Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign.
And welcome back to relationship status. It's your boy Yousef in the building. And I'm here with the greatest co
[00:00:13] Speaker B: host on earth, Period V Live. Hello, how are you?
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I'm sorry. I said, I keep saying, vanetta, be more demure. Vanetta be more demure.
Vanetta, have some decorum. I think that's the new word everybody using. Is it decorum?
[00:00:58] Speaker A: Decorum is the word. It's the hot word right now.
[00:01:02] Speaker B: Weird is the word.
[00:01:03] Speaker A: Weirdest.
[00:01:04] Speaker B: Yamir. Decorum Is you cool.
[00:01:07] Speaker A: Is you cool.
[00:01:08] Speaker B: These are the. Goofy is always gonna be the word.
[00:01:10] Speaker A: I'm from Chicago, From Chicago.
[00:01:11] Speaker B: That's forever gonna be a word.
[00:01:13] Speaker A: All right, so before we get to
[00:01:16] Speaker B: that, okay, have you.
[00:01:17] Speaker A: Have you.
Is there a particular food from Chicago that you can't get here? They make it here, but you can't get it.
[00:01:28] Speaker B: Don't.
[00:01:29] Speaker A: You can't get it.
[00:01:30] Speaker B: Every fucking thing. Atlanta food is terrible. Period, point blank.
[00:01:34] Speaker A: Let me finish. So then you found something that's close to it and you go, well, you know, that's close. It ain't okay. No, but for me, it's a good old New York style pizza.
[00:01:48] Speaker B: And who's close to it here?
[00:01:49] Speaker A: No, it's not here where I live at.
[00:01:51] Speaker B: Oh, in South Carolina.
[00:01:52] Speaker A: In South Carolina, there's a place called Danos.
Every time I'm in Columbia, I go to, I get. If I. I try my damnedest to get there, I need a slice of pizza. It's a little piece of home.
And then I went home about two weeks ago for breakfast and I was like, my aunt wanted to buy my kids some pizza. They're like, oh, come to the house. Oh, get them some pizza. I said, okay. So we go there. I don't want no pizza because I have Daniel's all the time. But I was a little bit hungry. She bought two pizzas and I messed around and had a slice.
I said, oh, yeah. Oh, this a Daniels. Ain't got nothing on this. I ate about a half a pizza by Myself.
[00:02:38] Speaker B: So when I go home.
So first of all, Atlanta does not have Vienna beef.
So that pisses me off because I love a good hot dog, but it has to be Vienna beef. I will only eat a Vienna Beef hot dog. And I fry them at home. A fried hot dog, old school.
I fry it with some red onions and some mustard, baby. It's life changing. So whenever I go home, I get packs. Or whenever anyone's coming from Chicago, I get packs. I have them bring me packs of Vienna beef hot dogs that I put in my freezer. So I love a great Vienna beef hot dog.
[00:03:25] Speaker A: Like a good glizzy.
[00:03:26] Speaker B: Good glizzy. But Chicago food, I just miss a period. Like White Castles. Crystals could never ever. Crystals could never. With White Castles. Y' all kill me with this.
[00:03:37] Speaker A: I went, I stopped at White Castle.
[00:03:39] Speaker B: Popeyes in Atlanta is terrible.
[00:03:41] Speaker A: Cuz my son never had White Castle, man.
[00:03:46] Speaker B: I went, I said that White Castle
[00:03:49] Speaker A: get you about a five pack.
[00:03:51] Speaker B: Oh, my God. It's literally a crave pack.
[00:03:56] Speaker A: So ain't that the same what you crave?
[00:03:59] Speaker B: Yes, it's a crave pack. You get a box of them, like 20 or 30.
Boy, they're so.
Oh, my. I want to fly to Chicago right now. I want to fly to Chicago.
[00:04:10] Speaker A: It's right. It was right down the street from my mom's house. I went, I said we was passing by and I was like, man, look, I'm going show y' all. Me, you, you, you had White Castle. This is some White Castles.
[00:04:21] Speaker B: Crystals could never. So if it's anything that trying to be Chicago, it's that crystals. And that tastes like dog food. Like, that's farmers market dog food.
[00:04:32] Speaker A: Yeah, I couldn't. I, I, I.
[00:04:34] Speaker B: It is not White Castles. It don't taste like White Castles. Quit sending that outside the damn. I just got irritated again thinking about that.
All right.
[00:04:48] Speaker A: Anyway. All right, so had a great time in New York. It was great to see my family. Hadn't seen them in about two years.
[00:04:53] Speaker B: That's always a pleasure, right?
[00:04:54] Speaker A: So that was good. That was, that was good.
Went to the mall one day and linked up. It's actually this hoodie came from them.
It's called the Society. And they are some. It was like two young black men in the mall.
And it was me and my son. My mother, it's me, two of my sons and my mother.
And mom is being grandma right now.
So, you know, whatever the kids pick up, they get.
So I'd be like, where was this when I was a kid anyway?
Where was this Behavior. But anyway, so we passed by this two young men, and they stopped. They say, hey, man, won't you check out our clothing?
I was like, all right, no problem. So we stop and we talk to him. And the hoodies, high quality, good print, nice, vibrant. Yeah.
And my son got a gray one, and I got this one. I said, so how much the man? Because you bought the two. You know what I'm saying? I could. We could do.
How much do they cost?
Nah, man, no, no.
[00:06:00] Speaker B: You know, we go, man, how much do they cost? If I change my goddamn.
[00:06:03] Speaker A: How much do they cost?
[00:06:04] Speaker B: I' ma support you what they cost.
[00:06:06] Speaker A: I'm here to support you.
[00:06:07] Speaker B: Damn.
[00:06:08] Speaker A: What do they cost?
I will pay what they cost.
He was like, all right, it's a hundred dollars a hoodie. No problem.
And then when I went to go pay, my mother was like, no, I'll pay for them. I said, thank you.
[00:06:21] Speaker B: Love Mom.
[00:06:21] Speaker A: Love mom in this moment.
And so then I talked to. I pulled to the side, and I said, your product, you put in the work into your product. If you believe in your product, you charge for your product, and whoever wants to buy will buy.
[00:06:39] Speaker B: That's it. You set your price, you go down to $20. They still. Most still ain't gonna buy. No way.
