273rd Date: SHE Calls Him Too Much... Is She Clingy or Is He Pulling Away?

[00:00:00] Speaker A: You're not paying for it. [00:00:01] Speaker B: So. So wait a minute, Wait a minute. You would rather split something and allow me to pay for my own food? Because again, what if I'm hungry and what you're trying to give me is not enough? [00:00:14] Speaker C: That's why your ex went out with somebody else. [00:00:18] Speaker A: My conversation will fill you up. [00:00:20] Speaker B: Get the. [00:00:22] Speaker A: Yeah, see, you ain't. [00:00:23] Speaker C: You ain't ready. I definitely. [00:00:26] Speaker B: That pissed me off. That almost pissed me off. [00:00:29] Speaker C: I think we better get back to advice, baby. We need to get back to advising this baby. Because you don't cut me off. [00:00:37] Speaker B: I almost cut Angel. [00:00:40] Speaker C: Let it go. [00:00:48] Speaker A: Welcome back to Relationship Status. It's your boy Yousef in the building. And remember that you can find us on all podcast platforms. Remember to like, share, follow, and 5 star rate. And if you do not 5 star rate, guess what? You are a hater. Once again, I want to thank you for joining the show as your boy here. V is out again. And also remember that we are brought to you by eat My Biscuits, 2881 Main street in downtown Atlanta, Georgia. Go ahead and check them out. V will be there. Tell her that we sent you. As she says, they have biscuits breakfast brunch. So. Also brought to you by Crux Media. Make sure if you want your podcast done right. Cruxmedia Group LLC.com it's cruxmediagroup LLC.com schedule your free consultation and they will take care of you. Everything from the start of your podcast. Descriptions, clips, everything you need. One place, one space for a real good price. Hit them up cruxmediagroup llc.com and as you can see, at some point it'll pop up. We have two lovely ladies with me today. Although they was clowning me before. They were talking about my. My shorts, my songs. They said I mismatch. I don't know what they got going on, but I really want to thank them for being here. First off, third time on the show. Fourth time on the show. Angel. How you doing, Angel? [00:02:10] Speaker B: I'm doing good. How are you? [00:02:12] Speaker A: I'm. I'm. I'm good. You, you enjoying yourself? [00:02:16] Speaker B: I am outside. [00:02:18] Speaker A: You outside or inside this week? [00:02:20] Speaker B: A little bit of both. [00:02:21] Speaker A: Use a little bit of both. [00:02:22] Speaker B: A little bit of both. It's so hot outside. So during the day, like inside, but [00:02:27] Speaker A: maybe at night time you're getting outside. [00:02:29] Speaker B: Just a little bit outside. [00:02:30] Speaker A: Okay. As long as it ain't too hot. [00:02:32] Speaker B: Yeah, if it's not too hot. [00:02:33] Speaker A: Okay. And then from the King Me podcast, the queen of the King Me podcast, it is Chanel. How you doing? Chanel, welcome. [00:02:40] Speaker C: Fine. How are you? [00:02:41] Speaker A: I'm good. Welcome to the show. [00:02:43] Speaker C: Thank you. Thank you. [00:02:45] Speaker A: King Me Podcast. [00:02:46] Speaker C: Yes. [00:02:47] Speaker A: You would assume is all guys, but you're the one lone woman with Brandon and Q now, since they're not here to look at you. Strange how you put up with those two. [00:02:58] Speaker C: I mean, I tell them what to do when they do it. [00:03:01] Speaker A: You know, that's going to be a clip and we're going to post it and they're going to be tattooing. [00:03:05] Speaker C: They can't go against it now. [00:03:06] Speaker A: They can't go. But how. How did y'? [00:03:09] Speaker C: All. [00:03:10] Speaker A: How did you get to be on the show? [00:03:11] Speaker C: And me and Brandon have been friends for about eight years. We were co workers. Well, we are co workers. So he's been telling me about his idea with Kimi Pie for a few years when he originally started it. And it actually started with me just being a guest because Q was out one day and it started from there. [00:03:32] Speaker B: I [00:03:34] Speaker C: started with the show as just a guest and we just hit it off and now I'm of a couple co host. So, yeah. [00:03:40] Speaker A: How's that process been? Like, what was it like seeing yourself for the first time on screen and. But you're a performer, though. You. You have, you have. You're multi talented. You sing. [00:03:49] Speaker C: Yes. And I manage my son, who's a saxophonist who also sings, so I'm always dealing with the music side. But I was a little star struck. Like what? I'm on a podcast. [00:04:02] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:03] Speaker C: But like I said, me and Brandon bounce ideas off each other all the time, so it felt real comfortable to sit down and have a conversation about something that we do over the phone or at work all the time. So, yeah, it felt real natural to be able to do it, but to actually see myself doing was a little star struck. Like, I can't believe I actually did that. But, yeah, I'm enjoying it. We have great topics. Kimi Pot is about wellness for men, mental health issues, things that men face every day that often gets overlooked. And we want to highlight that especially for our black men. I'm a mother of four sons, so no, I do not want to turn King Me Pod into king and kings and queens. I want to keep it about the men because I definitely love my boys and I don't want them to be overlooked like so many men have. [00:04:47] Speaker A: Okay. Single mom raised your boys. [00:04:49] Speaker C: Yes. [00:04:51] Speaker A: What do they think about mom being on the podcast? [00:04:55] Speaker C: Their first take on it was, listen, don't get on that telling our business. And I got on that telling Their business. I did. And I keep trying to tell myself, don't call them boy names. And I do. I do. I tell all they business. But they're proud of me because my hidden talent is I love to write. I write a lot of poetry. I've actually written two books that I'm trying to publish this year. So they know that that's an inner thing in me that I've always wanted to do and never actually tapped into. So, yeah, they're proud. But again, they reiterate all the time, don't tell our business. Like, we ain't telling you nothing else. Cause we know you'll get on that podcast and tell all our business. So. Yeah, so. But, yeah, they're very much proud. [00:05:38] Speaker A: And I've been there for you guys recording, and I'm a huge fan of the show. I think my favorite story that you've told. [00:05:45] Speaker C: Oh, God. [00:05:47] Speaker A: Is a couple. But the one of your son that you closed the door and he had to sleep outside. [00:05:53] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:05:53] Speaker A: And he, like, was so unbothered at the fact that you made him sleep outside. [00:05:56] Speaker C: I wanted to fight him. [00:05:59] Speaker A: Like, he's trying to teach him a lesson. [00:06:01] Speaker C: And, yeah, he came in late, my eldest son, and he had already went off to the army, grown man. And I was like, listen, you still under my roof. You gotta come in at a certain time. And he was like, I'm grown. I come in when I get ready, you know? But I was getting up, ready for work, and I was like, look, you're not coming here anytime you want to. I slapped Purity spit out of him, said, get out my house. Don't get out my house. He was like, okay, like, I'm packing my stuff. No, that's my stuff. You leave with what you got on, bro. Went in fetal position, slept on the front lawn. Like, she said I had to get out of the house. She didn't say I had to leave the yard. And I sat up in a window