one person that speaks up, another person that. That just stays quiet. Why do you think that person does not speak up? Like, why do you think they don't, like, really, like, speak out? Because I. I tend to be more quiet. [00:37:06] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:37:07] Speaker A: Cause I'm. Yes. Say whatever you gotta say. And I'm gonna be quiet. And I don't even know why I do it. [00:37:11] Speaker B: I just be like, I'm actually more quiet as well. And the reason why, I just don't like confrontation. I don't like conflict. Like, for some reason I can say my past relationships, when we argue, it's never really been like crazy arguments, but I don't like uncomfortable conversations. Well, I didn't like uncomfortable conversations. [00:37:38] Speaker A: Like, the difficult part. [00:37:40] Speaker B: Yeah. Like back in the day. Today we gonna have an uncomfortable conversation. We gonna sit down, we gonna talk. We gonna figure it out. Cause I love you. We gonna talk about it. But back then, I would eat it. I would just. He did something I don't like. [00:37:58] Speaker A: That's it. It just gonna just go on. [00:38:00] Speaker B: I'm just. I'm quiet. I'm taking it. I'm taking notes. [00:38:04] Speaker A: Are you one of those people who took notes and then at the end of it, you just reeled off all the receipts? [00:38:08] Speaker B: No, I never wrote. Even if we broke up and I didn't have to. I wouldn't say anything. But if we like head button and you going off about me and you going off, and I'm just like, all right, that's enough. Let's calm down and let's talk. And you still going off. Now I'm about to take out the receipts. Cause now you done pissed me off. Now I'm about to be petty and tell you what's wrong with you. That was an old toxic trait about. [00:38:37] Speaker A: That's an old toxic trait. [00:38:38] Speaker B: Yeah. I used to talk about burn a hole in your ass. I'm a burn. I'mma burn you. Pause. Just say that. I thought about. I'm like, oh, that's a lot of burning. [00:38:58] Speaker A: Yes. [00:38:58] Speaker B: I don't. I don't burn people at all. At all. But yes. [00:39:07] Speaker A: Well. Shouts out to the Mama's Den podcast dope show to go check out. I just kind of felt like some of the stuff. What she said was she had the. [00:39:19] Speaker B: Nail head on with the nail on the head. [00:39:21] Speaker A: Hit the nail right on the head. [00:39:22] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:23] Speaker A: I don't think that this. But the funny thing is, a lot of women don't understand that. They do that. [00:39:28] Speaker B: Yeah. That's why relationships don't last. Because men are simple creatures. [00:39:33] Speaker A: We are. [00:39:34] Speaker B: Men are simple creatures. It is black and white. It ain't rainbow. It ain't gray. It is black and white. And it's like, if I'm not doing this to you, why you gotta do this to me? [00:39:45] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:39:45] Speaker B: And that's where a lot of women. I grew up with seven brothers, and I grew up with a plethora of male cousins, so I understand the male species better. [00:39:54] Speaker A: So that makes your perspective different. [00:39:56] Speaker B: Very, very, very. [00:39:58] Speaker A: The majority of. [00:39:59] Speaker B: Because when I would see my. My brothers or cousins with girlfriends and they picking at it, and I'm looking like, why is she doing all. Why are you doing all of that? Like, I learned what not to do to a man. That's what makes me, you know, A1. [00:40:13] Speaker A: A1. [00:40:14] Speaker B: A1. [00:40:18] Speaker A: Producer didn't laugh on that one. [00:40:20] Speaker B: No. [00:40:24] Speaker A: All right. So, yeah, that. That was. That's good stuff. It's good stuff. We're going to run into our last little bit of segment here. Wait. Nope. I forgot to address something early on. Sometimes the show goes left on me. [00:40:37] Speaker B: What's up? [00:40:37] Speaker A: What's up? We had a question of the week. [00:40:41] Speaker