[00:06:45] Speaker A: They still ain't gonna buy it. Now you cut deal. Who loses on the deal? You lose.
[00:06:50] Speaker B: I like this hood. Yeah, it's because the hood rim look a little different. It don't look like everybody good rim.
[00:06:56] Speaker A: It don't have no.
[00:06:56] Speaker B: Normally that's a. It's something, right? Because it looks smooth.
[00:07:00] Speaker A: It doesn't have the strings.
[00:07:02] Speaker B: It's a nice hood.
[00:07:04] Speaker A: It's solid. And follow them up. Follow them on social media. My son has a podcast, so he took a picture with them. I said, you know, we'll shout you out, man. Hopefully. Hopefully. You guys let me pull it up on here. I forgot. I meant to say that, too.
[00:07:18] Speaker B: Well, we're gonna shout you out and keep doing your thing.
Black man. Is it a black man?
[00:07:22] Speaker A: Yeah, it's two. Two young black men.
[00:07:24] Speaker B: Keep doing your thing. Keep doing your thing. Don't know about. Don't let a lot. Don't allow anyone to devalue you. But you also have to be mindful where you setting up at. A hundred dollars a hoodie.
[00:07:33] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. Well, I mean, they was in there in the high. The mall they in is in a better part of Jersey, so they. They, they. They got. They got prime real estate.
[00:07:42] Speaker B: You got to be outside of Walmart talking about $100 hoodie.
[00:07:44] Speaker A: Yeah. No, no, baby.
[00:07:45] Speaker B: I just bought six for $50 in Walmart. You want 100 for one? Good luck.
[00:07:50] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, they. They definitely in the right price, the right place.
[00:07:54] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:07:55] Speaker A: For it.
[00:07:56] Speaker B: Any of your time.
[00:07:58] Speaker A: No Society. That's what it is. The. No, that's the guy. That's the guy that own it. It's society.
[00:08:05] Speaker B: Little boy, young kid.
[00:08:07] Speaker A: Yeah. And my son was holding up the hoodie, but the other boy. Yeah, young kid. Man. It's two young kids, but he's.
[00:08:13] Speaker B: I love that exact no Society. So make sure you guys follow no Society. And U, L, L, S, O, C, I, E, T. No society. Young black man making hoodies. And I'm sure they have other things coming down the pipeline, so if you can't purchase one right now, money ain't right. Whatever. At least follow them on the gram. Show your support.
[00:08:36] Speaker A: Yep. They got T shirts. They got T shirts. Pants.
[00:08:39] Speaker B: I'm getting a T shirt. I ain't in the market for them.
[00:08:41] Speaker A: They got. They got T shirts. Like they got this Whitney Houston T shirt they had there.
[00:08:44] Speaker B: Well, I love Whitney Houston.
[00:08:46] Speaker A: Yeah, it was. It. It was good. Good.
[00:08:48] Speaker B: Young oh, yeah, that's love.
[00:08:49] Speaker A: Yeah. So make sure to shout them out, man. If you're in Jersey, I'm about to
[00:08:52] Speaker B: follow them right now.
[00:08:53] Speaker A: If you're in Jersey, man, they in the. The center of the Willowbrook Mall, man. Go ahead, check them out.
And the website is. It's no society.com, man. Go ahead. Support you. Young black businessman. Young. These kids was out there grinding young entrepreneurs, man.
Willowbrook Mall and Wayne, New Jersey. All right. Or hit him on. Hit them on the.
On the.
I'll put the link in the show notes, but it's. It's nosociety.com to order.
So, V, what we into today now? What craziness you about to get me into today?
[00:09:25] Speaker B: So it's not craziness, but I'm gonna be following. No, I just started following you guys. So V Live is following no Society. I'm gonna see what y' all got. Pop in. Grab something. All right, so today I want us to talk about. Since you know the name of the podcast is relationship Status, and we do a lot of conversation about relationships surrounding romantic relationships.
[00:09:51] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:09:52] Speaker B: Spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends, fiance's and all of those. And above.
Wives, husbands, wives, all of those children's. So. Yeah, but today I think we should kind of have a conversation around the relationships we have with ourselves.
[00:10:14] Speaker A: That's the best relationship.
That's the one relationship that most People neglect that the.
[00:10:24] Speaker B: Oh, it is.
[00:10:25] Speaker A: How can you love somebody if you don't love yourself?
[00:10:27] Speaker B: How can you mess with anybody if
[00:10:29] Speaker A: you don't mess with you?
[00:10:31] Speaker B: Beyond loving yourself.
Developing an understanding of who you are, what you need, where you're going.
And so I want to really just talk about the relationship we have with ourselves.
Self awareness and growth. Okay, I'm gonna be quick. I was a mom at 18, 18 as a child.
I've never had an opportunity to learn me.
You know, when you're 18 and under, who we are is a lot of based on who our parents pull us to be.
Right.
Come from a two parent home.
Just it's four of us. They used to call us the ghetto. Cosby's mom, dad, me and my brother. And you know, some things are just a given. You're gonna go to college, you're gon this, you're going to do that. And so they kind of shape the framework of what. Who you are, who we are.
[00:11:27] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:11:27] Speaker B: And I think that a big part of growing is unbecoming who our parents or who society tells us we can be. And we unbecome those things. And I've never had an opportunity to really unbecome because after being able to go in the space of going away to college, experiencing adulthood on a minimal level, because I'm still not taking care of myself or providing for myself. Right. Because I'm a.
But I'm still a child.
And then becoming a mother, I transitioned from childhood to motherhood.
There was never a time for adulthood.
And adulthood in a sense of me becoming who Vanetta is supposed to be. Because now my priority still wasn't Vanetta as a child. My priorities, my parents. I gotta get good grades, I gotta do this, I gotta do.
And then you go into. Okay, now you go away to college. My priority is myself. I got to look out for me. I got to make sure I don't take no drugs. I got to make sure I look at my drinks. I got to, you know, you're responsible for yourself. You start to learn about adulting. You're making decisions without your parents. You're making, you're making big decisions, you know, without your parents. You're living on your own. I never experienced that because it became parenting. So I went into parenthood. And so every decision I made now, it wasn't about me, it was about the betterment of my child.