upset. Like, this boy is so unbothered. He went to sleep. I just snored. I was upset. I got outside and was like, nah, wake up. This ain't gonna work for me. This ain't gonna work for me. Yeah. But, yeah, me and those boys went through it, but I'm very much proud of them. Like, they are me. [00:06:53] Speaker A: Okay, well, that's good. Thank you for joining us today. Like, I said, watch you guys show. Really enjoy the show. Comes out Every Thursday on YouTube and all podcast platforms. So let's get into. First thing that we're gonna talk about is Our question of the day. You know, if you want to take part in the question of the day, join the relationship status advice group or follow the relationship status page, as well as, hey, don't forget, hit the Patreon, patreon.com backslash relationship status. So question of the week was. Be honest. What's worse in 2026? Angel, you gotta pick one, because I know how you. I know how you do. No, I know how you do. No, no, no. This is episode four, so I know how you do. Okay, you gotta pick one. [00:07:39] Speaker B: Okay. [00:07:40] Speaker A: All right. Be honest. Which is worse in 2026? Cheating, lying, or secretly recording a video in the car after an argument and posting it to social media? [00:07:49] Speaker C: Secretly recording a video. I cannot stand that. [00:07:56] Speaker A: See what I mean? [00:07:58] Speaker C: I. I understand her dilemma. Because all of it's bad. [00:08:01] Speaker B: Yeah, it's. [00:08:02] Speaker A: But which. [00:08:03] Speaker B: That's a lot. [00:08:04] Speaker C: Jeez. [00:08:12] Speaker B: I'm gonna say lying. [00:08:13] Speaker A: Lying. [00:08:14] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:08:15] Speaker A: Okay. Why you say lying? Why. Why is lying the choice, like, your. Your method of choice? [00:08:21] Speaker B: Like, what. What are you even lying for? Like that. [00:08:24] Speaker A: Because they don't want to get in trouble. [00:08:26] Speaker B: But it just takes so much effort to lie. Because when you tell a lie, now you gotta cover it up with another lie, and you gotta cover it up with another lie. Like, so now I can't believe anything you say. Like, you say, you go inside. I don't believe you because I know that you lie. Like, recording me. I don't care. [00:08:42] Speaker A: No, not recording you. Not recording you. [00:08:44] Speaker B: Recording. [00:08:45] Speaker A: Like, you go, like, we have an argument, huh? And then I leave out. And then I go into the car and I record, guess what, y'? All. And then I post it on social media. [00:08:53] Speaker B: I don't care. Because I said what I said, and tell them that. [00:08:56] Speaker A: Okay. [00:08:57] Speaker B: All right, now. [00:08:58] Speaker A: All right, I answered. We had a couple of comments, and I answered under the comments. So this is what I put. I said, cheating hurts. Lying destroys trust. But secretly recording a video in the car after an argument and posting that video on social media, that's not a red flag. That's a whole production company at that point. I'm not dating you. I'm a cast member on season four of Love and Clout. Imagine arguing in private and seeing yourself on Facebook 20 minutes later with sad music captions and a poll asking strangers, who's wrong? 2026 got people turning relationships into reality TV. Before the argument even cools off, Keisha Pearson shouts out to you, oh, breakfast. If you're looking for some good breakfast, hit up Keisha Pearson. I'm gonna post It. And I'll post a little link in the comments. Cooks every day breakfast, be on point, and they deliver. So hit up Keisha. She says, yes, it's these phone and social medias. Nothing's private anymore. It's sad. Rashida, cuz down in Atlanta, she said, dating. Dating is worse. That covers the cheater, the liar, and the childish mofo recorded, of course. I said, you gotta. You gotta pick one. Dating wasn't an option. And she says, well, the recorder doc, the. The chiropractor of the show, Chiro Sense, long time supporter of the show Chiro Sense in Charleston. Get it? Crack. Get your back. Crack. Cracking backing. All right. Cheating and lying are the same to me. But that damn video in the car. If you don't get your ass off that video. Cause Ibrahim said lying. Auntie Pat said, it's my aunt. Love you, Auntie. A cheater is always a liar because to get away with cheating, they have to lie. And a liar is lying to get away with. To cheat. Both the hurtful and destructive to the person subjected to either. The video will go get back in the car and bend over and spread eagle and show the fool what they will be missing and that they will no longer need to lie about or cheat with you about. Just get. Just get the friends out of here and go get whatever they lying about and cheating with. So once again, man, y' all tap in every time you see the post. Just go ahead and comment. We're gonna get into some either or this or that. Y' all know, at the beginning of every episode, we get into this or that with the. With the guests. Why you start breathing heavy so already, [00:11:17] Speaker B: you know already, like. [00:11:18] Speaker A: I mean, like, you just, like, as soon as we start. [00:11:22] Speaker B: You did that earlier to me. [00:11:24] Speaker A: We weren't on camera. There's a difference. [00:11:26] Speaker C: You did do it in the mic. [00:11:27] Speaker A: I did not. There's no proof. [00:11:31] Speaker C: I heard. I'm a witness. [00:11:32] Speaker A: There's no. [00:11:33] Speaker C: A witness stands in the court of law. [00:11:34] Speaker B: Oh. [00:11:35] Speaker A: Oh. [00:11:36] Speaker B: Both heard it. [00:11:37] Speaker C: Yes. [00:11:37] Speaker B: It's two against one. [00:11:38] Speaker A: But witnesses be lying. So I'm just saying. All right, first one. Would you rather have a partner who is overly affectionate or overly independent? [00:11:50] Speaker C: Say that one more time. [00:11:51] Speaker A: My brain got arrested. Would you rather have a partner who is overly affectionate or overly independent? [00:12:00] Speaker C: Overly affectionate. [00:12:01] Speaker B: Overly affectionate. [00:12:02] Speaker A: Overly affectionate. Y' all like that? [00:12:04] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:12:05] Speaker C: I mean, I don't want them overly independent. [00:12:07] Speaker B: Yeah. Because then I feel like he don't need me. Yeah, you. You can do your own thing if you're Independent. But my love language is like, physical touch. So I like. Yeah, I like that. Give me the affection. I like that. [00:12:23] Speaker A: Would you rather be with someone who always agrees with you or always challenges you? [00:12:28] Speaker C: Always challenges me. [00:12:31] Speaker A: Why? I just agree with me and let's move on. [00:12:36] Speaker C: I need a challenge. [00:12:38] Speaker B: Yeah. I feel like if you're just gonna agree with everything I say, I'm like, are you just agreeing with me to shut me up? Yeah. Or. [00:12:45] Speaker A: Well, that's true. That's true. [00:12:47] Speaker B: Are you just agreeing with me? [00:12:48] Speaker A: That's true. [00:12:49] Speaker B: Set me up. Yeah, I like a little, you know, little razzle. Yeah. I like a little, you know, sometimes [00:12:56] Speaker A: a little bit later on it might [00:12:57] Speaker B: turn into something else. I don't know, you know, like, you know, you argue a little bit. [00:13:01] Speaker C: Yeah, give me that. [00:13:03] Speaker A: All right. Would you rather go on a fancy dinner date or an adventurous one? [00:13:07] Speaker C: Adventurous. [00:13:07] Speaker B: Adventurous one. [00:13:08] Speaker A: Yeah, me too. I'm into. I'm into. Like, I think