B: Oh, okay. [00:40:42] Speaker A: That we posted on social media. Question of the week was, this is why I don't be. When I don't be prepared, this is what happens. And then I have to edit These parts out. All right. [00:40:53] Speaker B: It's okay. It's human. [00:40:55] Speaker A: Question was, what's the pettiest thing you have done? Oh, yeah, I'm sorry. Here we go. I'm sorry. What's the pettiest thing you have done during or after a breakup? So we had a couple comments here. Mine was, I took all the batteries to all the remotes in the house. Ain't nobody watching tv. I'm out. [00:41:20] Speaker B: Really did that? [00:41:20] Speaker A: Yeah. All the batteries. [00:41:21] Speaker B: That's crazy. [00:41:22] Speaker A: Every remote in there. I had every remote, I was upset, too. [00:41:26] Speaker B: Sound like Kevin Hart. [00:41:27] Speaker A: Yeah. Every remote in the house. [00:41:28] Speaker B: He was Kevin Hart Petty. He took all the back pieces to the earrings. [00:41:34] Speaker A: See, like that. That would have been. I had. [00:41:36] Speaker B: He said, you ain't going nowhere. You going out? Nope. Got no jewelry. [00:41:43] Speaker A: Tracy Wagner said she baptized that PlayStation in water. Yeah, she might have had to die. [00:41:53] Speaker B: Don't touch my PS5. My PS4, 3, 2. I play. I'm a gamer. Don't touch my systems. That's why I never understood when those women on YouTube would delete their mens 2k player. Oh, man, do you not understand? [00:42:11] Speaker A: That's petty. I think that's. That's probably. But that hurt a person that plays the. That hurt. That'll hurt. If I went in there, see those. [00:42:19] Speaker B: Videos, I'd be like, oh, if I was his sister. Like, she. Don't she think it's funny? It's not funny, bro. That's not funny. [00:42:29] Speaker A: Shayna said she took the cable box. No more Sunday ticket. [00:42:33] Speaker B: Oh, do what you got to do. [00:42:36] Speaker A: That's what you gotta do. [00:42:37] Speaker B: Especially if she paid the bills. I pay the cable bill. I'm taking the box. [00:42:41] Speaker A: I'm taking the box. She said, no more for nothing. Nobody getting anything. And then the last one disabled the Netflix. No more Netflix then. So now we're going into the X Files. X Files. Time for the X Files. X Files is usually some question I've asked on social media of some scenario from your ex. And this week's question was, before we move on, what was the pettiest thing? [00:43:12] Speaker B: Damn. I was hoping you forgot. [00:43:14] Speaker A: Nah, nah. [00:43:14] Speaker B: I was hoping I was like, oh, he moved on to the next thing. Okay, let's go to the X Files. [00:43:20] Speaker A: No. What's the pettiest thing you've done in the breakup? See, the blow means that, like, you had a lot of. You just got to figure out which one was the pettiest. [00:43:29] Speaker B: I wouldn't say, because I'm very mature, so I don't do too many petty things. Okay, like my petty list isn't long, but when I am petty, we'll have mutual friends. And I make sure the mutual friends understand what's happening. And I always get messages like, yo, you're wild, you're wild. So I was messing. I was talking to somebody and was kind of like he led me on and started acting funny and then find out he was with somebody else and. But he couldn't leave me alone because I offered more. He was just stuck with her. And I posted pussycat Dolls, don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me? She wasn't. She wasn't. [00:44:23] Speaker A: She wasn't you. [00:44:24] Speaker B: She wasn't my level. And our friends knew this. And when I tell you I got the phone calls and text messages like, yo, take that down. That's crazy. [00:44:33] Speaker A: Did you take it down? [00:44:34] Speaker B: Hell no. I said, for what? I hope both of them see it. [00:44:39] Speaker A: Did he see it? [00:44:40] Speaker B: Yes, he saw it. And she saw it too. Because she, she always, she already figured like, oh, he's talking to somebody. But I know I ain't know about