Never wanted to be teacher. But guess what? I need to. I have a child to provide for.
[00:12:53] Speaker A: So I need to, I need to
[00:12:55] Speaker B: do Some career, right? I got to get a career. Ain't got time to. Oh, let's try this. And I'm like, yeah, let's try this. I ain't got time for that, cuz I'm a mama now.
[00:13:04] Speaker A: I need these benefits. I need.
[00:13:05] Speaker B: Yes. So now I don't have the time to explore because I got to have health insurance, right? I got to have dental insurance. Not only that, I'm the type of parent I've always been. This.
I got to be available every weekend.
I want to be available for holidays. I got. You ain't gonna have no Christmas without me because mommy at work. Yeah, you're not gonna have no Thanksgiving without me because mommy at work. And although I wanted to be a veterinarian, I understood that with that career, I may have to be at work on Christmas, I may have to be at work on Thanksgiving. If there's an emergency, I may have to be absent from this. And for that, and I knew that as an educator, I could fully be a parent. I can do homework with you, I can make sure you have dinner. I got weekends for you when you're out, I'm out.
I became a teacher. So I went from childhood to parenthood, and I never stepped into adulthood, even though I was adulting. You know, I graduated college, finished my doctorate. I did all the adults, but I never adulthood. And I didn't do that until. I didn't start that journey until five years ago.
Because being a mother, then I became a wife.
That's. That's who I am. I'm a mother and I'm a wife and I'm an educator. You know, I never saw me as a person.
Then I got divorced and I still had children, so I'm still a mother, you know, and it's always their priorities over mine. Anytime, every time. That's just what the fuck it is. That's the. The decision I made when I became a mother.
I was a mother first, I was a wife, I was a mother again, you know, so now they're adults. Fast forward, everybody growing, everybody doing well. I'm single.
I moved to Atlanta. I up and moved to Atlanta. And I know nobody, absolutely no one, literally no fucking body. I knew two people. But if I ain't fucked with you before, why am I fucking with you now?
[00:15:11] Speaker A: True,
[00:15:13] Speaker B: no shade to him. But if I wasn't that, now, I'm not going to be that, you know? So I went on this journey of discovering who I am. And while I'm on this journey, discovering who I am, I Lost a lot and I gained a lot along the way.
And I understood the importance of self awareness, I understood the importance of growth. And somebody told me, think about growth is this.
Look at trees.
If you sit back and you look at grass, you look at trees.
Most of those trees that all stay together are all the same height.
They all on the same.
Very seldom do you see one taller.
But most of the grass all the same. Most of the trees all the same.
[00:16:00] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:16:01] Speaker B: I had to literally uproot myself to a different garden where they stayed here. And that's how I got here.
Right. But that growth is hard, that growth is sad, that growth is lonely, that.
Here's the crazy part.
The uncomfortability was before the growth.
That's how I knew I had to grow. I knew I had to change because I was so fucking uncomfortable. So I got some questions I'm going to ask, right.
[00:16:31] Speaker A: It was different for me because I left.
I left Jersey and came here. I hadn't been to college.
And like you say, our parents shape us. My dad got drafted to Vietnam, so he went there first and he came back. He did some college, but he came back all messed up so he couldn't really hack it. But him and my mom met at Brooklyn College in flat. In Flatbush, New York. In Brooklyn, New York. And my mom ended up pregnant with me would know with my older sister.
And so she stopped going to school. So she didn't finish.
And then my sister passed and then I was born and then my younger brother.
[00:17:17] Speaker B: So your mother lost a child?
[00:17:18] Speaker A: Yeah, she was born.
She didn't make. She didn't make it to one, is my understanding.
[00:17:26] Speaker B: I'm sorry.
[00:17:27] Speaker A: Cool.
She. She deals with it every now and then she'll say something, but she's okay.
But.
So for me, I didn't see college as a thing that I needed to go do.
So.
And. And I didn't really. My grandmother put the emphasis on education for me.
So the only reason I graduated was my grandma because I didn't want her to beat my ass.
That was it.
[00:17:57] Speaker B: Oh, nigga, you going to college?
[00:17:58] Speaker A: Yeah. No, no, not, not college.
[00:18:00] Speaker B: I mean, high school.
[00:18:00] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, you're gonna get out of high school.
But after that it was like. Well.
So I kind of started off doing little things. I think I worked fast food.
I had a job washing dishes at the hospital that my grandmother worked at.
I had low jobs here and there. I used to. I don't know if you remember back in the day, people used to pull the, the carts with all the little stuff in it. And they may go into a barbershop and hey, man, you could buy this. I got this, I got that. I was trying to sell that stuff. I worked at Dunkin Donuts, like, and I was at a house and my friend Tara had came home. She had just did her first year in Columbia and she was like, hey, you know you. But I was comfortable.
It was cool for me.
She was like, you know, you could, you know, you too smart to be doing this because it was me and three of my cousins had a house and it was the party house. More nothing but shit.
[00:19:02] Speaker B: We good.
[00:19:03] Speaker A: Smoking, drinking and women. That's it. As long as the checks cleared for the rent, we was good.
And she came in there, she was like, I just see more for you.
She was like, don't, I'm not. So I was like, man, Tara, I ain't going nobody's school. I said, I done got kicked out of one college. I done tried to go to DeVry. I got kicked out of there.
[00:19:24] Speaker B: How the are you getting kicked out of college? What do you do to get kicked out of college?
[00:19:31] Speaker A: I'll tell you off air.
So
[00:19:35] Speaker B: this, this man, this man.
[00:19:38] Speaker A: So anyway, so we go. So I end up. Because I was so comfortable, I was like, you know what? I might need to go. So I called my grandmother, she said, I said, what college gonna take me? She said, well, the school I go to, they'll. They just. You just fill out the application and show up. I think we, we probably talked about it. Yeah. So me being comfortable, I stepped out. And when I became uncomfortable when I got down south, it was like. When I got to South Carolina, it was like such a culture shock, such a change. But I'm 21.
My mindset is a lot different than these 18, 19 year olds that I'm in the dorm with. I'm thinking different.
I don't trust everybody. I've experienced life. So that uncomfortability got me to take my education serious.
I had to get out of what was comfortable.