dinner is kind of done. [00:13:14] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:13:15] Speaker A: Although I am a foodie, I do like going out to good restaurants and enjoying a good meal. I do feel that you can. You can. You can wear that out. That dinners can wear out. I like. I like an experience. That's the word I was looking for. Would you like a part? Would you rather have a partner who's always on time or always well dressed? [00:13:40] Speaker C: Always well, well dressed. [00:13:43] Speaker A: So what if this. What if this dude late all the time? [00:13:45] Speaker C: You could be. Listen, I'm late. How about you take your time and get dressed? [00:13:49] Speaker B: I'm always late. Listen, at least if you late, you late for a reason. [00:13:56] Speaker C: Cause you was getting yourself together. [00:13:57] Speaker B: Yeah. All of that. [00:13:59] Speaker A: I'd rather you ain't gotta smell good. [00:14:00] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:01] Speaker A: Y' all asking a lot. [00:14:02] Speaker C: That's not a lot. [00:14:04] Speaker B: That's not. [00:14:04] Speaker C: I sacrifice 15 minutes for that. [00:14:06] Speaker B: Yeah, please. [00:14:07] Speaker A: You'll sacrifice 15 minutes. [00:14:08] Speaker B: A well dressed man. [00:14:10] Speaker A: Okay. Okay. Okay, what? Okay, now we gotta. We gotta. We gotta define well dressed. Now, if you. If you 30 minutes late and you got on some jeans with holes in [00:14:23] Speaker B: it and the teeth, man, that's not well dressed. [00:14:25] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:14:25] Speaker A: Okay, so what's well dressed? [00:14:26] Speaker B: Right? Absolutely. That's not a reason to be late to me. What? And it also depends on where we're going. [00:14:33] Speaker C: Right? [00:14:34] Speaker B: Okay, I agree with that. Yeah. It's. If we're just going to a Knicks game. Shout out to the Knicks, 2026 champs. [00:14:45] Speaker A: Just saying. [00:14:46] Speaker B: If we're just going to a game, I want you to bring, like, a little sweat, like a little, you know, the cap, nice pair of sneakers. Nice Nice shirt, nice pair. That's like, well dressed. But if we're going to a gala or somewhere, like a suit, like a. It's just all. It depends on where we're going. [00:15:06] Speaker C: And certain things, you can be fashionably late and it's okay there certain things that you have to be punctual for that I probably wouldn't excuse. [00:15:15] Speaker B: Right. [00:15:16] Speaker C: But no, this next one. [00:15:18] Speaker A: I don't know why I put this down, but I know the answer to this, so I. Would you rather your partner spend too much money or be too cheap? [00:15:26] Speaker C: Spend too much money. [00:15:29] Speaker A: Okay, this is the last question. Would you rather your partner be friends with all of their exes? [00:15:36] Speaker C: No. [00:15:38] Speaker A: Or. [00:15:39] Speaker C: I don't even need to hear. [00:15:39] Speaker A: Or wait. Or Have a lot of friends of the opposite sex that were not their ex. [00:15:46] Speaker C: He ain't having either one. Or he. [00:15:48] Speaker A: No, you got to pick one. No, you got to pick. You have to pick. No, that. [00:15:55] Speaker B: No, that's such a dude question. [00:15:57] Speaker A: How was that a dude question? [00:15:59] Speaker C: Have a lot of female friends and he going to be friends. [00:16:02] Speaker B: That's a question. [00:16:03] Speaker A: How was that a dude question? How was. It's of the opposite sex. [00:16:08] Speaker C: Oh, okay. [00:16:09] Speaker A: That's all it said was of the opposite sex. [00:16:10] Speaker C: Okay. [00:16:11] Speaker A: How was that a dude? It could. It could have been a guy sitting there. I'm a guy and I'm sitting there. [00:16:15] Speaker B: Came up with that question. I was going to say neither, but I would probably. [00:16:23] Speaker A: You got to pick one. [00:16:24] Speaker B: Oh, fine. [00:16:26] Speaker C: I pick one. I pick not to be with him. [00:16:32] Speaker B: If I had to pick, and this is hard, I would say X's, because I'm going to say an X for a reason. But if they have not been with you, what if they're trying to explore the possibility of being with. You know. [00:16:49] Speaker A: No, but I mean, they're not exploring. They're with you. Shouldn't you trust them? They're with you. [00:16:54] Speaker B: That's one reason I'm not. Never mind. [00:16:57] Speaker A: That's one reason you're not what? [00:17:00] Speaker B: In a relationship now. So. No. [00:17:05] Speaker C: No, I'm gonna let angel have that one. Already made my decision. [00:17:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:17:08] Speaker C: I'm breaking up. [00:17:09] Speaker A: That y'. [00:17:10] Speaker C: All. [00:17:10] Speaker A: Y' all just wrong. [00:17:11] Speaker B: And now, like, where I see. I will probably break up now because of the past. I'm like, nah, not even doing it. Yeah. No. Cause why? Because if. If you can, I can do it too. [00:17:22] Speaker A: Yeah. I'm not. [00:17:22] Speaker B: It's never fun when the rabbit got the gun. [00:17:24] Speaker A: I'm saying, this rabbit gonna shoot. Okay, but what I'm saying. [00:17:29] Speaker B: I promise, when you razzle I'm a dazzle. [00:17:31] Speaker A: But that's the thing. Like, why, why. First off, it don't have to be. No tit for tat. [00:17:35] Speaker C: It don't have to be. [00:17:36] Speaker B: It don't have to be, but it's solid. [00:17:38] Speaker C: But why do you need female friends? [00:17:39] Speaker B: And why do you need to be [00:17:40] Speaker C: friends with your exes? Well, they exist for a reason. Ask them out your life. [00:17:45] Speaker A: But what if the. What if breakups are amicable and you just still happen to be friends? [00:17:51] Speaker C: Then be single and have your friends [00:17:53] Speaker A: like me and my. Me and my one. Me and my. My kid's mom. [00:17:57] Speaker C: Yes or no? [00:17:58] Speaker A: We're good. We're good friends. We're good friends. [00:18:00] Speaker C: Now that's a difference. Okay, children. [00:18:03] Speaker B: But she's parenting and I. And I will say so. And this may not count. And maybe it does count. So I am still friends with my. From high school. And I don't know if that counts because we were like, no. That count. [00:18:19] Speaker C: It depends on how deep the relationship was, I think. [00:18:23] Speaker B: Like, we were like, we were together for like, I want to say seven years. From like 15 to like the time I was 21. And then it was a little dope and see him for like a very long time. And then I saw him again. But yeah, we just like, he'll call me and be like, hey, I went on a date with such and such. Like, what you think about that? I'm like, I don't know. Or, you know, he'll just ask me a certain way. I'm like, I think, I think she's cute. I think. I like, I think you should go [00:18:54] Speaker C: for it and see that right there. That's the misconception people have when you consider somebody a friend. That's friendship. [00:19:01] Speaker B: Right? And that's it. [00:19:02] Speaker C: I don't want my man to have a friendship like that with another woman [00:19:06] Speaker A: where you can have. [00:19:07] Speaker C: Yeah. And that's okay if that's what they had. But what I'm saying is if you're my man, and when you feel a certain type of way, you have friendships, genuine friendships with your exes. When you have an issue with me and you want to have a female perspective and you calling up your ex and that woman give you some ill advice because she want you back. No, you're assuming that Sagittarius energy is going to sag. [00:19:31] Speaker A: No, but