her. Yeah, I didn't know about her. So. But then once I found out and then she tried to come to me as a woman, you know when they always do that. And I'm like, I don't have anything to talk to you about. No offense. I didn't know about you. So you, you talked to your man? [00:45:03] Speaker A: Yeah, because he was with her first. [00:45:05] Speaker B: Right? [00:45:06] Speaker A: And he came to you? Yeah, yeah, that's wild. Really wild. [00:45:11] Speaker B: But yeah, that don't ya. And it was videos and pictures of me like going out to the club in my full on sexy Corey. And she couldn't touch me ever. She can't touch me, a normal Corey. So it's like, God damn. [00:45:30] Speaker A: So he just had to wear that. [00:45:32] Speaker B: And all his friends was laughing so hard. Cause everybody, we're all friends. [00:45:37] Speaker A: And you can't come back from that. [00:45:38] Speaker B: No, you ain't coming back from that. They was like, damn. Then he found out I was dealing with somebody. Oh, what? What you up to? Nothing. Leave me alone. Yep, chilling, chilling, chilling. What? What? [00:45:54] Speaker A: All right, so let's get into the X Files. I said, what was the most toxic or funny thing an ex did to get you back? We got a couple of comments here. Pretend to be dying just to get me, get me to call back. [00:46:08] Speaker B: Oh man, this happened to my cousin. For real, man. Faked his death. [00:46:17] Speaker A: That's tr. [00:46:18] Speaker B: Yeah. But then came back and said, I just wanted to see how you would do. Okay, Right, right. [00:46:27] Speaker A: Made a fake Instagram account as a new guy to make me jealous. Showed up at my job with flowers and his new girlfriend. [00:46:39] Speaker B: Wait to win her back. What's the new girlfriend for? We polyamorous, I guess. So what? I don't understand that. [00:46:49] Speaker A: I don't know. That's man. [00:46:51] Speaker B: People, people, you need to. You need to expand on that one. Yeah, I need that. I need more. [00:46:58] Speaker A: Explain that one. [00:46:59] Speaker B: Yes, I need more detail on that one. Please. Chime in. [00:47:02] Speaker A: Definitely. Right back in. Says says they were pregnant with my baby. Even thought I'm a woman even though I'm a woman. Posted old photos of us saying always and forever. [00:47:16] Speaker B: Oh, gosh. [00:47:19] Speaker A: Sent me a long apology email addressed to somebody else. [00:47:26] Speaker B: What's wrong with people? [00:47:27] Speaker A: Called my mom to check on the family. Sent a catch app with the note, take me back, please. Had their new partner DM me asking for advice on how to love them. Created a fake emergency just so I'd come over. Told me their therapist said I was the problem. [00:47:46] Speaker B: Toxic 101. If anybody needs to learn how to be toxic, read these messages, read these comments. I'm desert. [00:47:52] Speaker A: Made a playlist of all our songs and tagged me in it Bought a puppy and named it after me oh. Said they found my hoodie and needed to return it I never owned one Showed up at church the Sunday they knew I'd be there Asked my best friend to put in a good word Started dating my cousin just to stay close to the family that's wild. [00:48:18] Speaker B: Wicked. [00:48:19] Speaker A: That's wild. Why? [00:48:20] Speaker B: And the cousin should have been that ass should have been beat. [00:48:24] Speaker A: Yeah, well, I. I guess not. I guess not. I guess not if she did it. [00:48:30] Speaker B: If she was okay now we're fighting. [00:48:33] Speaker A: Made a tick tock Crying in the car with the caption I messed up Left a voicemail singing Let it burn by or by Usher. [00:48:44] Speaker B: Does anyone have no shame? [00:48:47] Speaker A: Told everyone I died so they could mourn me online and get attention. Yeah, sometimes the. The. The most toxic thing someone told me to get me to try to try to get. [00:49:06] Speaker B: Because I hope you ain't never go back. [00:49:08] Speaker A: No, no, no. [00:49:09] Speaker B: Did you? [00:49:10] Speaker A: I've never. Like once. [00:49:12] Speaker B: Once it's over. [00:49:13] Speaker A: Yeah, Once it's over, like, I might spend the block for a good time. [00:49:18] Speaker B: Yeah, I might try hard. It's right there. [00:49:23] Speaker A: Yeah. It's like, you know, I need some twat. Yeah. [00:49:27] Speaker B: You know, Got to get the poo tang. [00:49:29] Speaker A: Yeah. The Henny. [00:49:31] Speaker B: You don't have to try for that one. [00:49:32] Speaker A: Kicked in Henny done kicked in A nice. [00:49:35] Speaker B: A nice little late night wake up making poor decisions. [00:49:39] Speaker A: Oh, man. And you. [00:49:41] Speaker B: How is it. How do y' all men feel when y' all spend a block to an ex and then you wake up and it's just like, like, what's. What's that moment like, to where y' all actually realize, like, damn, I shouldn't have brought my ass back here. Like, what is. Do y' all have reflective moments like that? Or y' all be like, oh, whatever. [00:50:02] Speaker A: That's. Cause there was a reason why you. You. You no longer talk to this person, right? There's a reason why this. You didn't talk to this person. And when you spin the block, you end up in six months more of just constant. And now you can't, like, directly cut it off. So, yes, we are reflective. We look over and go, oh, my God, what did I do? And it's not. I always say, you do what you want to do. Drinking. Excuse me. Drinking has never made me do anything. I've never gone, I'm drunk. I didn't. Slipped and fell in some. [00:50:36] Speaker B: Right? [00:50:37] Speaker A: But you do, like, it does lower your inhibitions, and you be like, hey, I need to get me one off tonight. Who can I? And you just start going through the phone, and you just start sending that. [00:50:50] Speaker B: That's it. And that's an easy one. [00:50:52] Speaker A: How you doing? Somebody hit you back with, I'm good. Or you post this or post a snap or what's that? Nah, I ain't did nothing with snap. Probably like, post an Instagram story. Just me watching tv, doing nothing. Somebody didn't. What you doing tonight? Or text come through, what you doing? [00:51:10] Speaker B: It's like, ding, ding, ding, here we go. [00:51:13] Speaker A: Or I got the bottle. I'll have a bottle of the drink. Oh, yeah. So. But that's the thing. And then you go. And then you. My brother, years, years, years ago, he told me, he said when he would get drunk and he would want to spin the block or somebody that he knew he had no business messing with, he would. He would go ahead and get one off himself. And if he still wanted to talk to that person or see that person afterwards, then he would hit him up. [00:51:47] Speaker B: That's smart. [00:51:49] Speaker A: But if he didn't, he said most of the time, he's about 90 of the time, he'd be good. He'd be like, all right, well, let me get back to drinking. [00:51:56] Speaker B: That's real good. [00:51:56] Speaker A: And go to sleep. [00:51:57] Speaker B: So he used his brain. [00:51:59] Speaker A: Yeah. The wrong. The right one, the wrong one. And, you know, it's just so funny. Like, it. It. Women make it seem like it's hard to spend the block on it. Oh, he ain't gonna spend. It's a lot simpler. [00:52:10] Speaker B: It's very easy for a man to spend a block. [00:52:12] Speaker A: Yeah, it's quite simpler than. Than women actually believe that it is. Hey, how you doing? You respond what's the same. Once I see. Once I see the grin, I'm in. [00:52:23] Speaker B: Then you already know how to get her. You already know how to push her. [00:52:27] Speaker A: Exactly. And you know exactly which push which. [00:52:29] Speaker B: It's like, yo, I miss you. No, you don't. Why you think I don't? It's. I've always say, God didn't make me a man on purpose or. [00:52:37] Speaker A: Or hit you with a. Don't you remember the time? [00:52:38] Speaker B: Right? [00:52:40] Speaker A: That's a good one. Don't you remember the time when we went here and. Oh, man, we had so much fun. [00:52:45] Speaker B: I was just thinking about that