[00:20:29] Speaker B: I say you got to be uncomfortable in order to make that first leap. That's what tells you, okay, change is necessary. And once you make that change, that's when the work starts, right? So then once the work starts, then you kind of get back complacent, you back settled in, you're back where you need to be. But then it comes again, Right? So we're constantly, as Michelle Obama would say, becoming.
[00:20:56] Speaker A: Yeah, that's.
[00:20:57] Speaker B: That's what we should be doing.
Right.
But not all adults are constantly becoming.
I Often think it is a blessing.
And this may sound bad, but it is a blessing to be okay with where you are.
It is a struggle for women like me who always want more, always looking to grow.
I'm never comfortable too long with myself because I'm always wanting to be better, you know?
So I'm gonna ask some questions, right, about self awareness.
Okay. I'm gonna ask some questions about self awareness and growth and. And I want you guys in the audience to kind of give some feedback for us and feel free. If you want to write in, if it resonates with anyone about anything and you want to kind of write in about it, or, you know, you want to tell us your story, your growth, or. Or when you knew it was time to grow.
What's something about yourself you had to unlearn in order to grow?
Something you had to unlearn in order to grow in order to get to the next part of you that you were reaching to get to.
[00:22:23] Speaker A: I just have to. I just got this.
I had to unlearn the inability to say no.
I used to have an inability to say no. If you ask me if it could be done, yes, and I would kill myself.
Unlearn the ability, the inability to say no.
[00:22:45] Speaker B: So you're unable to say no.
[00:22:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:48] Speaker B: And saying no means saying yes to you oftentimes.
[00:22:52] Speaker A: But also remember, yes, it means that. But saying yes also says saying no to something else. So every time somebody I had to unlearn that I could say I had to unlearn.
[00:23:03] Speaker B: It's okay to say no.
[00:23:04] Speaker A: Yeah, it's okay to say no. And Beezy of DJ Blaze radio show podcast said. He was like, no.
No is a full sentence.
[00:23:14] Speaker B: It literally is.
[00:23:15] Speaker A: It's a full sentence. You don't have to say nothing else. There's nothing before.
[00:23:17] Speaker B: So it's a subject.
[00:23:19] Speaker A: Yeah. Predicate, subject, predicate, verb, all of that. No.
[00:23:22] Speaker B: Noun and verb, all in one.
[00:23:23] Speaker A: All in one.
[00:23:24] Speaker B: No.
[00:23:24] Speaker A: No. And now.
[00:23:25] Speaker B: Verb, adjective, no. And.
[00:23:27] Speaker A: And I.
For me to move forward, I have to say no to some things to prioritize myself in which I struggled for a long time and still do struggle with prioritizing myself so that I can grow. You cannot grow if you're constantly doing things for other people.
I said this.
One of my profession is teaching, and I'm also a basketball coach. And now my son is at an age where he's starting to take basketball seriously.
And so it means where I would have all this time for other people's kids to train other people's kids to Work with other people's kids. Right now, it's no, because I'm spending time training my kid because it would be a shame if I helped all these kids to college to play basketball, and I don't help my son get to college to play basketball, which is what he wants to do, which is one of his goals.
So I have to say no, as much as it hurts, because I want.
[00:24:34] Speaker B: I help everybody.
[00:24:36] Speaker A: I have a desire or to want to help everybody. Like, it's difficult for me to say no. If CL calls me and says, yousef, hey, can you do this? I'm gonna say yes.
It just was a thing. Like, everybody would ask me, and I would probably have 20 things to do in one go, one hour, 20 things.
But I won't be able to do all 20 things to a hundred percent ability. So 20 things would get done.
[00:25:06] Speaker B: But I'm touching.
[00:25:07] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. All 20 gonna get done, but one or two things gonna happen. I' ma pass out and have a seizure.
I'm gonna pass out from being tired.
Or everything is going to be, like, done, but not done to the greatest ability it could be done. When. If I would have said no, a different avenue would have been taken a different avenue would have been taken to make sure that it got done. So that's where I'm like, in. In. In that sense, like, yo. Like, I had to unlearn the inability to say no. I had to learn how to say no. Because sometimes you just got to tell people no. And for me to grow, because I know myself and how much I want to help people and how much I want to do, I. I have to. I have to say no, even though I. As much as I don't want to.
[00:25:55] Speaker B: But you have to for your own per. For your own self.
[00:25:59] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:25:59] Speaker B: You know, for you to do what you need to do for you, you have to say no.
So make sure you put in the comments something right now that you are unlearning in order for you to grow.
[00:26:09] Speaker A: And you said. You said the word becoming. I want to give a shout out one of our podcasts. It's the podcast Ashley Martin. She has the Becoming.
The Becoming her podcast.
[00:26:18] Speaker B: Oh, I love that.
[00:26:19] Speaker A: Yeah. Becoming her girl.
[00:26:20] Speaker B: Call me so we can get on there. Okay. I'm gonna tell you what it's about.
[00:26:24] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. Nah, she's dope podcast. She took a break, but she'll be back soon.
[00:26:28] Speaker B: Baby, when you come back, let us know. We ready for you.
[00:26:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:26:32] Speaker B: For me, it has been the biggest struggle to unlearn, to satisfy People.
I am a people pleaser, and I'm a huge empath.
And I don't know how to not put other people first
[00:26:59] Speaker A: the same exact
[00:27:00] Speaker B: way, especially when it comes, you know. And I think that's from being a mother, from being a wife and being in a space where I know it's something I just should not do.
[00:27:17] Speaker A: But, I mean.
[00:27:18] Speaker B: Anyway, I always tell myself, vanetta, you gonna be okay? So I say yes when I should say no. Because I'm a survivor.
I'm gonna be okay.
I can be happy.
Unhappy situations.
And I've learned that it is exhausting to continuously be happy in unhappy places.
So overall, I'm happy. Right.
But I just. I don't. I don't know how to choose my life over someone else's life.
[00:27:59] Speaker A: But is that. You choose it? See, I think your verbiage is wrong.
You're saying I don't know how to choose my life over somebody else's life.
You're choosing your life, full stop.
It's not over anybody else.
It's full stop.
I'm choosing me.
[00:28:19] Speaker B: Yeah. I can't choose me. It's so hard for me to choose me.