you. But you're assuming that. But you're assuming that she wants me back. [00:19:35] Speaker C: I'm not assuming nothing. I'm not preparing myself for the word. I'm not putting Myself in a position [00:19:39] Speaker B: for the words 86 it all together. Like, just let it go. [00:19:42] Speaker C: Go ahead, ask for another question. Question. [00:19:44] Speaker B: See what happen. [00:19:46] Speaker C: Ask another question. [00:19:47] Speaker B: Yeah, I just. [00:19:48] Speaker C: I am not doing that to myself. [00:19:50] Speaker A: All right. All right. Well, thank y' all for participating. Needless to say. Don't get your head bust by Chanel. Don't get your head bust by Chanel. [00:19:59] Speaker C: Don't do that. [00:20:00] Speaker A: Might be the topic. That might be the title episode. All right, we gonna get into this advice letter. If you want to write it in, please hit us up. R e L S T A T podcast gmail.com. that's R E L S T A T podcastmail.com or put it in the advice group. Just search Relationship Status Podcast advice group. Join the group. It's a private group. You could put your deepest, darkest secrets in there and get some of the other group members get their takes on it. All right, so this one reads, dear Relationship Status Podcast, I need some advice because my boyfriend and I keep running into the same issue and we can't seem to get on the same page. We've been together for a few years, and lately I've noticed that when he's out with friends or busy doing his own thing, I start feeling a little disconnected. I text or call just to check in, and sometimes he feels like I'm doing too much. From my perspective, I'm just trying to stay connected. Another thing is that I tend to remember old disagreements. I don't always bring them up to throw them in his face, but sometimes I feel like certain issues never get. Never got fully resolved, and he thinks I should let things go. While I think he should make sure where we've actually learned from them. We also disagree on what's okay to share with friends and family. If we're having a problem, I might talk to my mom or choose a friend to get advice. He feels like some things should stay between us. I understand his point, but sometimes I need another perspective. Recently, he's been talking more about setting boundaries and having personal space. I support that, but I also want to make sure we're not becoming so independent that we stop prioritizing the relationship. My question is, how do you balance staying connected with giving each other space? And when does bringing up old issues become helping the relationship versus hurting it? I love to hear your thoughts because I know neither of us is trying to be difficult. We just seem to have different views on what a healthy relationship looks like. Sincerely trying to find the balance. We'll start with you, Chanel. What did you what is. What is your. [00:22:09] Speaker C: What advice going to come my way first? Okay. I see a lot of red flags with her. [00:22:17] Speaker A: Okay. [00:22:17] Speaker C: One, she's saying that I am checking in. When she's not checking in, she's searching for reassurance. She's searching for more than what she's saying it is. [00:22:28] Speaker A: So she's being a woman, basically. So she's being a woman basically being needy. [00:22:32] Speaker C: She's being needy. [00:22:33] Speaker A: Oh, that's what it is. [00:22:33] Speaker B: She being a woman. All women don't do. No. [00:22:36] Speaker A: Okay. [00:22:37] Speaker C: What it sounds like to me is I'm gonna be blunt about it. She need to get some business she don't have. It sounds like to me. [00:22:47] Speaker B: And. [00:22:47] Speaker C: And being real, I'm 45. I'm not sure what your age is. [00:22:51] Speaker B: I'm 46. [00:22:51] Speaker C: Okay, so she sounds real young, and she's being a little too clingy. She didn't say every time he's out with his friend, she says every time he's out doing something or being busy, that could be at his job, that could be handling his career, whatever he's doing. Anytime this man is not in her presence, she is insecure, and that's unhealthy for her, and that's gonna push him away because she said he's already said, you doing too much, girl. Stop calling my phone every time I leave the house. Stop calling my phone if they don't live together. Every time I leave you, you. You blowing me up. [00:23:24] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:23:25] Speaker C: He's not just needing space. He's needing her to understand that we can be a part and you need to be okay. [00:23:32] Speaker A: Okay. What about you, Angie? What you think? [00:23:33] Speaker B: I agree with that. If he already said, like, Especially when she said, like, he was going out or whatever. If he already told you what it is, why are you texting to say, hey, I'm just check he are. If he out, he already told you what he was doing. Yeah, like, and I don't like that. I don't like the clinginess. If I already told you what it is, you don't have to blow my phone up because it's. That's going to push me away. And when he set boundaries, like, I really think she is pushing him away because you don't have to call somebody every five or ten minutes, like she was saying. I think she's searching for reassurance, and it sounds like they went through something before and that's why she's doing. [00:24:17] Speaker A: But who's to say? Who's to say that that's like Sometimes. Sometimes the woman is just wilding out. Sometimes it ain't got nothing to do with the man doing because it just seems as though if. If I'm somebody, if I'm like, here's my thing, all right? And this is just relationships, period, whether it's the man's side or the woman's side. And I have said this 2019, since this show has been on air seven years. All right? The. My grandmother told me, she said, if a person's gonna leave, they're gonna leave anyway. All you got to do is just not be the reason they leave. [00:24:55] Speaker C: Right? [00:24:56] Speaker B: Right. [00:24:56] Speaker A: So if I'm treating you like something, I'm. I'm treating you like somebody. I'm doing everything I can. I'm communicating with you. I'm transparent with you. If I'm going out, apparently you know where he's going, because you said if he's out or he's out with his friends. [00:25:12] Speaker B: Right? [00:25:12] Speaker A: He's. He's telling you, hey, I'm, you know, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna hun. I'm going out with my friends tonight. If that's the case, then you can't be insecure. I think that that's the one relationship killer a lot of people do not realize when they're insecure and they mask it as, oh, well, I care so much. Oh, well, I miss you. Oh, well, I this. And, oh, no, you're insecure. You. You're saying she needs validation. No, she doesn't need the validation because it doesn't matter what he was doing. You know what I'm saying? She's just insecure. And it just seem. It comes off. It's such an unattractive trait to deal with the insecure woman. It is. Because first off, to a certain degree, women want to know everything anyway. So that's the first thing. [00:25:54] Speaker C: Secondly, I ain't going to let you do that. [00:25:58] Speaker B: I want to disagree. [00:25:59] Speaker C: I'm going give you a different perspective, because I do. See, that's what's happening with her. But I'm going to tell you something that men do to us. [00:26:06] Speaker A: I'm ask. I'm asking a question. I don't mean to cut you off, but I'm asking a question. [00:26:10] Speaker C: What. [00:26:11] Speaker A: How many women you dated? [00:26:12] Speaker C: I had to date one. I am. [00:26:14] Speaker A: Okay, if