time, you know, you took me. We. I took you out and smile on your face was. I missed that. [00:52:53] Speaker A: Yeah. What you doing? [00:52:55] Speaker B: No, you don't come over so I. [00:52:56] Speaker A: Can see that smile. [00:52:58] Speaker B: I swear my name would. My male name. Brother Lewis. [00:53:02] Speaker A: Brother Lewis. That's your alter ego. Because from the show, I know you have a bunch of alter egos. So Brother Lewis is Brother Lewis. [00:53:08] Speaker B: Is that. [00:53:10] Speaker A: Okay? We gotta get brother Lewis on the show. [00:53:13] Speaker B: One time I picked up a man one time. I was like, you gotta. You. I was like, this smile was real nice. A real nice smile. [00:53:18] Speaker A: And he fell for that. [00:53:19] Speaker B: And he was like, well, I'm gonna. [00:53:21] Speaker A: Say he fell for it. I mean, you're a woman. [00:53:22] Speaker B: He's taking a bag. [00:53:23] Speaker A: I mean, but you're a woman. You're a. No, here's the thing. [00:53:26] Speaker B: Rolled up on him in my car, pulled up with my. With my hit is on the. To the. To the right. And in the back, they rolled down their window too, was like, yo, what's up? And I was like, dang, you real cute. I was like, look at your smile. And he was like, what? And his friends was like, oh, let's go for it. [00:53:47] Speaker A: Like, spitting right here. But what man is going to turn a woman down? [00:53:52] Speaker B: Right, right, right. [00:53:53] Speaker A: Who says that? I don't have to put in no words. [00:53:57] Speaker B: I never put all the work out of it. I never want to make a man feel emasculated. Because, you know, if you pull up on a dude, yo, what up, gorgeous? Like, what up, handsome? [00:54:07] Speaker A: How is that being emasculated? [00:54:08] Speaker B: I don't know. I don't know shit. [00:54:10] Speaker A: I like it. [00:54:10] Speaker B: Cause I know Some men be like, damn, why she got Pull you. I feel like a bitch right now. [00:54:15] Speaker A: But that's. They insecure. [00:54:16] Speaker B: Yeah. Pull me. I guess. [00:54:17] Speaker A: So please say something to me if you see me. You ain't like me. [00:54:19] Speaker B: Say something, Brother Lewis. Pull. [00:54:23] Speaker A: That would say, if you like. [00:54:24] Speaker B: You know. What's that? What's that? When you shoot Skeet. [00:54:28] Speaker A: Yeah, skeet. [00:54:30] Speaker B: Play on words. That one. Brother Lewis is dangerous. [00:54:34] Speaker A: Okay. With the puns. I hear you. All right. Cory usually doesn't like people to follow her on social media. [00:54:41] Speaker B: Who says that? [00:54:42] Speaker A: Huh? [00:54:42] Speaker B: Why you say that? [00:54:43] Speaker A: You don't post. [00:54:45] Speaker B: I just don't post because I. You. [00:54:47] Speaker A: You don't post. No, you don't. [00:54:48] Speaker B: I promise. [00:54:49] Speaker A: You don't post. [00:54:50] Speaker B: You start posting. [00:54:51] Speaker A: You've posted. Maybe. Cause beforehand, since I have been following, I think you posted, like, maybe three things to your stories. There's nothing. [00:54:58] Speaker B: No, not my stories. The post. Like the thing itself. I was posting stories at one point. [00:55:03] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. And. And, yeah. So, like. Okay, I'm just. Let me. Hold on. Because the proof is in the pudding here. Where we at here? [00:55:12] Speaker B: Pulling up my ig. [00:55:13] Speaker A: Oh, definitely. [00:55:15] Speaker B: I just haven't been on Instagram because before. Before my. I. I had old Instagrams, but I wasn't really using four pictures. So I created my cor. Instagram finally. And before then, I just was off Instagram. So I gotta get back to the. [00:55:34] Speaker A: To the groove. [00:55:35] Speaker B: Yes. [00:55:35] Speaker A: Okay. So let's. Let's. [00:55:36] Speaker B: So when I go back to New York, Corey posting. [00:55:39] Speaker A: Oh, I hear you. [00:55:40] Speaker B: And brother Lewis gonna come outside too. [00:55:41] Speaker A: But let's