[00:28:22] Speaker A: But you got it if you don't.
[00:28:23] Speaker B: We just talked about.
[00:28:24] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, but you've spent 50 years of not choosing yourself.
[00:28:28] Speaker B: 50.
[00:28:28] Speaker A: Let's say. Let's say. Let's say adult. Let's say adult years. 30. 30 adult years.
[00:28:34] Speaker B: I've never chose me.
[00:28:36] Speaker A: You've spent a lifetime choosing other people. At what point do you think that you need to choose yourself?
[00:28:40] Speaker B: Well, I moved here.
The only reason I moved here, because me and him were supposed to come
[00:28:46] Speaker A: together,
[00:28:49] Speaker B: and he didn't come.
We planned this together. It was supposed to be together. And I wrapped my mind around the fact that he wasn't supposed to be here. He was supposed to get me here.
I would not have come without him.
It has changed my life
[00:29:13] Speaker A: tremendously.
[00:29:13] Speaker B: Tremendously. My life is so different.
So I'm so different.
And that is a struggle for me to get everybody from home to understand.
I'm not like I'm always. Here's the thing. I don't need you to change.
I need you to grow.
And my growth spur was so much greater because I was in a lawn that was resoiled.
[00:29:41] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:29:42] Speaker B: That was nourished, that was fed from God. Because it wasn't nobody but me, God and the dog.
[00:29:49] Speaker A: You got in the dog.
[00:29:51] Speaker B: Whereas other people, their growth was happening in distraction.
Their growth was happening in confusion.
Their growth was happening in chaos.
My growth, I had no distraction, no confusion.
Just me.
[00:30:11] Speaker A: So there's a. There's a. There's a quote. As you know, I was looking it
[00:30:14] Speaker B: up because I remember that it was all. Let me get this.
[00:30:17] Speaker A: It says, trees don't hang around with the grass, even though they started in the same place.
[00:30:21] Speaker B: Yep.
[00:30:23] Speaker A: Sometimes people are here.
[00:30:25] Speaker B: That's that. Replanting yourself.
They all going to be the same as long as you stay here.
The grass. The tree had to move out of the grass. The roots are in there. The roots are there still, but I
[00:30:35] Speaker A: got to go somewhere else. And I think that that was the start of you choosing you. Now you have to.
[00:30:45] Speaker B: And the crazy part, it was the start. Not even knowing. It was the start of me choosing me. Because I was choosing him. I was making this move to be with him so we could be together.
And it's amazing how God twists that. Like, look at her think she coming here to be with this man. This nigga ain't even coming.
She's got to learn. But I needed to be here, because if I wasn't, I would not have had. I would have never connected to God the way that I've connected to God because I would have been constantly distracted.
My family, my grandparent, obligations as a grandmother, my career, my restaurant. It was seven days a week. I worked seven days a week. No, that's a lot. Six.
Monday through Friday, I did school after school because now my kids were grown. After school, I went to the restaurant. I got out of school at 3:20, left. There was at the restaurant by 4:20.
I stayed there until it closed at 8. Left there at 8. Drove about 45 minutes home. I did that every day.
It was a cycle. Friday or Saturday, I had one day. I had to get my grandkids. So either they gonna come over Friday night or they gonna come over Saturday night. I never had a day alone. Most of the time it was Saturday night because we were closed on Sundays. So Saturday night, my grandkids coming over. Friday night, I'm outside with my friends.
I literally never had a single moment of me.
That's how that was the entire time.
[00:32:09] Speaker A: Well, that's. And that's why I said, like, now
[00:32:13] Speaker B: and then, I'm choosing again.
That's what's up.
[00:32:17] Speaker A: Nope.
Don't get me started with you.
[00:32:20] Speaker B: Okay. We're not gonna get started.
[00:32:21] Speaker A: Don't get me started with you, because
[00:32:24] Speaker B: how do you handle.
[00:32:25] Speaker A: I will go in.
[00:32:26] Speaker B: How? We're not going to.
[00:32:27] Speaker A: Okay. All right.
[00:32:31] Speaker B: So what version of yourself are you currently becoming? Who are you becoming?
[00:32:36] Speaker A: That no, period.
[00:32:39] Speaker B: I'm with you when you're right. I'm with you when you're right.
[00:32:44] Speaker A: I recently had a situation where I had to choose me.
And it was difficult.
It was 100% difficult because I, like you, struggle with choosing myself.
And the reason being is it's not about people pleasing.
But if I consider you a friend, if I consider you a friend, I'm gonna ride to the end with you. If I consider you a friend, my problem at times is deciphering because I have a circle of people, don't my dogs.
Then I have another set of people. All my friends. I call them my friends.
Those people, I love them, I care about them. And I tried to treat. And I was in business with said friend. We be. We began as business. It began with business. And we became friends. Actually helped me move.
And I had to remove him from a position because it was better. It was me choosing me because I needed to make a decision for myself that I felt was right.
Now, did it hurt me? It did because I considered him to be a friend.
But then after I, you know, did what I needed to do, he commenced to doing some things that kind of showed his character. So then I thought to me, that was God revealing to me that I had made. Yeah, this is God revealing to me that I made the correct decision.
You know what I'm saying?
It was just validation of that. So me, I'm now coming into a period. And then. So since I've been. That's the first time I've had to do something like that. That's the first time I've had to do it. It's the first time I actually did it.
[00:34:36] Speaker B: That you did it.
[00:34:37] Speaker A: Yeah. So now.
[00:34:38] Speaker B: So that it's been presented before, you just went along with. For the sake of that person.
[00:34:42] Speaker A: Throughout my career. Yeah, throughout my career, throughout my. Throughout my life.
[00:34:45] Speaker B: I'm gonna be all right. It ain't a big deal for me. Let them have it.
[00:34:48] Speaker A: Yeah, they can stay on. They can stay. They I on fire room. It can stay on. It can stay on. It's no problem.
And then.
So now it's opened up for me that now that I've done it, it's like, all right, now I gotta look at all these other people around me now. So now. Oh, yeah. All you other don't notice. All y' all don't notice if y' all ain't out.
[00:35:11] Speaker B: So it sounds like someone's becoming the boss.
What's hn Head?
[00:35:17] Speaker A: Yeah, Hn Hnic.