you. Exactly. You. This, this the issue I have. When women tell. When women tell us about women, y' all ain't dated them. We have. We are women, but we. We have the experience dating women. [00:26:25] Speaker B: Can we say it's the Kind of women that you date. [00:26:29] Speaker A: No, no. [00:26:30] Speaker C: Like you tell me it's the pool [00:26:31] Speaker B: you swim in, right? [00:26:32] Speaker A: It's not my pool. My pool is very sweet. [00:26:34] Speaker B: Women that you date. [00:26:36] Speaker C: Let me tell you this. Let me tell you this. A lot of times dating people. I'm not even going to say men or women dating people. And others, we start off in this honeymoon stage. Let's say, for instance, in this stage with him and her. He was that guy that checked in with her all the time, but he [00:26:52] Speaker A: is checking and he's telling her where he's going. [00:26:54] Speaker C: Hear me out, Okay? A lot of times I. I could say for myself, I could date a guy and we'll sit on the phone three or four hours while he at work. But then after I done been dating for a while, we on the phone for 20 minutes. Monkey, when you were talking on the phone me three or four hours. [00:27:08] Speaker A: No. [00:27:08] Speaker C: But [00:27:10] Speaker A: isn't that the evolution? [00:27:12] Speaker C: Some people start off that way. And then for us as women, y' all have to understand this. When you start something with us. That's why we like you. [00:27:21] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:27:22] Speaker C: And we get stuck in that. We get stuck in that way. Hear it all. You gotta hear it. [00:27:26] Speaker A: I'm hearing it all. [00:27:27] Speaker C: Act like them rubber duckies and be quiet. I need you to hear it all. Y' all start something. And that's the reason why we like you. That's the reason they got us interested in you. And now that we're comfortable with what we like, then you change. And now what we're doing becomes nagging. [00:27:46] Speaker A: No. And. And. And now here's the thing. Now let's. Let's use your. Your situation. We've been talking on the phone three hours. Okay? So conversation has been. Have. Getting to know each other early on in any relationship, conversation is going to be long. The more you get to know each other, the shorter the conversations get. Because you now crave. You not only crave getting to know the person now, you crave that person in your presence. So you'd rather talk to them face to face rather than be on the phone? More so than anything else. And that's why I think conversations diminish. Now, I do think with the right person, you can always find something to talk about. There's always something to talk about. No, don't. Don't. How you doing? Me to death? Or don't. How was your day? Me to death? To death. Like. Like every conversation we have, it's that. All right, now, I may ask you that every day because. Hey, how was your day? That might be the case, but there's more conversation to be had after that. Don't. Don't. How you doing? And then after that, it's like crickets. And then you can't have nothing else. You know, I have a good day. And then later on that day, it was. How was your day? [00:28:52] Speaker C: Right. [00:28:52] Speaker A: So we had nothing in between. Like, we had no other conversation. But I'm. So. That's what I'm saying. But then I get what you're saying on being consistent. [00:29:04] Speaker C: Not just being consistent. Be intentional when you do things. Do things with the intent of. If I do this, she might like this a little too much. I'm gonna just say this, and I'm gonna leave it alone. If you know. If you know, this is not something that you can hold up, don't do it. You got to be intentional about. You know what? Let me pull back a little bit. [00:29:23] Speaker A: Hey, that's why the first date, man. For a long time, you know, My first date was, well, McDonald's. It was Wendy's. It was Wendy's, man. You had to go. You go. You go to. You go to Wendy's. You go to Wendy's and you get you a four. You get you a four for four. No, you know what you. You know what you do? [00:29:43] Speaker C: I'm gonna get my four for four. [00:29:45] Speaker A: Hey, look, you know, either you get the burger and the. The nuggets, or. Or vice versa. Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:29:54] Speaker C: Okay. [00:29:55] Speaker A: Yeah, we got. We gotta split that thing. If you could. If you could rock. If you could rock with me on a four for four, you could rock with me at Victor's or something else. Where I gotta spend some real money. Is that Zaxby's you gonna spend, Kenichi? Why are you talking about $50? That's too much money. That's $50 for me up there. But at least. [00:30:23] Speaker B: That's something you can share. [00:30:24] Speaker A: At least. Got to get some Konichi while I [00:30:26] Speaker B: give you a lot of food. Like, at least you can share that. [00:30:28] Speaker A: No, I'm cool with that. I need to see where you at. I'm sorry. [00:30:34] Speaker C: We can't even get a $6 biggie bag. [00:30:37] Speaker B: I'm not worth for it all. [00:30:39] Speaker A: No, that's how long. That's how long it's been since I've done that. I'm just saying that used to be my style. It used to be. That's how I g. That's how I gauge whether you was here or not. Because it's not that. It's not that. It's not the first date I took my ex fiance on. True story. [00:30:54] Speaker C: You notice you said X, right? [00:30:55] Speaker A: No, there's a whole nother reason. Stay together. Stay together for eight years. We stayed together for eight years. But my ex fiance first date, we went to Wendy's shared share some food and outside it was in Columbia off of Harbison. And they have like this fountain, little park. We got a Biggie bag and sat out there at the thing and we talked and for hours we sat out there and talked four hours over a Biggie bag. I got, we got the extra drink because you know, Biggie bag only come with one drink. Four phone to come with one drink. So I had to buy another drink. So I bought the extra drink. I gave her the large, I took the small. See, I was being a man, you know what I'm saying? [00:31:34] Speaker C: But she was going for somebody else. I just want you donated. [00:31:38] Speaker A: And we had. [00:31:39] Speaker B: And we talked but then over. [00:31:43] Speaker A: But they're over. But then over time, over time. She went to go see them at 1 o'. Clock. It don't matter to me at that point, but you know what I'm saying. So. But we had been since that time. I saw in her that she was there just because, just to be with me and just to have conversation with me. And I'm not doing that and I'm too old to do stuff like that now. But I do think that you do have to set a baseline. You know, I don't think we need to go. I don't, I don't think we need to go. We, you know, we. Maybe we need to go to Applebee's at first. You know, maybe we need to go to the Mexican restaurant at first. [00:32:19] Speaker B: I even agree with the fact. [00:32:20] Speaker C: I even agree with the fact. And this is something I have even tried, but guys don't agree with it. My first day does not actually have to be a date day. We go to Starbucks. [00:32:29] Speaker A: I buy my own coffee shop. [00:32:31] Speaker C: I really want to talk to you. [00:32:32] Speaker A: I don't drink coffee. I get me a medicine ball. Yeah. [00:32:35] Speaker C: First, they don't always have to be about you spending your money. I actually want to meet you and talk to you and get to know you. But guys feel like women just want their money. Like, let me go ahead and show you something. [00:32:48] Speaker A: We didn't just