talk about this1post. October 21, 2024. It's blurry. [00:55:48] Speaker B: @ least that is who's Corey? S. So there's a theme to that. [00:55:52] Speaker A: Yeah. Because the next one says, who's Corey Sin? [00:55:54] Speaker B: Yes. [00:55:55] Speaker A: Okay. And it's a couple of days later, so I got that. And then it's lights, camera, action. A silhouette of you, pretty much. I like the vibe of that. [00:56:05] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:56:05] Speaker A: And then just felt like dancing. [00:56:08] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:56:09] Speaker A: That was February 3rd. [00:56:11] Speaker B: Yes. [00:56:11] Speaker A: Yes. [00:56:12] Speaker B: So, but. Okay, so the whole the. The project I'm working on with my. Who is Corey Sin? I'm a writer, and we didn't get into that. [00:56:21] Speaker A: I do know you a writer. Cause one of your alter egos is. [00:56:26] Speaker B: No, no, no. Do not listen. Don't listen to anything. [00:56:30] Speaker A: Be easy. [00:56:31] Speaker B: Says y' all. [00:56:31] Speaker A: I'm listening to. [00:56:32] Speaker B: He calls me Raylene. [00:56:34] Speaker A: Raylene. Yeah. [00:56:35] Speaker B: She is a character in my novel I'm working on. [00:56:37] Speaker A: Okay. [00:56:38] Speaker B: But he just loved calling me Raeleen. I don't know why, but isn't that right, Elle? Like, that's okay. Oh, cousin threw me under the bus. It's fine with the face. He threw me under the bus. Whatever. [00:56:50] Speaker A: Hey, so Raylene is a character that you. [00:56:52] Speaker B: Raylene is a character and you write. [00:56:53] Speaker A: In the book in which person? First person or third person or third person? Omnisant. [00:56:57] Speaker B: Like third and first. [00:56:59] Speaker A: You're right. [00:56:59] Speaker B: It's first and third and third. [00:57:01] Speaker A: Okay. [00:57:02] Speaker B: Rayleen's telling the story, but she's. When she's talking about herself, it's obviously. [00:57:08] Speaker A: So you're the writer. [00:57:09] Speaker B: Yes, I'm the writer. Because where. Where that came from, that Raylene alter ego is B. Was like, oh, so is Raylene you. And I'm like, why do you think it's me? Because you know a lot of writers, I'm like, inspiration. Real life things can come from the ideas come from your real life experiences. And I kind of twist and turn a little bit, but I'm like, no, Raeleen is not me. She's five, seven. She's rich, wealthy woman. I'm almost there, so not too far. [00:57:38] Speaker A: Don't play with it. [00:57:39] Speaker B: She light skinned, okay? A mama dead. My mama's here. I got both my parents. [00:57:47] Speaker A: But you light skinned. [00:57:48] Speaker B: I'm not light skinned. [00:57:49] Speaker A: I'm just brown. According to the Southern people. Cause they tell me I'm light skinned every day. [00:57:53] Speaker B: Me and Rayleen have nothing in common. [00:57:57] Speaker A: Okay. I mean, I just. I just go from being a fan of the DJ Blaze show, radio show. [00:58:03] Speaker B: It feels like you've been dying to ask those questions. [00:58:06] Speaker A: Nope, this is not me dying to ask. Cause I would have just said no. [00:58:08] Speaker B: I'm talking about. I'm talking about the Raylene, like. Oh, no. Writer. [00:58:11] Speaker A: No, no, no. The writer part. The writer part I forgot about. The writer part I forgot about is B. [00:58:16] Speaker B: And L is always. They always bother me and Raylene. [00:58:20] Speaker A: They do, they do. It's Raylene and then there's another character. There's a character you get into. What's the. Ain't it like a white woman or something like that? [00:58:29] Speaker B: Carol. [00:58:30] Speaker A: Carol. [00:58:31] Speaker B: When I talk like this. [00:58:32] Speaker A: Yeah, Carol. And then now we got Lewis. So it's really. I'm sorry, Brother Lewis. Raylene, Carol and brother Lewis, the don. Alrighty, people. [00:58:45] Speaker B: Carol. Carol doesn't take from nobody. From nobody. [00:58:50] Speaker A: Is she a Karen? Is