[00:35:19] Speaker B: Okay. Joe Clark. Not you Joe Clark of the sports industry.
[00:35:22] Speaker A: That's what I'm becoming. I'm becoming Jo Clark.
[00:35:24] Speaker B: Put your foot down.
[00:35:26] Speaker A: The thing is, people, a lot of people take my kindness for weakness and myself.
[00:35:31] Speaker B: Amen.
[00:35:32] Speaker A: And my silence for weakness. Because.
[00:35:34] Speaker B: Just because your sincerity.
[00:35:36] Speaker A: Bingo. I am 100 me all the time. What you see with me is what you get. If I'm with you, I'm with you.
And it. It takes me time to let people in.
But if you like, people talk about me on the Internet and all of that, I don't give them the time of day.
So my silence. So when you see me, it's like, oh, he a punk. He this. That third. He'll never address nothing.
[00:36:05] Speaker B: Boy, you ain't on.
[00:36:06] Speaker A: Nah, you ain't. You ain't doing that.
[00:36:07] Speaker B: What Jay Z say, why am I climbing? I ain't climbing down a mountain to. With you.
[00:36:11] Speaker A: Yeah, exactly.
[00:36:12] Speaker B: You talking from down there.
I'm up here.
[00:36:15] Speaker A: Jay Z, that jc, he had a lot. He said, wake up on my dick. Eat some breakfast first. Like, you know, like, you don't have to be like, I ain't the center of nobody's world. And I understand that. And so I'm now in this. What I am becoming is like, yo, nah. Like, if you around me, either you're gonna raise to my standard.
Oh, you gonna get the hell on,
[00:36:37] Speaker B: or you're not gonna be on.
[00:36:39] Speaker A: Are you gonna get the hell on? You're not. You're either gonna raise to my standard or you're gonna get the hell on. Because at the end of the day, there's people that I have to answer to. You know what I'm saying?
[00:36:47] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:36:48] Speaker A: And then. And then. And those people, my boss and I also got to answer to my kids.
[00:36:54] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:36:55] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? My behavior, how I act, what I do, it's how I leave, how I lead is.
[00:37:01] Speaker B: Yeah, how you lead, it's being watched every.
[00:37:04] Speaker A: Without even knowing it. Like they're watching everything that I'm doing. Charlie is so into the date.
I was talking with my boss and I said, I was like, man, you know, some people told me about you, said you were shady.
He laughed or whatever. I said, no, it ain't. That you shady. I said, is if. If it comes down to the job, if it's going to be your job. It is.
It's gonna be yours.
[00:37:28] Speaker B: It's gonna be theirs. It won't be mine.
[00:37:31] Speaker A: It ain't gonna be mine.
[00:37:32] Speaker B: It ain't gonna be mine.
[00:37:33] Speaker A: And so in that. And that's What I think I'm in right now. It's a.
[00:37:38] Speaker B: Becoming an hnic.
[00:37:39] Speaker A: Yeah. Right.
[00:37:41] Speaker B: And it's. And it's. And it's a hard place to be. Right. Because I hate to hurt people, and I hate to hurt people that I love.
I just hate to hurt people. So it's even more difficult to hurt a friend, to hurt somebody, you know, that you care for, Regardless of who the they've been.
[00:38:04] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:38:04] Speaker B: I can only be me. So even when you've been up to
[00:38:08] Speaker A: me, all I can do is be me.
[00:38:11] Speaker B: And all I can do is be me. And being me is. Is unfortunately, you know, it's hard for me to hurt people.
[00:38:17] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:38:17] Speaker B: But even with my.
[00:38:19] Speaker A: But it's necessary.
[00:38:20] Speaker B: And you know what they say, the same way you do one thing is the same thing.
[00:38:22] Speaker A: You do everything the way you.
[00:38:24] Speaker B: The way you do one thing is the way you do it.
[00:38:26] Speaker A: The way. Yeah, the way you do what? One thing is the way we do anything. Is that how I don't feel like. I don't think that's how it goes?
[00:38:32] Speaker B: Yeah, it's the way you do one thing. Like how. Okay, how you handle your work.
[00:38:36] Speaker A: No, I get what you're saying, but there's a. There's a certain flow to this. To it, though.
[00:38:41] Speaker B: I don't know what's. All I know is the way you do one thing is how you do everything.
[00:38:46] Speaker A: That could be it.
[00:38:48] Speaker B: If you want more to it, we
[00:38:49] Speaker A: can add more to it. I took you off. I took you off your path.
I took you off your path.
[00:38:54] Speaker B: We can add more to it. Go ahead.
[00:38:56] Speaker A: Go ahead. Go ahead. You was on the road.
[00:38:58] Speaker B: Same thing. Like for me, I am becoming Veneta, Grown Veneta.
And in becoming Veneta, I've just had to say no to one of the most difficult decisions in my life.
[00:39:19] Speaker A: But let me ask you this.
Don't you feel lighter?
[00:39:27] Speaker B: I do.
[00:39:28] Speaker A: Haven't you rested?
[00:39:30] Speaker B: I have, but it's not easy. It's. Oh, it's been so hard. You be in and out of tears, you, confusion.
Literally. Today, this morning, I had to go into my prayer room and say, I just need to feel you, God, I just needed to feel you. I just need you to protect me. I need you to protect me. I need you to not allow them to pull me back in with these stories, with this sadness, with this manipulation.
Just keep me focused. Keep me going. So I am becoming Vanetta. I'm become a grown woman, Vanetta. I'm becoming.
Not that. Hey, bitch. We outside. You know, even Though, it's crazy because if you look at Instagram, that's you. You think I'm a wild motherfucker on Instagram. You think that, right?
[00:40:16] Speaker A: Oh, yeah.
[00:40:17] Speaker B: And I am not that, because my mouth is bold.
[00:40:21] Speaker A: Listen, let me say something to y' all people.
Cheat act. She just.
She does it so much that when she gets to herself, it's just peace and quiet.
[00:40:31] Speaker B: But they. People think I'm wild, but I'm not wild.
[00:40:34] Speaker A: But I don't think that on social. The View, I don't know. I don't think you're wild. Like, you look at social media. I don't see nothing wild.
[00:40:42] Speaker B: Okay, So I don't know the word, but I. I feel like I'm just gonna become more. I'm becoming. I'm lit, right?