pull, we didn't just pull that out the sky now. But we didn't just, we. It didn't just, we didn't just wake up one day and say, oh, all women just want money. [00:32:56] Speaker C: If you look on every woman Ain't the same. [00:32:58] Speaker A: We understand that. But if you look on everything in this world today, even when you was young, as a Young as a little one, when. When you saw. When all the old. When the girls. When the girls in the high school was getting picked up by the dope boys, you know what I'm saying? Like, it been since then. So now if we young looking at it, we don't know what's what. All we know is what we see. And what we see is women attracted to money. That's what we see. Now, what you're putting out may not necessarily what we see, because y' all ain't gonna date no broke boy or no broke dude. You can't tell me that that's what you're going to do, because you have. And even at this grown age that you at, you're not going. You ain't about to. You ain't about to fix nobody. You ain't about to deal with no projects. Everybody got to come. What they own and they own means their own means of money. So you can't say money don't. Money don't move you or money don't. This, at the end of the day, [00:33:48] Speaker C: this maturity and time should have taught you that. When you saw those girls going with those drug dealers and those dope boys, what did time teach you? What happened to those girls? Hey, listen, what happened to those relationships? What happened to them dope babies? [00:34:02] Speaker A: I'm not saying. [00:34:03] Speaker C: I'm not saying that we could say that, but everybody wants to say that. Listen to me. Everybody want to spit that and say, oh, well, y' all want this money and stuff, but follow it for a little while. Like my mama say, live a little while, and you'll see what happened in those situations. So if you think that those type of women is what you want, go after and find out what happened. Wait for the girl that ain't after your money. [00:34:23] Speaker A: Wait, It's. But I don't think that's. I was talking specifically to the statement that y' all don't understand or. Or to a certain degree, why men believe that women want money. And I'm just telling you where it stems from. As a. As a people, men have watched it. Our entire lives have watched it. So even if over time. Over time has taught me that, yes, I can't be broke, if for nothing else, for myself. But every man wants a companion, whether it's of the same sex or an opposite sex, every man wants a companion. You know what I'm saying? And to do that to Put yourself in the best position for that. You gotta make sure that you can take care of yourself and take care of a woman. You know what I'm saying? That's in your. That, that deal. Like people be wanting it. Like people want. Men think they want to do this polygamy thing, but to actually do it for real, you have to maintain. You're the person has to maintain. [00:35:20] Speaker B: And equal. That's a lot. [00:35:22] Speaker A: You have to maintain an equal lifestyle for each woman that you have. Equal. So that entails what money? At the end of the day, you got to have money to date. You gotta have money to go out. You gotta have money. And so when women be like, it ain't about the money. Yes, it is about the money, because you're not about to date. Just like y' all said, Wendy's. I'm taking you to Wendy's. I'm taking you to Wendy's. If you don't want to go, okay, well then fine. That's all I could afford. And by your standard, by what you're saying, the money don't matter, so it shouldn't matter where we go or what I buy. [00:35:55] Speaker C: Listen, I'm just saying if we wouldn't go to Windows. Yeah, that's just a fat of if it gotta be that long ago. [00:36:10] Speaker A: No, but I just said that I [00:36:12] Speaker C: gotta look like that behind this camera. [00:36:15] Speaker B: It was the split in it for me. Like we never said, like, [00:36:21] Speaker A: no, you gonna get the nuggets and I'm going get the burger. I'm like, and you can even have the fries. I don't eat fries. [00:36:27] Speaker B: And now I'm sitting here like I'm engaging in a conversation like I'm hungry. Like you get cuz it only come with four. [00:36:33] Speaker C: Okay, what are you. [00:36:37] Speaker A: Okay, but then you could get the, you could get the burger, the fries and the drink, and I'll just eat the nuggets and the sweet sauce. Sauce. [00:36:43] Speaker C: Listen, I like to dip my fries in the sweet and soy sauce too. You gonna get them dry ass nugget. [00:36:48] Speaker A: That's all you get. [00:36:49] Speaker C: Cause if we gonna do this, we gonna do it my way. [00:36:53] Speaker B: Listen, I would have been like, you know what? I'll pay for mine and I'll pay or I got it. [00:37:01] Speaker A: Like, nah, it's the first date. You're not, you're not paying for it. [00:37:05] Speaker B: So. So wait a minute, wait a minute. You would rather split something and allow me to pay for my own food? Because again, what if I'm hungry and what you're trying to give me is not enough. [00:37:18] Speaker C: That's why your ex went out with somebody else. [00:37:21] Speaker A: My conversation will fill you up. [00:37:23] Speaker B: Get the. [00:37:26] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:37:26] Speaker A: See, you ain't ready. [00:37:29] Speaker C: I definitely. [00:37:29] Speaker B: That pissed me off. That almost pissed me off. [00:37:32] Speaker C: I think we better get ready to advise you. [00:37:34] Speaker B: This baby not. [00:37:35] Speaker C: We need to get back to advising this baby. Cause you done went. Pissed me off. [00:37:40] Speaker B: I almost cut. [00:37:43] Speaker C: Angel, let it go. [00:37:44] Speaker B: I swear, that almost pissed me off. [00:37:47] Speaker C: What you thought of that question? Oh, my. [00:37:50] Speaker B: My God. [00:37:51] Speaker A: Oh, gosh. [00:37:52] Speaker C: I came with you say this. You talking about I got to eat them dry. [00:37:57] Speaker A: You chose dry nuggets. I told you you could have a burger or the nuggets, and you chose the nuggets. [00:38:03] Speaker C: Part of that question. Cuz you. [00:38:04] Speaker B: You know, I'mma just choose to buy my own for. [00:38:07] Speaker A: Oh, gosh. [00:38:08] Speaker B: One thing my grandfather told me. You don't ever go out on a date with anybody unless you can afford food. [00:38:14] Speaker A: We went inside. [00:38:14] Speaker C: Y' all was walking. [00:38:16] Speaker A: No, we drove this. We drove there. [00:38:19] Speaker C: It was a walking day. [00:38:21] Speaker A: No, we met. We met at Wendy. She said, where you want to go? I said, meet me at Wendy's. And we met at the Wendy's. Got it. And walked outside. There was a little park across the street. Well, no, down the street. And we walked there and sat down and we had a good time. [00:38:33] Speaker B: Listen, I like the whole park thing. I'm not saying. I'm just saying. [00:38:37] Speaker A: But. [00:38:37] Speaker B: But. [00:38:38] Speaker A: But it come down to my. [00:38:39] Speaker B: Let me just pay for my own food. Went to the park. I just. Let's go just get some ice cream from Wendy. I love a good ice cream date. [00:38:53] Speaker A: Okay. [00:38:53] Speaker B: Oh, I love it. [00:38:55] Speaker A: No, hey, listen. [00:38:59] Speaker C: Got Frosties for a dollar. [00:39:00] Speaker A: Frosties are dollar. Hey. And you can get chocolate or vanilla or the swirl. The swirl costs a little extra. We can't do the swirl. [00:39:08] Speaker C: She had to split. [00:39:09] Speaker A: The swirl cost a little extra. We can't do the swirl. [00:39:12] Speaker B: But we can get