Carol. [00:58:51] Speaker B: No, no, no, no. Carol's Italian. [00:58:53] Speaker A: She's. Oh, so she ain't really. She ain't all the way white. [00:58:56] Speaker B: She's not white. She's ethnic white. [00:58:58] Speaker A: She's ethnic. [00:59:01] Speaker B: Black people call people. That's not white. Ethnic white. Like, what does that even mean? [00:59:06] Speaker A: I dated an Italian when I lived. When I was living in New York. [00:59:10] Speaker B: I love Italians. [00:59:11] Speaker A: Angelina. [00:59:13] Speaker B: Her name would be Angelina. [00:59:15] Speaker A: Angelina. She. She was okay looking, but who we. [00:59:21] Speaker B: What? [00:59:22] Speaker A: In that room. [00:59:23] Speaker B: Oh, gotcha. Gotcha. [00:59:25] Speaker A: Huh? The boom boom room. The boom boom room and raised boom boom room. You could. You could have messed with her. [00:59:34] Speaker B: Wait, wait, so let me finish. Back to court. [00:59:36] Speaker A: Go ahead. [00:59:37] Speaker B: So with my novel, the way I want to release it is like, I want to film parts of the story, like, make it like a little movie. Little movie. [00:59:48] Speaker A: Mini movies. [00:59:49] Speaker B: Yeah, mini movies. Just to release it. And then introducing me is always going to be, like, mysterious in a way. Like, just the. The story itself is always mysterious. And then it's like, who is Corey Sin? Corey Sin's a writer. Corey Sin likes to dance. But there's so much more to Corey. Who's Corey? [01:00:08] Speaker A: So you're gonna be. [01:00:09] Speaker B: Because I'm new, too. I'm new to it, too. So it's like, who's Corey Sin? [01:00:13] Speaker A: So you're trying to figure out who Corey's in this. [01:00:14] Speaker B: No, I want everybody else to figure out who Corey's in is. [01:00:17] Speaker A: Okay. [01:00:17] Speaker B: Especially with me and my 18 personalities. Like, who the hell is Corey Said? [01:00:21] Speaker A: Cause you don't know which one you gonna show up. [01:00:23] Speaker B: I feel like being. Who do I feel like being today? [01:00:26] Speaker A: All right, well, hopefully you feel like being on the show more. That's what I'm hoping for. But, y' all, thank y' all for coming. Thank you, Corey, for your time. [01:00:35] Speaker B: Thank you for having me. [01:00:36] Speaker A: Wait, hold on. Where's the book? When's the book coming out? [01:00:39] Speaker B: TBD to determine. [01:00:41] Speaker A: Tbd? You gonna get a publisher or you gonna do self publishing? [01:00:44] Speaker B: I don't know yet. I don't know yet. [01:00:46] Speaker A: Cause I had a friend of mine. [01:00:47] Speaker B: Cause I definitely plan on, like, recording some chapters, reading out loud, putting clips out and stuff like that just to gain my audience. And, you know, when you gain an audience, publishers might come to you like, hey, hey, hey. [01:01:03] Speaker A: Yeah, we need you to do it. [01:01:05] Speaker B: Yeah, we want to do your book Popular. Yeah, let's talk now, if that happens. Sure. But I'm probably going to be pushing my own stuff. I want to keep all my money, too. [01:01:16] Speaker A: Yeah. Because I think when you start to be Raylene wealthy. Hey, long money. [01:01:22] Speaker B: Long money. My paper loan. [01:01:26] Speaker A: Okay, Okay, I got to go. All right. Thank y' all for tapping into the relationship status podcast once again. I'm your Boy Yousef in the building with Corey Sin and we are out. Peace. Thank you for listening to another episode of Relationship Status. Remember, you can catch us on relationshipstatuspodcast.com or iTunes, Google Podcast, iHeartRadio, Spotify, Pandora. [01:01:51] Speaker B: Amazon Music, and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. [01:01:54] Speaker A: If you would like to join the. [01:01:55] Speaker B: Conversation, email [email protected] follow us on Facebook at Relationship Status Podcast on Instagram and Twitter e L S Tat podcast and. [01:02:08] Speaker A: Don'T forget to comment. Share 5 star rate. [01:02:10] Speaker B: Subscribe and review.