[00:40:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:40:48] Speaker B: I'm a good time.
[00:40:49] Speaker A: Oh, I am a good.
[00:40:51] Speaker B: I'm a great time.
[00:40:52] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:40:53] Speaker B: And I don't need no drinks and no drugs to be a great time. Although I do enjoy a lemon drop. Strawberry, preferably.
Great Goose.
[00:41:00] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:41:01] Speaker B: Okay. Just notice if any. Yes. If anyone sees me out, you want to know what I'm drinking? I'm gonna have a strawberry lemon drop with Grey Goose sugar rim, please, and thank you, period.
[00:41:10] Speaker A: If you're a grown man, don't put sugar on your rim. All right, go ahead.
[00:41:13] Speaker B: Well, ain't no.
[00:41:14] Speaker A: Ain't no man grown men.
[00:41:17] Speaker B: I'm just becoming Vanetta. I'm becoming Vanetta. I'm becoming Vanetta outside of a child. I'm becoming Vanetta outside of being a parent. I'm becoming Vanetta outside of being a wife, outside of being a. A girlfriend. Because when I'm a girlfriend, I'm a wife.
I don't know. I don't know how to be no other way to my man.
If you my man, you my man.
[00:41:38] Speaker A: My man.
[00:41:39] Speaker B: My man. My man. My man. So even when I'm your girlfriend, I'm your wife. I don't know how people separate the two. And I ain't saying it's a good thing or a bad thing. I just.
As your woman, I'm gonna do what a wife does.
[00:41:51] Speaker A: I got it. How you do anything is how you do everything.
That's how I said.
But go ahead.
[00:41:59] Speaker B: I'm becoming Vanetta.
[00:42:01] Speaker A: That's it.
[00:42:01] Speaker B: I'm sorry. And I'm reframing and rebranding my image so people can see the full story and not just one sided. Like, I want people to see me as the entrepreneur, see me as the educator, see me as the mother, see me as the grandmother see me as the outside vibrant, you know, But I'm just becoming vanilla.
And I. And I'm. And V live.
And I'm doing so by saying my first.
[00:42:31] Speaker A: No, but watch. But I'm telling you, because I just experienced it. Watch everything that happened. You might be at work. Hey, you ain't doing your job.
[00:42:42] Speaker B: Yes. Same thing. One thing. Everything at work, them is here hanging on by a thread.
[00:42:49] Speaker A: That what I'm saying.
[00:42:50] Speaker B: And that is finna be cut.
Because saying yes to them is saying no to my business.
[00:42:57] Speaker A: Exactly.
[00:42:58] Speaker B: And what's best for business.
So I got to think about what's best for eating my biscuits, and I got to think about what the. Is best for Vanetta.
[00:43:04] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:43:05] Speaker B: Because I said my first.
[00:43:06] Speaker A: No, here's my thing. If. If you have to cook the food right, why not pay yourself to cook the food and pay rather than pay a cook that's not cooking or a
[00:43:20] Speaker B: server that is not serving. I could up my own business.
[00:43:23] Speaker A: Yeah, that.
[00:43:24] Speaker B: I can go. I can. I can come and eat my biscuits and not get water for nobody myself.
Because if anybody gonna tell this down, it's gonna be me. It ain't gonna be you. Kanye west said it best.
I don't need no motherfucking advice when it comes to Donda. That's what he said. I don't need no advice when it comes to Donda. I know what I want for Donda. I know what I want for eating my biscuits. I'm saying Donda because I was.
[00:43:49] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got you. I got you.
[00:43:51] Speaker B: He went on to say, but you can help me. Yeah, you can help build infrastructure. You can cut a check, but you cannot advise me on eat my biscuits. I know my vision.
I literally just had to tell them my. Hey, don't give me no more ideas about eating my business. I know what I want for eating my biscuits.
You want to help me cut a check?
Give me some bread, Help me pay for $3,000 a month in marketing. Yeah, that's what you do. But I don't need the advice.
I need the funding. I need the infrastructure. I don't need the advice.
Shout out to Kanye West. I fucking love you, man.
[00:44:34] Speaker A: When he's in his right mind.
[00:44:37] Speaker B: I'm gonna tell you something.
This is completely off topic, but since we don't throw that out there, I think Kanye is always in his right fucking mind. I think he's always in his right mind to be able to believe in yourself, in the magnitude that that man does, to know that. That God is not Just in you, with you. He is you to know that.
And I feel from what I see, I don't know this nigga. Don't get me twisted. I ain't sat down, had no conversations with it. I don't know him intimately. I only know what I see.
But the amount of confidence that he has, you know what that takes?
Work within self.
[00:45:20] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:45:22] Speaker B: The most difficult thing for us to do is to believe in us.
We look at Instagram and believe in 90 more motherfuckers based off our stories, but won't believe. We would look at tv, something where we know ain't real, and we would believe in that. Before we believe in us.
[00:45:41] Speaker A: We believe in fake news on the Internet.
[00:45:43] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. Before we believe in ourselves.
[00:45:47] Speaker A: That's a fact.
[00:45:48] Speaker B: So to master.
[00:45:50] Speaker A: That's a fact.
[00:45:50] Speaker B: You. To master your belief in you.
I know how hard that is. Because owning a business, I don't know where the fuck my money coming from. One month I might make $80,000. The next month I may make 10.
And I got a bet that shit like this. The faith that you have to have in yourself when you walk in that
[00:46:12] Speaker A: and nobody's in there, you open the doors anyway.
[00:46:16] Speaker B: And you open the doors anyway, and you go back the next day and you open them again.
[00:46:20] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:46:20] Speaker B: And you're looking at the. They knew you gotta pay because they go. They're not gonna tell you. You know what, V? I love you. You good people.
[00:46:27] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:46:28] Speaker B: Ain't nobody coming here today. You don't owe me for my eight hours I work.
[00:46:31] Speaker A: Yep. You don't owe me.
[00:46:32] Speaker B: They not gonna say that.
[00:46:33] Speaker A: Yeah. Nah.
[00:46:35] Speaker B: So the respect that I have for a man who saw a dream, who trained himself to believe in himself, because I know the work it takes.
We could have it all if we believed in ourselves.