you. [00:39:13] Speaker A: You get a choice. A choice. Chocolate or vanilla. [00:39:15] Speaker B: Yeah. Because I swear. [00:39:18] Speaker A: And here's another thing women do that she's doing. Another thing is that I tend to remember old disagreements. I don't always bring them up to throw them in his face. But sometimes I feel like certain issues never got fully resolved. We. We be done. [00:39:36] Speaker B: I agree. I don't forget nothing because I remember on January 31st at 159, you said. And then I thought about. I was laying in the bed three months ago. I'm like, what? Wait a minute. What he meant by that. [00:39:51] Speaker A: Y' all can't let go. [00:39:52] Speaker C: Don't say y' All. Although I agree with the fact that I remember, but I'm the type of person that there's a time limit on bringing things up. [00:40:02] Speaker B: Listen, I agree. [00:40:04] Speaker C: All three of us have been married and divorced. [00:40:06] Speaker B: I won't say anything, but I will remember it. [00:40:09] Speaker C: Time limit. Because at some point, if you. If you choose to stay in a relationship, you can't keep bringing up old stuff and expecting through the relationship. Yeah. [00:40:18] Speaker A: So why do y' all do that? [00:40:19] Speaker C: If you have not resolved the issue, Sometimes you have to agree that we just ain't gonna get on that we [00:40:24] Speaker B: agree to disagree and just let it go. [00:40:26] Speaker A: No. So then don't bring it up ever again. [00:40:28] Speaker C: That's what I'm saying. [00:40:29] Speaker A: It should never be brought up again. [00:40:30] Speaker B: I don't bring it. I rem. Remember it, and it might piss me off all over again, but I won't say anything. [00:40:37] Speaker A: I once dated someone who I was like, why would you throw that in my face? Her exact verbiage was, I'm not throwing it in your face. I'm just trying to remind you of some behaviors that you did before. That's throwing it in my face. [00:40:48] Speaker C: It is. It is. [00:40:50] Speaker A: If it's over, then it's over because [00:40:51] Speaker B: she hadn't healed from it. [00:40:53] Speaker A: That's why y' all can't throw out dresses or nothing else. Y' all be holding on to the past. [00:40:57] Speaker B: You know what I said, so you need. [00:41:02] Speaker C: You know, I'm about to turn into a roasting session. [00:41:08] Speaker A: Says we also disagree on what's okay to share with friends and family. [00:41:12] Speaker C: Now, listen, now, that one really hit a nerve with me. [00:41:15] Speaker A: Like, don't. Don't. [00:41:16] Speaker C: You don't do that. [00:41:17] Speaker B: That's privacy. [00:41:18] Speaker A: When I was married, I once I went to my friend. He been married 20 something years now, but I went to him and I called him and I said, Yo, O.B. hey, man, I'm having some problems. Can you talk to me? He said, nope. I said, man. I said, no. I'm like, really? I said, you married? He said, nope. He said, your marriage is not my marriage. [00:41:38] Speaker B: Absolutely. [00:41:39] Speaker A: He was like, my parents told me that a long time ago. He was like, you are not me, and she is not my wife. He was like, y' all have to find a way to figure it out yourselves between y'. [00:41:50] Speaker C: All. [00:41:51] Speaker A: And that was the best advice I thought I had. I had ever gotten. And in that moment, it let me know that the only person you could talk to about what's going on in your relationship is your partner, whoever you're in the relationship with. Now, I think it's good sometimes to bounce ideas if it's the good right off of your friends and not just. And I mean friends, not associates, not, you know, homeboy down the street at the water cooler, just real friends. Because all of us really only have five to six actual friends like this people that you could count on. Some, not that many. Some people don't even have that many. But my circle is maybe six or seven people at best. And those people is people that I'll. That I will talk to about it. But I don't. I don't ever talk to them about the negative in my relationship. Because if in fact now, after the breakup, all bets off. But during, like during the relationship, because there may be a point where we get back straight. I don't want my friends or my family or. I don't want them to see you in a bad light. I just don't want that. I broke up with somebody a while ago, and during the breakup, they did something like, totally egregious and that they can't come back from. And it was witnessed by one of my. By one of my kids. And some weeks had passed, maybe even couple months, and we ended up talking on the phone about something, one about getting mad together about something, and hung up the phone. And he goes, oh, so y' all friends now? It had affected him to the point of. And he told me, I don't ever want to see her again. I never want to talk to her again. You know, at that age, he was. He was young. But it had affected him to that point where he was like, never again do I want this person to be in my presence. And she even reached out to him for a couple of months. Couple months. He never responded. And then she would hit me up, hey, man, he ain't. But he witnessed it, you know what I'm saying? And had nobody witnessed it, I probably wouldn't have said anything because I didn't know if there was something that could go back, that there was something, a bridge that could be crossed again, but now it can't because ever so well, at that time. I don't been in multiple relationships since then, but at that time, it couldn't be because he was like nine. We not. This is not what's going to happen. So I think a lot of times when we're looking for advice from the people around us, we don't understand that the. What we're telling them is not the total truth, because it's only our perspective that we're telling them from. And nine times out of ten, human nature is you want people to agree with you, so you're going to put it in. You're going to put it in the way so that your people agree with you. [00:44:58] Speaker B: Right? [00:44:58] Speaker A: And at the end of the day, who's to say what at that point? So, I don't know. I just. I just don't think that you should. I think in that sense, he's right. You don't want outside. Outside opinions on the inside relationship. What was this last thing? So let's. Let's answer this question for her one, one time. How do you balance staying connected with giving each other space? [00:45:27] Speaker C: I would say, first and foremost, he's not a child. You do not have to check in with him. Whatever he say he's going to do, when he's done, let him call you. You don't have to check in with him. You know, like I said, get you some business, find you something to do during that time, find you some friends, find you a hobby or something so you don't feel so insecure and need such reassurance during the absence of him. He's right. Y' all need to set boundaries on what should be discussed outside of your relationship. And what was their. Their other issue was. [00:46:02] Speaker A: And when does bringing up old issues become helping the relationship versus hurting it? I think bringing up old issues, no matter what, it hurts it no matter what. [00:46:10] Speaker B: And the reason why I say it's hurting because nobody wants to hear that they've done something wrong over and over again. That's. It gets to be repetitive, and you just starting to feel like, well, God, I can't do anything right. But it's for, like, if, if we are in a disagreement and we've come to the, okay, I apologize, you apologize, whatever, let's squash it. And then you keep bringing it up again. You haven't healed from it like you said you did just so it could be over in that moment, but you have not healed from it because you keep bringing it up. [00:46:52] Speaker A: You keep bringing it up. [00:46:53] Speaker B: If you keep bringing it up, it's something that is bothering you about it, and you cannot. And you cannot let it go. And I understand people hold on to stuff for a long time. I get it. But when you're in a relationship with somebody, you just. That would nag me. Like, I was like, oh, my God, like, what now? Like, yeah, nobody wants to be. I don't want to say me. Don't annoy me, right? I do not annoy me. If I said I'm sorry You said you were sorry. Move on. If you bring it back up again, I'm liable to just not talk to you anymore. [00:47:34] Speaker C: Right. [00:47:35] Speaker B: Like, just. Just leave it alone. [00:47:38] Speaker C: People also have to get comfortable with finding out what's the root cause of why you holding on, why you harboring. [00:47:43] Speaker B: Right. [00:47:43] Speaker C: It's something that have been done with. You know what I'm saying? Some people suffer from old traumas that make them harbor feelings. You know what I'm saying? Seek therapy. Find out. Talk. You know, if. If you don't want to go to counseling, talk to your minister or whoever it is that you feel like is going to give you some reassurance as to why you feel the way you feel about certain issues. It don't always have to be relationship issues. Talk about your personal issues. If you want to talk to your mama about that. Not always about you and your man. [00:48:09] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:48:09] Speaker C: Talk to your mom or your friends about, hey, I have issue. I have a problem with dealing with this particular thing. [00:48:17] Speaker B: Why. [00:48:17] Speaker C: Why is it like that for me? [00:48:19] Speaker A: Okay. Okay. Okay. Thank y'. [00:48:22] Speaker B: All. [00:48:23] Speaker A: Where we at on time? What is it? Oh, that's perfect. All right. So Chanel. No. [00:48:33] Speaker C: Jesus. [00:48:34] Speaker A: Thank you for joining us. And she came on here kind of, you know, aggressive. Oh, I almost forgot to tell y'. [00:48:42] Speaker C: All. [00:48:42] Speaker A: I almost forgot to tell y'. [00:48:43] Speaker C: All. [00:48:44] Speaker A: We on the King Me Pod. They're currently working on dating Chanel. [00:48:51] Speaker C: Do not. Basically, he is not advertising the. Right. [00:48:56] Speaker A: What they. [00:48:56] Speaker B: Is it like, what they're going to. [00:48:58] Speaker A: What they're going to do is they're going to take on. You're going to go to King Me Pod and you're going to put in an application. You're not to take Chanel on a date. [00:49:06] Speaker C: We are also starting a new clothing line. It's gonna. It's gonna have ducks with sunglasses on it, and it's gonna have yous's face on it, and you can start buying. They're gonna cost 9.99. So for everybody that chooses to date me, I will make sure you get your little daddy shorts. [00:49:28] Speaker B: I was like a balloon pop thing. [00:49:31] Speaker C: I was. [00:49:34] Speaker B: Can I ask. [00:49:35] Speaker C: Follow him up. [00:49:36] Speaker B: Ready? I was like, can I ask the questions? [00:49:39] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:49:40] Speaker B: Excited about it. [00:49:41] Speaker C: I will be over there popping everybody. I don't like you, boy. [00:49:44] Speaker B: Go. [00:49:44] Speaker A: It's an idea. It's an idea. We're still. We're still working through it. Okay. We're still working through it. [00:49:49] Speaker B: That excited me. I was ready to throw some. [00:49:50] Speaker A: See this. See this is what you. I'm telling you, it would pop. [00:49:53] Speaker B: I Feel like I'm a good matchmaker. [00:49:55] Speaker A: Hey, be and cute. Being cute from me to you, man. My idea. You don't. I don't even want no money off of it, man. But y', all, it's gonna pop. Chanel popped the balloon. Dating Chanel. [00:50:07] Speaker C: That's the second I told them that I am on dating sites. [00:50:10] Speaker A: She's on dating site. [00:50:11] Speaker B: Actively mingling. I'm so scared of that. [00:50:14] Speaker C: I. I'm not shy. [00:50:16] Speaker B: Me neither. But. [00:50:17] Speaker C: And I'm not a nervous person. [00:50:19] Speaker B: I'm scared of dating. I'm so scared of dating apps. That's why I have it on. [00:50:24] Speaker C: Yeah, I'm not afraid of it. I'm not. [00:50:26] Speaker B: I'm just. [00:50:27] Speaker A: See that what I'm saying. [00:50:28] Speaker C: So we pray about. I have discernment. [00:50:30] Speaker B: I'm just. Oh, I'm scared of dating. [00:50:34] Speaker A: If you get on dating ass, the preacher's gonna be in your. In your inbox. [00:50:37] Speaker B: Don't start, yo. I swear. See. [00:50:39] Speaker C: Oh, I did hear about right. Listen. The way I scream episode girl, I done been there too. See, I done been. [00:50:47] Speaker A: Listen, but you want me to go to church and this what these people doing? [00:50:50] Speaker C: Well, I left that church. [00:50:51] Speaker A: No, I'm just saying. But this what these people doing. [00:50:53] Speaker B: But it's not all the people. It's just some of them. [00:50:55] Speaker C: But I don't been there too. [00:50:57] Speaker B: Yeah, see, they. They do not care at like. Because they. [00:51:01] Speaker A: The anointed. They anointed. They ain't going on. [00:51:04] Speaker C: They're anointed. [00:51:05] Speaker B: Yeah, they anointed in something that'd be. They lied. [00:51:09] Speaker C: Don't be like, I'm still a man. [00:51:10] Speaker B: Yep. [00:51:11] Speaker C: I told you you're still a man. [00:51:14] Speaker A: She watched the episode, [00:51:19] Speaker C: said that I scream. Don't make me zoom through my phone. [00:51:23] Speaker A: No, no, no. Don't want to see cuz he local. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. [00:51:30] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:51:30] Speaker B: Oh, they all are. [00:51:32] Speaker A: I don't want to see it. But you probably watching now. [00:51:35] Speaker C: I hope I don't expose. I'mma be at your family and friends. I probably sing a song. [00:51:40] Speaker B: I probably do that. I should probably pop up at one of. [00:51:45] Speaker A: Listen, y'. All. [00:51:46] Speaker B: Happy Father's Day. [00:51:47] Speaker A: Yeah, happy Father's Day. You know, tell people how they can catch the show and how they can follow you on social media. [00:51:54] Speaker C: They're not gonna follow me. Y' all can follow Kimmy Pot. You got jokes today. King Mepod on social media, on Instagram, on Facebook. We're on Spotify, we're on YouTube. K king me podcast. And you can also follow Brandon and cue the dawn. Yeah. [00:52:17] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:52:18] Speaker C: And that's it. Because you ain't gonna follow me. You can catch me on King Me Pie. That's where you can catch me at. [00:52:25] Speaker A: Angel, tell them how they can find you again. [00:52:27] Speaker B: You can find me on Facebook at Chrissy Solomon. You can also find me on Instagram at a Chrissy22. [00:52:34] Speaker A: Okay, remember, you can catch the show at R E L S T A T podcast on all social media platforms. Also, you could join the Patreon. It's 36 cents a day, $5 a month. [00:52:47] Speaker C: Man. [00:52:47] Speaker A: You're gonna spend that. That. That's cheaper than Wendy. That's just cheaper than going to Wendy's. That's cheaper than going to Wendy's. But hit us up on Patreon. Patreon.com patreon.com backslash relationship status. 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