That's why even I'm on social media. I don't fuck with social media. I'm not looking at what other restaurants are doing because it distracts my belief in me.
[00:47:09] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:47:10] Speaker B: It starts to give me doubt.
Kanye west say I. I listen to Kanye West.
But with all of these distractions, we get confused. Am I wrong? And we start to second guess ourselves.
[00:47:22] Speaker A: I can see that because I think a lot of times, people I know in my profession, it's E. It's easy to look at the accomplishments of other coaches and be like, damn, I ain't did that. I ain't.
[00:47:33] Speaker B: But guess what? You ain't saying.
You ain't saying how his planning went.
[00:47:37] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:47:38] Speaker B: You ain't seen how he's praying. You ain't seen what he's asked. You ain't seeing his belief in himself to believe in his team.
[00:47:44] Speaker A: I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you something. A friend of mine that died, he was a dj. Dj, please. Shouts out to DJ Blaze.
We was riding from Florence to Columbia one day.
We had. It was a party the night before, and he. We was riding to Colombia because he. His family owned a restaurant, a Caribbean restaurant. Family from Jamaica, so they owned a Caribbean restaurant and grocery store in Colombia.
So he had a drop on his board that it goes, I'm the best DJ ever. I'm the best DJ ever.
And then. Yeah, so what do you. So. So he said, man, yosh, man, you know why I say that?
I said, because you're the best dj, bro. Like, I. I believe he said, nah. He said, because no other DJ is doing no. Not on the best dj. But he would say, I have no competition. That was the saying. I have no competition. I have no competition. And he was like. I said.
He said, yeah. I said, you're the best dj. That's why you ain't got no competition. He says, no, I have no competition because no other DJ is the salesman, one of the sales reps for iHeartRadio. No other DJ owns his own restaurant. No other DJ owns a grocery store. No other DJ has part ownership in the club.
[00:49:01] Speaker B: He saw his accolades and he reminded himself, yeah. He's like, who the he is?
[00:49:05] Speaker A: Yeah. He's like, I have no competition. That's why I say it. I'm not saying I'm the best dj. I'm just saying ain't none of them doing what I'm. I'm not saying I'm the best, but ain't nobody doing.
[00:49:15] Speaker B: But ain't nobody doing. Vanetta, baby.
[00:49:16] Speaker A: Yeah, exactly.
[00:49:16] Speaker B: Period.
[00:49:17] Speaker A: No one doing.
[00:49:19] Speaker B: No one's doing. Vanilla. You may be doing a restaurant.
[00:49:21] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:49:22] Speaker B: You may be doing other shit, but you ain't doing me.
[00:49:24] Speaker A: Exactly.
[00:49:25] Speaker B: You're not doing me. So I just. I just respect. I'm becoming me. I'm becoming the person I feel like God has designed me to be. I'm working.
I'm making the moves. And I made. I just made the biggest decision of my life.
And that's how I know I'm serious.
[00:49:43] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:49:43] Speaker B: That's how I know it's actually coming. So I want you guys in the audience, those of you that are listening. I said audience, like somebody sitting in front of us.
[00:49:50] Speaker A: But.
[00:49:50] Speaker B: No, but our audience.
[00:49:53] Speaker A: That's Listening, people listening.
[00:49:55] Speaker B: I want you to think about a who you want to become.
Because first you got to decide that who do you want to be?
Once you discover who you want to be, how are you going to be that?
Who are you ready to become?
And create that platform for yourself, whatever that looks like of becoming.
[00:50:17] Speaker A: And be prepared to put the work in. To do it.
[00:50:19] Speaker B: Put the work in. Because I'm just becoming Vanetta.
[00:50:26] Speaker A: I'm trying.
[00:50:26] Speaker B: Did you wanna.
[00:50:28] Speaker A: What I learned today before.
[00:50:30] Speaker B: This is such a good one.
[00:50:31] Speaker A: Go ahead. We good?
[00:50:34] Speaker B: Do you love yourself as we're becoming?
[00:50:38] Speaker A: Okay, go ahead.
[00:50:40] Speaker B: Because I wanted to end with this. I'm sorry, I forgot.
I wanted to end with this.
And I can't answer the question honestly because I think my answer is no.
But I want to be there as you are becoming your next version of you.
Which is why I have a snake tattooed on me, just constantly shedding skin and growing and changing.
Do you love yourself in a way that everyone else knows that? That you love yourself?
[00:51:13] Speaker A: No, that.
[00:51:15] Speaker B: But I mean, do you love yourself in a way?
[00:51:19] Speaker A: No, I know that. I know that for a fact. I'm not saying I don't love myself, but I don't love myself where everybody know that. Yeah, like he with him. Yeah, he.
[00:51:30] Speaker B: I don't. I don't love myself in that way. And that is my goal.
[00:51:33] Speaker A: Well, that's what I would like in agreeance there.
[00:51:36] Speaker B: I want to love myself in a way that a. No, don't play with me.
You can't play with her. Yeah, I want to love my. And I do not love myself that way. So for me, that is my goal. So what I learned today is I want to become Vanetta in a space where everyone knows that. Vanetta with Vanetta.
That's what I learned.
[00:51:59] Speaker A: I learned that I was gonna try to make it funny, but I can't. We had a good talk. Here were no jokes, ain't no joke, ain't no joke.
[00:52:14] Speaker B: I used to let the mic smoke now when I stammer when I'm done
[00:52:17] Speaker A: to make sure I slam it to make sure it's broke.
[00:52:21] Speaker B: Cause I won't let nobody press up and mess up the scene I set. I like to stand the crowd and like people understand.
Think about it then you understand I'm just a distinct of music. Maybe it's a habit, I gotta use it even if it has on Silent Silent, Silent Storm I can't compete it. Convert it to a hip hop form
[00:52:40] Speaker A: to do that acapella. There you go. Hey, might play that on the outro
[00:52:44] Speaker B: every show you see me in deep conversation because I'm no comedian.
Teach you like something and you want to be tame.
I and you want to be named another friend to be not even an enemy because when you something, don't even. Yeah, shout out to Eric B. Rocky, I'm love y'.
[00:52:59] Speaker A: All. Oh, definitely. All right, y'.
[00:53:00] Speaker B: All.
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